Shadowing Practice: Not Everyone Deserves Access to You - Learn English Speaking with Video
בחר מצב תרגול
כל מצב פותח חדר תרגול במסך מלא.
311 משפטים
אם המשפטים קצרים או ארוכים מדי, לחץ על ערוך כדי להתאים אותם.
1
Hi guys, welcome to or welcome back to another video.
2
Today we have a pep talk.
3
I know that you guys really like my pep talks, so I wanted to get comfy and sit here
4
and just chat about something that I've been wanting to dive into for a little bit.
5
I wanna talk about the fact that not everybody deserves access to you.
6
Everybody's welcome here on this channel, okay?
7
I don't care who you are, I don't care if you're a guy, a girl, a gay, they, whatever, I don't care who you are, but I am a girl, so I'm gonna be kind of,
8
you know talking to the girls about dating and men
9
and all that stuff
10
but anyone is welcome here okay my whole life i've been the type of person
11
that has always longed to have
12
so many friends i have always wanted big friend groups i have struggled
13
so much with friendships with female friendships
14
and i think i've just reached a point where i've realized
15
that having a small circle is just the way to go
16
about it i love sabrina carpenter i love her music
17
and it's so cute
18
that she flies out her friend Paloma who's just like you know got a regular job
19
and this is like her best friend and she flies her on tour with her and everything.
20
I feel like she would be friends with a lot of people
21
that she works with and her dancers and people on her team
22
and stuff but like ultimately she's worked so hard on her career.
23
I'm not trying to be parasocial and say I know everything about her life
24
but I'm assuming from what it looks like on the outside I feel like she's just
25
so focused and so locked in and just friends with like people
26
that she works with and then she's got like her staples
27
and her sisters and stuff i feel like it's like this for a lot of actresses
28
and singers i mean at least that's kind of the world
29
that i'm in and that's kind of who i look up to
30
and i've realized i can achieve everything i want without having
31
a million friends i don't actually need to have a million friends everybody's different
32
and what i say that works for me might not work for you
33
but i have realized that stepping back
34
and taking this pressure away from myself like
35
that pressure of oh my god you need to have a girl group
36
and you need to have this and that and like all these friends
37
and blah blah no it's like babe literally just be more grateful what the hell i have good friends
38
and maybe they don't all live in the same city
39
but i have good friends and more importantly i'm locked in i'm working towards things
40
that i want to do lately i've been trying to romanticize my life a lot
41
and so i've been trying to tap into different things that I want to do.
42
I really want to get into acting classes potentially
43
just because I really love that world of like musicians
44
and actors and like I just I love that stuff and I really really want to tap into that.
45
I also feel like it would be a good use of my time like
46
if anything it might just make me feel more confident in general and whatever so I want to try acting classes.
47
I'm also doing singing lessons.
48
I want to get into ice skating lessons like I'm just
49
trying to like really have hobbies outside of what I do I can just be at home working constantly
50
and like never leave the house and and not make friends
51
and I have struggled I'm not going to lie with making friends
52
and recently I went through a bit of a friendship breakup
53
and this person threw that in my face
54
and was like you know no wonder you don't have many friends
55
and that made me feel really sad and then I thought about it
56
and I was like no I choose to be picky with who is in my life
57
because the thing is you are who you hang around so
58
if i wanted so many friends then i could have
59
so many friends i'm just picky okay and this friend
60
that i'm telling you guys about where we had
61
that friendship breakup she's actually not really doing much with her life
62
but like she has a lot of people around her
63
and she's always like going out and doing stuff
64
but like for me i don't have as many friends my friends are kind of like scattered around the world
65
and like when i'm back home i don't really have
66
that many people to hang out with
67
and i'm also just very picky maybe this is just me
68
but i've always wanted friends
69
that feel really special like wow you you are one of a kind i've always been
70
that kind of girl okay if you're not valuable i don't want it maybe
71
that sounds awful but it's like when i'm at the beach okay
72
if i want to like collect some shells to take home
73
as souvenirs i'm not just going to go for the first one i'm going to like go through
74
and find like better ones and i just i collect my friends
75
and i make sure that there are people that add so much value into my life, otherwise I don't want them.
