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Why do we instill more confidence in our doubt than in our hope, than in our ideal intentions?
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And when I say that, I really just mean that all doubt is, is really an illusion that we feed ourselves constantly.
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And I don't mean not to say that everyone is doubtful, but to say that doubt itself is confidence.
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In the same way that we're doubtful of our ability to be confident, we're confident in that doubt. And.
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I'm recognizing that who we are or more so how we tend to express ourselves and how we go towards our desires,
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how we go towards our goals and aspirations is not
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so much representative of the world around us as it is the world within.
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as it is our most applied thoughts
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because in a very real way all the self is is
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your most applied thoughts it's what you feed yourself most readily
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it's what you give to yourself on a daily basis
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and sometimes you know it feels like there is no choice
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in the matter it feels like you know we're sort of given a narrative given a plot given a script
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and we are sort of forced to play this
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and i think it doesn't really come until you recognize
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that you're playing a role that you're recognizing you're not a role to be played but a person to be
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you know i think a lot of us accept the way
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that we are and i don't mean
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that to say like we recognize our negativity
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and we say oh i accept that
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and we're content with it we accept ourselves in a sense to say we think
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that we have no ability to change what currently is when
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when it comes to ourselves or what was when it comes to ourselves and that's an illusion in and of itself
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because we always have the capability to change we always have the capability to progress
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and move forward into to things that we have yet to become into greater ideas
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and this is something that i talk about quite often
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and some of my friends some of the people i interact
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with on a regular basis can attest sometimes i just go out
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and say like all we're ever doing is living in someone's idea
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if you recognize pretty much how we interact the the world
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we live in the society structure systems etc etc somebody's idea
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and i don't mean
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that to say oh it's foreboding it's impending we have this big idea pressed upon us
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but to say i don't think we're sort of taught to think for ourselves i don't think
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that we're taught to give ourselves any type of validity
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when it comes to our own uh mental stimulations our own ideas our own drives passions
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and uh desires and i think that's where the root of our doubt is from
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because we don't give any of our thoughts
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and actions validity until other people sort of give that to us
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and that's what stops us in the first place you know the idea
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that we have to wait um for anything but ourselves
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because all we're ever doing is waiting on ourselves
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and the way the best way that i can think about this is
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even if somebody was to tell you that your idea was great if you didn't believe them,
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it didn't matter and that has to show us at the very least,
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it's not so much that other people are saying it, but it's that they're saying what we actually desire to hear.
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They're saying the things that we want to be true of our lives
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and they're saying it in a way that's acceptable
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and I recognize this with myself i'm constantly looking for confirmation
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bias i'm constantly looking for things to confirm uh my desires
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and the actions that i want to take you know
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and in doing
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that you know you sort of have to open yourself up to to the truth of it
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and the truth is you've already
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accepted part of it you've accepted
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that part of it is possible you've opened yourself up to the possibility
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and i think a lot of us recognize things are possible
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and that brings me to the whole idea of the illusion of choice we have
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so many choices laid out in front of us
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so many different potential paths and we recognize these and we recognize
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that we have a multitude of things
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that we can actually endeavor ourselves towards your life can tend
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so many ways you can be so many ways but in recognizing
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that we have so many choices in recognizing that we have this
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a lot of us remain stagnant and it's not
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because we don't care about ourselves we don't have love for ourselves
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or we don't want to change or we don't want to improve
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or we don't want this that that and other it's simply because we already are making a choice
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and we don't recognize it.
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Who you are is a choice that you're making constantly because you're experiencing yourself.
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And I don't mean not to say that everything that we experience in regards to ourselves is our fault.
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Of course, we have certain impressions, certain ideas that are given to us by other people, and we accept them.
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And part of us chooses to accept them, whether that be because we were inclined to or
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because that's all we know or that's the first thing
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that we were told or that's the thing
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that we were told most readily or the thing
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that we tell ourselves most readily regardless of which i think
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that it is important to reference the past to recognize where
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we came from to recognize the result of what we have fed ourselves previously
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and i think sometimes in trying to overcome the past we focus on it we dwell on it We perpetuate it.
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And, you know, we understand a lot of things in hindsight.
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We understand what sort of brought us down in the first place, maybe, or what caused us to do this, or at the very least,
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we recognize that something caused.
