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Why do people stay stuck?

Because they believe it is impossible.

90 % of people that I've worked with are fucking losers.

What is it that allows them to move forward?

They believe that what they want is possible.

Difficulty is not created by the world.

Difficulty is created by your response to the world.

My guest is Dr. K, a Harvard -trained psychiatrist, who is breaking down the most common psychology myths behind success and failure,

and then how to build a feedback loop that improves you instead of eating you alive.

The difference between hard and easy is not the size of the task.

It has to do with your understanding of the thing.

If I take some dude off the street and I'm like, can you make a million dollar business in a year?

They would say no. So where do you start

if you want to start achieving the things that you want out of life?

So many people feel like they're stuck, like they can't move past some sort of mental block.

They're struggling in their lives in some way.

And even if you're a winner, you go through these moments.

So I guess my question that I want to start with is like, one, do you see a lot of people who are stuck today?

And two, what do you tell them?

So I think the number one problem

that I see just on the internet today is everyone is asking how to fix problems.

Whereas what they should be asking is what is the actual problem?

So if you ask me like, how do you help someone who's stuck?

I don't know.

I guess you get behind their car and you start pushing.

That'll help if they're stuck, right?

Isn't that the solution?

If they're stuck, if they're like in a wheelchair and they're trying to get up the stairs, like you wheel them over to the elevator.

Or is it, are they psychologically stuck?

Are they stuck with alcohol?

So right now what's going on, and this is an effect of kind of how the internet is morphing, we're morphing to 60 second segments where there's no room for diagnosis.

So a lot of the work that i do

and this is hard to describe is i don't help people find solutions i help people dissolve problems

because even your problem is not exactly what you think it is

and most of what we do if we talk about like kind of the work

that i do is just like enabling people it's like helping people understand what the problem is

if you are unable to fix your problems you're trying to solve the wrong problem

and one of the crazy things i'll just give you an example is i would say 50 of people

that i work with

that are stuck aren't stuck they're holding on they're attached to

something in their life simple example is let's take addiction

so i did a bunch of addiction psychiatry many years ago

and um you know like

if you think about why is someone addicted to alcohol it's not

because alcohol is a problem it's

because alcohol is a solution what are you staying attached to that is preventing you from moving forward.

So then what do you do?

So if you figure out, okay, you're not stuck, you're holding on, you're choosing to hold on, then what's the next question?

So I think that depends on...

So I'm a clinician, right, first and foremost.

So I work with individuals with individual problems.

And so we can still generalize certain principles.

I'll give you like an example.

So I've worked with a couple of billionaires, but 90 % of people that I've worked with are what would be described as fucking losers.

so someone who's 26 years old lives in mom's basement doesn't

do their own laundry doesn't cook for themselves jerks off all day like this is the people

that i work with and there is like literally millions

if not hundreds of millions

or billions of young men who like no one is even bothering to help no one is even aware of

so that's what i that's what i set out to do

so i'm going to tell you a story about one of these people

so i i have a friend for example who's stock.

And his basic problem is that he doesn't allow himself to want.

Wanting is the basic thing that gets us to move forward.

Okay.

But if you don't believe you can get what you want, and I see this with like founders and people who are super successful as well,

they are really good at like, oh yeah, like I can build a billion dollar company, but i can't get my kids to love and respect me

so then if if you if there is a problem in your life

that you don't think that you can solve what your mind will do is fucking bury it

and so what feels like stuckness is actually an an intentional burying of your motivational circuitry

because Because if I don't want anything, then I can never fail.

If I don't want anything, then I don't have to try.

If I don't want anything, and this is the most crippling thing, if you think about like the most crippling source of suffering for a human being,

it is to want something that they cannot have.

This is something that human beings try to avoid at all costs.

So stuck is absence of want.

Why do we have an absence of want?

Because we believe that we cannot achieve it when people want something

and they believe it's possible they will move towards it okay

and there are even studies on things like mice that are depressed that you can drop a mouse in a bucket

that has one, like, subsurface, like, place that they can stand on, bucket of water.

And so they'll swim around and they find the panel.

Then what happens is you take out the panel so there's nowhere for the mouse to sit.

And you drop it in a bucket and swims around, it can't find anything, and eventually it's going to run out of energy and drown.

So a depressed mouse is one that gives up trying to find the panel faster.

