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Lots of us go through life wanting different things.
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The right city, the right job, the right romantic partner.
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And then sometimes, we get it all.
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We're ecstatic, but soon enough, we get the nagging suspicion that what we thought we wanted was not really what we actually wanted.
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After all, if it was, wouldn't we be happy?
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A Stanford professor has a name for this malaise.
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He calls it the all -will -be -well fallacy.
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This is the belief that if you get the right job, the right relationship, the right number in your bank account, you'll be happy.
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But when you look back at your own life, have you noticed how achieving your goals can fail to produce lasting happiness?
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Why is this?
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Today, I'm going to tell you about four mental traps that can leave you feeling adrift and unhappy,
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even if you look like you're on the right track.
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And I'll share how you can build a life that's more satisfying.
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Let me explain.
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The year is 1973.
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A young engineering student named Dave Evans is waiting in line at a store.
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A television is playing in the corner.
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The news is on, and the anchor is talking about the skyrocketing price of gasoline.
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Dave sees the story, and he decides, right there, he's going to solve the energy crisis.
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He gets a master's degree in thermoscience, a branch of engineering focused on engines and power systems.
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He graduates in 1976, ready to change the world.
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And then he runs into a problem.
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He cannot find a job doing what he wants to do.
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Dave spends four years looking for work.
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He starts a small solar energy company.
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It fails.
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He's broke, he's frustrated, and he's holding a welding torch one afternoon when the phone rings.
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The guy said, my name is so -and -so, and I'm from Apple Computer, we'd like to talk to you.
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And I said, no, you want to talk to the Dave Evans at Hewlett -Packard, that's the one who likes computers.
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I don't, and I hung up.
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14 interviews and a lunch with Steve Jobs later, Dave takes the job at Apple.
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He helps to design the very first mouse.
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He works on something called desktop publishing before anyone knew what that was.
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Looking back on that time with the benefit of hindsight, it's easy to see the importance of the work that Dave and his colleagues were doing.
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It was the beginning of a revolution in how people use technology.
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By any measure, it was important, meaningful work.
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But at the same time, something nagged at him.
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What I was doing was making stuff.
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I mean, if I didn't do it, somebody else will.
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So, is that all there is?
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Is that all there is?
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Dave had set out to save the world from oil.
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Instead, he was building plastic things with wires in them, as he puts it.
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He was successful, but the success didn't feel the way he'd been told it would feel.
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Years later, Dave left Apple and became a professor at Stanford University.
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He started teaching the art of design thinking.
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It was a method of problem solving that he had used to build products.
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Now, he was applying it to something much harder, helping people to design a life that felt meaningful to them.
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While speaking to a room full of accountants in Kansas City, he met a woman whose question would stay with him for years.
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Her name was Allison she ran a small business doing accounting and taxes for about 50 other small businesses.
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She was happily married, two children, three -bedroom house.
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She had exactly everything that she had ever tried to get in her life.
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She really thought she did it all right.
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She was really stuck.
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This is that all -will -be -well mindset I mentioned earlier.
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Once I build a stable business, all will be well.
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Once I own the house, all will be well.
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Once the kids are settled, all will be well.
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It's a mindset that can keep you motivated and moving forward.
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But Dave says this is a trap, one of the first we fall into when we're trying to build a meaningful life.
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We think there's an ideal version of ourselves waiting to be unlocked, if only we can find the right key.
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The truth is, all of us contain more possibilities than any single lifetime can hold.
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There are more versions of you than you will ever have time to experience, which means there is no one apex of the pyramid,
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no one ideal version of your life.
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The goal is impossible.
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Yet, we carry this idea around like a moral obligation.
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We believe that we owe it to ourselves to become everything we're capable of.
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The second trap that many of us fall into is the idea that a meaningful life requires making an impact,
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changing the world, leaving a mark that outlasts us.
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Now, you might ask, why is this a trap?
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Isn't it a good thing to want to do something that endures, something that's remembered?
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The answer is, of course that's a good thing.
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It's just a very, very hard goal to accomplish.
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And even when you manage to pull it off, the feeling of satisfaction that you get from that impact tends to fade.
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You invent a groundbreaking gadget.
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You win an Oscar.
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You write a best -selling book.
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And it isn't long before the world asks you, what have you done for me lately?
