शैडोइंग अभ्यास: Why Does Being Ignored Hurt More Than Being Rejected? | B2 English Shadowing - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें
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have you ever sent someone a message
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and watched the screen for hours you saw
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that they were online you wondered if they had seen your message you checked again still nothing and somehow
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that silence hurt more than hearing the words i'm sorry but no why because rejection gives you an answer.
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Being ignored gives you a question.
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And when we do not have an answer, our minds often create one.
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Maybe they are angry with me.
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Maybe I said something wrong.
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Maybe I am not important to them.
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Maybe they simply do not care.
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The painful part is that you do not actually know.
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In this B2 English shadowing practice.
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We will explore why being ignored can feel so painful, why silence makes the mind work harder,
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and what you can do when someone leaves you without an answer.
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Imagine that you ask a friend to meet you this weekend.
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They reply, I, sorry, I cannot.
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I have other plans.
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You may feel disappointed.
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Maybe you even feel rejected.
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But at least you know where you stand.
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The answer is clear.
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You asked a question, and you received an answer.
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Now imagine a different situation.
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You send the same message, but your friend never replies.
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A day passes.
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Then another.
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You start thinking about the message again Was it too much?
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Did I sound strange?
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Are they upset with me?
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You may read your own message five times Looking for a
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hidden mistake This is one reason being ignored can feel worse than rejection Rejection closes a door
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Silence leaves the door half open You do not know whether you should wait,
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knock again, or walk away That uncertainty can be uncomfortable because the situation feels unfinished.
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We usually prefer clear information, even when that information is painful.
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A clear no allows us to make a decision.
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We can accept it, feel disappointed, and eventually move forward.
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But when someone gives us no answer, we may stay emotionally connected to the situation.
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We keep waiting.
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We keep checking.
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We keep wondering.
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And every time we think about it, the story can become bigger in our minds.
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The strange thing is that the other person may not even realize how much we are thinking about it.
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They may be busy.
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They may not know how to respond.
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They may have forgotten.
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Or they may simply be choosing not to answer.
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We cannot know unless they tell us.
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But our mind does not enjoy that empty space, so it tries to fill it and
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that brings us to something even more interesting
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when someone ignores us the silence itself contains very little information
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but our minds can turn that small amount of information into a much larger story
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Think about receiving a message from someone you care about.
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You reply, then nothing.
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At first, you are not worried.
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After a few hours, you notice the silence.
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You check your phone.
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Then you check again.
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Soon, your mind starts offering explanations.
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Maybe they are upset.
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Maybe they are avoiding me.
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Maybe I am not important anymore.
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Notice something important here.
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The facts have not changed.
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The only fact is that they have not replied.
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Everything else is an interpretation.
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This does not mean your interpretation is always wrong.
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Sometimes people really are ignoring us on purpose.
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Sometimes silence is a way of showing that someone has lost interest, changed their feelings, or does not want to continue a relationship.
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but we often experience the interpretation before we have enough information to know whether it is true.
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That is where the pain can grow.
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We are not only reacting to what happened, we are reacting to what we think it means, and the meaning can feel very personal.
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If someone rejects your request, you might think, they do not want to do this with me.
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But if someone ignores you, your mind may go further.
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They do not want me.
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That is a much heavier message.
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The situation may be small, but the meaning we attach to it can become much bigger.
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This is why silence can make us question our value.
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We may start asking whether we are interesting enough, important enough, attractive enough, or worth someone's time.
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But another person's silence cannot give you a reliable answer to those questions.
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Their silence tells you something about their behavior.
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It does not automatically tell you your value.
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That distinction matters.
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Because if you allow someone else's silence to become a judgment about yourself,
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you give their lack of communication far more power than it deserves.
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But there is another reason being ignored hurts so much.
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It is not only about what we think.
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It is also about what we need from other people.
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Most relationships contain an invisible question.
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Where do I stand with you?
