Shadowing Practice: Why Does Being Ignored Hurt More Than Being Rejected? | B2 English Shadowing - Learn English Speaking with Video
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have you ever sent someone a message
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and watched the screen for hours you saw
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that they were online you wondered if they had seen your message you checked again still nothing and somehow
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that silence hurt more than hearing the words i'm sorry but no why because rejection gives you an answer.
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Being ignored gives you a question.
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And when we do not have an answer, our minds often create one.
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Maybe they are angry with me.
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Maybe I said something wrong.
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Maybe I am not important to them.
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Maybe they simply do not care.
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The painful part is that you do not actually know.
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In this B2 English shadowing practice.
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We will explore why being ignored can feel so painful, why silence makes the mind work harder,
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and what you can do when someone leaves you without an answer.
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Imagine that you ask a friend to meet you this weekend.
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They reply, I, sorry, I cannot.
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I have other plans.
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You may feel disappointed.
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Maybe you even feel rejected.
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But at least you know where you stand.
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The answer is clear.
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You asked a question, and you received an answer.
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Now imagine a different situation.
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You send the same message, but your friend never replies.
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A day passes.
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Then another.
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You start thinking about the message again Was it too much?
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Did I sound strange?
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Are they upset with me?
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You may read your own message five times Looking for a
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hidden mistake This is one reason being ignored can feel worse than rejection Rejection closes a door
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Silence leaves the door half open You do not know whether you should wait,
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knock again, or walk away That uncertainty can be uncomfortable because the situation feels unfinished.
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We usually prefer clear information, even when that information is painful.
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A clear no allows us to make a decision.
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We can accept it, feel disappointed, and eventually move forward.
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But when someone gives us no answer, we may stay emotionally connected to the situation.
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We keep waiting.
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We keep checking.
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We keep wondering.
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And every time we think about it, the story can become bigger in our minds.
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The strange thing is that the other person may not even realize how much we are thinking about it.
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They may be busy.
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They may not know how to respond.
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They may have forgotten.
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Or they may simply be choosing not to answer.
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We cannot know unless they tell us.
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But our mind does not enjoy that empty space, so it tries to fill it and
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that brings us to something even more interesting
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when someone ignores us the silence itself contains very little information
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but our minds can turn that small amount of information into a much larger story
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Think about receiving a message from someone you care about.
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You reply, then nothing.
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At first, you are not worried.
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After a few hours, you notice the silence.
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You check your phone.
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Then you check again.
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Soon, your mind starts offering explanations.
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Maybe they are upset.
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Maybe they are avoiding me.
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Maybe I am not important anymore.
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Notice something important here.
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The facts have not changed.
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The only fact is that they have not replied.
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Everything else is an interpretation.
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This does not mean your interpretation is always wrong.
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Sometimes people really are ignoring us on purpose.
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Sometimes silence is a way of showing that someone has lost interest, changed their feelings, or does not want to continue a relationship.
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but we often experience the interpretation before we have enough information to know whether it is true.
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That is where the pain can grow.
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We are not only reacting to what happened, we are reacting to what we think it means, and the meaning can feel very personal.
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If someone rejects your request, you might think, they do not want to do this with me.
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But if someone ignores you, your mind may go further.
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They do not want me.
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That is a much heavier message.
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The situation may be small, but the meaning we attach to it can become much bigger.
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This is why silence can make us question our value.
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We may start asking whether we are interesting enough, important enough, attractive enough, or worth someone's time.
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But another person's silence cannot give you a reliable answer to those questions.
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Their silence tells you something about their behavior.
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It does not automatically tell you your value.
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That distinction matters.
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Because if you allow someone else's silence to become a judgment about yourself,
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you give their lack of communication far more power than it deserves.
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But there is another reason being ignored hurts so much.
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It is not only about what we think.
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It is also about what we need from other people.
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Most relationships contain an invisible question.
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Where do I stand with you?
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We may not ask it directly, but we often want to know.
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Do you care about me?
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Can I trust you?
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Do you respect me?
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Do you still want me in your life?
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When communication suddenly stops, that sense of connection can become uncertain.
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And uncertainty can be harder to handle than a clear answer.
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Imagine someone you have been dating slowly becomes distant.
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Their messages become shorter.
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They stop asking questions.
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Then one day, they stop replying completely.
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You may know, deep down, that something has changed.
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But without a direct conversation, you are left trying to understand what happened.
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You may go through every recent conversation.
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You remember small details.
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You wonder if you missed a sign.
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You think about what you could have done differently.
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This can become exhausting.
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and sometimes we become more attached to getting an answer than we were to the relationship itself.
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We tell ourselves, I just need to know why.
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But even when we get an explanation, it may not give us the peace we expected.
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Sometimes there is no satisfying reason.
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People change.
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People lose interest.
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People become overwhelmed.
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People avoid difficult conversations.
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People make choices that hurt others.
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Not every painful situation has a neat explanation that can be difficult to accept.
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We often believe that if we understand exactly why someone ignored us, the pain will disappear.
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But understanding another person does not always give us closure.
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Sometimes closure begins when we stop waiting for another person to provide it.
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That does not mean pretending you do not care.
