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Have you ever said something and immediately thought, oh my goodness, I should not have said that?
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Some things may be true, yes.
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Some questions may be innocent.
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And sometimes it just may even be said with good intentions.
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However, that does not mean they should be said out loud.
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So today I will share 10 things you should think about twice before saying it.
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Because number six may sound like a compliment and it absolutely is not.
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Let's begin.
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Hello everyone, I am Jackie Vernon Thompson etiquette expert, author, and founder of From the Inside Out School of Etiquette.
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On this channel, we discuss etiquette and the timeless principles that help people become their very best selves.
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Number one, you look tired.
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Why do people say that?
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Think about what the person actually hears.
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You don't look very good today.
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Perhaps she is tired.
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Perhaps he had a difficult evening in.
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Perhaps something is happening privately that you know nothing about.
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Pointing out someone's appearance usually doesn't improve it.
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Don't say, you look terrible.
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Did you sleep last night?
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Instead, it's wonderful to see you.
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How are you doing?
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How about that?
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Here's a good etiquette principle.
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If the person cannot correct it within a few seconds, you probably did not need to point it out.
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Lipstick on the teeth?
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Tell her discreetly.
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Something stuck to his jacket?
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Certainly.
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Looking tired?
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Leave that alone.
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Number two, you've gained weight.
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Are you serious?
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Ladies and gentlemen, someone's body is not a community discussion and that works in both directions.
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You've gotten so big.
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You've lost so much weight.
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You're getting skinny.
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What happened to you?
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You may think you're showing concern.
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However, you have no idea why someone's body has changed.
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Weight loss isn't always intentional.
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Weight gain isn't always something the person wants discussed.
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Imagine walking into a gathering.
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Someone says out loud, Jackie, good to see you.
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You've gained some weight.
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Now everyone's looking.
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The individual has just turned a private observation into a public conversation that's unnecessary and somewhat cruel.
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Instead, you would say, Jackie, you look wonderful.
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It's so good to see you.
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Or simply say nothing about the person's body.
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Number three, when are you going to have children?
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Really?
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This question needs to disappear from casual conversation.
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When are you two going to have a baby?
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Don't you want children?
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When are you giving your mother grandchildren?
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You don't know whether that couple has been trying for years.
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You don't know whether someone has experienced a loss by miscarriage.
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You don't know whether there are medical, financial, marital, or deeply personal circumstances involved.
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And most importantly, you don't need to know.
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Everything about this question is completely wrong because you just don't know.
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Good etiquette recognizes boundaries.
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Stay with me because number six is something people regularly see while believing they're giving someone a compliment.
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Number four, why aren't you married yet?
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Oh, this one used to drive me crazy.
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Why aren't you married yet?
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Sometimes it's followed by, you're such a beautiful woman.
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How are you still single?
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The speaker thinks compliment.
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The recipient may hear there must be something wrong with you.
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This is even wrong.
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You're 35 and you're still not married?
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The better question is, how have you been?
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What's new and exciting in your life?
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Allow people to volunteer information about their relationships.
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You don't have to investigate.
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Number five, how much did that cost?
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Oh, I love that handbag.
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How much did you pay for it?
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Context matters.
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If your sister is considering the same handbag and politely ask, what did you pay?
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That's different.
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She's your sister.
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However, asking someone the cost of their house, their car, their jewelry, vacation,
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or clothing simply because you're curious can put them in an uncomfortable position.
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Never ask someone how much they paid for something unless you are extremely close and typically share such personal information.
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How about trying?
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That is lovely, period.
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You don't need the receipt.
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And don't ask, where did you purchase that?
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They may not wish for you to have the same item they have.
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Now, it is different if the context includes you volunteering the information.
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Definitely not.
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I love your dress.
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How much did it cost?
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Where did you buy it?
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Negative.
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Now, number six is especially interesting because people actually think this one is a compliment it.
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You look good for your age.
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There it is.
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The compliment that isn't quite a compliment.
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You look wonderful for 60.
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What's wrong with simply you look wonderful?
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The qualifier changes the entire meaning.
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The same applies to you're very articulate for someone so young.
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You dress well for your age.
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You're surprisingly active at your age.
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Etiquette principles.
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A sincere compliment does not require a hidden insult.
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Here is the backhanded compliment.
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You look amazing for your age.
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Here's the gracious compliment.
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You look absolutely wonderful.
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And stop there.
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See how much more elegant that is?
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Number seven, I'm just being honest.
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Oh, whenever I hear I'm just being honest, I prepare myself.
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Sometimes honesty is being used as permission to be unkind.
