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If there is one thing to unite this world, it is the hatred of small talk.

It doesn't matter if it's a corporate company event or maybe it's just a week in networking.

It can be terrible.

It can be downright scary at times.

So how do you do it and how do you get better at it?

Well, I gotcha.

Today we're talking all about how to never struggle with small talk.

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Small talk.

It's gross.

So how are we going to fix that?

Let me give you some hints.

Number one, instead of just asking, how's work?

How's home?

Those kind of questions just fall flat.

They do nothing for you.

They don't move the conversation at all.

Instead, we're going to switch it to ask questions that are action -oriented.

That means questions about the doing.

So instead of how's work?

How's home?

How are you?

You're going to be asking questions like, what did y 'all do this weekend?

What do you have coming up?

Getting things that they're excited about.

What are you excited about today or tomorrow or this week.

When you say, what are you doing or going, those are action -oriented things and they're going to help push the conversation forward.

Number two, now what matters is how you do it.

If you notice, I didn't say, do you have anything going on this weekend?

Because how are you going to respond to that?

You're going to respond to that as either a yes or a no. That's it.

When you ask questions typically that are did or did you have fun today?

Did you have a good day?

And you ask your kid when you pick them up from school, did you have a good day?

You're really only giving them a few options to say yes or no. When you ask questions that are closed, that's what they're called, closed -ended questions,

they only leave you hardly anywhere to go.

It's just a yes or no question.

Do you go to the store?

Yes or no. Instead, you're going to be opening it up with asking and beginning the phrase or question with what.

What, you see how we say, what did y 'all do this weekend?

Or instead of, did you have fun this weekend?

You hear the difference between, what did you do for fun this weekend?

Versus, did you have fun this weekend?

One invites you to open up.

The other closes it down and ends the discussion.

So anytime that you can, I want you to ask an open -ended question.

You do that by beginning with what or how or when because it gets them to continue to talk.

That's what you're after.

And also, number three, if you find that you just don't have that much to talk about

or it starts to go downhill and you're finding that each of your responses are getting shorter and shorter, that's okay.

There's nothing wrong with that.

People feel like there has to be a certain amount of time for it to count as small talk.

No, if you just say hello to the person and you engage maybe one little back and forth, that's small talk.

You've done it.

Congratulations.

There's no medal.

There's no reward.

There's nobody counting and timing you to see how long you've been talking.

Just if the conversation comes to a natural end, then just say, hey, great to talk to you and politely end the conversation.

Don't feel like you have to keep pushing and pushing to have some green check flag to say, I have accomplished small talk.

It's a lot less than you think to make that happen.

All right, now on top of making sure your questions are action oriented, asking about the going, the doing, what they're excited about, what's up ahead,

what's going on in the future, on top of making sure that you're asking open -ended questions that are leaving lots of space and begin with what,

how, and when, and not did, that's going to close things off.

On top of that, there is a formula that I'm going to teach you real quick, and it has always work for me, and I know it can work for you too.

This is how it goes.

Number one, you just pick a topic, any topic, to talk to this person about.

So let's say it's as boring as the weather.

You could say, and this weather was crazy.

This weather can't make up its mind today.

They're going to come up with something.

They're going to say, yeah, oh, I know, yeah, right?

It's crazy.

They're going to acknowledge you in some way.

Perfect.

You have now set the stage for you to give options.

I like to think of it as a poll and a P -O -L -L, meaning you're going to say, for example, in this example,

you can say, so are you a fall person or are you a winter person?

You like it hot or you like it cold?

Or maybe it can be summer or winter.

Are you a fan of summer or do you like it cold?

Would you rather be too hot or too cold?

You're giving them options.

That's the key, options because options give us something to talk

about rather than just forcing it down one chute and hoping

that it works so

if i were to say you know are you you like the beach in summer

or are you more like you like the mountains and the snow

they're gonna give you one they're gonna give you one option they're not gonna just leave you hanging

or they might just say you know what i really like

spring spring's kind of a thing it reminds me of blah blah blah well then you get to interact

and say well i have i totally hear you Well, I happen to be a fall person because it makes me think of football and Thanksgiving.

And here in America, we have Thanksgiving in November.

And so that's what I really like.

And then you get to kind of interact with them and say, well, what about you?

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And now you're getting to get to know them on just a little bit deeper level.

