跟讀練習: Why Knowing Better Doesn’t Help in the Moment - 通過影片學習英語口語

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You've read the books, you know the tools, you could probably explain them to someone else, and maybe you have.

You know you shouldn't send the reply tonight, and you know that raising your voice won't help.

You know how to take a breath and step back, and when the moment comes, none of that knowledge shows up.

Afterwards, you replay it and think, I know exactly what to do, why can't I do it?

I'm Dr. Tracy Marks, a psychiatrist, and I teach practical neuroscience that helps high performers stay sharp under pressure.

Today, I'm talking about why understanding what to do often disappears right

when you need it in a way that you can set yourself up so that it does it.

If you're someone who's thoughtful and self -aware, this could be a really frustrating experience.

See if any of these three scenarios sound familiar to you.

One, you go to a family dinner and on the drive over, you tell yourself you're not going to take the bait this time.

You know exactly what your brother is going to say and you've even planned what you'll do.

20 minutes in, he says it and you're right back in the same argument that you've had for years.

Two, it's late and you've been reading a message that got under your skin.

You know the rule, don't reply tonight, just sleep on it.

But you're already typing and part of you is watching yourself do it.

Three, you're good at calming other people down.

People come to you when they're upset and you know what to say.

But when it's you, you can't reach any of it.

You tell yourself to calm down, and it doesn't touch what you're feeling.

If anything, now you're upset and frustrated that you can't calm down.

And the next morning, when you're calm again, it all just seems so obvious.

You can see exactly where you could have paused and what you could have said.

And the clarity is right there.

It just wasn't there when you needed it.

If this is you, you don't have a knowledge problem.

You have an access problem.

Let me explain what's going on.

There's a concept in behavioral science called the hot -cold empathy gap.

It comes from the economist and psychologist Dr. George Lowenstein at Carnegie Mellon.

The idea is that when you're in a calm state, which he calls a cold state,

you tend to underestimate how much a strong feeling will drive your behavior once you're in a hot state.

Research on this has looked at things like cravings and the pattern holds.

People who aren't in the grip of a strong urge tend to misjudge how they will act when they are.

That means the calm version of you is making plans for a version of you that won't be calm.

Your plan of, I just won't take the bait, was made by someone who wasn't feeling the heat.

And a plan like that only works if you can think clearly when it's time to use it.

And that's the second piece.

When you're under pressure, the prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain that helps you pause and choose your response, has a harder time doing its job.

Stress weakens its control, while the alarm system in your brain gets more reactive.

Now, think about what most of the advice you know says to do.

Reframe the situation.

Consider other people's point of view.

Remind yourself what matters.

Those are all good skills, and they all rely on thinking part of your brain.

When researchers give people a choice of how to handle something upsetting, the more intense the feeling, the more people choose to think about something neutral,

like what they need to pick up at the store, instead of trying to see the situation differently.

Thinking through it takes some processing time, and intense emotion can move faster than you can think it through.

So it isn't that your insight is wrong or that you haven't learned enough.

Your insight lives inside a state of mind that you're not in when things heat up.

In other words, when you're upset, what you know is much harder to use.

So what can you do?

Close the gap ahead of time.

Let your calm self make the decision so that your heated self doesn't have to.

And this is done with what's called an if -then plan.

You decide in advance.

If this specific thing happens, I'll do this specific thing.

For example, if I feel heat in my chest while I'm reading a message, then I'll put the phone face down and stand up.

If my brother brings up that topic, then I'll say, I'm going to grab some water and step out of the room.

Or if I hear my voice getting louder, then I'll stop talking and take one slow breath before I say anything else.

Notice what these have in common.

The if is something that you can notice in your body or your surroundings, not something that you have to figure out.

And the then is a small physical action.

There's no reframing, no reasoning required in the moment.

You just follow the plan.

There's a lot of research behind this.

The psychologist, Dr. Peter Goldwitzer, and his colleagues have studied if -then plans for decades.

And a large review of that research found that they help people follow through on what they intend to do, including managing their emotions.

Part of why they work is that once you've made the plan, the situation itself becomes your cue.

You don't have to figure out what to do in the moment because you've already decided.

A few tips to make this work.

Pick one situation that keeps happening.

Don't try to plan for everything.

Make the if as specific as you can.

When I get stressed is just too vague, but when I feel my jaw tighten or when I start typing a reply after 9 p .m at night,

That's something that you can actually catch.

