Shadowing Practice: Your Lack of Personal Purpose Is Causing Your Romantic Obsession - Learn English Speaking with Video
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When you have nothing of significant importance in your personal life, a purpose that you can get up and work towards every day,
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the byproduct is that you become romantically obsessed.
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It's almost like romantic obsession is the void that only exists when you just don't have anything going on for you.
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This isn't to say that romance is not important in one's life.
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I think it very much is.
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And there is so much value, perhaps some of the most value in your life will be from finding your romantic partner and,
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you know, pursuing and developing that relationship.
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This video will not be me dogging that by any means.
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Rather, my point is that the mind will naturally go to lustful thoughts,
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which oftentimes romantic obsession is just lust.
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and it will also go to this idea of oh the reason
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that i don't feel how i want to feel in life is
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because i haven't met my person i don't have my person um
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but none of this is true humans are actually largely self-sustaining
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and by self-sustaining i mean you are able to function fully properly without being in love um not not saying
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that you're not a social creature because all humans are social creatures, but when you have nothing else going on in your life, your brain's going to fixate.
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Okay.
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If your days are empty, uh, your mind is going to need something to occupy itself.
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And here's what you, what most people fail to recognize.
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If you're working a nine to five all day or, you know, whatever difficult job you're doing, where you're putting in a lot of effort, you could be doing that all day and solve a romantic obsession.
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Why?
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Because the work that you're doing is not fulfilling.
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So it's like you have a bank inside of you that needs to be filled.
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And you think that doing busy work for some company
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or corporation that doesn't care about you and just making sure the bills are paid is going to fill that bank.
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But this bank can really only be filled with purpose.
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And when it's empty, which for a lot of people, it's empty for much of their life, if not their entire life,
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they think for whatever reason, our brain tends to fixate on the concept or the idea
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that you need another person and no person you're more intimate with than a romantic partner.
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Okay.
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And this is where you begin to replay conversations.
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This is where you begin to analyze texts with that person that you're thinking of being with.
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Okay.
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You're checking that you're checking their social medias.
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You're imagining fake scenarios.
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You get real giddy and jitty about all these things that are going on.
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And it starts to consume your mind.
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It starts to consume, uh, it's front of mind because nothing that you are doing or
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that you are conscious about on a day-to-day basis matters deeply enough for you.
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When I started doing pursuing social media and I started my startup
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and was really like actively working towards what I was doing on a day-to-day basis to the point where like, I haven't had a day off in over a year,
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literally, because I'm just so focused on what I'm doing.
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It's like, it was funny before that time, I was really like, I really want a girlfriend.
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I really want to fall in love.
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I've never fallen in love before.
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Like I want to meet the one.
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Like, I think that would be such an amazing thing in life.
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And I still think all that's true, but guess what?
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It's not front of mind.
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And it honestly, it's not something that I think about often at all anymore.
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Whereas before it took up a pretty big percentage of my thought process.
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Anytime I would talk to a girl, I would like get excited about it, which is, is normal.
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And that's fine.
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But like, I would be like really excited about it.
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And now it's like, okay, if this goes good, awesome.
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But like the main priority in my life is what am I building?
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What message can I give to my audience?
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How can I impact other people
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on a day-to-day basis these are the things that matter to me
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and it's so funny because the other side of that is
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that you're also more likely to fall in love or uh actually
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have a romantic relationship as a byproduct of this
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because it's the law of attachment you're no longer
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so attached to it it's like
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when people care the least about something all of a sudden
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boom it just happens uh one of my co-founders um he
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like i don't want to say didn't care about getting romantic relationships at all
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but it's funny
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because we were talking we're like yeah we're literally this was
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like the end the last um part of college it was like you know the last month
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or so we're we're on the phone
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and we're talking yeah i don't think it makes
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that much sense to get into a relationship right now right
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when we're so focused on uh what we're building and stuff like
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that and with me i was like yeah i just like all
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that free time
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that i would have to give away to start hanging out
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with this person instead i could be doing on building my personal brand
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and making more videos online all this stuff it's like with my co-founder he felt the same way
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and then he meets this girl literally last week of college
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and boom now they're together and it's just kind of funny the way that that naturally works.
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It's like when you're so focused on your purpose, all of a sudden things start working for you.
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And here's what's really interesting.
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And this is true for both men and women, I believe.
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Humans are so attracted to someone that has a direction and clarity of like some place they're going.
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If you have a purpose and you know that that's your purpose, then you're going to have all the direction and clarity that you need in life.
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You might not know exactly what your path is going to look like, but you know what the core pursuit is going to be towards.
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And that's getting better at achieving and giving what your purpose is on a day-to-day basis.
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And that makes other people attracted to you.
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like it like with me like do girls that are
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so um i don't know if this is the right way to phrase it
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but the girls that are like building something
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and um want to commit to something and like
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that is of great importance in their life where they actively make changes in their behavior to make sure
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that they're serving their purpose that's super attractive to me and i've also had And many, I've had many girls tell me before that,
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you know, reason why they might find me attractive is because I'm working really hard at like XYZ thing, whatever it was at that time of my life.
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And I've never worked as hard with anything as I'm doing right now and over really like the past year.
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And it's just, it's interesting how that works.
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You attract lower quality individuals when you don't have that thing going on.