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Because here's the trick on this formula is why it works for me, at least, is that when you share something

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that is more personal about you 99 % of the time

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it then opens it up for the other person to share something a little bit more personal about them

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because they feel like oh well you've shared something

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and now i'm going to share something it's it's very um

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it creates kind of this mutual contract that's hidden in a way that

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if i share a little bit about me what's personal me

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what i like you're then going to feel a little bit more comfortable sharing more personal things about you.

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And that's what you're curating in that experience.

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You can take it wherever you want to go, but that's the formula.

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It's that simple.

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Pick a topic, create options for them.

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Maybe you create two options, at least two, maybe three or four, and then you share something as to which one is your favorite, and then ask someone about you.

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Even the question, what about you, continues to open things up in the dialogue, and it never can really go wrong that way.

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I mean, they call this small talk, not big talk.

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It's just something short, compact that you left that, oh, okay, I learned a little bit more about this person.

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And it's something that you can knock out really in just an elevator ride.

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It's very quick, very easy.

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Let's say you're coming off into the elevator straight from some rain or whatever.

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You can easily just open it up talking about really the weather, the news, whatever you want.

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Try that.

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And because this episode is about small talk.

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I'm going to keep this episode small.

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So let's go ahead and get into my favorite part of the podcast, and that's where I get to read a question from a follower.

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Those that are part of my newsletter are able to ask me questions by email, and I'm able to answer them.

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So if you're not part of the newsletter, you can sign up.

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The show notes are, or the link for it is down there in the show notes.

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All right, this one I have picked out.

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This is, let me pull it up.

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This is linda

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and she lives in lubbock texas linda from lubbock i think

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there's a country song in there somewhere i went to law school in lubbock

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so i'm very familiar with it linda says jefferson i need some advice thank you

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so much for your clips you're very welcome linda i am

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i work at a well i'm not going to say where she works

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but i have networking events

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and i tend to absolutely clam up where I stand in the corner

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and I'm not sure how to approach anyone or to get to a point where I feel comfortable talking to anyone.

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Do you have any advice?

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Linda, I'm sorry you're having trouble with that.

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And that's absolutely okay.

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Absolutely okay.

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Because what makes you special is what makes you you.

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So just because you're not going around talking to every single person that is in the room, Linda, does not make you any less special or important or of less value.

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You find that people can talk a lot and say nothing at all, all right?

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So a lot of the times these networking events

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are really just more of a social dance in a way of just finding who's comfortable with who

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and who's friends and who's not.

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So I don't want you to overthink it, but I know that's not all that helpful.

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So Linda, I'm going to say some things that, I'm going to try to say some things that are.

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So when somebody is talking with you, one thing that you can do that I like to do is I will,

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um, it's, it becomes subconscious, but if you want to find that you're more engaged with people and get kind of curious with people,

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uh, physically, one thing that you can work on is I like to slowly cut, you just kind of cock your head a little bit to the side

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that makes it look like you're much more interested in what they have to say rather than just like, I just want to talk to you.

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So it's, you don't want to have crazy eyes.

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You don't want to have it to where you feel like you're in front of their face.

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You're just kind of at a distance where your shoulders are relaxed.

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You feel relaxed.

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It helps me, uh, if you're holding something, especially these networking events, everybody kind of expects you to have something in your hand.

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It does not have to be a drink.

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It can be a snack.

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It could be any kind of refreshment that they have, but it keeps your hands busy.

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And that's, that's why I'm saying it

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because it keeps your hands from having to like fiddle with themselves

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or maybe you don't know what to do with them so you kind of cross them.

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When you hold something it keeps your stance open.

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And what I'm going to encourage you to do on top of

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that is to just barely slide your head to the side, either side.

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It doesn't matter to the left or the right, but it gives us posture of wanting to kind of be curious.

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And when you smile and you're asking questions and they start to respond, if you can just move your head just a little bit to the side, it's going to open them up as if,

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hey, you're being a little bit more curious about them to have more conversation.

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Another thing that's going to help Linda is understanding

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that don't go into these events thinking you have to talk to every single person like there's a win

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and a loss kind of thing there's something to win

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and lose that's not it

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if you can just go in with the idea of just talking to one person yeah it's

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that basic just one person

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and having a good conversation with them I would rather trade 20 little small talks

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that mean nothing at all versus one awesome conversation with somebody that I want to talk to every time.

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I'll trade that every single time.

