What am I doing with my life?

I'm alive!

I'm alive!

Free yourself!

I love thinking about the quote, every guy essentially has two lives, and the second one starts once you realize you only have one.

I know what I must do.

It's just, I'm afraid to do it.

When will I know I'm ready?

You won't.

It's a leap of faith.

That's all it is, Miles.

A leap of faith.

Now is the best time to start.

Not tomorrow!

Not next week.

You have to start.

Right now!

Go out there, make something of yourself for God's sake.

Be an honest person and work and get to the top of whatever it is that you want to get to the top of.

Nothing changes and nothing changes, man.

In order for something to change, there needs to be change.

It's really simple, but I will say that again.

The only reason why you're not living the life that you actually want to live is because you, day by day, keep on feeding the life that you don't want to live.

Well, I'm afraid to make a change, and I'd say, that's okay.

That's understandable.

How afraid are you of not making a change?

Let's make a little vision of that.

you're 35 you hate your job what's the consequence you're not motivated you don't want to get out of bed in the morning you're starting to get depressed you're getting bitter you're getting resentful you're getting cynical you're a motivated at work you're not doing a very good job and you're starting to shrink now play that out for 10 years you don't change it you don't fix it and what happens it's not like it's gonna get better of its own accord what's gonna happen to you?

Well, for sure, at minimum, what's going to happen to you is you're going to be in the same situation, but 10 years older.

And if you can't get out of that situation now, what the hell makes you think you're going to get out of it in 10 years?

Yep.

I said it before, and I'll say it again.

Life moves pretty fast.

You don't stop and look around once in a while.

you could miss it.

You will never be at this age again.

Right now the new is you but someday not too long from now you will gradually become the old and be cleared away.

Sorry to be so dramatic but it's quite true.

Your time is limited so don't waste it living someone else's life.

Sun don't stop for nobody man.

Sun The sun don't stop.

The sun's gonna be up in the morning regardless.

Regardless of how I feel and how depressed I am, the sun is gonna shine in the morning and at night time the moon gonna be there.

And you gonna look up, these days gonna keep going by.

You win some, you lose some.

But you live.

You live to fight another day.

There's a saying, when the devil ignores you, then you know you're doing something wrong.

Wait a minute, I'm not done now.

You know, the devil goes, oh no, leave him alone.

He's my favorite.

Right, right, right.

Don't you bother him.

Yeah.

Conversely, when the devil comes at you, maybe it's because you're trying to do something right.

Now, let me give you the secret.

If you will change, everything will change for you.

To have more, you simply have to become more.

Don't wish it was easier.

Wish you were better.

Don't wish for less problems.

Wish for more skills.

Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job.

Don't worry about next week, next year.

Just focus on every 24 hours that you get, you know?

And that's done a lot for me.

You know, my father used to say, whatever you do, do it 100%.

When you work, work.

When you laugh, laugh.

When you eat, eat like it's your last meal.

To live the good way, you have to live the hard way for a while.

If you give it all you have, you're going to get max potential back.

And then who knows what can come.

That's the beautiful thing.

If you don't show up, guys, you know the outcome.

You'll never get the job, never get the part.

Small down payment that you're willing to pay every day for the large investment of a greater life.

You only got one life, guys.

Again, if you work it right, you only need one.

I would say ask her out.

No matter who she is, whether she's a job or a new city or an actual person, whether she's an opportunity or a fear, whatever she is, ask her out.

It's like, I've got one life and this is it and we're in it right now and there isn't a second to waste.

Let's do this.

What are we doing?

What am I doing?

What's exciting?

what's fun remember short steps long vision everybody does it backwards now but if you stick to short steps long vision slow but of a show slow but of the show don't be trapped by dogma which is living with the results of other people's thinking don't let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice and most important have the courage to follow your heart and intuition they somehow already know what you truly want to become everything else is secondary enjoy life enjoy every minute I think any situation can be fun if you make it be who you are and don't be afraid to be who you are I'd say definitely don't stress so much there's not it's not that big a deal that it'll be fine I The thing you gotta remember is you only live once.

You only live once in this life.

And once you're done, you're done.

You got one life.

And one chance to do what you want to do.

What are you doing?

We're the lucky ones.

We're the ones who get to die.

Most people who could ever exist will never even be born.

take every occasion you can to smell the flowers to drink in the sunsets and the sunrise and celebrate life because you won the lottery and most people will never even know there was a lottery hey theo this is uh greg from indiana i actually just wanted to call and tell you so i was at work the other day and I've just been kind of in this like rut at work.

It's not a bad job, but I just really want to get out of it.

So I was catching up on some of your podcasts and you said something that resonated with me.

You know, you said nothing changes if nothing changes.