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Resting your entire self -worth on your ability to make an impact can be risky.
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Trying to have an impact can also lead to a third mental trap, the belief that radical change will inevitably make your life better.
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Dave says this trap prompts people to quit their jobs
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and uproot their lives seeking a version of themselves that feels fundamentally different.
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But a few weeks or months or years after they make this big change, many people find that the novelty fades.
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They wake up in a new place, still themselves, still asking the same questions.
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The fourth and perhaps most dangerous trap is one that many of us fall into.
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It's the conviction that when something isn't working, you just need to do more.
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Work harder, sleep less, push through.
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Dave fell into this trap early in his career.
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He had three children and a 75 -hour work week.
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He had trained himself to survive on just three or four hours of sleep every night.
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He thought he had it all figured out.
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But one Saturday morning, he had a realization.
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I'm sitting in the family room, drinking a cup of coffee, and I heard my then three -year -old son, Robbie, say to his mother,
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Mom, can we play with Dad today, or are he just going to fall asleep in the chair again?
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When I was Robbie's age, my dad was gone because he died.
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When Robbie's Robbie's age, his dad's gone because he's asleep.
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Dave knew in that moment that pushing harder was not working.
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Something had to give, and he didn't want it to be his health or his relationship with his family.
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So, to recap, trap number one is believing that there is a single ideal version of yourself just waiting to be uncovered.
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Trap number two, you have to make an impact on the world to be on the right path.
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Trap number three, radical change will make everything better.
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And finally, trap number four, if something is not working, push harder.
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Four beliefs that feel productive, each one is a trap.
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Now, maybe you're saying, okay, so if these beliefs are a trap, how do I avoid them?
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What's the alternative?
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Dave says that before you can figure out how to get where you want to go,
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you have to figure out if you're asking the right question.
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He calls this wayfinding.
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When you can't know what you're doing,
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you can't navigate like a GPS would because you don't have a map and you don't have all the information.
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You have to wayfind.
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And wayfinding means taking one step at a time, knowing something about the direction you're going, trying a few things, you know,
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tuning it up and then doing it again and doing it again.
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And life is like that.
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So instead of what's the meaning of life, ask yourself, of how might I live a more meaningful life right now?
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That's a question you can actually do something with.
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You can try small experiments, see how they go, adjust your path accordingly.
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Another simple tool that Dave teaches begins with just two words, got to.
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Most of us approach our lives through a language of obligation.
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I've got to finish this project.
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I've got to attend this meeting.
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I've got to answer these emails.
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I've got to get the kids ready.
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Dave calls this the got -to mindset, where everything becomes a box to check before you get to the thing that actually matters.
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He suggests a shift in framing from got -to to get -to.
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I get to do this work.
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I get to be in this meeting.
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I get to pick up my kids.
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Same day, same obligations, but a completely different experience of being alive.
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Dave tells a story about his book editor who was working from home one day
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while her child was making noise in the other room.
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She caught herself thinking, I've got to get this kid to quiet down.
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But then she stopped and she told herself a different story.
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I get to work from home, which means I get to be in the presence of this very alive child.
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That shift took just two seconds and it changed how the rest of her day felt.
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Dave calls this practice moment making.
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It's the discipline of inhabiting the life
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you're already living instead of racing toward a future destination where meaning is supposed to begin.
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We just need to slow down long enough to notice
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that the life we're rushing through is already full of moments worth being present for.
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Because it's a term for what happens when you spend your whole life racing.
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Destination sickness.
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Dave heard this term many years ago when talking with a nurse in an intensive care unit.
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We have all these highly accomplished people.
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And it was always when I finished the degree, get the grad degree, get the good job, make partner, make my first million.
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And it's always the next thing will make me happy.
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And some of the people here, the ones in their mid -50s, who've burned their heart out and now they're actually going to die,
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they suddenly realize there is no next thing.
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And then they look back at all the things they ran through and they realize they missed the whole thing.
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Most of them die in despair.
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The meaning of life is rarely found at a single destination.
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It's in the moments we race through trying to get there.
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So instead of asking, what's the meaning of my life, come up with three different versions of yourself and prototype each path.
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You might find a new version that you love, or you might discover that the path you were on was not so bad after all.
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Whatever you choose doesn't have to be the one perfect path for you.
