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Here are 10 tiny upgrades that you can make to the way
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that you think and operate that will have a huge impact on your life.
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And I'm not just saying that because these specific upgrades
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that I'm about to share with you are actually based on moments from my life
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and mindset shifts that I've made to completely transform my life.
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And if you are new here and you don't know who I am and you're like, huh, my name is Emily,
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also known as M on the brain.
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I'm a neuroscientist.
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I've got two degrees in neuroscience as well as plenty of years of research experience in the lab.
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I am now a speaker, author, and coach to people in over 55 countries all over the world,
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and I'm here to help you rewire your brain, level up, and live your best life.
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So I do just want to warn you because these upgrades are going to get a bit personal.
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I want to share with you the very personal stories that led me to these realizations because I think,
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you know, it's one thing for me to sit here and tell you something, but it's another thing for me to give you super clear examples.
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And they really are so, so, so powerful.
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So I'm gonna stop telling you about them and just start.
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Mindset upgrade number one is that you have so much more power to change yourself and your reality than you realize.
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When I was getting my first degree in neuroscience and I was learning about neuroplasticity,
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which is the ability for the brain to adapt and rewire and certain areas can strengthen, certain pathways can strengthen, certain areas or pathways can weaken.
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And the power of neuroplasticity and the ability that we have to rewire our brains and not only that, but change our beliefs.
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And then what happens
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when we start activating different pathways in our brains is we can actually change the biological expression
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and the proteins that are being made and our DNA expression, like it goes so deep.
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But when I started learning all of this for the first time, it really was the first time in my life when I realized
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that I wasn't stuck the way that I was for
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so long for so many years I was in
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and out of doctor's offices I was diagnosed with ADHD PCOS just being told all the time by doctors
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that I have all these problems and I really felt
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that I was just stuck the way
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that I was for the rest of my life like I genuinely just felt like something was wrong with me
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and I was just stuck like this forever
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and it was a tough place to be
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and mentally i wasn't super well honestly i wasn't i really struggled with depression
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when i was in high school and even into college
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and i really struggled and so when i first learned
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that hey actually like you can change like you have a
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lot more power to change your brain than you realize
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and therefore with through changing your brain you have a lot more power to change your reality than you realize.
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But the truth is that your brain is not fixed and neither is your future.
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Like yes, you have programming, you've been programmed, you've been conditioned by society, by the way that you grew up, and your circumstances are real.
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But that doesn't mean that they have to define you.
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Mindset upgrade number two is that the dream doesn't work unless you do.
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When I was an undergrad, I was getting ready to graduate my first degree in neuroscience
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and I had this birth of a dream to go get my PhD in neuroscience
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because I fell in love with neuroscience
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and I was like I want to do this forever
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and I loved I was doing I was not only getting my first degree
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but I was also doing research in the lab
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and I fell in love with research
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and I was just like this is it this is my thing
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I want to go get my PhD in neuroscience but not even
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that I want to go study study drug addiction to cure drug addiction like that was the goal.
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All right.
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I really, really stepped into this.
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Like I'm telling you guys when I had these all, by the way, all of these upgrades are in order of kind of
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when I realized them or learn them in my life.
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And so the stories are kind of all like a string through my experiences as well.
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But after I realized that I had so much power to change and I could change my brain,
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I could change my beliefs and I could regulate my nervous system.
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I went to work and I started listening to all these motivational videos on YouTube, just like compilation tracks.
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And I had this huge dream planted within me, this delusional dream, which I am a huge supporter of delusional dreams.
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And anyway, so when my delusional dream came of being, you know, going and getting my PhD in neuroscience and studying
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and developing and working on new ways to treat and prevent relapse to drug addiction,
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I realized that one, I needed to go to work.
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And this is actually a line from one of those videos, one of those motivational videos that I listened to at the time.
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It was, I can't remember who said it, but I have a playlist actually on my YouTube channel of all the different motivational videos
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that I was listening to at the time because I was just making it for me.
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Now it's public for all of you.
