Shadowing Practice: Hot takes on relationships - Learn English Speaking with Video
Les maken...
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Hi, hello.
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You guys are gonna have to bear with me here for a moment
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because I feel like I'm losing my voice because I have failed to drink water today.
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So I just chugged a whole bunch of water and I feel it lubricating my vocal cords.
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But on the other hand, I also feel like a shriveled up fish sitting on the beach dying in the sunlight.
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But I'm having a thought on relationships that I feel like someone out there needs to hear because, okay, in relationships and in the universe,
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all the love that's meant to find you will always find you whether it is through this person
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or this person because I think a lot of the times
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when it comes to relationships we think that we have found the one
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and this person this one in eight billion people is the only person
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that is ever going to exist in the history of the universe for us.
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And if this person doesn't love us back the way that we love them, then automatically the whole system is fucked.
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We're fucked.
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We're never going to be loved.
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All of this stuff.
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There are 8 billion people out there.
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There are 8 billion people out there.
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Okay.
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Obviously we have to categorize it down into, you know, people that you actually like, people that could like you, all of these different factors,
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but there is at least like a hundred thousand people out there that likes every single person.
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There are multiple matches for an individual person.
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So I was having this conversation with my friend about relationships and like things she's going through with her partner and everything.
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We were having this conversation of like, oh my God, if it's not this person, if it's not this guy,
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if it's not him, then like I don't think anyone else in the universe will ever be as loving
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and kind and caring as this person.
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Do you really discount the universe that much to think that the love that is meant for you won't find you always?
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Because, okay, when a person loves you, what even is that?
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Like, it's obviously, it's a release of brain chemicals.
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It's them finding you attractive, all of these things.
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But I like to think that love
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is almost like the universe or God places this feeling in the hearts of certain people,
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of two certain people, that they are now going to love
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and care for each other in this life the way that God and the universe cares for us every single day.
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And this feeling is placed down in our heart from the universe
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so that we can feel this special connection of oneness and unity with this one specific person at this one specific moment.
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And obviously there's things like ego and emotions
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that get in the way of that love fully expressing itself to that other person or you even fully receiving that love.
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But when it's the right person and the right time, it's effortless and it just feels incredible.
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But do you really think that the universe or God
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or Allah doesn't look down and see you with all your beauty
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and all your goodness and all your deserving and all of your wonder
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and say all this love that I feel for you my child is going to find you.
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Meaning that the love that is meant for you bounces around from person to person to person until it finds a body,
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a person, that is low in ego and stable in emotion enough to actually give that love to you.
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And then you have to be in a stable emotional place and of low ego to receive that love.
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so truth be told any two people can love each other it just comes down to similar life goals
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and it comes down to just accepting that that is your person
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and loving them with all you are and having the emotional maturity to do that so
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if you're stuck in any kind of situation where you think oh my god i've lost my person
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and that person hurt you or that person didn't know how to give you love or that person, it just didn't work out for whatever reason.
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It wasn't, how do I explain this thought that I'm having?
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The love they felt in their heart will find its way into another vessel to channel
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that same level of love into your life that you are deserving of.
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The same way, like I've had a lot of cats in my life.
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When one cat dies, the love that I had for
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that cat and the love that that cat had for me gets transferred into another body, another cat.
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And obviously this new cat has a different personality, a different way of living, a different name, a different coat, different fur.
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And obviously this new cat is different,
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but the same level of love has always found me within each cat that comes into my life.
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And they've always been this amazing, lovely experience.
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Obviously a little bit different per cat, but each time I have felt an equal or greater level of love from that creature.
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And I really do believe that each and every human being is sent an equal level of love.
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But the thing that gets in the way of us getting that love, because the love that we're meant to give out into the world is placed in each
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and every one of our hearts like a seed that's been planted.
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And the thing
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that gets in the way of us connecting to any other
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human being at such a deep level is just ego and emotional maturity.