So when we believe something is not possible, we stop trying.

okay so this is what's really this is uh forget about whether it's really possible

or not possible we're talking about here is motivation we're talking about what gets people unstuck

that has nothing to do with outcomes

that has to do with are you moving from zero steps to one step

so my goal is to teach people a healthy relationship with wanting right

so like my mission i spent years as a studying to become a monk

and then you know became a psychiatrist and all that stuff

and did My hypothesis or my thesis is that if you understand and can master the most basic instrument that you have,

which is yourself, then everything in life becomes easy.

That the difficulty is not created by the world.

Difficulty is created by your response to the world.

So where do you start? like if you want to start achieving the things

that you want out of life where's the first place you tell people to go to start figuring out themselves

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so step one is not go step one is understand

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and the really scary thing is

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if you look at like some of these eastern contemplative traditions they make a bold claim

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which i i'm i think is correct which i've been dragged to kicking

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and streaming i've tried to argue against it

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and i think i'm just wrong which is

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that you don't need to do anything all you need to do is understand and that understanding is actually

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not only sufficient for change but is the only thing that is necessary for change

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which i know is like a crazy idea because we're all about motivation

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and doing but like what i realized recently is what is the difference between something

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that is hard So if I asked you, Cody, let's say you're starting from scratch.

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We wipe out all your net worth, wipe out all your social connections.

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Can you make a million -dollar business within – how long would it take you to make a million -dollar business?

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I think I could do it in a year.

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Okay.

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So is that hard for you?

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I would say it's not easy, but it's simple.

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There's a straightforward path to it.

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Great.

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Right? so if i take some dude off the street

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and i'm like can you make a million dollar business in a year they would say no yeah

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so what is the difference and it's a beautiful

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nuance that you added it's simple you're not

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and now what you're doing is you're moving away from effort

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you see what you did there like you're moving away from yeah it'll take effort

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but you're it's simple you know how to do it yeah

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and so this is the key thing the difference between hard and easy is not the size of the task.

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It has nothing to do with effort.

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It has to do with your understanding of the thing.

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Yeah.

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It's so interesting because the way you talk about mental health is really simple to how we talk about businesses.

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My thesis that drives me insane is actually similar to yours in some way, which is that most business advice is only applicable to that business person.

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I completely agree, 100%.

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If I go listen to how Elon Musk runs his business.

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I think pretty highly of myself.

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I don't think that highly of myself.

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I can't go replicate what Elon does.

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So you could give me Elon's entire playbook and I still won't make it.

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But if I have an understanding of who I am, then I can actually apply who I am, what are my skill sets to what I want,

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and then finally come up with a strategy that pairs those two things.

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So it's interesting in our thing, we always say like, first you diagnose the you, then you diagnose the want, which would be like, do you want a lifestyle business?

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Do you want a scale business do you want an exit

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business do you use the word diagnose we do yeah i

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will prove it to you i have it like on 47 uh 47 powerpoints

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and then once you understand those two things you can have

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a strategy that's like maybe there's similarity in your world

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but i think in business there's like 12 core profit centers in every business

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but you don't know

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which ones you should play with until you know who you are what you want

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and then you can apply it to just about any business a lot of super interesting yeah

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so so i i think this is this is what's hard to explain to people is like

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because everyone is looking for an answer to their problems

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but what i what we try to do

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and like it's an interesting we have a membership thing

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that we started a couple years ago because i hated that what i wanted to teach

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was being dictated by the YouTube algorithm.

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And what people will click on is not the same as what will be helpful to them.

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So I had a fundamental problem and I was like, YouTube is great and you can teach people a lot on YouTube, but there's like deeper stuff that is like,

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how do you understand yourself?

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And so then I started that and it's been awesome.

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Right?

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But the thing is, What's your philosophy?

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How do you start to understand yourself?

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Like, do you have frameworks that you - Yeah.

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So, I think it depends.

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So, this is where we start with what the problem is.

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Yeah.

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So, like, I'll give you like a kind of a simple example, which I think is maybe relevant to your audience, which is like, you know,

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I think you kind of talk a lot about how you should own your business.

