Pratique du Shadowing: Why Knowing Better Doesn’t Help in the Moment - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo
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You've read the books, you know the tools, you could probably explain them to someone else, and maybe you have.
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You know you shouldn't send the reply tonight, and you know that raising your voice won't help.
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You know how to take a breath and step back, and when the moment comes, none of that knowledge shows up.
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Afterwards, you replay it and think, I know exactly what to do, why can't I do it?
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I'm Dr. Tracy Marks, a psychiatrist, and I teach practical neuroscience that helps high performers stay sharp under pressure.
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Today, I'm talking about why understanding what to do often disappears right
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when you need it in a way that you can set yourself up so that it does it.
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If you're someone who's thoughtful and self -aware, this could be a really frustrating experience.
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See if any of these three scenarios sound familiar to you.
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One, you go to a family dinner and on the drive over, you tell yourself you're not going to take the bait this time.
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You know exactly what your brother is going to say and you've even planned what you'll do.
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20 minutes in, he says it and you're right back in the same argument that you've had for years.
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Two, it's late and you've been reading a message that got under your skin.
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You know the rule, don't reply tonight, just sleep on it.
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But you're already typing and part of you is watching yourself do it.
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Three, you're good at calming other people down.
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People come to you when they're upset and you know what to say.
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But when it's you, you can't reach any of it.
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You tell yourself to calm down, and it doesn't touch what you're feeling.
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If anything, now you're upset and frustrated that you can't calm down.
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And the next morning, when you're calm again, it all just seems so obvious.
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You can see exactly where you could have paused and what you could have said.
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And the clarity is right there.
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It just wasn't there when you needed it.
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If this is you, you don't have a knowledge problem.
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You have an access problem.
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Let me explain what's going on.
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There's a concept in behavioral science called the hot -cold empathy gap.
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It comes from the economist and psychologist Dr. George Lowenstein at Carnegie Mellon.
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The idea is that when you're in a calm state, which he calls a cold state,
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you tend to underestimate how much a strong feeling will drive your behavior once you're in a hot state.
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Research on this has looked at things like cravings and the pattern holds.
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People who aren't in the grip of a strong urge tend to misjudge how they will act when they are.
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That means the calm version of you is making plans for a version of you that won't be calm.
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Your plan of, I just won't take the bait, was made by someone who wasn't feeling the heat.
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And a plan like that only works if you can think clearly when it's time to use it.
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And that's the second piece.
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When you're under pressure, the prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain that helps you pause and choose your response, has a harder time doing its job.
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Stress weakens its control, while the alarm system in your brain gets more reactive.
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Now, think about what most of the advice you know says to do.
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Reframe the situation.
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Consider other people's point of view.
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Remind yourself what matters.
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Those are all good skills, and they all rely on thinking part of your brain.
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When researchers give people a choice of how to handle something upsetting, the more intense the feeling, the more people choose to think about something neutral,
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like what they need to pick up at the store, instead of trying to see the situation differently.
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Thinking through it takes some processing time, and intense emotion can move faster than you can think it through.
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So it isn't that your insight is wrong or that you haven't learned enough.
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Your insight lives inside a state of mind that you're not in when things heat up.
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In other words, when you're upset, what you know is much harder to use.
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So what can you do?
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Close the gap ahead of time.
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Let your calm self make the decision so that your heated self doesn't have to.
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And this is done with what's called an if -then plan.
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You decide in advance.
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If this specific thing happens, I'll do this specific thing.
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For example, if I feel heat in my chest while I'm reading a message, then I'll put the phone face down and stand up.
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If my brother brings up that topic, then I'll say, I'm going to grab some water and step out of the room.
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Or if I hear my voice getting louder, then I'll stop talking and take one slow breath before I say anything else.
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Notice what these have in common.
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The if is something that you can notice in your body or your surroundings, not something that you have to figure out.
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And the then is a small physical action.
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There's no reframing, no reasoning required in the moment.
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You just follow the plan.
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There's a lot of research behind this.
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The psychologist, Dr. Peter Goldwitzer, and his colleagues have studied if -then plans for decades.
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And a large review of that research found that they help people follow through on what they intend to do, including managing their emotions.
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Part of why they work is that once you've made the plan, the situation itself becomes your cue.
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You don't have to figure out what to do in the moment because you've already decided.
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A few tips to make this work.
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Pick one situation that keeps happening.