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But I think in constantly thinking about the past, we don't do much, you know,
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and I don't mean that to say that it has no significance again
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but to say that nothing is done without present intention
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there are no fruits of labor
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if we don't at first experience the fruits fruits of our present intention
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and what that means to me is recognizing
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that a lot of the things
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that we desire we already have partially given to ourselves
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because we've opened our mind up to it
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and my whole idea is we shouldn't be giving in part especially
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if it's what we want to fully experience you know we
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get put part of ourselves into the lives we live
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and we get part of ourselves out you put part of
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yourselves into your desires your events your circumstances in life
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and a lot of us do that in a rut of self -protection we think
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that or at least maybe i'm just speaking about myself
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think that if i only put part of myself into the situation
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and it goes wrong then part of me still saved it's part of me is still okay
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but the truth is when you only put part of yourself in
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you're already harming yourself because you're already allowing that doubt or
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that negative viewpoint of yourself to to fester and i don't mean
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that to say be cautious and like bet all your money on one thing
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because you don't doubt it i don't mean that at all i mean of course
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discernment honesty um truth with whatever you're you're putting yourself into but
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when you only put part of yourself in you only get part of yourself out
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when you put yourself fully in you get yourself fully out
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because to try your best and give your best to the circumstances
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or the life that you're living or anything in that regard
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is to be able to at least tell yourself or say to yourself that you did what you could
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and i know that's an easy scape but it's the only one that we can truly grant ourselves
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it's the only solace that i think can truly pacify or bring us to a certain peace and
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at the end of the day i think we just need to give ourselves more validity in our own perspective
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and our own realization that the things
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that we actually desire are all possible we live in a world full of possibility there are
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so many people who fail yes but there are also
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so many people who prosper and the people that prosper typically talk about how they really just gave it their all
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or they put themselves all into what they were doing and in my own experience
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especially recently i've been trying to put my all into not
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necessarily like every single thing i'm doing i don't mean
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that to say like we have to fill our entire day up with tedious tasks
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but to say if we are going to rest we must be present
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while resting i think a lot of times we allow our mind to be compartmentalized in various different areas
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and we separate our energy from from
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the world or from our ability to do something with it like
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if i'm doing my work and i want to focus on studying for example
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but i'm constantly thinking about what i'm doing after studying or
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if i'm constantly thinking about something that happened in the past
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i'm already losing my ability to truly retain and truly give myself to what i'm doing And in that way, it often takes longer.
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It often feels more tedious.
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It often feels like something that I shouldn't, not shouldn't be doing, but don't want to be doing.
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and that's that's another uh thing that i i've realized too is all feelings that we have
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have the ability to be replicated in our head
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or have the ability to be based in many different things the same person
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that can look at studying as tedious can look at it as adventurous and fun
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and I think there are so many illusions
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when it comes to the choices
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that we have the illusion of choice the illusion of decision
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and when we are feeling certain ways about things
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and I don't mean immoral things I don't mean somebody directly harming you I don't mean anything like
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that but I mean the subtle shifts in perspective that would allow us to live our life
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enjoy with a certain degree of intimacy that would allow it to be lived rather than thought
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and i think it's a beautiful experience to sort of be able to give yourself to the experience
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because if you give yourself to the experience you're really only giving yourself back to yourself
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because you are what you experience
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to say that you are your most applied thought is to say
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that you're experiencing your thoughts
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and that's seldom what we what we experience you know i
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think presence um at least in my perspective is one of
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the only ways to actually experience the world for what it is
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or at least get an opportunity to choose what this world could be for you
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like i don't know just waking up in the morning some
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of us you know feel like we're waking up on the
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wrong side of the bed some of us instantaneously grab our phones or our devices
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and we sort of plunge ourselves into a world of other people's ideas
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and expression and i don't mean that other people's ideas and expression is negative at all but
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when we never take the time to ground ourselves in our
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own idea our own truth our own decision our own feeling about ourselves then we only experience
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the world around us in an external sense like oh i'm
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not going to be happy until this goes my way
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and this goes my way or i need my morning to go this way
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that way and
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that way i need to check off a bunch of lists
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a bunch of boxes before i can feel content in my
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morning feel content in my life feel content in what i'm doing for myself but present investment never required any checklist
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if we're actually genuinely present with what we're doing we can
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give ourselves the spoils of our harvest as soon as we begin planting
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what that means to me is recognizing
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that we're constantly investing in the world around it we're constantly
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investing in ourselves you know every single thought is a seed in bloom
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and sometimes the seed in bloom never see the light of day
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because the light of day in this analogy is our own
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awareness is our own ability to look at our own ideas
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and own thoughts and decide whether or not they're contributing
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and whether or not we actually want them to apply to us
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and i don't mean
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that to say we have to be constantly monitoring our thoughts in our head
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but at the very least we have to sit with ourselves at some point in our lives at some point
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and decide for ourselves who we want to be
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and how we want to express ourselves and how we want to present ourselves and how we want to feel about ourselves.