76
And so all these people that you see on your Instagram feed, right, that have a million friends and are going out all the time, I guarantee if you sat them down and asked them like,
77
so what's happening, like how's life, you know, how's your job whatever like they're probably lacking in one of those departments
78
because if you are so social and constantly like social
79
and going out
80
and whatever then something else would be lacking you can't be killing it in all departments
81
and also just like the title of this video not everybody deserves access to you
82
and just because you don't have a million friends doesn't mean
83
that you are not valuable in fact you are more valuable
84
a lot of people will only want to be around
85
when you have something to offer them when life is good okay
86
when life is shit and you're broke and you're depressed
87
and you've lost a loved one think about
88
that okay i know it's like such a depressing thought but
89
if you lost a loved one okay and then
90
that sent you into like a spiral
91
and you were just like in a really bad way who
92
in your life would be there for you who would pick up the phone who would sit with you
93
and let you cry to them who would be there for you who would care
94
so much like that okay anybody else cut them out
95
and i'm not saying cut them out as in like oh
96
my god never talk to them again no just like you don't have to be pouring
97
that much energy into those people people are weird
98
and people have weird intentions and like i'm sorry
99
but i don't believe that you can have like 50 friends
100
that you know plans every single day with a new person and know exactly like their heart and their intentions.
101
It takes time to really know somebody.
102
And with all of my best friends, I've known them for years.
103
And those friendships really built over time.
104
And, you know, I gained trust for them and everything.
105
And that's kind of all you need.
106
Like if you have one amazing friend or one sibling that you love and hang out with, just one person that listens to you and cares about you, then you're killing it.
107
Everything else you need is just within you.
108
Like you really can make your dream life happen, honestly.
109
there's only so much energy that you have to give why don't you save some of
110
that for yourself i want to talk about a few things
111
that i've changed about my mentality
112
that i feel like puts me on a different level one thing
113
that i love is the saying not wanting something is as
114
good as having it example i used to want a million friends
115
and like friend groups and people that could just like come over
116
and hang out and blah blah blah like that's just i'm a social person
117
I'm willing to wait for that and
118
because not wanting something is as good as having it sometimes I've really thought about it
119
and I came to this conclusion that
120
if I was doing like acting classes singing lessons ice skating like just filling my time with different hobbies
121
and saving up you know working hard saving for travel just really locked in
122
and focused on my goals I feel like
123
that feeling would almost be better than the feeling of having
124
a million friends it's just about figuring out okay where am i lacking in my life
125
and how can i pour into myself so that i'm not feeling
126
that way about that one thing
127
if you feel like oh i don't have many friends what
128
can you do to improve your life in other ways instead of sitting around
129
and just waiting for friends trust me honey the friends will come
130
and go especially when you're working on yourself especially
131
if you go out
132
and you do hobbies like that's just that's how you meet people it's the exact same thing with girls
133
that that want a relationship
134
so bad this might be a hot take i'm not saying
135
this makes you like a loser okay i'm not judging
136
but like i feel like if you're young
137
and in your 20s why are you on a dating app i know it's fun to like go on dates
138
and stuff but
139
if you really think about it most of the guys on
140
dating apps are kind of like like i just feel like
141
high value people meet each other in person you can fill
142
your time by yourself i'm sure you have a lot of different things
143
that you want to get into i'm sure there are a
144
lot of places you want to travel i'm sure you want
145
to make more friends like whatever you know that's not your
146
dream love story you met them on a dating app i
147
know it might sound harsh i actually personally genuinely do not judge
148
that i don't think it's a problem
149
if you want to be on a dating app you want
150
to have fun you want to go on a date every once in a
151
while just to boost your confidence but
152
if you are coming at it from like a desperate place
153
and it's less about i just want to feel good
154
and go on a date once in a while
155
and it's more about I really need a boyfriend because I want to feel loved that needs to stop.
156
I genuinely believe that the feeling of loving someone or loving something is so much better than being loved.
157
That feeling of when you admire something and love something so much, that is a special feeling and that doesn't have to be a relationship.
158
You can love anything else.
159
You can fill your time with other things i just don't
160
want you to be sitting there desperate for a relationship
161
or for something to work what are you gonna do like
162
force it to work you can't that's embarrassing it's desperate you
163
don't want to be desperate i want to talk a little bit about dating
164
if you are dating somebody these are my rules okay it's
165
kind of all tied into the topic of like don't give people
166
so much access to you these are my rules no building a man projects i don't care
167
if you're dating a girl apply the same advice works for everyone
168
but i'm just going to talk about men
169
because i unfortunately date men just kidding there are some good ones out there no bread crumbing allowed consistency
170
or nothing period i don't even you know what i can
171
just end the pep talk here bye just kidding i'm not going to when i say no bread crumbing
172
can we just take a deep breath and you know what it doesn't matter
173
if you are in a relationship maybe you need to hear this for whatever reason
174
or even if you don't need to hear it maybe it's advice
175
that you can give to your friends okay so stick around no breadcrumming
176
if someone really likes you they'll show up for you they're
177
not going to be like oh you know i'm just not really like looking for a relationship
178
but like you and i like we've got a good thing going
179
if we keep hanging out and like you keep coming over we keep sleeping together
180
and blah blah then you know you never know like a
181
man could change shut the hell up ew you don't want
182
that no bread crumbing no ignoring red flags somebody said something to me
183
and you know what's funny i don't think that they realize
184
that i think about this to this day
185
but i genuinely think about this to this day which is
186
so funny um because they just said it to me randomly so this person i know was like to me
187
I really believe when people tell me who they are.
