Luyện nói tiếng Anh bằng Shadowing qua video: the desire to be loved

I thought I had learned my lessons.

I thought I would have known better by now.

But when I got thrown into it again, I still fell hard.

The part of me that I've been desperately running away from has finally made his way back.

But this time, It's here to stay.

When you were 11, what did you think you would be doing now?

Okay you - - you

I guess it's not uncommon for people to want to do things differently after losing someone.

Some people start going to the gym or taking on new hobbies.

Some decide to prioritize their friendships.

while some put themselves on a self -discovery journey to find inner peace and independence.

You can't deny that pain really is one of the best fuels for change.

Thank you.

Three years ago, confronted by the confusion of my identity, I made a promise that I would never find myself in a similar situation ever again.

The pain of not knowing who I am was so great that I was hungry for change and growth.

I consciously spent a lot of time introspecting, consumed only information I could learn from, and put myself through uncomfortable situations.

I did everything just to shake off the old me and become someone better.

It has been a truly confronting process and I thought...

By this point, nothing would affect me in any way.

you As cliche as it might sound,

But life would keep putting you through the same test over and over again until you've truly learned your lessons.

The winter here in England must have gotten to me.

I started dating again after a long break.

All the time I spend working on myself has given me so much confidence.

I met someone, and it was all chilled and relaxed at the beginning, until I found myself slowly getting anxious,

slowly losing control as I began to crave more and more from the other person.

It was terrifying to watch my confidence crumbling before my eyes.

Then without warning, everything fell apart.

I was overwhelmed with self -doubt and frustration, and all of these made me feel very small.

I was aware of it all.

All those videos I watched and podcasts I've listened to have taught me that acknowledgement is the first step to change.

So I thought if I was self -aware and honest enough about how I feel, I could get out of the rut faster.

Everything that I was experiencing felt like a betrayal of the progress I've made over the years.

I hate to see myself being out of control.

drowning in negativity and self -pity, and feeling like I'm not enough.

So I subconsciously rushed to be on the other side, just so that I could feel happy in myself again.

Thank you.

And that had only made things worse.

the more I try to resist the pain, the more it persists.

I couldn't understand why it cut me so deep until I began to uncover what was really hidden beneath the surface.

Thank you.

- Thank you.

If there's anything I'm good at, it would be my ability to be extremely honest with myself.

The reason why I was so upset was not really because of losing this person.

but it was more of an attack on the persona I have built up over the years.

The strength and confidence I worked so hard to cultivate, turned out to be far more delicate than I imagined. for so long.

I had convinced myself that I had overcome my insecurities and fears, that I had become immune to rejection and disappointment.

But in reality, I just buried those feelings beneath a thin layer of self -assurance.

no matter how much I try to change or escape from it.

At my core, I'm still a child who desires to be loved and validated.

who is still healing from the wounds left by those who never intended to hurt me years and years ago.

Thank you.

All this time seeking approval and acceptance from others was my attempt to compensate for the lack in my younger self.

but no amount of external validation could ever fill the void, unless I start to offer myself the unconditional love I crave.

as I took time to reflect, I realized I don't love myself enough.

I have been selectively loving only the parts of me that I'm proud of.

The moments of confidence, the accomplishments, and the times when I met or exceeded my own expectations.

but I secretly rescind or even feel ashamed of the part that I'm not.

the part that struggles and falls short.

the part that desires approvals and validation As much as I'm aware of her presence, I had never listened to or truly accepted her.

being excessively self -critical in the name of perfectionism and self -improvement, invalidating my emotions and masking them with toxic positivity because I'm scared

that if I give in to these negative feelings and show my insecurities to the world, I also be admitting that I'm weak and incompetent.

Bye.

- Okay.

- If only I could give myself the same love and kindness and compassion I have for others.

I probably wouldn't struggle as much.

I used to think self -love was just about taking care of ourselves.

or the ability to withstand loneliness and establish independence.

But then I've slowly come to understand that self -love means so much more than warm baths, long walks, or solo dates.

is not just the awareness but the full acceptance of our incompleteness and imperfectness.

Thank you.

just like love and joy and happiness.

Sadness, frustration, fear, doubt and shame are all part of what it is to be a human being.

And to truly love ourselves is to allow space for them without judgement or rushing to the emotional exit.

to hold ourselves with immense warmth and acceptance, and to trust the ability to overcome obstacles and grow from our experiences even when it's not easy.

Instead of feeling ashamed, I'm starting to make peace with my insecurities and embrace them with open arms.

Yes, I want people to like me.

But each day, I'm learning to let go of the need for external validation.

shifting the focus back to myself, prioritizing my needs and setting boundaries.

At times, I still fail or feel anxious and nervous, but that's okay.

I don't have to keep a perfect record.

As long as I keep showing up, that's all that matters.

Bye.

While self -love begins with our internal dialogue

and recognizing our self -worth is nurtured and reinforced through our connections with those around us.

As contradictory as it might sound, We don't learn to fully love ourselves in isolation.

because we don't exist in isolation.

After all, we are inherently social beings, wired for connection and belonging.

Okay.

True self -love isn't about self -reliance or self -sufficiency.

It's about recognizing our interconnectedness with others and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in their presence.

Knowing that we are not on this journey alone, we learn to extend the same compassion, understanding, and forgiveness for others to ourselves.

And by showing up as our authentic selves with flaws and imperfections, we open up space for supportive and meaningful relationships that uplift and inspire us.

Thank you.

you Loving yourself is a process that requires patience and understanding.

There are going to be days when you feel like you've made tremendous progress.

and others when you find yourself slipping back into old patterns of self -doubt and criticism.

But just like all the good things in life, growth takes time.

There's no need to rush.

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You are already doing great as you are.

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And the world keeps spinning round.

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I'll be spinning you round.

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call.

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Not a smile, not a smile. while in Paris.

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Từ vựng và cụm từ chính

Desire to be loved - Mong muốn được yêu thương
Self-discovery - Hành trình tìm kiếm bản thân
Self-awareness - Nhận thức bản thân
Self-doubt - Nghi ngờ bản thân
Inner peace - Sự bình yên trong tâm hồn
Negative emotions - Cảm xúc tiêu cực
Emotional growth - Sự phát triển cảm xúc
Overcoming insecurities - Vượt qua sự bất an

Mẹo luyện tập

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Cố gắng thực hiện việc shadow speak trong nhiều lần để tăng cường khả năng nói tiếng Anh của bạn. Hãy ghi âm lại giọng nói của mình và so sánh với bản gốc để nhận diện điểm yếu và cải thiện. Với sự kiên trì, bạn sẽ phát triển khả năng nói tự nhiên và tự tin hơn trong giao tiếp tiếng Anh. Đừng quên khám phá các site luyện nói tiếng Anh hoặc các nguồn tài liệu khác giúp bạn mở rộng vốn từ vựng và cải thiện kỹ năng của mình mỗi ngày.

Ngữ pháp trong video

Những cấu trúc người nói dùng nhiều nhất, kèm đúng cụm từ trong video:

Cấu trúc	Trong video
Thì hiện tại hoàn thành have/has + quá khứ phân từ — việc đã xảy ra nhưng còn liên quan đến hiện tại	I've been · has been · has given
Câu bị động be + quá khứ phân từ — nhấn vào việc xảy ra, không phải người làm	was overwhelmed · was really hidden · be loved

Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?

Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.

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