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And the second we find contentment, the second we actually allow
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that decision to be there is the second our mind is going to start looking for avenues to bridge those gaps.
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the mind is a great tool
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because whatever we feed it most readily is what it constantly looks for what it constantly finds
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if you're constantly thinking about the look of some i don't
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even know how to explain it like i can just talk about feeling negativity
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if our mind is constantly tended towards negativity
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and we're constantly thinking about the negative circumstances and negative things
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that occur in our life when we go out into the world and experience things
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new things because everything's always new we're going to focus on that negativity
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because it's what our mind is most readily aimed towards
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and you know chasing your desires dreams and aspirations isn't
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so much about hitting your target it's about making sure you're aiming correctly
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and this aiming is our awareness this aiming is our perspective this aiming is the thoughts that we have about ourselves
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You know, you want you want to be able to to do these certain things to have this certain impact.
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But until you give yourself the perspective of yourself enough to be able to do those things, then they won't be done.
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And the illusion of doubt is basically us thinking that there are things that we we can't do,
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but we can recognize that they are possible in our head.
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we think oh well i could do that but this is
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that and others in the way or i could do that
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but i might fail a lot of people fail
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when they go out and do that
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and it keeps us stuck it keeps us in the same idea same mentalities the same things
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that keep us constantly perpetuating the same loops over and over again
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and i think it's important
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that we sort of break free from those loops enough to recognize
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that there are no binding principles but our own thoughts about ourselves
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what hinders us but our own reference constant reference to the past what binds us
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if not our inability to acknowledge that if it's humanly possible you too can do it
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there are so many stories and a lot of us love stories of information inspiration sorry
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and i think that's why a lot of us enjoy self -help enjoy things
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that make us feel like things are possible
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because a part of us already acknowledges the truth of
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that a part of us already acknowledges
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that a lot of things are within the realm of possibility
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but a lot of us don't acknowledge
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that it's actually possible individually for us in a present way
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and and i think part of that is
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because we sort of been trained to imagine our whole life at once
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and we've been told to fragment time when it comes to ourselves
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and our identity so it feels like
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if i'm talking about myself from a year now a year from now i'm talking about a different person
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or if i'm talking about myself a year ago i'm talking about a different person
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and i don't necessarily mean that to say that circumstances
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and things in terms of my perspective don't change but the awareness
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that i'm calling ian me is consistent it's constant
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and you're ever changing change is always our constant principle
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and the fact
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that we keep dividing it by time makes everything seem like
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it has separate instantiations like oh next year these things might happen
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that changed me but we never actually acknowledge the fact
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that change is always a present thing it's always our present
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contributions to ourselves via our own thought like my own greatest turning points in terms of my perspective
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and my outlook on life
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and my overall view of myself have never been me thinking
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about the past it's always been me thinking about where i currently am
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and where i want to be
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and i think the greatest shifts for me have always happened
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when i recognize that the future doesn't exist anywhere but in here
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and if i want a certain future to exist it's not about thinking about it solely it's about recognizing
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that the future starts today it's about recognizing
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that you're constantly building constantly investing constantly tending to the garden that is you
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if i want to be a certain way in the future
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i start now i start where i am i start where my feet are
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because that's the only way to do it
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and to go back to the idea
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that we're trying to imagine our whole life at once i really think
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that is the the main thing that sort of brings us suffering is
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because we think that our happiness is some distant thing we think
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that our our love for ourselves is some distant thing waiting to be waiting to be released
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when it's us waiting on ourselves to release it presently we're
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waiting on certain people to tell ourselves they tell us they they love us
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so much so we actually start to feel content in who we are
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and i don't think a lot of us recognize how backwards that that truly is
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you know if it is to be given by someone else is theirs to give and not ours to have
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and the one thing that anyone can be sure
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that they do have is themselves
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because as long as you have yourself you have someone
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and it's true you always are with yourself a hundred percent of the time there's no thing
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that you experience that you don't experience
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because all you're experiencing as yourself you know
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and we have to be the ones to sort of bridge the gap between what