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Your business should not own you, right? So, like, inside every one of us is what i would call a

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yearning this is at the surface level you have like your thoughts

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and your emotions and perceptions we'll get to that and then beneath

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that you have your ego beneath that you have some weird deep psychological stuff

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and beneath that you have like what i would call a yearning

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or like a calling so it's not ego it's not like psychological trauma there are layers of

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that but at the bottom is like something weird and spiritual

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so i call it also dharma duty there's karma involved karma

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we can talk about all those things i think those things are absolutely scientific

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and so what starts to happen is you get into the business for some reason

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so i i want to help people

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and then i see oh this person is doing it

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and this person is doing it this way

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and this person is doing it this way and

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so then what i start to do is i move away from myself

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towards those things and this is really an important distinction it's not

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that you shouldn't learn from other people but

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that learning should center back into you

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and serve your mission instead of you chasing after and trying to duplicate what someone else does

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because the moment that you try to duplicate what someone else does

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you said it beautifully i'm going to use different term you

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have your own karma you have your own set of advantages

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your own set of disadvantages you have your own the way

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your dopaminergic circuitry is wired what you get addicted to what

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your social support system is what your capital is you cannot duplicate the success of anyone else

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and this is why it's so interesting you have

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so many brilliant people giving advice about how to live life

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and we have the fucking people are fucked right left

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and center it's so true and the question is why

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and that's because you can't duplicate the solution

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that someone else has the best chance you've got

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and i'm methodologically this is sound outcomes wise scientifically this is

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sound we can get into the research you have to play from your position right

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so you can look at somebody else who wins a hand of poker with a royal flush.

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But if you've got like a three, seven of hearts, it's not that you can't win,

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but the fastest way to lose is to use the strategy of the other guy.

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So your model of like diagnosis first is exactly where I go.

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And a big part of that is what is really driving you?

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How does ego enter the picture?

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And how are you being shaped by your perceptions?

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But like, I think ego is like a big part that like people don't understand.

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And if you don't understand ego, like it's going to run your life.

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How do you define ego?

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How do you understand it and how do you overcome it?

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Great.

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So it's not to be overcome, first thing.

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So ego, I love Sanskrit.

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So there's one, can I go like off track for a second?

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Okay.

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So the bit of depth.

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So in the West, the way that we learn things is through like instrumentation.

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So we have x -rays, we have biopsies, we take blood tests.

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And in psychiatry, we use words.

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That is the way that we try to understand what is someone's mind.

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Now, let me ask you.

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So this is what's also really interesting.

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We have no instrument that can measure the mind, right?

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EEG, electroencephalogram, doesn't measure the mind.

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FMRI doesn't measure the mind.

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It measures the blood flow of the brain.

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We're measuring physical structures, okay?

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So this is the fundamental difference between Eastern psychology and Western psychology.

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You're the only one who has direct access to your own mind.

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and so the system of psychology

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that they developed is not based on a model developed through words it is based on internal observation

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and we in the west we hate that

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because it's a sample size of one it is subjective newsflash

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there is no objective evidence of the existence of mind you can't measure it you can't

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and then biological reductionists make a big mistake which is they say, ah, doesn't exist.

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Since we can't measure, it doesn't exist.

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Shared delusion by 8 billion people on the planet, they say that mine is not real.

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No, it is real.

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It's just non -physical.

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It doesn't exist in the material world.

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We all know it's there.

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And we act on it through things like psychotherapy.

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So when we exert influences on the mind, we see outcomes that are measurable.

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Our intervention acts on the mind, the mind changes, and then we see outcomes.

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So it absolutely exists.

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It just exists in a space that science cannot touch yet, sort of.

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So we also have validated questionnaires and things like that, which we can touch it in some ways.

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We can direct measure.

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So now we get to ego.

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so in the west they think

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that there are basically three pillars of mind you have thoughts

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which is one thing you have emotions which is another thing you have behaviors

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which is a third thing and then you have like memories okay

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so the yogis say there's a fourth part of the mind

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which is ego you have a sense of self

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so uh this is the word is ahamkara and ahamkara is the feeling of i

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so ahamkara is anything that comes after the words i am dot dot dot so i am successful

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i am a loser both of those things are true i'm like absolutely loser

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and i'm wildly successful i'm an idiot and i'm a genius

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so anything that you add after i am is ahamkara

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that is what the ego is so any defining quality

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that you attach is not actually who you are it is

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part of the clothing of your ego that's a great word

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but ego is all of the attributes that you attach to yourself

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when you remove all of the sensory inputs

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and you exist without an object to focus on

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that is the goal of meditation by the way and

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that is what like heals people because all of these problems of the ego literally cease to exist.