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At the time, I had no idea that I would once have a platform, but anyway, it's in there.
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You could probably find it.
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But the line in the video is the dream doesn't work unless you do.
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And there was this entire summer before I went into the PhD where I was like working my ass off,
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just reading multiple research papers a day.
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I had this like 200 page doc ready to go for when I got there.
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I was and I was in the gym
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and I was posting like mirror's pics and it was like the caption was the dream doesn't work unless you do.
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So anyway, it was sort of my mantra for the months leading up to
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when I went into the program and I ended up getting into the program.
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It was such a powerful time for me.
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And it really is an amazing reminder for you listening that you cannot think your way into a new reality.
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You have to act your way into one, right?
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Because your brain doesn't just listen to your thoughts.
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It listens to who you're being.
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Neuroplasticity doesn't just happen from you thinking different thoughts although it does happen through
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that it also happens through acting okay through taking action all
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right the dream doesn't work unless you do mindset upgrade number three is
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that manifestation is real it is so real
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and whenever i got into all this like neuroplasticity and and mindset
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and like neurobiology whenever
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i started getting into all of this i actually started to become become more spiritual
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I guess you could say I really wasn't before
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that I actually grew up going to Catholic school and then after
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that I was like super depressed
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and I really struggled with my health like I mentioned
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and also people around me like close family members of mine were also like very sick my entire life
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and so I rebelled against the church
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which I think a lot of people have that experience
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but sometimes you have to find your your own way into it which I did
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And I just share that to say, like, I didn't always believe I actually was the opposite.
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Like I identified as like an atheist when I was in high school.
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So anyway, I don't anymore.
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I don't anymore.
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I'm a believer now.
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But when I started to study neuroscience, this actually was kind of one of the doorways for me into spirituality that I needed.
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Honestly, like I had such a logical, rational mind that I needed a little bit of logic to get into it
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and understanding the neuroscience of reality really opened my eyes and opened the door.
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It was kind of like the gateway into becoming extremely woo woo,
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which now if you were to call me and tell me that you talked to an alien on the phone yesterday, I would believe you.
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Like, I would believe you.
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I, I would believe it.
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If you were to say that you had a whole full -on conversation with God where you heard like the words, I would believe that too,
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because I have experienced that.
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Manifestation is real.
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And my personal example that kind of what taught me
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that for the very first time was getting into the phd program of my dreams
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so like i told you i had this incredible dream of going
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and getting my phd in neuroscience and studying drug addiction
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and i looked into all of the best phd programs
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that specifically had labs that were studying relapse to drug addiction
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which you know it's one thing to go into a phd program in neuroscience
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but it's another to find like one
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that has a specific research lab doing exactly what you wanted to do
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and I found that and I applied and I used all of the tools
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that I had been gathering because I became obsessed with mindset
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and rewiring my brain like I said
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and I started using all the tools the affirmations visualization regulating my nervous system rewiring my beliefs doing shadow work
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I was doing like everything I had I've had the I developed the best morning routine
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which I've actually created a video about it's the same morning routine
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I've been doing for probably like six years it's just
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that good i got into the phd program of my dreams
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and it's so interesting because you know of course i applied to multiple programs
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and i got denied from multiple programs i remember
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when i would get denied rather than feeling upset about it
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my mindset immediately was like well one step closer to the program i am meant to be in
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and so rather than having this mindset of like I got rejected for me it was like I fully believe
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that the program that I meant to be in I'm going to be in
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and so who cares that mindset like I'm
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so proud of myself for having it and like looking back on
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that I'm like wow like that was really another level I was just so
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focused and my mindset was just so right
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that I just never lost belief and I never lost faith
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and I kept the the trust in the belief and it happened
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and then I actually used the same formula and whenever I was in the PhD program,
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someone that I guess had looked up to me for years that I never even knew her,
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but she was one of my best friend's little sister's friends.
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So I did not know this girl.
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I did not even know she existed until she reached out to me and she was like,
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hey, I want to go get my PhD in clinical psychology.