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has been and what we want but it's always about our present intention
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and i was thinking about this in a more like grand
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societal sense like i like to delve into like how the past impacts the present in terms of everything
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and if we in the past we're thinking constantly i'm not smart or i'm not
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i'm not good looking i'm not confident about this i'm not that
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and we work from a standpoint of i'm trying to overcome these things
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we're holding on to them and i don't mean that to say
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that it's easy to let them go i'm not i'm not saying this to say
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that um that that holding on is not something that makes sense
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because we all do it
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and it's a product of what we've been fed a product of the ideas
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that we've been shared and in holding on to these negative things and thinking that we have to start from them
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we condition ourselves to constantly fighting our own ideas that we're living in
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what is your own lack of confidence but an idea that you have
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what is your own lack of love for yourself but an idea
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that you constantly perpetuate an idea that you have and having is always a present thing wanting and holding on to
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those are things
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that i think establish a separation between what we want i'm holding on to my confidence implying
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that if i were to let go of it it would not be with me
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and it's never about what we hold on to it's always about what we have
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because we have to let ourselves go
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that's the only way we truly emerge that's the only way
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we actually learn how to bloom into who we have yet
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to become by letting go of who we were previously
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and i don't mean that to say not using the past to build a better present
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but recognizing if if i keep kept feeding myself in the past the idea
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that i'm not confident or the idea that i don't love myself the idea that
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nobody like you know all of these things then it's about time
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that i feed myself something different and the only time
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that we ever can consume is presently so why not presently consume things
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that are better why not start establishing ideas within ourselves like
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i am confident i do love myself i love myself i am i
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and i am happy you know and recognizing that these feelings
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are not tied to specific events inherently confidence is not you
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going to this specific event acting this specific way it's a feeling it's a feeling within yourself
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that we decided it to label what is love love doesn't mean
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that that someone comes up to you
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and says they love you love doesn't mean
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that uh i don't know that's a good example i'm just gonna keep going with
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that love is everything that you call love everything that grants you
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that feeling of love but that doesn't have to be tied to a specific granting
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or more so it doesn't have to be always external
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you can love yourself for all you love you can look outside
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and say you know i truly do love nature i love being able to look at this
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and you're feeling that love and if we are what we experience
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and we're experiencing love for outside things things
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that we're experiencing then we're also loving part of ourselves we're also loving a part of us
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and that's the biggest illusion the illusion of separation the illusion that
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when i am feeling love or happiness for the things outside of me that i'm not sharing in that
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and i think a lot of us close ourselves off to the ability to experience happiness
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and love for things outside of us because we feel like it's something
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that we must possess but
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if we're having it for something we already possess it it's
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already there sometimes it just takes us shifting our perspective of it enough to recognize
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that we already do and inherently love ourselves
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if you want to talk about what what love means it is a feeling of of deservingness
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or at least something akin to that but i'm just saying that to say when we're experiencing sadness anger
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all of these negative emotions are they not in reference to
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what we think we deserve for ourselves are they not in
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reference to how we want things to go for us because we know that we deserve
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a certain amount of things and i don't mean that to say
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that we need these things in order to be that way.
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But to say we've been convinced that things need to be that way in order for us to feel a way.
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What if it was the other way around?
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And this is a thought experiment that I've been working with for quite a while.
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And to be 100 % honest, it's one of the main things that I believe in personally.
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Because I've recognized how it's changed my entire life.
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How it's changed everything about the way I've experienced life.
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It's recognizing that feelings breed thoughts.
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thoughts don't breed feelings feelings breed thoughts
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because our thoughts i've come to believe are things
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that we're tuning into are things that we're we're sort of matching the frequency of
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when you're very happy you tend to think very happy thoughts you know
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and it's not like you can be sad and intentionally think very happy thoughts and it's automatically going to change something.
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But if you're very happy, you randomly think a sad thought, there's a good chance that you might just say, oh, no, it's not the time for that.
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I'm going to continue being happy, especially if we recognize that we aren't just our thoughts.
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And I think a lot of us have been constantly dictated by the things that we think most readily.
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And we haven't recognized in that that a lot of our thoughts have been implanted for us.