I thought about it and I went home and I applied for a job I'm probably not qualified for.

I was like, I'll just take a shot.

And the next day I get a call from them at the interview.

It goes well.

She said she's going to set me up with an in-person interview.

Never even had it.

They emailed me a few days later, and I got the job.

So now I'm going to be doing a job that I think I will appreciate more and enjoy more, and I'll be making double the money that I'm making now.

Dang.

Bro, that's awesome, man.

That's really great.

Congratulations for trying something new.

yeah it's crazy to sometimes think like what can happen if we decide I'm gonna see what happens when I decide that I am qualified what happens when I decide for myself that I'm gonna do something different what you're not changing you're choosing you complaining about and you're not changing it could be your relationships your body your health your job you're choosing Nothing is going to change unless you change what you're doing.

Change the junk food that you're eating.

Change the time that you wake up.

Change what you do when you get out of bed.

Change what you do with your time.

That's what you need to do.

Because you can choose whether you want the pain of growth or the pain of staying the same.

It's not me.

but it's inside.

I am...

I am more.

Bruce, deep down you may still be that same great kid you used to be, but it's not who you are underneath.

It's what you do that defines you.

Because maybe I'm not good enough.

Yes, you are.

No.

No, maybe I'm not.

Yes, you are.

Maybe I'm not.

You are.

Maybe I'm not.

You are.

Seems like you forgot again.

Let me remind you.

when it was hard and you were overwhelmed and felt afraid and walked alone and felt invisible and didn't have the answers and couldn't see the way and wanted to give up you kept going may you never forget that what's done is done what's gone is gone one of life's lessons is always moving on it's okay to look back to see how far you've come but keep moving forward Stop waiting on someone to come and save you.

If you fail, it's okay.

Keep trying until you succeed.

Be your own hero.

It was never about surrendering to reality and tossing away your dreams.

It has always been about sticking to your life vision even in the most terrifying times till it radiates in your reality.

It's the hardest things in life, the things that stress you out, that build character and make you stronger.

Don't shy away from uncomfortable situations Just because they won't be easy 70 that's crazy it's actually not that impressive what it's not that impressive yeah it is to me it is you know what they say was a comparison is the thief of joy you compare yourself to others and you'll never be happy so that's impressive weight who cares that other people live but what if I'm not satisfied with it well I mean you can push yourself but you can't do negative self-talk you only live once so do what you feel passionate about take chances don't be afraid to fail big to dream big but remember dreams without goals are just dreams and they ultimately fuel disappointment one life just one why aren't we running like we're on fire towards our wildest dreams i got one shot at this life i'd rather you call me crazy and a dreamer than a settler or not know me at all i tell my kids all the time you know you you always know the leader by the the arrows in their back right if people aren't talking or judging or thinking then you're just kind of blending in you're made to stand out you're not made to stand in line how big would you dream okay if you knew you couldn't fail the only thing stopping us is ourselves take one step in the right direction and you're halfway there to making the dreams come true here's what my mentor taught me when I was 25.

He said, if you have enough reasons, you can do the most incredible things.

He says, Mr.

Owen, I think you've got the experience and you've got the skills and you certainly have the desire.

Here's what you might be lacking.

A long enough list of reasons.

Reasons that drive you, reasons that get you up a little extra early, reasons that keep you up a little extra late.

I have spent my whole life scared, frightened of things that could happen, might happen, might not happen.

50 years I spent like that.

I came to realize it's that fear that's the worst of it.

That's the real enemy.

So, get up.

Get out in the real world.

And you kick that bastard as hard as you can right in the teeth.

If you insist on being moved, being determined by the past, that's your game.

But the fact of the matter is, it all starts right now.

You have a name to maintain.

I don't care about my name.

It's not just your name, sir.

It's your father's name.

And it's all that's left of him.

Don't destroy him.

If you're going to have an interesting life, you can't have all of the other interesting lives you would have had.

I suppose it's that thing of like, it's incredible the things you won't do, like the potential that we all have.

Like we've all, we're all privileged in a sense, right?

Because we all get one life.

You can't have an easy life and a great character.

You can't, you've got to kind of go out there and decide what you want.

That's the first great adventure.

This hand represents you.

This hand represents your friends and family.

This is you saying, I want to go do something big with my life.

You go, you go, you go, but your friends are like, wait a minute, come back down here.

What are you doing?

You come back down.

No, mom, dad, I'm so sick and tired of being broke.

Son, come back down here.

We're not special.

We're just regular friends.

You think you're going to be a million in one day?

And you keep going.

Eventually, when you try to go and go, the tension gets harder.

When you get to this point, it's so difficult to break away because if you do, it's going to snap.