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Can you help me?
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And I like to help people.
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So I was like, of course I can help you.
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And I helped her and I gave her the entire process
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that I used and I helped edit her essays
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and.. she got in and I at it was me getting in
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and then using the same process to help somebody else get into the program they wanted to get into
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that was really what showed me like manifestation is a repeatable process
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and it's and it works and it's real
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and since then I have manifested so many things
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so stop letting your current reality dictate what is possible for
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your future your current reality does not have to be evidence for what's possible for your future
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you could look back one day and be like, whoa, so much has changed.
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My life looks completely different in the best way.
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Mindset upgrade number four is that the reality you experience is not necessarily all that exists.
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Remembering this is so important.
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The reality that you are currently experiencing is not all that exists.
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It's really not.
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And learning the neuroscience of reality
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smacked me in the face when I learned how the brain constructs our experience of reality
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and how the visual system works and how over 99 % of the information that arrives to the brain gets filtered out.
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When I started to understand all of that and then
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when I learned the kitten experiment and how when they raised two groups of kittens in completely different environments,
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one group was raised in an environment with only horizontal stripes.
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The other group was raised with only vertical stripes.
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And then at the end of the critical period of development for their visual system
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they put them into a normal everyday environment and what they found was
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that the kittens that only saw the horizontal stripes they'd jump up on tables
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and perch but they wouldn't weave they'd bump into the table legs
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and chair legs because their brains didn't construct them properly
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and it was the exact opposite for the kittens
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that saw the vertical stripes they would weave in
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and out of table legs but they wouldn't jump up onto tables
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and perch because their brains didn't construct it properly and
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so the brain is like your brain is constructing your reality right now based on your programming,
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based on your beliefs, based on your emotional state and your memories.
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It's just so powerful.
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I remember, and this is going to be a little juicy here for a second.
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When I was an undergrad getting ready to graduate, I had a psychedelic experience that
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completely transformed the way that I look at life and the way
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that I look at myself and the spiritual realms like literally completely changed me and my life forever.
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I'll kind of talk about it a little bit
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but you kind of like you close your eyes and you go into this sort of hallucinations fate.
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Just to be clear this situation or this kind of opportunity sort of presented itself to me.
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I didn't go seeking out like a psychedelic trip.
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I didn't.
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I was actually at my friend's apartment and her she had two friends visiting
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that she went to high school with
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and they apparently like they do like ceremonies for people
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and this was something that they did regularly
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and they were talking about it
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and I was like you know I'd be open to doing
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that and they were like do you want to
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and I didn't realize it was like an option for me to do it right then
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and there but it seemed like it felt like intuitively like I could trust them
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and so I did it before I did it her one friend it was a very like ceremonial thing
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which and very intentional which I much appreciated and he said you know, when you're in it, don't try to figure out what's going on.
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Just surrender.
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Like don't try to figure out what's going on.
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Just surrender.
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And anyway, so I was in it and at first it was weird.
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And I was like, what's going on?
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Why am I being shown this?
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I don't like this.
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I don't get it.
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And then I remembered his words and he was like, oh yeah, just, just surrender.
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And so the moment that I stopped trying to figure out what was happening and I remembered to surrender,
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it was like I went through this doorway complete darkness
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and there was just this buzzing and this
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that went on for a bit
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and then this white hot lightning bolt that's how I describe
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it now in the moment right I wasn't trying to describe it
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but after the fact this white hot lightning rod struck through me
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and it was like electrocuting me but and it was making my body super hot and And like it was,
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it's really hard to explain with words what I experienced.
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But after coming out of that experience, and it took me a while to be able to explain this with words,
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but the way that I describe it now was
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that I was being charged up by the divine and I felt like I was truly guided and protected.
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Like I was not alone and I was connected to everything.
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And ever since that experience in meditation, when I meditate, not every single time I meditate,
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But if I meditate into like for a good amount of time to where I can get deep into it,
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I can activate that lightning bolt and it just like strikes through me from above down to the center of the earth.
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And it's like the most euphoric sensation.