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Don't try to plan for everything.
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Make the if as specific as you can.
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When I get stressed is just too vague, but when I feel my jaw tighten or when I start typing a reply after 9 p .m at night,
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That's something that you can actually catch.
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Also, keep the then small enough so that you'll do it on your worst day.
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And say it to yourself a few times or write it down.
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You want it to be familiar before you need it.
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If you've been frustrated with yourself for knowing better and yet not doing better, I hope this gives you a different way to look at it.
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That gap doesn't have to mean you're not self -aware enough or that you haven't done enough work on yourself.
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It just means that you've been asking your heated self to do a job only your calm self can do.
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The good news is most of your time is spent calm, or at least I hope it is.
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That's when you can decide what you'll do the next time things heat up
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so that you're not trying to figure it out in the moment.
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In my next video, I'll talk about why you can still feel wound up hours after something is over, even when it's been handled.
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If you're not already subscribed, subscribe so that you don't miss it.
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Thanks for watching today.
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See you next time.
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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon
Cette leçon d’expression orale s’appuie sur la vidéo « Why Knowing Better Doesn’t Help in the Moment ». Cette vidéo contient 88 phrases et 1210 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 6:24. Le locuteur parle vite, environ 189 mots par minute : attendez-vous à des liaisons et à des sons réduits. 89 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais, le vocabulaire est donc facile à suivre.
Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo
15 mots de la vidéo à retenir, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| breathe verbe | /bɹiːð/ | respirer, inspirer |
| emotion nom | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | émotion |
| insight nom | /ˈɪnsaɪ̯t/ | introspection |
| subscribe verbe | /səbˈskɹaɪb/ | abonner, s'abonner |
| pause nom | /pɔːz/ | pause |
| bait nom | /beɪt/ | appât |
| psychologist nom | /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/ | psychologue |
| topic nom | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | sujet, thème |
| practical adjectif | /ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/ | pratique |
| sharp adjectif | /ʃɑɹp/ | affilé, coupant |
| afterwards adverbe | /ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/ | après, ultérieurement |
| skill nom | /skɪl/ | habileté, compétence |
| remind verbe | /ɹəˈmaɪnd/ | rappeler à |
| rely verbe | /ɹɪˈlaɪ/ | compter sur |
| alarm nom | /əˈlɑɹm/ | alarme |
Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| calm down verbe | se calmer, s'apaiser | |
| figure out verbe | cerner | |
| heat up verbe | chauffer | |
| bring up verbe | élever | |
| show up verbe | apparaître, se montrer se pointer | |
| stand up verbe | se lever, se mettre debout | |
| wind up verbe | /waɪnd ˈʌp/ | remonter |
Des phrases à répéter
Des phrases courtes et complètes de la vidéo, à réutiliser dans la conversation de tous les jours :
- Three, you're good at calming other people down.
- It just wasn't there when you needed it.
- Let me explain what's going on.
- That's something that you can actually catch.
La grammaire de cette vidéo
Les structures que le locuteur utilise le plus, avec les mots exacts de la vidéo :
| Structure | Dans la vidéo |
|---|---|
| Phrases conditionnelles if + proposition, will/would + verbe — une condition et son résultat | If this specific thing happens, I'll do |
| Present perfect continu have/has been + -ing — une action commencée avant et toujours en cours | you've been reading · you've been asking |
| Present perfect have/has + participe passé — une action passée qui compte encore maintenant | You've read · you've even planned · has looked |
| Voix passive be + participe passé — l’accent est mis sur ce qui arrive, pas sur qui le fait | was made · is done · you've been frustrated |
Prononciation à surveiller
Le locuteur utilise 58 contractions et formes réduites, comme you're, you've, don't. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.
- Les sons « th »: breathe /bɹiːð/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/
- Les sons « sh » et « zh »: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, sharp /ʃɑɹp/
- Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, economist /iˈkɑ.nə.mɪst/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, psychiatrist /ˌsaɪˈkaɪ.ə.tɹɪst/
Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :
- /tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/, urge /ɜːd͡ʒ/, researcher /ˈɹiˌsɝ.t͡ʃɚ/
- /r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: breathe /bɹiːð/, subscribe /səbˈskɹaɪb/, practical /ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/, sharp /ʃɑɹp/, remind /ɹəˈmaɪnd/
Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo
- Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
- Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
- Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme breathe, emotion, insight.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.