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A lot of the things that we've been fed are not necessarily things
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that we've given to ourselves or things that we've intentionally given to ourselves
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but i think once we come of conscious age once we're aware enough to actually make a choice it's important
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that we do because it actually breeds so much for us
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if we want to talk about like manifestation and bringing things into your life is it not us matching our feelings
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is it not us feeling in proportion to the things
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that we want that brings them here not us just thinking
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but feeling feeling has always been the answer
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and i've read a plethora of self -help books a plethora of philosophy a plethora of just books in general
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and feeling is always the driving motive
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and i think some of the reasons why we perpetuate
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so much negativity why we why we sometimes act underhanded why we do things
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that don't necessarily contribute to us as a whole is
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because we think that feeling is generated by external things we think
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that we need specific things and we've been told the specific things that bring us a certain feeling
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so we want those things to feel that way but
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if we were to taught or if we can recognize
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that we can feel in proportion to us just being like i can say
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that i'm genuinely happy just being myself And of course, it might be supported by me being able to, I don't know, live, me being able to have shelter,
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food, water, stable this, stable that.
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That might be true.
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But that does not mean that if I was to not have those things, that I couldn't be happy.
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I think we've sort of made happiness a single story of how things should look for us.
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and i think the happiest people aren't the people
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that have a lot but are are content with what they have
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but that are desirous of having more
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because having more is not having more of yourself it's just having more possessions it's not about what you possess
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but how much of yourself is within your possession
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that truly allows you to be abundant in a real way
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i think abundance has always been a mentality same thing goes
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with wealth same thing goes with happiness same things goes goes with prosperity it's never been a physical thing
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because we're not talking about physical things we're talking about feelings we're talking about vibrational states of a person's
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consciousness a person's awareness we're not talking about physical things
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that we never have Even if we talk about negative things like greed
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Greed is not in possessions Greed is in the person who desires a lot of possessions, a surplus
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And all we're doing is constantly combating or going with our feelings
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And the illusion of doubt To tie it back to the
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start of this Is us tying ourselves to the idea
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that we can't succeed or us tying ourselves to the idea
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that whatever we're going into isn't gonna work in our favor
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and I think that's one of the worst things we can ever do for ourselves
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because in tying our mind to death all we're going to
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be looking for within those situations is how we can go
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wrong all we're going to be looking for is the ways in which it is going wrong
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but sometimes that wrongness that we're perceiving is more so a projection of us
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like if i was giving a presentation and someone wasn't paying attention
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and i was already feeling doubtful i was already like oh
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i'm not gonna do good like no one's gonna pay attention no one's gonna care about what i'm saying
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and i start doing a presentation
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and somebody's not paying attention somebody's on their phone somebody walks out my initial assumption
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or our initial assumption is that it has something to do with us
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but truthfully it has nothing to do with us
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it has everything to do with that person and the fact
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that we take personal a lot of what we experience in
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that way stops us from living life intimately because what is the point
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if we if we just want to talk about thoughts
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if we just want to talk about our experience what is the point
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Of us jeopardizing our own happiness in reference to what we think someone else's thinks
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In reference to things that we don't know
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Because there are not a lot of things that we know if we're being honest, we don't know anything
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We don't know a thing we think things and
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if it's always governed by what we think and we can recognize
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that we can think anything we want via our imagination then
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we're depriving ourselves of our own experience by not imagining things
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in our favor by not opening up doors for ourselves by
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not identifying ourselves with our imagination instead of the past
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when we identify ourselves with our imagination we bridge the gap
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if i was to imagine myself identify with the imagination of myself being confident loving myself in happiness
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and identify with that and when I say identify with that, I mean presently.
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Like, oh, I am this way.
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What needs to be done in order for me to be that way?
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Nothing.
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You've already bridged the gap.
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And it's just about us being able to accept the gaps that we bridge.
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And I think that's what presence and intention and practice comes in.
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I think that's the aspect of our self -help that needs to be most
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absorbed is us learning how to trust ourselves and of course that means us sometimes
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recognizing the ways in which we've deprived ourselves of a trusting foundation whether
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that be because we don't act in proportion to the things
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that we think like even myself are certain things
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that i'm like okay i'm gonna do and i don't hold up my end of the bargain sometimes
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and some of us when that when
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that sort of thing happens we'll tell ourselves or
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or subtly tell ourselves or subconsciously that we can't trust ourselves
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that we don't believe the things that we actually tell ourselves
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that we don't that we aren't able to act upon our actual intention
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and of course it might be hard at first
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but i think it's always more important to start than to
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not do anything in starting small i'm gonna wake up tomorrow
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and i'm gonna do this and doing that
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and that's that's that's truly enough because it never needed to be a hundred things
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that's an illusion in and of itself it never needed to be so much
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because the thing that you're you're attempting to change is all mental
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it's all mental it's all within you you know they say
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if you don't go within you go without because the things
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that we're looking for aren't outside of us they're always within us You know, the feeling of abundance, the feeling of wealth, the feeling of happiness, the feeling of love.