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That's the best way that I can describe it is it's a very like euphoric sensation.
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My whole body is vibrating and I feel just very connected to the divine.
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And I've ever since then, like whenever I've like had conversations with like my angels or God, like I, I just feel very, very spiritually connected.
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And so I gave you both the neuroscience
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and this sort of.. spiritual explanation for that one
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because I know not all of you are going to resonate with like the psychedelic experience
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and I'm not by any means promoting doing that
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if that's not something that calls to you
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or resonates with you then don't you don't need it I've actually spoken with people
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that have done certain types of yoga that have had the same exact experience
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that I had just in yoga without psychedelics
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so it is available to you without it you can meditate
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or pray or do yoga
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and this can happen as well my point with all of
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this though is each of these experiences learning the neuroscience of reality
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and then also having my like spiritual experience both of these taught me
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that reality is not as it seems
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and what we can see with the human eye is nowhere near what is actually there.
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And we know this for a fact because there are animals that can perceive different colors.
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Like birds can see the UV spectrum.
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There are other animals that can perceive heat maps or electromagnetic field.
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Just so many different examples from nature of things like animals that we know can see things that we can't.
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So what don't we know?
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It's sort of like the ocean.
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Like we know that there's so much unexplored.
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Like we have no idea what we don't know.
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And reality is the exact same way.
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We have no idea what we don't know.
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It's sort of like a computer.
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You can look at the screen and you see the image on the screen of your computer,
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but you don't see all the wiring and all of the code that's going on in the background.
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You don't need to see the code.
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That wouldn't even benefit you to see all of that.
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It wouldn't.
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It would be distracting and chaotic and overwhelming.
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Same thing with reality.
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Like our brains would thrive.
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We could perceive everything that was out there.
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So our brains just shows us exactly what we need to see for our own survival.
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And that's it.
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And that beautifully leads me into mindset upgrade number five, which is that you don't need to control everything for everything to work out for you.
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When I did get into the PhD program, you remember that Google doc with all of my ideas
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and everything that I had come up with for the whole summer prior to going?
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I gave all of that to one of the faculty members.
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And after that, I was terrified.
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Immediately, my trust issues came up and I was like, you know, what if like, what if these steals my ideas?
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Blah, blah, blah.
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And I talked to my friend my best friend
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that I actually made in my PhD
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and she said she was like first of all he doesn't even have time to steal your ideas like he's
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so busy like blah blah blah blah blah and then I remembered
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and it really was this mantra that came to me after my psychedelic experience
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which was like trust and surrender
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because remember that's what my friend's friend had told me before
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I went into it like don't try to figure it all out just surrender
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and as soon as I surrendered was when the doors opened and this euphoric sensation came through me.
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And so I just remembered in that moment, like I need to just trust and surrender.
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Like what is done is done.
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I cannot change what's happened in the past.
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I can't change what I've done in the past.
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I can't change what anyone else has done in the past.
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I can't change like the things that I've chosen.
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All I can do is trust and surrender.
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And there have been so many times in my life where I'm gripping or trying to control something or stressed about something.
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And then I just remember, yeah, I need to just trust and surrender, right?
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Like trust that it's working the way that it's supposed to, even though I can't perceive it with my human brain,
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I need to just trust and then surrender to the flow of it.
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Because at the end of the day, I can't necessarily control every little thing outside of my control.
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And so just remember to surrender.
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And so many things have also come to me.
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This is sort of like a little lesson in detachment as well.
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And practicing detachment has been a huge part of my experiences too
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and very very powerful but trust and surrender really is my mantra
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that also helps me to practice detachment
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and sort of just let go of the outcome and
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and remember that things are going on behind the scenes
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that I can't consciously perceive with my my little human brain
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so just remember
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that you don't have to control everything for everything to work out mindset upgrade number six is
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that you don't have to do everything by yourself
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Hyper -independence is not always a good thing.
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It is okay to lean on other people.
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I used to be extremely independent and I prided myself in that.