188
She's like, you know, if somebody says to you, oh, you know, I'm quite a competitive person.
189
She said that she remembers that because it's like somebody is literally telling you who they are and believe that, you know?
190
Everybody has flaws.
191
But when it comes to picking someone to date, like a partner, I feel like you really need to take the red flag serious, okay?
192
They will show you exactly who they are.
193
If a guy says to you, oh, you know, in the past, like I've just had like a lot of trouble, being loyal blah blah and then they're following a million girls on instagram
194
and just giving you all the signs
195
that they clearly are not looking to like lock in
196
and really give you the attention that you want believe that
197
but then this is the problem is sometimes girls will be like oh
198
but those are all the signs
199
but they're saying this words mean nothing babe words mean absolutely nothing you will show me exactly who you are
200
and i will figure it out within the first few days or weeks of knowing you.
201
I don't need to sit around and waste time.
202
If you sit with me and tell me, oh, I really like you and I really see this going somewhere, then you better have the actions to match those words
203
because I'm not going to believe you just based on the words
204
that you tell me because words are not good enough, babe.
205
I have so much to do in this life
206
and I'm not going to sit around here waiting for you to fulfill your promises, period.
207
I'm not doing it.
208
Next, no last minute plans.
209
I'm not even going to dive into this.
210
It's so straightforward.
211
No last minute plans.
212
If he's not planning, he's not prioritizing.
213
It's just bummy for you to be seeing somebody that only wants you to come over at night.
214
You get what I'm saying?
215
Like they really need to plan it and consider you and wanna hang out with you, especially hanging out during the day.
216
If I'm seeing someone, they need to be so obsessed with me that they literally wanna like go for walks with me.
217
They wanna like meet me for coffee and then pay for the coffee.
218
And I'm not saying they have to pay for everything.
219
I'm not materialistic like that.
220
I have my own.
221
I can pay for things myself too, but I just want them to be like really really wow
222
obsessed with me okay that's just my type everybody has a type don't judge me for my type
223
if your type is chasing after a guy
224
and only going over at 10 p.m
225
because he calls you late at night to see you that's your type that's not my type I know
226
that nobody wants that nobody wants that because it's not cute
227
when you're talking to somebody no last minute plans not in the beginning stages
228
when you're talking to them you want them to plan it
229
you want them to want to hang out with you it has to be like a mutual push
230
and pull you know what i mean not like you just
231
please please give me your attention that's just ew ew ew it's sending out the energy
232
that you are lacking okay no honey we need to be
233
in our feminine energy you need to let somebody chase you let them feel
234
that sense of urgency of like if i don't put in everything to try
235
and win this girl over somebody else will because this girl is
236
so fine on her own she's
237
so independent she does not need me i am lucky to be talking to her
238
because they are lucky honey i'll tell you
239
that this is for friends boyfriends whoever they are lucky i don't care
240
if i had this friendship breakup with this friend
241
right that was like to me oh you don't have many friends i know
242
that when they go to sleep at night they know
243
that i really value myself i really respect myself
244
and anybody in my life is a high value person anything
245
that i'm doing is high value you're not going to see
246
me out here begging for friendships begging for relationships i know she knows
247
that she can say whatever she wants about me
248
but one thing she could never say about me
249
and believe it is you know luma's just like she's bending
250
over backwards for people blah blah it's not me babe it's
251
not my character people are always going to talk about you
252
but one thing
253
that you don't want them to say about you is like
254
she just like does too much for the person she's dating
255
you ever heard of a girl that's like oh yeah like her man cheated on her
256
and she still stayed you don't want to be
257
that person you want to have respect for yourself you want to value yourself without these things you have nothing
258
so let's start with those things first respect valuing yourself boundaries having good boundaries
259
when you have good boundaries you don't lose yourself i have lost myself a few times in relationships
260
and friendships in certain work things like i've just really lost
261
sight of like what i actually want i feel like being in your 20s at any age really