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So when you're going into these types of scenarios, Linda, just, it's going to help you if you already know who's going to be there.

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And you make sure that you go talk to that person.

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If it's a friend, awesome.

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That's great.

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The biggest thing is that people just see you around.

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They see that you're having a good time.

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But if you're closed off in a corner, even if you're talking to somebody and you just have, you have a closed off posture, your arms are closed, your shoulders are hunched,

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and you're kind of turned off to the group, they're going to find that a little bit more, it's going to signal at least that you're not wanting to talk to anybody.

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Maybe you don't, but you asked the question, how can we, how can you get better at that?

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Keep a much more open stance and go in trying to think of just one

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or two people that you want to make eye contact with and conversation with.

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It doesn't mean you have to plan out these conversations ahead of time.

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You certainly can.

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And what I would encourage you to do is take some of the things

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that I said at the beginning of this episode of asking, go up to somebody, say, hi, I assume it doesn't matter if you know them or not.

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And you can ask them the question of what, what was something exciting happened in your week?

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What's, what's, um, what's exciting in your life right now?

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See, it's just one question right there.

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What's exciting in your life right now?

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Easy.

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And you let them talk.

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And then once they share it, You share something that's going on and exciting in your life.

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You can't just ask a question and then expect not to have any kind of answer of your own.

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So it's kind of that back and forth, that mutual contract that I talked about, Linda, that's going to make sure that you are keeping the ball rolling in the air.

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And it is much easier for you to end the conversation.

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This would be point three for you.

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If you feel that the conversation is starting to run low, get out fast.

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say, hey, it's been great to talk to you.

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I'm going to go grab something to eat or drink.

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Whatever it is, I'm going to run to go see whatever.

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It doesn't matter.

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The biggest thing is

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if you can end the conversation on a high note rather than forcing each other to talk

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when you really are kind of done talking to each other and then leave the conversation, well, now you kind of drained each other.

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So if you can, try to leave the conversation on a high note.

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So if they responded to your what's most exciting in your world today

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and they give you an awesome answer you say oh that's

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fabulous ask maybe another question about it go oh that's fantastic

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and if they don't ask anything of you typically they should i mean that's they should

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but if they don't that's cool we just say well that's awesome well i'm super proud of you

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that sounds really exciting it's great to talk with you

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and then you leave

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and now you've left on a high note now linda you've made a good impression

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because all you do is talk about them and they're gonna they're really gonna like that.

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So, Linda, those are just some quick takeaways.

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But at the end of the day, you just do what makes you special.

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All right.

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You do what makes you you.

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And if it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it.

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You stick with what feels good in your lane and what resonates and feels right to you.

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Thanks for the question.

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Thank you for listening to the Jefferson Fisher podcast.

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If you enjoyed today's small episode on small talk, then I'm going to ask you to please follow this podcast.

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And if you would leave a review or a star or a comment, anything really does help today we learned all about small talk

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that you can improve it by asking questions

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that are about the doing asking what they're excited about you're asking questions

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that are focused on the future number two we talked about

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open -ended questions versus closed -ended questions where closed -ended forces the person to answer with just a yes

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or a no but an open -ended question invites them to talk

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and you can do that by beginning your question with what how or when questions like that.

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And then number three, we learned that if you feel like the conversation is going to a natural end, no problem at all.

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Or if you want, you can use my super secret formula

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that I talked about in the episode that can get people to talk about just about anything at all.

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So that's the podcast for today.

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You can always try that.

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And as always, follow me.

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Vocabulario y notas de pronunciación para esta lección

Esta lección de conversación de nivel B2 se basa en el vídeo “Never Struggle with Small Talk Again”. Este vídeo tiene 246 frases y 3055 palabras para practicar shadowing. La parte hablada dura 15:11. El hablante habla rápido, unas 201 palabras por minuto, así que espera sonidos enlazados y reducidos. El 91 % de las palabras está entre las 3.000 más comunes del inglés, por lo que el vocabulario es fácil de seguir.