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I'm just being honest that dress doesn't look good on you I'm just being honest your child is spoiled
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I'm just being honest nobody likes working with you truth
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and tact are not enemies you can be truthful and gracious simultaneously I repeat you can be truthful and gracious simultaneously
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So instead, you would perhaps say, may I share an observation with you?
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Now the person has the opportunity to say yes or no. Be careful.
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The level of your relationship determines if that observation will be well received.
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Use your discernment and be careful with your words.
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Being honest doesn't exempt us from being considerate.
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Number eight, you should dot dot dot.
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This one requires context.
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There's nothing inherently wrong with giving advice.
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The problem is unsolicited advice.
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You should leave him.
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You should discipline your children differently.
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You should buy a house.
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You should lose weight.
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You should change careers.
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Wait a minute.
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Who asked you?
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Before giving advice, ask yourself, did this person actually request my opinion?
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If not, try.
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Would you like to hear my thoughts?
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Again, it depends on the level of relationship you have with this person.
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That little question communicates respect.
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And if they say no, respect the no. Number nine, I knew that would happen.
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Your friend makes a mistake.
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Something goes wrong and you say, see, I told you.
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What has been accomplished?
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Nothing except making someone who already feels badly feel worse.
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A friend tells you the business didn't work out.
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Your first response is, I told you that wasn't a good idea.
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How about, I can only imagine how it feels.
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What are you thinking about doing next?
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Let's brainstorm.
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Be a part of the solution, not the problem.
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One response satisfies your ego.
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The other supports the person.
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Etiquette is knowing how to handle people with care.
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Number 10.
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That's not how I would do it.
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Not every decision requires our personal evaluation.
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Someone shows you her wedding dress.
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That's not what I would have chosen.
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Someone tells you the name of her baby.
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Oh, I would have picked something differently.
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Someone decorates their home.
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That's not really my taste.
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Of course it isn't.
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It's not your house.
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I'm just saying.
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We sometimes confuse having an opinion with having an obligation to express it.
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You're allowed to think something without announcing it.
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That is maturity.
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That is self -control.
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And yes, that is etiquette.
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Here's the big takeaway.
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Before you say something, run it through three questions in your mind.
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Does it need to be said?
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Does it need to be said by you?
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Can it be said with kindness and respect?
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And sometimes the most gracious response is no response at all.
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And here's something else we need to discuss.
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When did being rude become funny?
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Insulting people, embarrassing people, filming people without their permission, making disrespectful comments and calling it just a joke?
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That's our next conversation.
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When did being rude become funny?
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Make sure you're subscribed because we need to discuss this one.
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Now, I want to hear from you.
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Which one of these have you heard someone say?
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Or is there something I didn't mention that you believe people should stop saying?
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Type in the comments.
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I may use a response in a future episode.
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If you've enjoyed this conversation and you wish to develop greater confidence and social intelligence,
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when we release a new video until next time remember etiquette is not about perfection it is about consideration respect
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and how we make others feel in our presence I'll see you in the next video.
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Bye for now.
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المفردات وملاحظات التحدث لهذا الدرس
هذا الدرس في المحادثة مبني على الفيديو “What should you never say out loud l That was not necessary to say”. أكثر الكلمات تكرارًا في الفيديو: etiquette, compliment, honest, weight. يحتوي هذا الفيديو على 200 جملة و1536 كلمة للتدرب على الترديد. مدة الكلام 10:29. يتكلم المتحدث بسرعة ثابتة، نحو 146 كلمة في الدقيقة، وهي سرعة مريحة للترديد. 86% من الكلمات ضمن أكثر 3,000 كلمة شيوعًا في الإنجليزية، ويُستحسن مراجعة الباقي قبل البدء. 44 من أصل 200 جملة هي أسئلة، لذلك يناسب التدرب على نبرة السؤال والإجابات القصيرة.