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Like, oh yeah, I'm independent.
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There is such a thing as taking it too far.
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And I was hyper -independent to the point where it hurt me
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because I felt lonely and I felt like I couldn't trust other people.
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And whenever I was in grad school I had something happen in my family
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I got some like really really terrible news it was finals week it was
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so terrible that like it was before my like last last final
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which was my neuroscience final and I had like two
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and a half days to study for it after the other final
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that I'd just taken and I got this news
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and I just couldn't even focus I couldn't study like I was just like
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so like devastated and confused and angry and upset
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and it really did hurt my ability to study
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and it got me like to the point where I literally just went into
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that exam and I was like angels take the wheel like angels take the wheel
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because like I just didn't have the energy or the focus.
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And anyway, I ended up getting a 98 on that exam.
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So they took the wheel.
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So afterward, I got into my car and my grad program was in Arizona.
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So I packed up my car and I drove to San Diego and I got this like little dingy, not even apartment, like one room Airbnb.
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Cause that's, I was on a grad school budget.
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Like I couldn't afford anything else, but I stayed there for like a week.
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Like I just literally drove to a new state and just stayed there alone for like a week.
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And then when I got back, I told my best friend what had happened.
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And she was like, why didn't you call me?
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And in that moment, I realized that I had never even thought to call her.
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I never even thought to tell her.
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I had never even thought to lean on her.
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I had never even thought.
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My first instinct was to drive to a new state and go be alone for a week.
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And I will tell you, I was, that was depressing.
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That was sad.
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That wasn't the right choice.
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Like it wasn't.
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I just, I didn't know that I could.
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And this is really important for relationships and for your own mental health because we are social beings.
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Like we need connection and socialization and time with people that we love and friends.
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And if you never lean on the people that you love, you're not giving them a chance to support you.
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You're not giving them a chance to show you how much they love you and care about you.
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And if you never give them the chance, well, one, they're not going to feel like you need them.
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And feeling needed in a relationship is important.
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Leaning on other people and asking them for help actually allows them to feel needed.
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So there's that.
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But then there's also like this allows you to like feel loved and supported too.
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So stop making decisions for other people before you even give them a chance to decide for themselves
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because they will surprise you.
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And remember that it is okay to lean on other people.
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Tiny mindset upgrade number seven is to stop letting the collective narrative determine your individual reality.
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Remember, circumstances are real, but the circumstances that exist don't have to define you.
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Some people are going to let circumstances define them.
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A lot of people are okay with letting circumstances define them, but you don't have to.
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You can rise above your circumstances.
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And actually, that was a huge motivating factor for me when I had my dream of going into the PhD program.
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I listened to all these YouTube videos
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and motivational videos of people talking about their stories rising above their circumstances
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and that inspired me and instilled the belief in me
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that I could do that too and I'll tell you a jarring example
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that I remember when I heard this I was like oh
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that triggered me a little
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and I feel like that's going to trigger a lot of people
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when they hear it in this video
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so this is actually a quote from Abraham Hicks in one of her like rampages
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and she was talking about manifesting money and abundance and all
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that and she was like you know there's this limiting belief
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that like the economy sucks
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and she was like well the economy doesn't suck for everyone there are people out there thriving in this economy
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and when i heard that again i was like whoa i never heard it put
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that way before and i'm like i'm sure it's going to trigger a lot of people
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so if you're hearing this right now and
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and you're a little triggered that's okay i i think
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this is really important for me to include in this episode
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because right now with ai there is this belief circling this collective narrative
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that it's never been harder to get a job and while
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that might be true collectively like the collective narrative is pushing
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that it doesn't have to be true for you i personally know like my one of my family members
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and one of my best friends that just graduated they both just got jobs in the past like two months.
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While it might be true and while circumstances are real, like AI is real, like it's out there doing things like I won't deny that.
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But what I do want to call your attention to is
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to pay attention to where you're letting the collective narrative determine your individual reality.
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Because remember, being delusional like really means that you are living outside of the illusion, which is the reality of the norm.