262
but like especially being in your 20s is just so turbulent
263
and exhausting and I find that sometimes
264
when I'm around certain people I can really lose myself I lose sight of my goals
265
and my dreams and what I want
266
and I just I can't afford to do that and
267
so you have to have good boundaries and you have to understand
268
that like somebody who really loves and cares about you will always understand
269
that you have your own life
270
and things to fulfill it's not just about them you are
271
the star of your own movie you are not a side character in your own movie
272
and i know it's very simple cliche advice
273
but i feel like sometimes even i need to remember this i have to respect myself
274
and i have to have good boundaries
275
if somebody does something to cross a boundary you need to pick it up
276
and leave i don't care how sad you are i don't care you will figure it out you know why
277
because we always do look at us we're all still here
278
if i sat all of you down right now
279
and you were all in front of me
280
and i said you you you tell me about the hardest thing you ever had to go through
281
and you tell me a story at the end of it i'd say
282
but did you get through it though yes you did you always do we always do
283
so i need you to understand
284
that it's very important to have respect for yourself now
285
if i got cheated on tomorrow and i had to leave my relationship
286
and i had to pack all my things and start again
287
and move out of course i would be heartbroken of course
288
i would be devastated are you kidding me i'm allowed to feel sad i'm a human being
289
and honestly sometimes i'm quite sensitive i'm a libra
290
and as as cutthroat as I am I can be very sensitive
291
but one thing that I have is I have respect for myself and I have good boundaries.
292
I think everybody that has ever been in my life regardless of if we are still friends or not knows this.
293
I would never give someone access to me if they don't deserve it so why are you doing that?
294
I would rather walk away from a person or a friend
295
that treats me like shit and go find a better friend because I truly believe that they're out there.
296
I truly believe in this world of 8 billion people and
297
so many different careers and cities to live in
298
and things to do I can find the life
299
that makes me happy why am I going to stay
300
and put up with friends or a life
301
that makes me feel like shit you know what I mean
302
so yeah that's today's video I hope you guys liked
303
that little pep talk um I love you guys so much
304
and I will see you in my next video
305
if you watch this video make sure
306
that you tag me in your Instagram stories I love seeing the TikTok edits that you guys make of me.
307
I love seeing the stories that you guys tag me and I see all of it.
308
And I try and reply to every single one.
309
And make sure you leave a comment on this video because I actually read all of the comments.
310
As soon as I post a video, I spend like the next few days literally reading all the comments.
311
So I love you guys lots and I will see you in the next video.
הורד אפליקציה
כל מה שאתה צריך כדי לדבר בשטף
הגיית AIציון לכל משפט
תרגול IPAשלוט בכל צליל
אוצר מיליםבנה את מאגר המילים שלך
משחק אוצר מיליםלמד תוך כדי משחק
אותו ערוץ
B22
How To Detach & Love Being Alone
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B23
Don’t lose yourself trying to keep them
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B22
How To Turn Your Anxious Attachment Into Confidence
Business EnglishUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
B22
He’s Not the Prize. You Are (Wake Up)
Business EnglishTeensDaily Conversation
B15
HOW TO MAKE ANYONE WANT YOU
Business EnglishTeensDaily Conversation
B1How To Make A Guy Chase You
TeensDaily Conversation
B2no one can love you into liking yourself (pep talk)
Business EnglishUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
FOR YOU
המלץ על סרטון
B22
302 משפטים
you’re not boring, you just lack social skills
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B22
148 משפטים
Timothée Chalamet & Zendaya on Friendship, Mental Health & Feeling Different | GLAMOUR UK
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B26
180 משפטים
I don’t care if you don’t like me, you don’t even like yourself
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B25
27 משפטים
The 3 types of connections you need in life | Mel Robbins #Shorts
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B23
144 משפטים
why aren't you living like you're in a romcom?
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B26
54 משפטים
Why Are We Friends? | Simon Sinek
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B21
606 משפטים
How to Enter Your Confidence Era ✨ Stop Caring What They Think & Know Your Worth
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
B22
139 משפטים
„What will people think?“ - said no legend ever.