Vocabulario clave de este vídeo

Las 15 palabras más avanzadas del vídeo, con su pronunciación y significado:

Palabra	Pronunciación	Significado
excite verbo	/ɪkˈsaɪt/	emocionar
podcast sustantivo	/ˈpɑdˌkæst/	podcast, pódcast
orient verbo	/ˈɔɹ.iˌɛnt/	orientar
newsletter sustantivo	/ˈn(j)uzˌlɛtɚ/	boletín de noticias, boletín informativo
stance sustantivo	/stæns/	postura
interact verbo	/ɪn.təˈɹækt/	interactuar
curate sustantivo	/ˈkjʊɹɪt/	vicario
fiddle verbo	/ˈfɪdl̩/	chanchullar con, chanchullear con
gotcha	/ˈɡɑ.tʃə/	te tengo, te atrapé
overthink verbo		pensar(lo) demasiado / demasiadamente, pensar(lo) de más
politely adverbio	/pəˈlaɪtli/	educadamente, cortésmente
refreshment sustantivo	/ɹɪˈfɹɛʃ.mənt/	refrescamiento
resonate verbo	/ˈɹɛz.əˌneɪt/	resonar, retiñir
subconscious adjetivo	/sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/	parcialmente consciente
takeaway sustantivo	/ˈteɪkəweɪ/	restaurante de manducatoria para recoger, jama para llevar

Phrasal verbs que vas a escuchar

Palabra	Pronunciación	Significado
come up verbo		salir a relucir
come up with verbo		ingeniar, ingeniarse
get out verbo		salir
go ahead verbo	/ˌɡoʊ əˈhɛd/	venga, adelante
go around verbo		cundir
knock out verbo		noquear
make up verbo	/ˌmeɪk ˈʌp/	reponer, suplir
sign up verbo		inscribir, alistar

Frases que vale la pena repetir

Frases cortas y completas del vídeo que puedes reutilizar en la conversación diaria:

What do you have coming up?
Because how are you going to respond to that?
Did you have a good day?
Do you go to the store?
What's exciting in your life right now?

Gramática en este vídeo

Las estructuras que más usa el hablante, con las palabras exactas del vídeo:

Estructura	En el vídeo
Present perfect have/has + participio pasado — una acción pasada que sigue importando ahora	You've done · have accomplished · have now set
Voz pasiva be + participio pasado — importa lo que ocurre, no quién lo hace	are closed

Pronunciación a tener en cuenta

El hablante usa 96 contracciones y formas reducidas, como you're, I'm, they're. Dilas en su forma corta, tal como las oyes.

Los sonidos de “sh” y “zh”: refreshment /ɹɪˈfɹɛʃ.mənt/, subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/
Palabras largas — cuida el acento: elevator /ˈɛləˌveɪtɚ/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/

Sonidos difíciles para hispanohablantes:

s + consonante al inicio — sin añadir una “e” delante: stance /stæns/, snack /snæk/
/z/ — sonora, no /s/: newsletter /ˈn(j)uzˌlɛtɚ/, resonate /ˈɹɛz.əˌneɪt/
/h/ — una aspiración suave, no la “j”: downhill /ˌdaʊnˈhɪl/, hatred /ˈheɪtɹɪd/, hint /hɪnt/

Cómo practicar con este vídeo

Escucha el vídeo entero una vez sin hablar y anota las palabras que no conoces.
Empieza a velocidad 0,75×, haz shadowing frase por frase y vuelve a la velocidad normal cuando te resulte fácil.
Grábate y compara con el original, prestando atención a palabras como excite, podcast, orient.

¿Qué es la Técnica de Shadowing?

Shadowing es una técnica de aprendizaje de idiomas respaldada por la ciencia, desarrollada originalmente para la formación de intérpretes profesionales y popularizada por el políglota Dr. Alexander Arguelles. El método es simple pero poderoso: escuchas audio en inglés nativo y lo repites en voz alta de inmediato, como una sombra que sigue al hablante con solo 1-2 segundos de retraso. A diferencia de la escucha pasiva o los ejercicios de gramática, el shadowing obliga a tu cerebro y músculos de la boca a procesar y reproducir simultáneamente patrones de habla reales. Las investigaciones muestran que mejora significativamente la precisión de la pronunciación, la entonación, el ritmo, el habla conectada, la comprensión auditiva y la fluidez al hablar, convirtiéndola en una de las metodologías más efectivas para la preparación del IELTS Speaking y la comunicación en inglés en el mundo real.

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Vocabulario y notas de pronunciación para esta lección

Vocabulario clave de este vídeo

Phrasal verbs que vas a escuchar

Frases que vale la pena repetir

Gramática en este vídeo

Pronunciación a tener en cuenta

Cómo practicar con este vídeo

¿Qué es la Técnica de Shadowing?