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I knew for me in my own personal life that I wanted to rise above the reality of the norm.
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Like I didn't want to be normal.
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I didn't want to live a normal life.
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I didn't want to live the reality of the norm.
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I wanted to live a reality of the unimaginable
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and living a reality of the unimaginable means that you have to believe in the unimaginable.
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You have to believe in things that are outside of the norm.
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And this is so important because, you know, when my friend actually, when she graduated, she was on the phone with me
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and she was like literally at her graduation the the man
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who spoke at the graduation the the like the faculty guy the special guest
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they had to speak at her graduation literally told all the graduates
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it's never been a worse time to get a job it's gonna be
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so hard i was like that's horrible like they're not motivating at all
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that stuck with my friend and she's calling me
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and she's like i'm not gonna be able to get a job this
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and that and i was like hey not with
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that mindset you're not you have to believe like yeah like circumstances are real
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but you have to believe in what you want
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if you want to get
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it you have to she had other people telling her oh
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yeah like she had faculty members telling her it's gonna be difficult this and
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that she got a job in a shorter amount of time than the person she was comparing to herself to
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that graduated like a year prior there are
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so many different examples i could give of this like i remember
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when i was living in miami
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and i thought it was just like such a horrible city today
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there's no one to date in my city like but does that beliefs support what you want?
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Or is it a collective narrative that you're allowing create your individual reality?
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Mindset upgrade number eight is to get extremely clear on what you want and then never settle for less.
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The way that you get caught settling is if you're not clear on what you want first.
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And the example that I want to share with you here is when I manifested my soulmate, I treated dating like an experiment.
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I have a whole episode on how I manifested my soulmate, so I'm not going to go too deep into the details here.
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But essentially, I had a very clear list of every little detail that I wanted in a partner.
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And when I met my fiance, it immediately felt like home.
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And then kind of whenever we got to know each other more,
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I realized that he checked every single box on my very long list, by the way.
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And this wasn't like a superficial list.
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It was a list of values and qualities and traits, but literally every single item on that list, he checked off.
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Truly, I remember having a conversation with my best friend at the time
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and us saying like it seems like he was made for you and I genuinely feel this way even to this day.
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Like God designed him specifically to be with me.
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I wish that for every single one of you listening
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and not just when it comes to a relationship but just for anything.
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Like get very clear on what you want and don't settle for less.
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I have this mentality with everything.
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Like I remember when I was trying to hire an accountant.
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I met with a potential accountant and I just didn't feel like the energy was right.
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So I kept looking and now I have the best accountant of all time.
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Literally, he's amazing.
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He does more than what I hire him for.
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Like literally like he does, he goes way beyond what his job requirements are.
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He's like become a friend.
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He's incredible.
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So anyway, never settle for less than what you want.
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Tiny mindset upgrade number nine is that just because you don't feel loved doesn't mean they don't love you.
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They might just not know how to love you.
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Just to be completely transparent, I'm not going to give too many details here because this person might come for me,
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but I don't have a relationship with multiple of the people in my family, like zero relationship.
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I haven't spoken to them in years.
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And for a long time, I felt really sad about that.
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And I'm talking like immediate family, not like cousins and aunts.
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I'm talking like immediate, like nuclear family
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and for a long time I felt really really sad about
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that and I beat myself up
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and I I felt like like why don't
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they love me like why why don't they love me it was the mindset
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and then I was working with my coach at the time
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and she said something that just completely changed the way
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that I felt and my ability to heal from it
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and move on
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but she said they love you they just don't know how to love
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you in a healthy way like they love you these two people they love you they do love you
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but they just don't have the tools they don't have the knowledge
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they don't know how to love you in a healthy way
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that changed everything for me because it went from being something
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that i was like lacking and reaching for
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and gripping like why don't you love me can i make
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you love me can i try to explain myself can i be good enough to realizing like oh wait no
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they do love me but it's just
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that like they don't even know how to love themselves in
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a healthy way like they don't know how to have a real healthy relationship
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so it's not that they don't love me it's just
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that they do love me and
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so it went from me like striving for their love to actually
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it becoming a choice like do I want to be in a relationship with this person
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that is only going to ever be able to love me in a toxic way
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or do I want to choose better for myself and hope
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that one day they heal and learn and I'll be here if they do.
