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Namobuddhaya.

Welcome to another video.

From today's video we're going to be discussing about how can we use our speech,

our words in a wiser way, right?

Now to do that, in Buddhism we learn five things,

five rules to follow and ask from ourselves five questions before we speak, right?

Now this is taught in regarding to reproving to someone,

like showing a mistake to someone.

But these five rules can be added to our normal day-to-day speech as well.

And it will make a greater change and it will make a greater impact on ourselves as well as others.

So that is why it is important to understand the words that we speak has good power.

There's a beautiful saying that says words can make people and words can break people.

So that I understand the words that we speak has God power and it matters.

So how can we speak in a visor way?

How can we use our words in a visor way?

Now in Buddhism we learn five rules to follow this.

Right?

Five questions to ask from ourselves before we speak.

Now the first thing, the first question

that we need to ask from ourselves before we speak something is that am I speaking in the proper time?

Right?

Sometimes even though it is true,

even though it is truthful what we speak,

maybe not the proper time to speak.

Now what is the proper time to speak?

now the whole idea the whole point of speaking is to

get the message across to the other person in the correct way

but sometimes even though we are saying the truth even though we are saying the right thing

that person who is receiving the message may not be in a condition to get the message, right?

He may be, he or she may be not in a mindset to receive the message,

so that if we convey the message,

they may not get the same idea that we are having.

Now the whole point of communication is to get the idea,

to plant the same idea on the other person, right?

But if we did not do in the proper time it won't work and

that is why in buddhism we learn wait until the proper

time ask from yourself am i speaking in the proper time right now for an example

if you need to show a mistake in someone

if you need to correct a mistake in someone now you need to communicate

that is where you need the communication in like it is very important at that time, right?

The right communication.

But if you say that mistake,

if you show that mistake,

when that person is angry, right?

When that person's mind is filled with anger, what happens?

They may not get the idea,

they may not see the mistake that we are showing.

Okay?

So what we do?

We wait until the anger cools down and open his ears and mind.

Now when our mind is in anger,

we are not ready to listen to anyone.

Right?

We are not ready to think about what is wrong or what is right.

That is why the Buddha says, Kuddo Atthangna Jananti.

When your mind is in anger,

you don't know what is good and bad.

right?

So that we need to understand.

If we need to get a message across to that person,

we need to wait for the proper time until their mind is open,

until their ears are open,

until they are ready to listen and understand that message.

So that waiting until the proper time is very important when we communicate.

That is the first question that we need to ask from ourselves am I speaking in the right time?

The second thing that we need to follow is,

we need to ask from ourselves, am I speaking truthfully?

Right?

The Buddha says, you need to follow the truthful speech.

You need to say the truth.

But even though the truth,

you need to put it in the right time, in the right place.

Right?

The Buddha says, even I,

right, even the Buddha, even though it is it is the truth,

he waits until the right time to say it.

Sometimes it is not the correct time to say the truth,

so that we need to wait until that.

Now this doesn't say that we need to tell lies to cover up that.

This says that you need to be patient and not panicked until you need to use the proper word.

So the Buddha says that speaking truthfully is very important.

Why?

Because when you speak the truth,

sometimes you may lose certain things,

but when you speak the truth you gain one very important thing and that is the trust.

Trust is very important in any kind of relationship,

and that is why you need to be truthful,

but also you need to wait until the proper time.

Okay, so that is the second thing that you need to ask,

am I speaking truthfully?

And also we learn in Buddhism that speak gently, not harshly.

So that you need to ask from yourself, am I speaking harshly?

Am I speaking gently?

Sometimes what you say is true, right?

When you say is the correct time, right?

You say it in the the correct time,

what you say is the truth, but the tone matters.

Right?

The words that we use to convey the message matters.

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I have seen a lot of people showing others mistakes with rude and harsh words.

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Sometimes putting them down, like putting their mentality down and hurting their mentality and showing the truth,

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showing they're showing a mistake,

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but they don't get that message.

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Why?

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Because they have hurt their mentality.

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Sometimes when you use those such kind of words,

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their emotions get hurt so that they're not ready to listen to it.

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Now why we convey the message,

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why we communicate is we understand that this is the right thing,

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this is the correct thing,

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but we need to, I need to make him right.

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I need to make him correct.

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I don't need to see that mistake again in his life.

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I need the good of that person.

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Now if you truly love that person,

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you have to use your words in a proper way so that he get the fullest message,

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he or she get the fullest message that you are conveying.

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And that is why we learn in Buddhism that gentle words can change people's mindsets.

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But rude and harsh words make nothing but people more stubborn in their own ideas.

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So that understand gentle words are the best way to change other people's mindsets.

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There are a lot of examples even in Buddhism that we learn that the Buddha,

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how Bodhisattva used the gentle words to change people, right?

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So that understand speaking gently is very important.

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Now what makes a gentle man and a gentle woman is not how you wear, right?

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It's the words that you speak.

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It's the way that you behave.

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It's how gentle you treat other people.

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That is what make you a gentle man and a gentle woman.

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So understand that speaking gently is really really important.

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So ask from yourself, am I speaking gently?

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And also we learn in Buddhism that your speech must be beneficial for the other person, not harmful.

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Now to do that you need to have an intention that you truly love that person, right?

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You truly love your idea to see that in that person's mind and making their life much better, right?

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See the good on them.

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Now to do that you need to speak in in a beneficial way,

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so that that person corrects their mistakes, right?

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That person's life becomes better by listening to your words.

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So that the Buddha says that always speak beneficial words,

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not the words that harm other people's life.

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So then you need to ask from yourself that am I speaking beneficially but not harmfully?

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So that understand you need to speak to the people to see the good on them.

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And the final question that we need to ask from ourselves is that,

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am I speaking lovingly, out of love and compassion, not with inner hate?

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Sometimes we use our words,

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even though the good words,

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good things, but we have the inner hate, right?

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When we have the inner hate,

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that is the intention behind our words.

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And that intention can create negative situations in our life and also the other people's lives.

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And that is why in Buddhist way of right speech,

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we refrain from all the negative speeches like rude words, harsh words, right?

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Or some mean words that has the negative intentions behind,

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right so the intention behind your speech is really really important so that understand

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ask from yourself that am i speaking to this person out of love

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and compassion not with inner hate right so the buddha says

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that speak with love and compassion okay sometimes some people complain okay

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if we speak with love and compassion they are not ready to understand it

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And we believe that speaking with kind words and compassionate

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and gentle words will make other people not to understand what we say.

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Sometimes they say, okay, to make someone understand,

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we need to use rude and harsh words.

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But that is not always correct.

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right the reason why believe we believe that the root using those those rude and harsh words

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are the is the only way to get the message

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that person is because when we were children we were treated with russian rude

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and harsh words right we were disciplined in the rude and hard ways

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so that we believe that this is the only way to do that,

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but it is not.

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If you start to use in the correct way your speech,

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it is pretty sure that you get the message correctly to that person,

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and also they understand it and they make their mistakes correct.

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So that you understand.

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These are the five things that we need to follow.

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These are the five questions that we need to ask from ourselves to get the message correctly,

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to communicate in a correct way and also to make our speech wiser.

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So follow these five things in your speech and make your life even more better.

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Namo Buddhaya.

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