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So the best thing you can do if you want to get into a good relationship, especially this year or this month or this week,
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is go to fucking therapy, number one.
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Number two, learn how to let go of your ego and understand multiple things that come around with that.
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But do some research into letting down your ego and regulating your emotions because the more open your heart space is,
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the more it is able to give and receive love.
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And of course, the reason why a lot of us get hurt isn't because we aren't good and loving individuals.
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It's because the love in someone else's heart is being blocked by their ego or their emotional immaturity.
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and we get caught in the crossfires of that.
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So if you've been someone who's been caught in the crossfires of the one you love being painful to you, understand that that wasn't you.
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That was just human error and misjudgment on their part
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because they did not know how to give the love
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that they felt and understand
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that all the love they felt will find its way back
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to you in the form of another person it will alchemize
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it will manifest it will reincarnate into someone else you just have to be willing
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and open to improve yourself in the meanwhile be open to
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that experience and accept love when it does come another thought
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that i've been having in relation to love in relationships is
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the phrase you can't love someone else until you love yourself
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and i want to re-emphasize this by saying
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that love is a responsibility you need to be your best self
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because okay when you get into a relationship
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when you get into a marriage when you choose to have a kid with someone.
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All of these are responsibilities and privileges.
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These are not things that should happen lightly.
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You should be in a good financial place, preferably, just because if you have a kid
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and they want to do something like soccer
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or they want to do something like hockey or they want to do something like ballet, in my case, that takes a huge financial toll on a family.
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A good financial place is a good place to be in before you have a kid, just in case the kid's super smart, wants to going to private schooling
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or they have some big crazy dream they want to chase
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or just to have basic child care like be able to buy diapers
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and buy food and not have them ever have to worry about money until they're 18
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and they're out living in the world you know
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but have them not worry about money
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while they live with you you need to be in a good emotional place
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so that you're not damaging this child or traumatizing it simply
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because of your own emotional immaturity you need to be in
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a good physical place where you take care of yourself
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and you know how to take care of yourself and your body so that you'll live long for this child, for this marriage, for this relationship.
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How I feel like we go about relationships way too casually, where we either get into a relationship because we want to experience it, which there's nothing wrong with that.
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If you want to get into a relationship just to experience what it's like
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or just to understand how to get close to a person, everyone goes through that period in their life.
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But once you get over the hump of new experiences, there's definitely a period of maturity and understanding the privilege it takes to love someone
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because obviously your partner whoever you're in a relationship with
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or in a marriage with helps you grow as an individual
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but in order to best support your partner
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and also to make the relationship nourish itself and thrive you have to be your best self because it is very frustrating
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for your partner to have to watch you struggle.
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It's very difficult for anyone to have to watch anyone struggle.
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I know that the times I've been in hospital or I've been dealing with a lot of issues on my own, how like painful it was to look in the eyes of the people
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that I love as they had to watch me go through that.
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And of course, supporting and loving someone is a part of a relationship, a family, a friendship.
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But if you are someone who perpetuates their issues and drags things on longer than they should,
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or there's just something in your life that's been nagging you for years that you can't seem to solve or fix, you bring that into the relationship.
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And in order for you to be able to nurture something so precious,
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it is required that you are the best person you can be, or at least the best person you can be in this moment.
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To not backslide on your bad habits, to have a goal and a vision of who you are going to become, to take care of yourself, to love and honor your partner,
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even when things get busy, even when things get hard.
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and I was also thinking about what a privilege it is to have a marriage and to have a kid.
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We go about it very casually.
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Of course if casual is how you want to live your life
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and how you go about having children and how you go about having marriages
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and all of this then that is perfectly fine and that's you.
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But I was thinking how serious relationships actually are but we treat them so fucking casually, it kind of pisses me off.
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Because okay, when you are loving someone or in a relationship with someone, you are saying essentially, this is the person,
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the one in 8 billion people I am going to choose to honor, respect, love, take care of,
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provide for, for the rest of their lives.