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All things that we have within.
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And sometimes we have certain barriers that we either have placed due to our circumstances growing up.
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Or maybe we place them ourselves in certain experiences and referencing things to ourselves.
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Regardless of which
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We are always the catalyst to our own change in awareness
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Our own shifts in our ideas Our own shifts in narrative And
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If we're not taking part in the lives we live enough
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to write our own story Then we're going to think
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that it's being written by somebody else And I don't mean
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that in a religious sense I don't mean
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that to say God doesn't know what's going on
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if you believe in God i don't mean
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that to say any anything like that but to recognize
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that you can't be behind on your own story you can't it's your story you're constantly writing it
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and where you are is always where you're supposed to be
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because there is no would or should have only things
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that are done only things that have happened and
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if we constantly work from ideas of this should have been this way
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that should have been this way i would have done this i should have done this
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then we lose our ability to sort of act in the present
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In ways that will bring us towards where we want to go.
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It's always about our present intention.
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And the second we start granting ourselves feelings of happiness in proportion to things we have yet to have, is the second we begin to truly have them.
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The second we allow our happiness to be separate from the physical things we want, is the second we actually have it.
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Because to have happiness dependent on an external thing that's temporary, that won't be with you forever, is to recognize that it's not something you have but something you're holding on to
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and i don't mean that to say we can't love our possessions i don't mean
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that to say we can't love the people in our vicinity i don't mean
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that to say we can't love the things around us
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i think we should but i think we shouldn't allow
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that gratitude to live in reference to to other gratitude i can love everything
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that i talked to i think i talked about this in
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my last video i can love everything i have in this room right now doesn't mean i'll have it forever
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and And it doesn't mean when it's gone that I won't love it still.
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But I will love it for the space it occupied, not for the space it no longer takes up.
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And I think a lot of us love it for the space it no longer takes up.
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And instead of allowing ourselves to fill in the vacancies of whether
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that be our awareness or physical things or people or places, we allow ourselves to live in constant reference
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and a constant feeling of lack for things
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that we no longer truly hold on to things
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that we can't hold on to anymore
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and i think the same thing works with ourselves sometimes we reference previous versions of ourselves like oh
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so much happier then oh it was this then i had
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this going for me i had this going for me then
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i mean could be true you might have you might have
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held on to those things you might have been in possession of those things at some point
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but you don't have them now
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and i think the second we actually begin to accept that
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and recognize that you're always enough for yourself where you are is the second we actually grant ourselves an opportunity
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to fill in those vacancies you didn't need those things to be you you appreciated those things
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while they were there you might have loved them like they
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were part of you you might have let them go like they were part of you regardless of
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which they're no longer here and i don't mean
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that to say draft i mean
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that in the most positive way you can love things for
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the space they longer take up you know there are friends i haven't seen in years
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and i still love them for what they've given me i'm not saying i don't i don't miss them
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but missing is a form of
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that love too not loving them for the space to longer take up
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but appreciating what they've done but having gratitude for what it was
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and in letting that letting that be so i can be in the present
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so i can be where i am i recognize more than anything
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that the main thing that we ever are trapped in is our own thoughts we can recognize
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when we want to work
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and we want to do things we want to be productive
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we want to work towards our desires sometimes we just sit
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there stuck in thoughts stuck in a rehearsal of the past stuck in a rehearsal of things
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that that have already passed us and we lose ourselves in
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that we lose ourselves not because um not
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because we're looking for ourselves oh well actually i'll say
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that we're losing ourselves because we're looking for ourselves everywhere
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but where we are because we've somewhat convinced ourselves that
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that who we are was dependent on circumstance
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that who we are was dependent on this is that
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and other and i think part of that reason is
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because we haven't established presently or made a decision for ourselves on who we are
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because we think that it has to be formulated by things outside of us
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you could wake up tomorrow and decide to be the meanest person ever and you can tie it to nothing
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you could do it just because you desire it just because you want to see if you can and you can
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because who we are in a lot of ways is nothing and infinite at the same time
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we have the ability to express ourselves in a million different
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ways there's always a million ways to the top of the mountain
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and it's just about choosing the path that accommodates you best
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and when i say accommodates you best i don't mean just easy or chosen for you
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but making your own decisions that allow your path to be easiest
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and what that means to me personally is whenever i have to do things
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that are tedious whenever i have to do things that um
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i don't know even like making the decision to be confident
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about the things i want to be hopeful about the things
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i want that's what makes the path easier is by not giving into the idea of doubt.
