Shadowing Practice: Why Knowing Better Doesn’t Help in the Moment - Learn English Speaking with Video
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You've read the books, you know the tools, you could probably explain them to someone else, and maybe you have.
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You know you shouldn't send the reply tonight, and you know that raising your voice won't help.
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You know how to take a breath and step back, and when the moment comes, none of that knowledge shows up.
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Afterwards, you replay it and think, I know exactly what to do, why can't I do it?
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I'm Dr. Tracy Marks, a psychiatrist, and I teach practical neuroscience that helps high performers stay sharp under pressure.
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Today, I'm talking about why understanding what to do often disappears right
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when you need it in a way that you can set yourself up so that it does it.
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If you're someone who's thoughtful and self -aware, this could be a really frustrating experience.
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See if any of these three scenarios sound familiar to you.
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One, you go to a family dinner and on the drive over, you tell yourself you're not going to take the bait this time.
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You know exactly what your brother is going to say and you've even planned what you'll do.
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20 minutes in, he says it and you're right back in the same argument that you've had for years.
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Two, it's late and you've been reading a message that got under your skin.
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You know the rule, don't reply tonight, just sleep on it.
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But you're already typing and part of you is watching yourself do it.
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Three, you're good at calming other people down.
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People come to you when they're upset and you know what to say.
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But when it's you, you can't reach any of it.
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You tell yourself to calm down, and it doesn't touch what you're feeling.
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If anything, now you're upset and frustrated that you can't calm down.
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And the next morning, when you're calm again, it all just seems so obvious.
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You can see exactly where you could have paused and what you could have said.
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And the clarity is right there.
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It just wasn't there when you needed it.
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If this is you, you don't have a knowledge problem.
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You have an access problem.
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Let me explain what's going on.
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There's a concept in behavioral science called the hot -cold empathy gap.
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It comes from the economist and psychologist Dr. George Lowenstein at Carnegie Mellon.
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The idea is that when you're in a calm state, which he calls a cold state,
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you tend to underestimate how much a strong feeling will drive your behavior once you're in a hot state.
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Research on this has looked at things like cravings and the pattern holds.
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People who aren't in the grip of a strong urge tend to misjudge how they will act when they are.
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That means the calm version of you is making plans for a version of you that won't be calm.
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Your plan of, I just won't take the bait, was made by someone who wasn't feeling the heat.
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And a plan like that only works if you can think clearly when it's time to use it.
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And that's the second piece.
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When you're under pressure, the prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain that helps you pause and choose your response, has a harder time doing its job.
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Stress weakens its control, while the alarm system in your brain gets more reactive.
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Now, think about what most of the advice you know says to do.
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Reframe the situation.
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Consider other people's point of view.
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Remind yourself what matters.
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Those are all good skills, and they all rely on thinking part of your brain.
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When researchers give people a choice of how to handle something upsetting, the more intense the feeling, the more people choose to think about something neutral,
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like what they need to pick up at the store, instead of trying to see the situation differently.
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Thinking through it takes some processing time, and intense emotion can move faster than you can think it through.
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So it isn't that your insight is wrong or that you haven't learned enough.
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Your insight lives inside a state of mind that you're not in when things heat up.
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In other words, when you're upset, what you know is much harder to use.
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So what can you do?
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Close the gap ahead of time.
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Let your calm self make the decision so that your heated self doesn't have to.
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And this is done with what's called an if -then plan.
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You decide in advance.
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If this specific thing happens, I'll do this specific thing.
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For example, if I feel heat in my chest while I'm reading a message, then I'll put the phone face down and stand up.
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If my brother brings up that topic, then I'll say, I'm going to grab some water and step out of the room.
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Or if I hear my voice getting louder, then I'll stop talking and take one slow breath before I say anything else.
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Notice what these have in common.
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The if is something that you can notice in your body or your surroundings, not something that you have to figure out.
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And the then is a small physical action.
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There's no reframing, no reasoning required in the moment.
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You just follow the plan.
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There's a lot of research behind this.