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B22
28 משפטים
Perrie Edwards on friend breakup with Jesy 💔
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B25
20 משפטים
Pep talk for you 영어듣기훈련 #원어민영어 #영어표현 #영어리스닝 #영어스피킹 #생활영어 #shorts #리스닝연습 #스피킹연습 #영어반복듣기
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B22
154 משפטים
Why You're Struggling To Find Love: things I wish I knew earlier
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B28
228 משפטים
7 Habits of Top 1% Women
British AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה B2 מבוסס על הסרטון “Not Everyone Deserves Access to You”. בסרטון הזה יש 311 משפטים ו-3817 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 17:16. הדובר מדבר מהר, כ-221 מילים בדקה, אז צפו לצלילים מחוברים ומקוצרים. 87% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית, כך שקל לעקוב אחרי אוצר המילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| boundary שם עצם | /ˈbaʊndɹi/ | גְּבוּל |
| crumb שם עצם | /kɹʌm/ | פֵּרוּר |
| hobby שם עצם | /ˈhɑ.bi/ | תַּחְבִּיב |
| skate שם עצם | /skeɪt/ | מַחְלִיק |
| fulfill פועל | /fʊlˈfɪl/ | קִיֵּם |
| cheat פועל | /ˈt͡ʃiːt/ | רימה |
| pour פועל | /poɹ/ | שפך, מזג |
| dive פועל | /daɪv/ | צָלַל |
| cliché שם עצם | /kliˈʃeɪ/ | קְלִישָׁאָה |
| souvenir שם עצם | /ˈsu.vəˌnɪɹ/ | מַזכֶּרֶת |
| sibling שם עצם | /ˈsɪb.lɪŋ/ | אַחַאי |
| carpenter שם עצם | /ˈkɑɹpəntɚ/ | נַגָּר |
| depressing שם תואר | /dɪˈpɹɛsɪŋ/ | מדכא |
| admire פועל | /ədˈmaɪɹ/ | הֶעֱרִיץ |
| dancer שם עצם | /ˈdænsəɹ/ | רקדן \ רַקְדָן, רקדנית \ רַקְדָנִית |
Phrasal verbs שתשמעו
| מילה | משמעות |
|---|---|
| go out פועל | יָצָא |
| figure out פועל | הֵבִין, מצא תשובה |
| pick up פועל | הרים, אסף |
| put up with פועל | הִשְׁלִים עִם |
משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם
משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:
- I'm also doing singing lessons.
- I don't need to sit around and waste time.
- I'm not even going to dive into this.
- You get what I'm saying?
- I'm not materialistic like that.
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| הווה מושלם ממושך (Present perfect continuous) have/has been + -ing — פעולה שהתחילה בעבר ועדיין נמשכת עכשיו | I've been wanting · i've been trying |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | i've been · has always longed · have always wanted |
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | people that could · day which is · somebody who really |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | being loved · would be devastated |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-127 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו I'm, don't, I've. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
- הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/, cliché /kliˈʃeɪ/, musician /mjuˈzɪʃən/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/
- מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, materialistic /məˌtɪəɹ.i.əˈlɪs.tɪk/, prioritize /pɹaɪˈɒɹ.ə.taɪz/, romanticize /roʊˈmæntɪsaɪz/, devastated /ˈdɛv.əˌsteɪ.təd/
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /w/ — שפתיים מעוגלות, לא /v/: backward /ˈbækwɚd/, straightforward /ˌstɹeɪtˈfɔː(ɹ)wə(ɹ)d/
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: embarrass /ɪmˈbæɹəs/, romanticize /roʊˈmæntɪsaɪz/, scatter /ˈskætɚ/, backward /ˈbækwɚd/, mentality /mɛnˈtæləti/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: boundary /ˈbaʊndɹi/, crumb /kɹʌm/, breakup /ˈbɹeɪk.ʌp/, pour /poɹ/, cutthroat /ˈkʌtθɹəʊt/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו boundary, crumb, hobby.
מהי טכניקת השאדואינג?
שאדואינג היא טכניקת למידת שפה מבוססת מדע שפותחה במקור להכשרת מתורגמנים מקצועיים ופופולרית על ידי הפוליגלוט ד"ר אלכסנדר ארגואלס. השיטה פשוטה אך עוצמתית: אתה מקשיב לאודיו באנגלית ילידית וחוזר עליו בקול רם מיד — כמו צל העוקב אחרי הדובר עם עיכוב של 1–2 שניות בלבד. בניגוד להאזנה פסיבית או תרגילי דקדוק, שאדואינג מכריח את המוח והשרירים בפה לעבד ולשחזר דפוסי דיבור אמיתיים בו זמנית. מחקרים מראים שזה משפר משמעותית את דיוק ההגייה, האינטונציה, הקצב, הדיבור המחובר, הבנת השמיעה ושטף הדיבור — מה שהופך אותו לאחת השיטות היעילות ביותר להכנה לIELTS Speaking ולתקשורת באנגלית בעולם האמיתי.