Also, keep the then small enough so that you'll do it on your worst day.

And say it to yourself a few times or write it down.

You want it to be familiar before you need it.

If you've been frustrated with yourself for knowing better and yet not doing better, I hope this gives you a different way to look at it.

That gap doesn't have to mean you're not self -aware enough or that you haven't done enough work on yourself.

It just means that you've been asking your heated self to do a job only your calm self can do.

The good news is most of your time is spent calm, or at least I hope it is.

That's when you can decide what you'll do the next time things heat up

so that you're not trying to figure it out in the moment.

In my next video, I'll talk about why you can still feel wound up hours after something is over, even when it's been handled.

If you're not already subscribed, subscribe so that you don't miss it.

Thanks for watching today.

See you next time.

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本課的詞彙與口語要點

這節口語課以影片“Why Knowing Better Doesn’t Help in the Moment”為素材。這段影片共有 88 個句子、1210 個單詞可供跟讀。講話部分時長為 6:24。說話人語速較快，每分鐘約 189 個詞，會出現較多連讀和弱讀。 89% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，詞彙容易理解。

影片中的重點詞彙

影片中 15 個值得學習的單詞，附發音和釋義：

單詞	發音	釋義
breathe 動詞	/bɹiːð/	呼吸, 吸
emotion 名詞	/ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/	感情, 情感
insight 名詞	/ˈɪnsaɪ̯t/	見地 /見地
subscribe 動詞	/səbˈskɹaɪb/	簽署 /簽署
pause 名詞	/pɔːz/	停頓 /停頓, 暫停 /暫停
bait 名詞	/beɪt/	誘餌 /誘餌, 魚餌 /魚餌
psychologist 名詞	/ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/	心理學家 /心理學家
topic 名詞	/ˈtɑpɪk/	主題 /主題, 話題 /話題
practical 形容詞	/ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/	使用的, 實用 /實用
sharp 形容詞	/ʃɑɹp/	銳利 /銳利, 尖銳 /尖銳
afterwards 副詞	/ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/	然後 /然後
skill 名詞	/skɪl/	技巧, 技能
remind 動詞	/ɹəˈmaɪnd/	提醒
rely 動詞	/ɹɪˈlaɪ/	依賴 /依賴, 依靠
alarm 名詞	/əˈlɑɹm/	警報 /警報

影片中出現的短語動詞

單詞	釋義
calm down 動詞	冷靜下來 /冷靜下來, 平靜下來 /平靜下來
figure out 動詞	弄清楚
heat up 動詞	加熱 /加熱
bring up 動詞	撫養 /撫養, 養大 /養大
show up 動詞	露面
stand up 動詞	站起來 /站起來, 起來 /起來

值得反覆跟讀的句子

影片中簡短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常對話裡：

Three, you're good at calming other people down.
It just wasn't there when you needed it.
Let me explain what's going on.
That's something that you can actually catch.

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
條件句 if + 從句，will/would + 動詞 — 條件及其結果	If this specific thing happens, I'll do
現在完成進行時 have/has been + -ing — 以前開始、現在仍在繼續的動作	you've been reading · you've been asking
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	You've read · you've even planned · you've had
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	was made · you've been frustrated · is spent

需要注意的發音

說話人用了 58 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 you're, you've, don't。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。

“th” 音: breathe /bɹiːð/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/
“sh” 和 “zh” 音: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, sharp /ʃɑɹp/
長單詞——注意重音位置: psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, economist /iˈkɑ.nə.mɪst/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, psychiatrist /ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/

中文母語者容易讀錯的音：

/v/ — 不要讀成 /w/，上齒輕觸下唇: vague /veɪɡ/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, craving /ˈkɹeɪ.vɪŋ/, reactive /ɹiːˈæktɪv/
詞尾子音 — 要讀清楚，後面不要加母音: intense /ɪnˈtɛns/, insight /ˈɪnsaɪ̯t/, subscribe /səbˈskɹaɪb/, pause /pɔːz/, bait /beɪt/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的區別: practical /ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/, rely /ɹɪˈlaɪ/, alarm /əˈlɑɹm/, neutral /ˈnuː.tɹəl/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/

如何用這段影片練習

先完整聽一遍影片，不要開口，記下不認識的單詞。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟讀，熟練之後再回到正常速度。
錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 breathe, emotion, insight 這類單詞。

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