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You have so many perspectives that are two worlds combining, right?

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Not that normal for a monk to go to med school, as far as I'm aware.

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What do you think people get really wrong when they go to psychologists or psychiatrists?

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Like, for instance, and this is sort of gross generalization, I've had different therapists for years at varying points in my life by

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and large i found them not very helpful yeah and

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so it would be like we'd be talking about the same

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thing sort of continuously you'd have some set amount of time i'd be repeating all the things

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that annoyed me that day

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and then um really not a lot of change would happen

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almost no direction no specific next steps i like specificity

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and now it almost seems like you know we're more uh therapized than we've ever been in society

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while simultaneously being less happy.

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Why is that?

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What are we doing so fucking wrong?

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Somewhere along the way, therapy became, got a monopoly on helping people.

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Yeah.

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So simple example of this is the fundamental idea that talking about your problems,

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about your emotions is the gold standard for being better.

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So 70 % of therapists are women, 70 percent of patients this is changing now thankfully

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but you know 70 percent of patients are women and this idea

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that talk therapy is the way that's simply using words now words

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and there there's a really good mechanism here right

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so it is very effective i do talk therapy i love doing talk therapy

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but i also do yogic practice thantric practice i also

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when i i had a 15 year old who's addicted to video games my solution to

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that is i'm going to take an mit incubator where i have a client.

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I'm going to ask them, hey, will you guys take a 15 year old as an intern?

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And they're like, sure.

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Right.

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So I think somewhere along the way, when you have a mental problem, people will say, go see a therapist for like all kinds of medical legal reasons, too.

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And so somewhere along the way, a lot of people went to therapy

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and therapy is not designed to help them with their problems or based on what their personality is.

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They're not good candidates for therapy you are so right because it's never bad to say, oh, you should go to therapy.

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That's always like, no, no, that's great.

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That's exactly, that's a safe piece of advice as opposed to, I mean, we have a dear friend in North Carolina.

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It was funny.

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She was super depressed, overweight, really unhappy in life.

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And my husband kind of jokingly made a comment one day.

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He's like, well, you do work inside like 15 hours a day and not move your body a lot.

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And thus you can't really sleep very well.

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Like, maybe you should go throw some weights around and get some vitamin D.

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And at the time, she was really pissed.

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She was like, fuck you.

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I am depressed.

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Lo and behold, she goes on more walks, she gets more vitamin D, and she works out, and that actually worked great for her.

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Absolutely, right?

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So something that happens a lot in the manosphere is when you get dumped, they're like, hit the gym, bro.

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Yeah.

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you know you don't have to like grieve and cry

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and stuff like that what do you think about that advice is

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that what you i think it's really good advice i i i think it's a piece right

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so this is where we get to mechanism yeah where people grossly underestimate like a big big thing

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that a lot of people don't understand this is why i think mental illness is getting

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so bad somewhere along the way we started to think

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that mental illness is is in the mind which i think is fundamentally incorrect

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so there's a study

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that like blew my mind have you ever heard of a stool transplant yeah right

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So you have someone who has a certain kind of gut bacteria.

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They're depressed.

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And the intervention that we do is we take poop from another human being and we give it to them.

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Either we insert it from the rectum or they take it orally.

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It's like a probiotic, right?

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And this works.

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And it works, right?

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So you'll see like somewhere between a 30 %

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and 70 % reduction in symptoms of depression with not one bit of psychotherapy therapy, not one moment of talking about your problems.

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How would people actually try that as opposed to talk therapy?

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Very few because I think stool transplants are still in the research phase and the clinical interventions are not, and then we've got to get the money stool,

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which I don't know if we have.

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That's a whole new side income business I have not pondered yet, maybe in the future.

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Yeah, just high quality shit.

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but actually that's really interesting

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because it's probably also not as profitable you know talk therapy

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for i mean how many people do we all know

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that have gone to talk therapy for like 15 or 20 years

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and nothing's fucking changed that's a lot a lot of them

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wind up in my office they do yeah interesting as opposed to

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if i can do a steel stool transplant i can feel some sort of trigger change

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and then i can have actual habit change maybe my life could actually change yeah Yeah.

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So I think this is where specific, like you said in your framework, there are 12 fundamental areas of profit.

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So I think the mistake that therapy makes is there's one.

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So here's the conception that I think is like functionally useful.

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It's something called pancha gosha.

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Gosha means sheath.