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The psychologist, Dr. Peter Goldwitzer, and his colleagues have studied if -then plans for decades.
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And a large review of that research found that they help people follow through on what they intend to do, including managing their emotions.
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Part of why they work is that once you've made the plan, the situation itself becomes your cue.
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You don't have to figure out what to do in the moment because you've already decided.
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A few tips to make this work.
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Pick one situation that keeps happening.
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Don't try to plan for everything.
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Make the if as specific as you can.
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When I get stressed is just too vague, but when I feel my jaw tighten or when I start typing a reply after 9 p .m at night,
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That's something that you can actually catch.
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Also, keep the then small enough so that you'll do it on your worst day.
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And say it to yourself a few times or write it down.
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You want it to be familiar before you need it.
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If you've been frustrated with yourself for knowing better and yet not doing better, I hope this gives you a different way to look at it.
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That gap doesn't have to mean you're not self -aware enough or that you haven't done enough work on yourself.
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It just means that you've been asking your heated self to do a job only your calm self can do.
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The good news is most of your time is spent calm, or at least I hope it is.
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That's when you can decide what you'll do the next time things heat up
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so that you're not trying to figure it out in the moment.
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In my next video, I'll talk about why you can still feel wound up hours after something is over, even when it's been handled.
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If you're not already subscribed, subscribe so that you don't miss it.
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Thanks for watching today.
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See you next time.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles is gebaseerd op de video “Why Knowing Better Doesn’t Help in the Moment”. Deze video bevat 88 zinnen en 1210 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 6:24. De spreker praat snel, ongeveer 189 woorden per minuut, dus reken op verbonden en ingeslikte klanken. 89% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| breathe werkwoord | /bɹiːð/ | ademen, ademhalen |
| emotion zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | emotie |
| insight zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈɪnsaɪ̯t/ | inzicht |
| subscribe werkwoord | /səbˈskɹaɪb/ | abonneren |
| pause zelfstandig naamwoord | /pɔːz/ | pauze |
| bait zelfstandig naamwoord | /beɪt/ | aas, lokaas |
| psychologist zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/ | psycholoog, psychologe |
| topic zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | onderwerp, thema |
| practical bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/ | praktisch |
| sharp bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ʃɑɹp/ | scherp, puntig |
| afterwards bijwoord | /ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/ | nadien, achteraf |
| skill zelfstandig naamwoord | /skɪl/ | bekwaamheid, vaardigheid |
| remind werkwoord | /ɹəˈmaɪnd/ | herinneren |
| rely werkwoord | /ɹɪˈlaɪ/ | rekenen op |
| alarm zelfstandig naamwoord | /əˈlɑɹm/ | alarmkreet |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Betekenis |
|---|---|
| calm down werkwoord | bedaren |
| figure out werkwoord | uitvogelen, er achter komen |
| bring up werkwoord | opvoeden |
| show up werkwoord | tentoonstellen |
| stand up werkwoord | opstaan |
| think through werkwoord | doordenken |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- Three, you're good at calming other people down.
- It just wasn't there when you needed it.
- Let me explain what's going on.
- That's something that you can actually catch.
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Voorwaardelijke zinnen if + zin, will/would + werkwoord — een voorwaarde en het gevolg | If this specific thing happens, I'll do |
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — iets dat eerder begon en nog bezig is | you've been reading · you've been asking |
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | You've read · you've even planned · has looked |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | was made · is done · you've been frustrated |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 58 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, you've, don't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: breathe /bɹiːð/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, sharp /ʃɑɹp/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, economist /iˈkɑ.nə.mɪst/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, psychiatrist /ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: subscribe /səbˈskɹaɪb/, pause /pɔːz/, afterwards /ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/, remind /ɹəˈmaɪnd/, urge /ɜːd͡ʒ/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: practical /ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/, afterwards /ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/, clarity /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.ti/, reactive /ɹiːˈæktɪv/
- /g/ — een harde plofklank, geen Nederlandse “g”: grip /ˈɡɹɪp/, colleague /ˈkɒliːɡ/, vague /veɪɡ/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als breathe, emotion, insight.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.