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We may not ask it directly, but we often want to know.
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Do you care about me?
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Can I trust you?
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Do you respect me?
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Do you still want me in your life?
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When communication suddenly stops, that sense of connection can become uncertain.
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And uncertainty can be harder to handle than a clear answer.
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Imagine someone you have been dating slowly becomes distant.
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Their messages become shorter.
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They stop asking questions.
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Then one day, they stop replying completely.
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You may know, deep down, that something has changed.
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But without a direct conversation, you are left trying to understand what happened.
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You may go through every recent conversation.
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You remember small details.
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You wonder if you missed a sign.
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You think about what you could have done differently.
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This can become exhausting.
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and sometimes we become more attached to getting an answer than we were to the relationship itself.
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We tell ourselves, I just need to know why.
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But even when we get an explanation, it may not give us the peace we expected.
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Sometimes there is no satisfying reason.
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People change.
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People lose interest.
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People become overwhelmed.
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People avoid difficult conversations.
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People make choices that hurt others.
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Not every painful situation has a neat explanation that can be difficult to accept.
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We often believe that if we understand exactly why someone ignored us, the pain will disappear.
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But understanding another person does not always give us closure.
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Sometimes closure begins when we stop waiting for another person to provide it.
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That does not mean pretending you do not care.
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It means recognizing that you may not receive the answer you want.
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You can still decide what their silence means for your next step.
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If someone repeatedly ignores you, you have information, not necessarily about your worth,
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but about how they are choosing to communicate with you.
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And that information can help you make a decision.
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You can stop chasing an answer.
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You can step back.
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You can protect your time and attention.
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You can accept that the relationship may not be what you hoped it would be.
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And that leads to the most important question.
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So, what should you do when someone ignores you?
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First, give the situation enough space to understand what is actually happening.
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One unanswered message does not always mean something serious.
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People have busy days.
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They forget.
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They need time.
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They may not know how to respond.
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Do not turn every delayed reply into a personal rejection.
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But there is also a point when a pattern becomes meaningful.
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If someone repeatedly ignores you, avoids important conversations, or only responds when they need something from you, pay attention to the pattern.
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You do not need to invent a dramatic explanation.
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You simply need to notice the behavior.
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Second, separate facts from stories.
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Ask yourself, what do I actually know?
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What am I assuming?
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What other explanations are possible?
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This does not mean making excuses for someone.
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It simply helps you avoid treating your fear as proof.
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Third, do not chase clarity forever.
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Sometimes we send another message, then another.
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We explain ourselves.
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We apologize even though we do not know what we did wrong.
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We try to become more interesting, more useful, or more agreeable so the other person will finally respond.
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But chasing someone's attention can slowly change the relationship.
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You are no longer connecting with them.
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You are trying to earn a response.
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And you should not have to prove your worth to receive basic communication.
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There is a difference between reaching out and chasing.
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Reaching out says, I care and I would like to understand.
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Chasing says, I need you to answer so I can feel okay.
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That difference is important.
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Finally, remember that silence is also information.
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Not always a complete answer.
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Not always the answer you wanted. But information.
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If someone chooses not to communicate with you, you can choose what you do with that information.
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You can stop waiting.
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You can move your attention back to your own life.
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You can invest in people who communicate clearly and make space for you.
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And sometimes, the strongest response to being ignored is not another message.
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It is moving forward.
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Being rejected can hurt because someone says no. Being ignored can hurt because you are left wondering what the silence means.
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But you do not have to turn someone's silence into a judgment about your worth.
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Separate the facts from the story.
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Notice the pattern.
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Ask for clarity when it matters.
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And when clarity never comes, remember that you can still choose your next step.
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You do not need an answer from everyone to know where you stand with yourself.
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Great job completing this B2 English shadowing practice.
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Keep listening and speaking just behind the narrator.
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Focus on natural rhythm, connected speech, and the meaning of each sentence.
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You are building stronger English one practice session at a time.
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