أهم المفردات في هذا الفيديو
15 كلمة من الفيديو تستحق التعلّم، مع النطق والمعنى:
| الكلمة | النطق | المعنى |
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| compliment اسم | /ˈkɑmpləmənt/ | مَدْحَة |
| principle اسم | /ˈpɹɪn.sɪ.pəl/ | مَبْدَأ, قاعِدَة |
| observation اسم | /ˌɑbzɚˈveɪʃn̩/ | رَصْد, مُشَاهَدَة |
| volunteer اسم | /ˌvɑlənˈtɪɹ/ | مُتَطَوِّع, مُتَطَوِّعَة |
| rude صفة | /ɹuːd/ | فَظّ |
| simultaneously ظرف | /ˌsaɪmlˈteɪnɪəsli/ | فِي وَقْت وَاحِد, مَعًا |
| subscribe فعل | /səbˈskɹaɪb/ | اِشْتَرَكَ |
| insult اسم | /ɪnˈsʌlt/ | إهانة |
| clothing اسم | /ˈkloʊðɪŋ/ | مَلَابِس, ثِيَاب |
| founder اسم | /ˈfaʊ̯n.dəː/ | مُؤَسِّس, مُؤَسِّسَة |
| curious صفة | /ˈkjʊɹ.i.əs/ | فُضُولِيّ |
| innocent صفة | /ˈɪnəsənt/ | بَرِيء, بَرِيئَة |
| vacation اسم | /veɪˈkeɪ.ʃən/ | عُطْلَة, إِجَازَة |
| jacket اسم | /ˈd͡ʒæk.ɪt/ | جَاكِيت, جَاكِت |
| explore فعل | /ɪkˈsploɹ/ | اِسْتَكْشَفَ |
الأفعال المركبة التي ستسمعها
| الكلمة | المعنى |
|---|---|
| point out فعل | أَشَارَ |
جمل تستحق التكرار
جمل قصيرة وكاملة من الفيديو يمكنك استخدامها في الحديث اليومي:
- Did you sleep last night?
- Number four, why aren't you married yet?
- Why aren't you married yet?
- What's new and exciting in your life?
- What's wrong with simply you look wonderful?
القواعد في هذا الفيديو
أكثر التراكيب التي يستخدمها المتحدث، مع العبارات نفسها من الفيديو:
| التركيب | في الفيديو |
|---|---|
| المضارع التام have/has + اسم المفعول — حدث ماضٍ ما زال له أثر الآن | Have you ever said · you've gained · You've gotten |
| المبني للمجهول be + اسم المفعول — التركيز على ما يحدث لا على من يفعله | be said · should be said · being used |
نطق يحتاج إلى انتباه
يستخدم المتحدث 48 من الصيغ المختصرة، مثل don't, you're, I'm. انطقها بصيغتها القصيرة كما تسمعها.
- أصوات “th”: clothing /ˈkloʊðɪŋ/, gather /ˈɡæðɚ/, truthful /ˈtɹuːθ.f(ə)l/
- أصوات “sh” و“zh”: gracious /ˈɡɹeɪʃəs/, observation /ˌɑbzɚˈveɪʃn̩/, vacation /veɪˈkeɪ.ʃən/, polish /ˈpɑ.lɪʃ/, consideration /kənˌsɪd.əˈɹeɪ.ʃən/
- الكلمات الطويلة — انتبه لموضع النبر: differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, simultaneously /ˌsaɪmlˈteɪnɪəsli/, investigate /ɪnˈvɛs.tə.ɡeɪt/, consideration /kənˌsɪd.əˈɹeɪ.ʃən/, evaluation /ɪˌvæljuˈeɪʃn̩/
أصوات يجدها متحدثو العربية صعبة:
- /p/ — ليس /b/: انطقه مع نفخة هواء: compliment /ˈkɑmpləmənt/, principle /ˈpɹɪn.sɪ.pəl/, deeply /ˈdi(ː)pli/, explore /ɪkˈsploɹ/, polish /ˈpɑ.lɪʃ/
- /v/ — ليس /f/: مع اهتزاز الأوتار الصوتية: observation /ˌɑbzɚˈveɪʃn̩/, volunteer /ˌvɑlənˈtɪɹ/, vacation /veɪˈkeɪ.ʃən/, investigate /ɪnˈvɛs.tə.ɡeɪt/, invite /ɪnˈvaɪt/
- تتابع الصوامت — لا تضف حركة بينها: compliment /ˈkɑmpləmənt/, gracious /ˈɡɹeɪʃəs/, principle /ˈpɹɪn.sɪ.pəl/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, simultaneously /ˌsaɪmlˈteɪnɪəsli/
كيف تتدرب بهذا الفيديو
- استمع إلى الفيديو كاملًا مرة واحدة دون أن تتكلم، ودوّن الكلمات التي لا تعرفها.
- ردّد جملة جملة بالسرعة العادية، وكرّر كل جملة حتى يتطابق إيقاعك مع المتحدث.
- سجّل صوتك وقارنه بالأصل، مع الانتباه إلى كلمات مثل compliment, principle, observation.
ما هي تقنية التظليل الصوتي؟
التظليل الصوتي (Shadowing) تقنية تعلم لغة مدعومة علمياً، طُورت أصلاً لتدريب المترجمين الفوريين المحترفين. الطريقة بسيطة لكنها قوية: تستمع لصوت إنجليزي أصلي وتكرره فوراً بصوت عالٍ — كظل يتبع المتحدث بتأخير 1-2 ثانية. تُظهر الأبحاث تحسناً كبيراً في دقة النطق والتنغيم والإيقاع وربط الأصوات والاستماع والطلاقة.