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It means recognizing that you may not receive the answer you want.
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You can still decide what their silence means for your next step.
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If someone repeatedly ignores you, you have information, not necessarily about your worth,
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but about how they are choosing to communicate with you.
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And that information can help you make a decision.
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You can stop chasing an answer.
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You can step back.
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You can protect your time and attention.
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You can accept that the relationship may not be what you hoped it would be.
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And that leads to the most important question.
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So, what should you do when someone ignores you?
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First, give the situation enough space to understand what is actually happening.
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One unanswered message does not always mean something serious.
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People have busy days.
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They forget.
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They need time.
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They may not know how to respond.
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Do not turn every delayed reply into a personal rejection.
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But there is also a point when a pattern becomes meaningful.
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If someone repeatedly ignores you, avoids important conversations, or only responds when they need something from you, pay attention to the pattern.
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You do not need to invent a dramatic explanation.
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You simply need to notice the behavior.
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Second, separate facts from stories.
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Ask yourself, what do I actually know?
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What am I assuming?
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What other explanations are possible?
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This does not mean making excuses for someone.
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It simply helps you avoid treating your fear as proof.
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Third, do not chase clarity forever.
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Sometimes we send another message, then another.
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We explain ourselves.
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We apologize even though we do not know what we did wrong.
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We try to become more interesting, more useful, or more agreeable so the other person will finally respond.
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But chasing someone's attention can slowly change the relationship.
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You are no longer connecting with them.
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You are trying to earn a response.
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And you should not have to prove your worth to receive basic communication.
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There is a difference between reaching out and chasing.
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Reaching out says, I care and I would like to understand.
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Chasing says, I need you to answer so I can feel okay.
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That difference is important.
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Finally, remember that silence is also information.
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Not always a complete answer.
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Not always the answer you wanted. But information.
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If someone chooses not to communicate with you, you can choose what you do with that information.
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You can stop waiting.
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You can move your attention back to your own life.
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You can invest in people who communicate clearly and make space for you.
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And sometimes, the strongest response to being ignored is not another message.
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It is moving forward.
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Being rejected can hurt because someone says no. Being ignored can hurt because you are left wondering what the silence means.
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But you do not have to turn someone's silence into a judgment about your worth.
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Separate the facts from the story.
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Notice the pattern.
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Ask for clarity when it matters.
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And when clarity never comes, remember that you can still choose your next step.
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You do not need an answer from everyone to know where you stand with yourself.
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Great job completing this B2 English shadowing practice.
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Keep listening and speaking just behind the narrator.
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Focus on natural rhythm, connected speech, and the meaning of each sentence.
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You are building stronger English one practice session at a time.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This video has 182 sentences and 1621 words to shadow. The speech runs for 12:49. The speaker talks at a steady 126 words per minute, a comfortable pace for shadowing. 88% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
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| silence noun | /ˈsaɪ̯ləns/ | The absence of any sound. |
| ignore verb | /ɪɡˈnɔː/ | To deliberately not listen or pay attention to. |
| chase verb | /t͡ʃeɪs/ | To follow at speed. |
| explanation noun | /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/ | The act or process of explaining. |
| painful adjective | /ˈpeɪn.fl̩/ | Causing pain or distress, either physical or mental. |
| rejection noun | /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/ | The act of rejecting. |
| connect verb | /kəˈnɛkt/ | To join (to another object): to attach, or to be intended to attach or capable of attaching, to another object. |
| interpretation noun | /ɪnˌtɜːpɹəˈteɪʃən/ | An act of interpreting or explaining something unclear; a translation; a version. |
| communicate verb | /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/ | To impart or transmit (information or knowledge) to someone; to make known, to tell. |
| clarity noun | /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.ti/ | The state or measure of being clear, either in appearance, thought or style; lucidity. |
| shadow noun | /ˈʃædəʊ̯/ | A dark image projected onto a surface where light (or other radiation) is blocked by the shade of an object. |
| disappointed adjective | /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/ | Defeated of expectations or hope; experiencing disappointment; let down. |
| judgment noun | /ˈd͡ʒʌd͡ʒ.mənt/ | The act of judging. |
| leaf noun | /lif/ | The usually green and flat organ that represents the most prominent feature of most vegetative plants. |
| repeatedly adverb | /ɹɪˈpiːtɪdli/ | Done several times or in repetition. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| move forward verb | To cause to make progress. | |
| reach out verb | To extend one's hand(s) forward; to reach for something. | |
| go through verb | To travel from one end of something to the other. | |
| step back verb | /stɛp ˈbæk/ | To stop what one is doing and evaluate the current situation. |
| walk away verb | To withdraw from a problematic situation. |
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
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| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | Being ignored · are left · Being rejected |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | have you ever sent · have not changed · have not replied |
Pronunciation to watch
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, interpretation /ɪnˌtɜːpɹəˈteɪʃən/, shadow /ˈʃædəʊ̯/, closure /ˈkloʊ.ʒɚ/
- Long words — get the stress right: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, interpretation /ɪnˌtɜːpɹəˈteɪʃən/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, repeatedly /ɹɪˈpiːtɪdli/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like silence, ignore, chase.
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