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So pancha means five.

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One aspect of our being, which is our sheath, our food body is the way to think about it.

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That's our physical form.

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So there are certain ways to take care of the physical body.

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Then the second layer of our being is pranamaya gosha, which is our energy body then third layer is our emotional mind

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so that's our emotions fourth layer is the i guess you

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could say the analytical mind our reasoning capability cognition right

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so a western psychiatry has has actions emotions and and

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and like cognitive stuff and then the fifth fifth layer

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which i call soul or the spiritual body

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which i now understand is different but that's probably not for today

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so so then there there are interventions at the level of like purely spiritual

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which most people don't

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which would be like praying um not unless you do it right interesting deep meditation yes

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so this is where i would i would talk about tantra

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or tantra so i think like tantric interventions what is tantra i think about

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that as a sexual yeah

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so tantra is translated as technique you know you can make like a prediction based on a model

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or analytics but then sometimes when you start a business

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or you launch something you put some oomph into it yeah

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that is not mental that is not hours of labor is

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that does that map on or resonate to you at all

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that sometimes you've got the oomph yeah so like when i try to explore what is that oomph?

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And I think a lot of people who are successful will know

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that there's something that is not describable or reducible to an analytical model.

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Yeah.

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Like when you say I was turned, like I really turned it on today.

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Exactly.

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I was really in flow today.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Right.

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So then we have some of these approximations of Shakti, which is flow.

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So flow is the gateway to Shakti from a neuroscience mechanistic standpoint.

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Flow is the verifiable door to something greater.

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Flow is not the goal, it's the first step.

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The problem is that the more subjective we become, the more that we go towards the mind, the further we move away from science and the less verifiable things become.

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And then we get to function because it's like, do you want to do something that is verified or do you want to do something that works?

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I want to do some rapid fire if you're down for that.

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I want to rapid fire some like tropes that I've heard.

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And you tell me quickly.

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True, false, why?

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It takes 21 days to build a habit.

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For some people.

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We only use 10 % of our brains.

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False.

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Tell me why.

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I mean, 100 % of our brain is active basically 100 % of the time.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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So we've just been sold a bag of goods.

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Time heals all wounds.

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Absolutely false.

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Why?

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If you get a fracture and you just leave it alone, 10 years from now, it may heal to some degree, but it's not going to heal right.

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So time may heal all wounds, but it'll heal them in a broken, fucked up way. So good.

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You have to love yourself before anyone can love you.

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other way around explain

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that we learn how to love ourselves from as a reflect

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we are the modeling of how to love me comes from

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other people how do i love me my parents teach me that

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it is what it is radical acceptance generally uh absolutely true

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but gets hijacked by ego all the time is a great way to avoid responsibility.

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Yeah, sorry.

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This is who I am.

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If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best.

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Yeah, I've seen that Marilyn Monroe quote a lot.

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Actually, you know what another one is that I want to throw in there?

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What about radical transparency always?

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Satya should always be subject to ahimsa.

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Truth should always be subject to non -violence truth should so

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if you have a choice between being honest and being hurtful

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or hurt is not worth truth basically right yeah every motherfucker i've ever met who always has like radical truth

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or radical honesty in their profile i always i always yeah

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i think it's it's a license to be an asshole it's a total yes to be an asshole

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and then tell you why they're polyamorous and it's okay.

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I think they go hand in hand.

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That's just my science.

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What about the body keeps the score?

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Absolutely.

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No doubt.

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Depression is a chemical imbalance.

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Chemical, mental, spiritual, all.

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Why?

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It's not.

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So there's a great paper from molecular psychiatry that actually makes a really strong case.

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We have really no evidence that depression is a neurochemical imbalance.

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We believe that because SSRIs, which boost serotonin transmission work with depression.

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So then we reverse engineered the cause because a treatment works.

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And then, yeah, so I don't think it's a neurochemical imbalance, but there's probably some, it's a piece of it.

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Let's say it's a third.

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Do you get murdered on the internet when you say that?

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No. Really?

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Yeah.

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I get in a lot of trouble if I say, are we always just depressed or might we just need to take a different action?

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They're like, how dare you say I'm not depressed?

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I'm not sure that was the point of that statement.

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Here's another point.

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I think there's a difference between depression and unhappiness.

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And most people are what?

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Unhappy or depressed?

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Most people are unhappy and they can have depression on top.