When it snaps, a couple things happen.

So this is you and I.

We want to go distance ourselves from our friends and family because we have dreams.

You go, you go, you go.

Boom.

Not hurt right now.

Many of you, you have not only one, you have not only two.

So one represents your mom, one represents your wife, or ex, or friend, or peer, or cousin, another one, and another one, and another one.

These are all people that are holding you back.

I wanna go, ah, ah!

You can't, right?

They're powerful, okay?

It's a very strong power that they have on you when they hold you back.

But if one by one by one, you show that you wanna go out there and win big, eventually they're gonna realize how serious you are.

What if I told you that you're only six months away from the life you've always dreamed of?

The income, the lifestyle, the time to enjoy everything without fear or worry about money.

In fact, you could have everything you've ever wanted.

There is a condition, just one condition.

For all that time, you have to show up each and every single day and do all the things that you and I both know you should be doing.

Now the thing is, we all have a good idea of what we need to do.

So, stop waiting for someone or something to come along.

So, go and do it.

If you decide today that you're going to live every day like it's your last for real, which means have a conversation with yourself every night that, okay, that was it.

It may not be no more after that.

And really count yourself every day like this could have been it.

If you can do that, it'll change your life.

You'll really start making decisions and living your life like this is all you got, just this one day.

But you could be a winner.

You could be a winner on this day.

You only have one life.

You only have one chance.

If you spend it doing what other people expect you to do, you will wake up to your regret at some point.

The folks that really have a blessed life are the people who learn early on to live with their own rules, live their own way, and live every day as if it's the last day.

Not necessarily to waste it by being wasteful or silly, but to recognize that today is a day to be productive and constructive for yourself.

I don't have time to be, oh, let me go chill at a party.

I don't give a f*** about no party.

Party?

Making money is the party for me.

My job is to get up every day and provide for the people that's counting on me.

That's my fun.

My fun is not based off, oh, I'm at a party wasting money on both.

No.

Putting my daughter through college is fun.

Making sure my niece, pick what university you want to go to.

That's fun.

When you work, work.

When you play, play.

Don't mix the two.

I used to take my family to the beach and I would bring my briefcase.

Or at the beach, I'm saying, I should be at the office.

I should be at the office.

Now my family's upset because I'm at the beach and I'm thinking office, office, office.

Now when I'm at the office, I'm thinking what?

I've got to get my family to the beach, the beach, the beach.

So things are not going too well at the office because I'm thinking beach and things are not going too well at the beach because I'm thinking office.

Here's what I learned to do.

At the beach, be at the beach.

At the office, be at the office.

When you work, work.

When you play, play.

Don't mix the two.

So never give up.

Without commitment, you'll never start.

but more importantly without consistency you'll never finish keep working keep striving never give up fall down seven times get up eight you're going to lose sleep you'll doubt whether it'll work you'll stress to make ends meet you won't finish your to-do list you'll wonder whether you made the right call and have no way to know for years this is what hard feels like and that's okay Everything worth doing is hard.

And the more worth doing it is, the harder it is.

The greater the payoff, the greater the hardship.

Rock bottom.

That's the way up.

Yeah, rock bottom is beautiful.

The struggle of coming back is beautiful, that struggle.

It doesn't appear like it's beautiful while you're going through it, but it's just being tested.

And without a test, there's no testimony.

Thank you guys as fans.

And you know more importantly I seemed like it was yesterday I was about your guys' age and I had a dream I had ambitions of being one of the greatest basketball players of all time and Through hard work and dedication that dream came true That is your biggest challenge so I challenge you to have your dream go after go after with all you have and Be legendary in your own right.

Thank you so much.

I appreciate you guys.

Thank you.

It was awesome.

Thank you I would tell to everybody that wants to focus on acquiring objects and things and well I have everything I've ever dreamed of it doesn't make you happy happiness is a pursuit of your dream pursuit of your mission your purpose don't chase money and don't chase objects chase your purpose that's where happiness lies what do people regret when they're dying I asked hospice nurses the experts here are the top 24 regrets people have when they are dying I wish I'd had the courage just to be myself.

I wish I had spent more time with the people I love.

I wish I'd made spirituality more of a priority.

I wish I hadn't spent so much time working.

I wish I had discovered my purpose earlier.

I wish I had learned to express my feelings more.

I wish I hadn't spent so much time worrying about things that never happened.

I wish I had taken more risks.

I wish I had cared less about what other people thought.

I wish I had realized earlier that happiness is a choice.

I wish I had loved more.

I wish I had taken better care of myself.

I wish I had been a better spouse.

I wish I had paid less attention to other people's expectations.

I wish I had quit my job and found something I really enjoyed doing.