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But that changed everything for me.
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And I remember I shared it with one of my good friends and she has an estranged relationship with her parents.
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And I shared my story with her and she was like, wow, that helps me so much because she's like,
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yeah, I feel like my parents don't love me, but they do love me.
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They just, this is how they know how to show love.
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And it's not necessarily how I want to receive it.
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And then it becomes your choice whether or not you want to receive it like that.
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So stop making another person's capacity to show love a reflection of your worth.
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And then mindset upgrade number 10 is to stop asking how you're going to do it
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and start asking who you need to become to do it.
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Who do you need to become to achieve the thing that you want?
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Yes.
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What you need to do is important.
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But a lot of the time we get caught up in planning like what do I need to do?
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What are the steps that I need to take?
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This, that, and the other and you get caught up in the planning stage and you're like, am I doing the right thing?
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Am I, you know, am I doing the right thing?
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And then maybe you're working against the mechanics of your brain too,
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because your brain holds a model of who you are based on your past, your identity, right?
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And it uses that model of who you are to predict your thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
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So as long as who you are is different from what you want, like, and who you want to be,
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you're going to be working against the mechanics of your brain to achieve what you want.
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And so when I stopped asking, you know, what do I need to do and forcing myself to do it and procrastinating,
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when I stopped doing that, and I just started asking, who is the version of me that gets what I want?
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Who is the version of me that lives the life
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that I want to live and I got very clear on the identity of who
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that is and then I just became her all of a sudden the life
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that I want the goal
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that I want to achieve it's inevitable like it happens by default
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because I'm so focused on the process of becoming who I want to be
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that when you become her when you become him you get it like it's just
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and then maybe you end up actually getting something even better than what you want
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or even more aligned with what you want because
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Because you're actually way more in alignment than
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if you were doing a whole bunch of random tasks that may or may not get you toward your goal.
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So who is the version of you that gets into the relationship, that gets the job, that builds the business?
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Who is that version of you?
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What are their habits?
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What's their mindset like?
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What are their beliefs like?
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What do they do every day?
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How do they show up?
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What's their energy like?
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How do they dress?
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How do they represent themselves?
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And when you go to work on that and you just become them, then that's all you really have to focus on.
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You don't have to worry about whether or not you're on the right track or whether or not you're doing the right.
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No, like I'm becoming the best version of myself.
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And when I become the best version of myself, reality starts to reflect the best back to me.
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And that's a powerful place to live.
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And that is all I have for you today.
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Like this video and subscribe.
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Really is helpful to like and subscribe, by the way.
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Also, I wrote a book and it's called Minecraft
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and it is officially available for preorder right now
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so you can check the link in the description or on my social medias.
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It's just on the brain.
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The link will be in my bio to pre -order.
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There's also going to be a link to RSVP
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and save your seat in my live free virtual masterclass where I break down the neuroscience of manifestation
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and reprogramming your subconscious mind.
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I actually go deep into what the neuroscience of the subconscious mind actually is.
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That's free and available to you.
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So click the link and RSVP, if you've never been to the class, you should come.
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Every single time people come to that class, they are always just having like amazing transformations.
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Like truly, I get messages from people off of that class telling me about the things they manifest.
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So it's really, really incredible.
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And then finally, I am also going on tour.
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This is a live in -person tour.
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Click the link in the description to RSVP for your city.
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Please do this because we are actually finalizing the cities that we are going to be coming to on tour.
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And literally one of the people on my team is like, dang, I'm sad.
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This one city isn't, isn't winning.
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And I really wanted you to come to that city because I have family in that city.
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And I'm like, yeah, well, no one's voting for their city.
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And if you don't vote for your city, we literally won't come there.
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So RSVP for your city.