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Because it's an idea.
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It's a thought.
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it is not real it's not tangible and we can think anything
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and i think a lot of us believe certain thoughts
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that we have that are negative just because we've told ourselves over
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and over again
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and we have to do a good job at doing the opposite at telling ourselves the things
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that we actually need to hear and from a present standpoint
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and that doesn't mean not acting in accordance acting in accordance is it's sort of the cherry on top like
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if i tell myself
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i am i don't know i'm moving into more happy period of my life
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and i keep doing the things that i was doing when i was in a sad period
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my mind might attach itself to those actions and perpetuate the same feeling that i had
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and that's because a lot of who we are ends up being rooted in past idea
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a lot of it ends up being rooted in previous experiences
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and we allow a lot of things to be dampened by
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familiarity we don't allow newness to be bred in every moment
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and i think that's where we get stuck sometimes too it's not recognizing
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that we are new with every moment
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that we experience everything is always new you've never experienced this
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moment right now right now as you're watching this you've never experienced this before
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and there was never a specific way you had to experience it work with me right now
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if you can imagine imagine what happiness feels like imagine being happy just
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because you watched this or happy just because you're sitting there happy
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because you're giving yourself an opportunity to be where you are happy
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because you're being aware of where you are it's possible
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and it's not tied to anything but you being where you are
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and i think that's what a lot of people are trying to get at in their self -help
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in in these ideas is recognizing
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that we sort of have to get rid of this idea
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that who we are is strictly dependent on our thoughts
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or at least the thoughts
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that we have in words at least the limitations we place on ourselves with the words that we use
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you can be happy not thinking anything i think sometimes we're happiest not thinking anything
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because some a lot of the thoughts that we replicate are in reference to the past
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and until we start instantiating with present intention new thoughts
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that are positive then they won't really be there they won't really be there for us you know
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and in this entire journey that i've had with my my self -love
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and personal discovery and whatnot you know there it always feels like there's more i don't know
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but i always find more contentment the more i allow myself to be present in general
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and i think a lot of us in general are just dysregulated
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when it comes to our nervous systems
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when it comes to our our mentals we allow ourselves to to fully live in our minds
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and that's why we don't feel like we ever set foot in the world um
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because the world is something you're already a part of there is no separation from it you feel me
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and i don't know i feel like i'm getting along with it
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but i'm about to wrap it up uh all that really to say
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your doubt doesn't exist anywhere but in your head
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And your doubt is just as prominent or just as instilled with your confidence as your idea that you can't do something.
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Like, you're confident that you can't.
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And it's just about shifting where you place that energy.
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Shifting where you place that intention.
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Because your energy flows where your attention goes.
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and if we're constantly giving attention to the parts of ourselves that we're trying to run from
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then we've already lost because what we run from has already caught us it's about recognizing
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that we're not currently captured it's about expressing to yourself
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that you're not currently captured and deciding what you want to be within your vicinity at least mentally
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your circumstances might look bleak in certain ways yes
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that might be true but if there's a perspective
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that allows you to live it better then you owe it
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to yourself via your own self -love to give yourself
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that opportunity and via that opportunity and via those shifts in awareness
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you're going to bring those things into your life
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because you're going to start to see positivity wherever you are even if it's in the dirtiest form
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And you're going to start bringing that stuff in because that's, at least in my experience, how things have actually gone.
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The happier I feel on a regular basis, the more good things typically happen to me.
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I call it synchronicity.
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A lot of people call it synchronicity, manifestation.
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All of these things are basically saying that we're constantly experiencing and bringing into our life what we are.