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These are two independent things.

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Everyone needs therapy.

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no so i think people who believe

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that everyone needs therapy want to live in a world where everyone behaves in a way

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that they want them to behave i can't walk through a

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world where people are fucked up i want everyone to be healed

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and if if everybody else is perfect then i then i'll be happy

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because i won't have any friction with anybody everyone doesn't need therapy it reminds me of the african proverb

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which is like do you want to pave the world in leather

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or wear leather shoes excellent you know love it let's try the leather shoes manifestation is real uh is real

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but 99 of people don't know how to do it there's a scientific mechanism behind it

468

which all the new age people who believe in manifestation none

469

of them are rigorous how do we become rigorous i want

470

to manifest for real i got a lot of mantra oh

471

this is what this is where you go back to yeah

472

because my problem is you look around austin a lot of the people who are manifesting

473

and meditating and crystalline all day rent apartments not by choice yeah

474

so i've worked with one guru who his rate of training is five figures for round one

475

and multiple cycles of that six figures for round two and seven figures for round three and

476

And he is so effective

477

that people will start his stuff with like with a net worth of like $50 ,000 and the money will come.

478

It's insane.

479

So I would love to do a scientific study on this and I try to collect data.

480

But I think manifestation is real if done properly and 99 % of people who talk about it, don't know how to do it,

481

haven't done a rigorous study of like how it actually works, or experimental trials.

482

Interesting.

483

So to believe that manifestation is not real.

484

that without a scientific exploration for it is in and of itself unscientific.

485

Yeah, that's a good point.

486

Right?

487

So if you want to know whether something works or not, you have to test it.

488

Yeah.

489

Except heroin.

490

I'm fine.

491

I don't want to test that one.

492

You know?

493

I guess there's lots of studies that it does, in fact, lead to massive addiction.

494

Sure.

495

So I don't need to play with it.

496

There are plenty of studies that show that it doesn't.

497

Get out.

498

Really?

499

60 % of, I think, soldiers in Vietnam use heroin, and only 9 % remained addicted after coming back to the U .S.

500

I didn't know that.

501

Yeah.

502

That's so interesting.

503

I just assumed I'll never try that thing

504

because the way people talk about it looks too - I would highly recommend that you don't try.

505

This is what my doctor, as of this moment, because you still have it on paper, says.

506

Okay.

507

I like this.

508

Last one.

509

Happiness is a choice?

510

Happiness is a cultivatable skill.

511

Oh, that's a good - It's not a choice.

512

If you had to leave somebody here who listened to this podcast with one place to start, one truth, You like the pursuit of truth.

513

One next step, tactical, what would it be?

514

Understand your problems before you solve them.

515

Yeah.

516

And spend more time on that than just the fixing.

517

Yeah.

518

And one quick tip about that.

519

One of the biggest reasons that that's hard to do is one way

520

that the mind runs away from problems is by manufacturing bigger ones that demand your attention,

521

especially for entrepreneurs whose personal life is a mess.

522

Should we all go to an ashram?

523

Do you think I would like an ashram?

524

I'm kind of intrigued.

525

I would not like it.

526

I mean, you can go if you want.

527

I don't think you need to.

528

Really?

529

Yeah.

530

Why not?

531

So everything is an intervention.

532

SSRI has a goal.

533

Yeah, true.

534

Therapy has a goal.

535

Ashram has a goal.

536

If you want to do a dedicated spiritual practice, you can go to an ashram.

537

If you want to eat the food and be in the environment, things like that, you should go.

538

But I think that the nice thing is that there's a lot of great spiritual practice that you can learn here.

539

So if you want to go, then go.

540

But should you go?

541

That depends on what you want.

542

If you want to go, go.

543

Yeah.

544

Why would you go to an ashram?

545

To do internal work.

546

But internal work is done internally.

547

It can be done anywhere.

548

So if you want the lifestyle and the diet and the atmosphere and the social connection, the environment, then go to an ashram.

549

Now, orange is not my color.

550

I don't think that would be.

551

Did you wear orange when you were there?

552

No, I'm not a sannyas, I mean a swami.

553

So is there any dress code?

554

Was there dress code at your ashram?

555

Sort of.

556

I mean, people wore natural things, but my most recent dress code is I hate clothes.

557

So I started doing - So you're in a nudist ashram?

558

No, I mean, I'll wear a chandi, but like this, like an underwear.