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That's also how you're going to get on the VIP list to get first access to the tickets.
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And for this tour, we are doing a bit more of like an intimate setting.
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So you'll definitely want to be on the VIP list to get first access.
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Anyway, I am sending you so much love.
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I believe in you.
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I'm rooting for you.
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You've got this.
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Why don't you just go have an amazing rest of your day, an amazing rest of your week, and I'll see you soon.
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Bye.
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Thank you.
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Belangrijke woorden in deze video
15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| mindset zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/ | mentaliteit, ingelsteldheid |
| surrender werkwoord | /səˈɹɛndə(ɹ)/ | zich overgeven, capituleren |
| belief zelfstandig naamwoord | /bɪˈliːf/ | geloof |
| narrative zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈnæɹ.ə.tɪv/ | verhaal, vertelling |
| collective bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /kəˈlɛktɪv/ | collectief |
| addiction zelfstandig naamwoord | /əˈdɪkˌʃən/ | verslaving, verslaafdheid |
| perceive werkwoord | /pɚˈsiv/ | waarnemen |
| spiritual bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/ | geestelijk, spiritueel |
| define werkwoord | /dɪˈfaɪn/ | bepalen, determineren |
| trigger zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈtɹɪɡɚ/ | trekker |
| norm zelfstandig naamwoord | /nɔːm/ | norm |
| stripe zelfstandig naamwoord | /stɹaɪp/ | streep |
| necessarily bijwoord | /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/ | nodig, noodzakelijk |
| angel zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈeɪ̯n.d͡ʒəl/ | engel |
| deny werkwoord | /dəˈnaɪ/ | ontkennen |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| end up werkwoord | belanden, terechtkomen | |
| figure out werkwoord | uitvogelen, er achter komen | |
| grow up werkwoord | opgroeien | |
| break down werkwoord | stukgaan, kapot gaan | |
| come up with werkwoord | bedenken, verzinnen | |
| look back werkwoord | achterom kijken, terugkijken | |
| show up werkwoord | tentoonstellen | |
| work out werkwoord | /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ | uitrekenen |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- Because your brain doesn't just listen to your thoughts.
- It listens to who you're being.
- Why am I being shown this?
- What are the steps that I need to take?
- Who is that version of you?
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | I've made · you've been programmed · have experienced |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | are actually based · being made · was diagnosed |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | five, which is · illusion, which is |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 164 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals don't, I'm, you're. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: pathway /ˈpæθˌweɪ/, strengthen /ˈstɹɛŋ(k)θən/, gather /ˈɡæðɚ/, thrive /θɹajv/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: addiction /əˈdɪkˌʃən/, delusional /dɪˈluːʒənəl/, graduation /ˌɡɹæd͡ʒuˈeɪʃən/, sensation /sɛnˈseɪʃən/, examination /ɪɡˌzæm.ɪˈneɪ.ʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: delusional /dɪˈluːʒənəl/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, graduation /ˌɡɹæd͡ʒuˈeɪʃən/, experiment /ɪkˈspɛɹ.ə.mənt/, examination /ɪɡˌzæm.ɪˈneɪ.ʃən/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: upgrade /əpˈɡɹeɪd/, narrative /ˈnæɹ.ə.tɪv/, collective /kəˈlɛktɪv/, perceive /pɚˈsiv/, subscribe /səbˈskɹaɪb/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: narrative /ˈnæɹ.ə.tɪv/, faculty /ˈfæk.əl.ti/, graduation /ˌɡɹæd͡ʒuˈeɪʃən/, pathway /ˈpæθˌweɪ/, manifest /ˈmæn.ɪ.fɛst/
- /g/ — een harde plofklank, geen Nederlandse “g”: upgrade /əpˈɡɹeɪd/, trigger /ˈtɹɪɡɚ/, yoga /ˈjoʊ.ɡə/, graduation /ˌɡɹæd͡ʒuˈeɪʃən/, examination /ɪɡˌzæm.ɪˈneɪ.ʃən/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als mindset, surrender, belief.
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