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because we are what we experience if you made it this far you feel me thank you so much
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keep you all keep being great man make sure you're taking
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care of yourself do what you can what you have um absolutely um might stream soon something like
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that books still available check those out i started writing something
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new you feel me i started writing something new y 'all
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got something in the works it's nothing like what y 'all seen before something new um
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but like i said keep being y 'all keep being great
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make sure you're taking care of yourself doing what you can
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what you have a lot in the way a lot already here um and without
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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה C1 מבוסס על הסרטון “the illusion of doubt”. בסרטון הזה יש 605 משפטים ו-7593 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 46:15. הדובר מדבר בקצב טבעי של כ-164 מילים בדקה, קרוב לשיחה יומיומית. 89% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית; כדאי ללמוד את השאר לפני שמתחילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| illusion שם עצם | /ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/ | אַשְׁלָיָה |
| perpetuate פועל | /pɚˈpɛt͡ʃəˌweɪt/ | הנציח |
| plethora שם עצם | /ˈplɛθəɹə/ | שָׁלָל |
| greed שם עצם | /ɡɹiːd/ | בֶּצַע, חַמְדָנוּת |
| gratitude שם עצם | /ˈɡɹæ.tɪ.tud/ | תּוֹדָה, הוֹדָיָה |
| rehearsal שם עצם | /ɹɪˈhɝsl̩/ | חֲזָרָה, תִּרְגּוּל |
| vicinity שם עצם | /vəˈsɪnəti/ | קרבה |
| intentionally תואר הפועל | /ɪnˈtɛn(t)ʃənəli/ | ביד רמה |
| abundance שם עצם | /əˈbʌn.dn̩s/ | שפע |
| consume פועל | /kənˈsum/ | צרך |
| accommodate פועל | /əˈkɑməˌdeɪt/ | אִכְסֵן |
| assumption שם עצם | /əˈsʌm(p).ʃ(ə)n/ | השערה hash'ará, הנחה hanakhá |
| tangible שם תואר | /ˈtæn.d͡ʒə.bəl/ | מוחשי |
| circumstance שם עצם | /ˈsɝ.kəmˌstæns/ | נסיבות |
| govern פועל | /ˈɡʌv.ən/ | מָשַׁל |
Phrasal verbs שתשמעו
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| go out פועל | יָצָא | |
| wake up פועל | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | התעורר |
| check off פועל | סמנב | |
| grow up פועל | גָּדַל |
משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם
משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:
- Because I've recognized how it's changed my entire life.
- You've already bridged the gap.
- It's always about our present intention.
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| הווה מושלם ממושך (Present perfect continuous) have/has been + -ing — פעולה שהתחילה בעבר ועדיין נמשכת עכשיו | i've been trying · I've been working |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | you've accepted · you've opened · have fed |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | be played · are given · were told |
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | people who fail · people who prosper · person who desires |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-291 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו don't, we're, I'm. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
- הצלילים של “th”: plethora /ˈplɛθəɹə/, theirs /ðɛɚz/
- הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: illusion /ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/, aspiration /ˌæspəˈɹeɪʃən/, manifestation /ˌmænɪfɛˈsteɪʃən/, intentionally /ɪnˈtɛn(t)ʃənəli/, assumption /əˈsʌm(p).ʃ(ə)n/
- מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: negativity /ˌnɛɡ.əˈtɪ.vɪ.ti/, perpetuate /pɚˈpɛt͡ʃəˌweɪt/, validity /vəˈlɪd.ɪ.ti/, aspiration /ˌæspəˈɹeɪʃən/, manifestation /ˌmænɪfɛˈsteɪʃən/
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /w/ — שפתיים מעוגלות, לא /v/: perpetuate /pɚˈpɛt͡ʃəˌweɪt/, backward /ˈbækwɚd/
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: gratitude /ˈɡɹæ.tɪ.tud/, aspiration /ˌæspəˈɹeɪʃən/, manifestation /ˌmænɪfɛˈsteɪʃən/, standpoint /ˈstændpɔɪnt/, interact /ɪn.təˈɹækt/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: readily /ˈɹɛdɪli/, presently /ˈpɹɛzəntli/, breed /ˈbɹiːd/, plethora /ˈplɛθəɹə/, greed /ɡɹiːd/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו illusion, perpetuate, plethora.
מהי טכניקת השאדואינג?
שאדואינג היא טכניקת למידת שפה מבוססת מדע שפותחה במקור להכשרת מתורגמנים מקצועיים ופופולרית על ידי הפוליגלוט ד"ר אלכסנדר ארגואלס. השיטה פשוטה אך עוצמתית: אתה מקשיב לאודיו באנגלית ילידית וחוזר עליו בקול רם מיד — כמו צל העוקב אחרי הדובר עם עיכוב של 1–2 שניות בלבד. בניגוד להאזנה פסיבית או תרגילי דקדוק, שאדואינג מכריח את המוח והשרירים בפה לעבד ולשחזר דפוסי דיבור אמיתיים בו זמנית. מחקרים מראים שזה משפר משמעותית את דיוק ההגייה, האינטונציה, הקצב, הדיבור המחובר, הבנת השמיעה ושטף הדיבור — מה שהופך אותו לאחת השיטות היעילות ביותר להכנה לIELTS Speaking ולתקשורת באנגלית בעולם האמיתי.