559

Okay.

560

I love that you point down there and say the word, like I'm going to know what that is.

561

You're like, yeah.

562

So I've done some very serious spiritual practice in the last two years.

563

In your underwear?

564

Huh?

565

In your underwear and i i like can't wear clothes anymore like this is painful yeah

566

that is wild yeah it's weird i can't actually wait for this headline

567

which is like harvard psychiatrist no longer clothes

568

so next podcast no clothe it i'll think about it there's

569

there's some there's some branding stuff right we're like how you name things

570

and it's like that does seem like that would do really well on Twitch.

571

Healthy Gamer everywhere on social.

572

Yeah. So YouTube.

573

And then I think if people want to learn the deep stuff, which like, what are they going to get?

574

The answer is, I don't know.

575

But if you're going to get the stuff that you didn't know you needed, that's over in our membership.

576

And where's that?

577

Healthy Gamer.

578

Yeah.

579

Same thing.

580

This was amazing.

581

Thank you so much.

582

Thank you for coming on.

583

Thank you for having me.

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אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה

15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:

מילה	הגייה	משמעות
stool שם עצם	/stuːl/	שְׁרַפְרַף
psychiatry שם עצם	/saɪˈkaɪ.əˌtɹi/	פְּסִיכִיאַטְרְיָה
addict שם עצם	/ˈæd.ɪkt/	מָכוּר
loser שם עצם	/luzɚ/	מַפְסִידָן, לווּזֶר
diagnose פועל	/ˈdaɪ.əɡˌnoʊs/	אבחן
psychiatrist שם עצם	/ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/	פְּסִיכִיאָטֶר
karma שם עצם	/kərm(ə)/	קארמה
underwear שם עצם	/ˈʌndɚˌwɛɹ/	תַּחְתּוֹנִים
bucket שם עצם	/ˈbʌkɪt/	דְּלִי
psychotherapy שם עצם	/ˌsaɪkoʊˈθɛɹəpi/	טיפול נפשי
sheath שם עצם	/ʃiθ/	נרתיק
yearn פועל	/jɝn/	השתוקק, כמה
attach פועל	/əˈtæt͡ʃ/	חיבר
monk שם עצם	/mʌŋk/	נָזִיר
wipe פועל	/waɪp/	נִגֵּב

Phrasal verbs שתשמעו

מילה	משמעות
figure out פועל	הֵבִין, מצא תשובה
get up פועל	קָם
give up פועל	וִתֵּר

משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם

משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:

Why do we have an absence of want?
How do you start to understand yourself?
How do you define ego?
They're like, how dare you say I'm not depressed?
Should we all go to an ashram?

דקדוק בסרטון הזה

המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:

מבנה	בסרטון
הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו	I've worked · i've been dragged · i've tried
סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה	is not created · is created · is let
משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר	people who are · men who like · wrong which is

הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה

הדובר משתמש ב-150 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו don't, I'm, you're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.

הצלילים של “th”: therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, psychotherapy /ˌsaɪkoʊˈθɛɹəpi/, sheath /ʃiθ/, thesis /ˈθisɪs/, algorithm /ˈælɡəɹɪðm̩/
הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: manifestation /ˌmænɪfɛˈsteɪʃən/, sheath /ʃiθ/, meditation /mɛdɪˈteɪʃn̩/, prediction /pɹɪˈdɪkʃən/
מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: manifestation /ˌmænɪfɛˈsteɪʃən/, psychiatry /saɪˈkaɪ.əˌtɹi/, psychiatrist /ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/, psychotherapy /ˌsaɪkoʊˈθɛɹəpi/, verifiable /vɛɹ.ɪˈfaɪ.ə.bəl/

צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:

/w/ — שפתיים מעוגלות, לא /v/: underwear /ˈʌndɚˌwɛɹ/, wipe /waɪp/
/æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: manifestation /ˌmænɪfɛˈsteɪʃən/, addict /ˈæd.ɪkt/, unhappy /ʌnˈhæpi/, analytical /ˌæn.əˈlɪt.ɪ.kəl/, attach /əˈtæt͡ʃ/
/r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: tantra /ˈtʌntɹə/, psychiatry /saɪˈkaɪ.əˌtɹi/, rigorous /ˈɹɪɡəɹəs/, psychiatrist /ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/, karma /kərm(ə)/

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