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As Dave says, there's more than one of you in there.
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The question is, which version do you want to be right now?
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If this video helped you see your life in new ways,
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you can find many more conversations about meaning and purpose on the Hidden Brain audio podcast.
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You can find it on Apple, Spotify, or hiddenbrain .org.
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I'm Shankar Vedantam.
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See you soon.
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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה C1 מבוסס על הסרטון “Why Your Brain Sabotages Your Own Happiness”. המילים שחוזרות הכי הרבה: Dave, trap, version. בסרטון הזה יש 162 משפטים ו-1970 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 10:56. הדובר מדבר מהר, כ-180 מילים בדקה, אז צפו לצלילים מחוברים ומקוצרים. 85% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית; כדאי ללמוד את השאר לפני שמתחילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| accomplish פועל | /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/ | בִּצֵּעַ |
| frustrate פועל | /ˈfɹʌsˌtɹeɪt/ | תִּסְכֵּל |
| gadget שם עצם | /ɡæd͡ʒ.ɪt/ | גאדג׳ט, גַּדְגֶ׳ט |
| groundbreaking שם תואר | /ˈɡɹaʊndˌbɹeɪkɪŋ/ | פורץ־דרך |
| uproot פועל | /ˌʌpˈɹut/ | עָקַר, שֵׁרַשׁ |
| motivate פועל | /ˈmoʊ.tɪ.veɪt/ | דרבן |
| navigate פועל | /ˈnæv.ɪ.ɡeɪt/ | נִוֵּט |
| torch שם עצם | /ˈtɔːtʃ/ | לַפִּיד, אֲבוּקָה |
| pyramid שם עצם | /ˈpɪɹ.ə.mɪd/ | פִּירָמִידָה |
| accountant שם עצם | /əˈkaʊn.tənt/ | רוֹאֵה חֶשְׁבּוֹן |
| fundamentally תואר הפועל | עֶקְרוֹנִית | |
| despair שם עצם | /dɪˈspɛə(ɹ)/ | יֵאוּשׁ \ ייאוש |
| prototype שם עצם | /ˈpɹəʊtətaɪp/ | אב טיפוס |
| gasoline שם עצם | /ˈɡæs.ə.liːn/ | בֶּנזִין |
| unlock פועל | /ʌnˈlɑk/ | פתח |
Phrasal verbs שתשמעו
| מילה | משמעות |
|---|---|
| figure out פועל | הֵבִין, מצא תשובה |
| pick up פועל | הרים, אסף |
משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם
משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:
- After all, if it was, wouldn't we be happy?
- I don't, and I hung up.
- That's a question you can actually do something with.
- I've got to finish this project.
- I've got to attend this meeting.
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| משפטי תנאי (Conditional sentences) if + clause, will/would + verb — תנאי ותוצאה שלו | if it was, wouldn't we · if I didn't do it, somebody else will |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | been told · are settled · be unlocked |
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | one who likes · experience, which means · home, which means |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | have you done · who've burned |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-38 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו you're, I've, I'm. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
- הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: obligation /ˌɑ.blɪˈɡeɪ.ʃn̩/, accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/, realization /ˌɹɪə.laɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/, suspicion /səˈspɪʃ.ən/
- מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: realization /ˌɹɪə.laɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/, inevitably /ɪˈnɛvɪtəbli/, accordingly /əˈkɔɹ.dɪŋ.li/
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: ecstatic /ɛkˈstætɪk/, fallacy /ˈfæl.ə.si/, gadget /ɡæd͡ʒ.ɪt/, inhabit /ɪnˈhæbɪt/, outlast /ˌaʊtˈlæst/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: adrift /əˈdɹɪft/, frustrate /ˈfɹʌsˌtɹeɪt/, groundbreaking /ˈɡɹaʊndˌbɹeɪkɪŋ/, skyrocket /ˈskaɪˌɹɒk.ɪt/, uproot /ˌʌpˈɹut/
- עיצור קולי בסוף מילה — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ בלי להפוך אותם לאטומים: fade /feɪd/, malaise /məˈleɪz/, pyramid /ˈpɪɹ.ə.mɪd/, colleague /ˈkɒliːɡ/, intensive /ɪnˈtɛnsɪv/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו accomplish, frustrate, gadget.
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