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They are my responsibility, my privilege to get to experience.
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This person
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is mine this person not only do i get to live my life i get to live their life
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and how when we choose to have a kid with
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that person we are choosing to bring a human life into
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this earth with them say we are going to raise this kid together nurture it take care of it
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and then also i was thinking about how serious a marriage actually is
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that we don't give as much merit to it because like
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when you're in a marriage you really have to be on
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your a-game you really have to be on your a-game
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because you live with this person you're around this person 24 7 this person sees the ins
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and outs of who you are they see every bad habit you carry they see every moment
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that you slack they see every moment you give up on
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yourself you they see every moment you give up on them they see everything
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and not only that but it is their job to uplift you push you motivate you
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but it starts to become a huge drag on your partner
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if you aren't your best self because it's almost like they got to drag you along for the ride.
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I don't think you have to love yourself in order to love someone else.
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Sometimes you have to learn to love yourself through being in a relationship
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or through being in a friendship and they kind of help you up and pick you up and get you going.
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There's also a point where you have to turn to yourself and pick yourself up and say
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I love this person enough to be my best self
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so they no longer have to see me struggle
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and almost through the loving of this other person they breathe life into you
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and you breathe life into them
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and I don't know those are all the complex thoughts I've been having about love recently
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so I wanted to share them because you guys seem to like it
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when I talk about relationships
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because I feel like I have a very nuanced way of viewing relationships
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because my love likes a mess um no
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but it's not it's actually great but my cats are running all over
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so if you're hearing anything that's what you're hearing
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but I just wanted to share this um I hope we're
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having a great day I hope you guys are doing well I love you all very much have a great day
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau B2 is gebaseerd op de video “Hot takes on relationships”. Deze video bevat 168 zinnen en 2400 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 13:24. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 179 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 90% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| privilege zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈpɹɪv.(ɪ.)lɪd͡ʒ/ | voorrecht, privilege |
| maturity zelfstandig naamwoord | /məˈtjʊəɹɪti/ | maturiteit, rijpheid |
| emotion zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | emotie |
| immaturity zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɪməˈt͡ʃʊɹɪti/ | onvolwassenheid |
| effortless bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈɛfə(ɹ)tlɪs/ | moeiteloos |
| frustrate werkwoord | /ˈfɹʌsˌtɹeɪt/ | frustreren |
| lubricate werkwoord | /ˈluːbrɪkeɪt/ | smeren |
| misjudgment zelfstandig naamwoord | verkeerd oordeel, verkeerde inschatting | |
| nuance zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈnjuː.ɑːns/ | nuance |
| oneness zelfstandig naamwoord | eenheid | |
| perpetuate werkwoord | /pɚˈpɛt͡ʃəˌweɪt/ | vereeuwigen |
| reincarnate werkwoord | reïncarneren | |
| shrivel werkwoord | /ˈʃɹɪvəl/ | verschrompelen |
| traumatize werkwoord | /ˈtɹɔ.mə.taɪz/ | traumatiseren |
| motivate werkwoord | /ˈmoʊ.tɪ.veɪt/ | motiveren |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Betekenis |
|---|---|
| let down werkwoord | teleurstellen |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- We're never going to be loved.
- Because, okay, when a person loves you, what even is that?
- It's them finding you attractive, all of these things.
- It wasn't, how do I explain this thought that I'm having?
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — iets dat eerder begon en nog bezig is | i've been having · I've been dealing |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | is fucked · be loved · is meant |
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | have failed · have found · i've lost |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 42 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, I've, don't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: casually /ˈkæʒuəli/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, nourish /ˈnʌɹ.ɪʃ/, shrivel /ˈʃɹɪvəl/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: maturity /məˈtjʊəɹɪti/, immaturity /ɪməˈt͡ʃʊɹɪti/, categorize /ˈkætɪɡəˌɹaɪz/, perpetuate /pɚˈpɛt͡ʃəˌweɪt/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als privilege, maturity, emotion.
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