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You don't have something that you think is really speaking to a higher level of spirituality,
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which I think purpose must satisfy in order for it to be qualified as purpose.
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um it's just almost unexplainable how true this is but you never are going to
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check that box of like being fully satisfied even romantically
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if you don't have a strong sense of self and something
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that is important to you to build your life off of on an individual 11 individual level,
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excuse me, um, separate from the dichotomy between you and your partner.
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Okay.
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You have to, you have to start getting traction and just start working towards something.
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Even if you're not seeing results, even if you are unsure, you just go.
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Because let me tell you something, fantasy thrives in an empty life.
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This is especially powerful, especially powerful when you're not actually dating the person that you're obsessed with.
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Because fantasy doesn't care or deal with reality.
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That's the whole concept of it, right?
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So you can imagine a person is perfect.
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You can imagine a relationship and how that would fix your loneliness.
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And really you can convince yourself that you'd be happy once they're yours, but all of this is in your head.
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It's not true.
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It doesn't exist in reality.
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You're in love with a life that you're going to, that you basically imagine that they'll give you, but it doesn't exist.
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And this only can thrive in the absence of purpose in life.
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The person who does have something that they're working towards
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and doesn't necessarily need a romantic relationship is the one
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that will receive the romantic relationship
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and to the highest degree it will be of the highest value it will be based in um genuine merit
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and uh mutual feelings
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whereas oftentimes other people sometimes there are relationships where both people don't actually like the other person they like
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that the other person likes them
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which makes them feel better about themselves of course a lot
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of this is subconscious they're not even aware of it themselves
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but that's why okay
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when you got no purpose you worship potential that's what these people do they think
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that everything is a uh is a game of pretend
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and you just you're like you're pretending oh yeah this person's capable of xyz thing relates to me
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but it's all fake the relationship becomes a substitute for your
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purpose the relationship becomes your purpose you tell yourself this person is why I'm here.
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But that's never healthy.
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I'll tell you that much.
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It's never healthy.
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A relationship is supposed to be part of your life.
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It's not the reason that your life exists.
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Okay.
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And here's the thing too, having a purpose doesn't mean you become emotionless or unavailable to anything else.
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It just means that thing is a big priority to you and it's how you can give back to the world.
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Wanting love is not mutually exclusive with that.
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Okay?
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Both can exist.
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Those are my thoughts.
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Thank you guys for watching.
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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה B2 מבוסס על הסרטון “Your Lack of Personal Purpose Is Causing Your Romantic Obsession”. המילים שחוזרות הכי הרבה: purpose, relationship, romantic. בסרטון הזה יש 148 משפטים ו-1768 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 10:20. הדובר מדבר בקצב טבעי של כ-171 מילים בדקה, קרוב לשיחה יומיומית. 88% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית, כך שקל לעקוב אחרי אוצר המילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
10 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| obsession שם עצם | /əbˈsɛʃən/ | אובססיה |
| thrive פועל | /θɹajv/ | שִֹגְשֵֹג |
| consume פועל | /kənˈsum/ | צרך |
| clarity שם עצם | /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.ti/ | בהירות |
| loneliness שם עצם | /ˈloʊnlinəs/ | בְּדִידוּת |
| attach פועל | /əˈtæt͡ʃ/ | חיבר |
| startup שם עצם | /ˈstɑɹtˌʌp/ | סטארטאפ, חברת סטארטאפ |
| fulfill פועל | /fʊlˈfɪl/ | קִיֵּם |
| pursuit שם עצם | /pɝˈsut/ | מִרְדָּף, רְדִיפָה |
| conscious שם תואר | /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/ | בהכרה, מודע |
Phrasal verbs שתשמעו
| מילה | משמעות |
|---|---|
| get up פועל | קָם |
משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם
משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:
- Because the work that you're doing is not fulfilling.
- You're checking that you're checking their social medias.
- I've never fallen in love before.
- What message can I give to my audience?
- I'll tell you that much.
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | haven't met · haven't had · I've never fallen |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | be filled · are paid · will be based |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-66 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו you're, don't, we're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
- הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: obsession /əbˈsɛʃən/, subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, traction /ˈtɹæk.ʃən/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/
- מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: dichotomy /daɪˈkɑtəmi/, unexplainable /ˌʌn.ɛksˈpleɪ.nə.bl̩/, spirituality /ˌspɪɹ.ə.t͡ʃuˈæl.ə.tɪ/, unavailable /ˌʌnəˈveɪləbəl/
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: clarity /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.ti/, satisfy /ˈsætɪsfaɪ/, spirituality /ˌspɪɹ.ə.t͡ʃuˈæl.ə.tɪ/, attach /əˈtæt͡ʃ/, traction /ˈtɹæk.ʃən/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: thrive /θɹajv/, clarity /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.ti/, spirituality /ˌspɪɹ.ə.t͡ʃuˈæl.ə.tɪ/, traction /ˈtɹæk.ʃən/, replay /ˈɹiːpleɪ/
- עיצור קולי בסוף מילה — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ בלי להפוך אותם לאטומים: oftentimes /ˈɔf.ənˌtaɪmz/, thrive /θɹajv/, analyze /ˈæn.əˌlaɪz/, void /vɔɪd/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו obsession, thrive, consume.
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