Shadowing Practice: Why Powerful People Suddenly Disappear! | Robert Greene - Learn English Speaking with Video
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a lot of power is thinking ahead two or three moves ahead
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and in order to see think several moves in advance you
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you know what your intentions are you know where you're going to go
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in six months right and so you have to have a vision of where you're headed
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but you have to keep everybody else in the dark so
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that they can't predict what's happening next so part of concealing intentions, part of business, part of power is the ability to think strategically,
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to think in advance, to think several moves in advance.
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And that means having intentions, having moves that you've planned out, but you want to keep other people on their heels.
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They don't know where you're going to go next.
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Talking less creates an aura of power.
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It makes you look larger than you actually are.
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It makes people think he's mysterious.
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He or she is mysterious.
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When you talk a lot, I don't know if you've noticed this, but people who talk a lot, there's something insecure about them.
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If you can't control your own mouth, if you can't control that, then what can you control?
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You can't control your emotions.
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You can't control your behavior.
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It signals weakness and insecurity whereas talking less you're not going to say something stupid and then
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when you do speak it's going to carry a lot of
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weight down to the baseline of every human being we're all
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actors some are good actors some act more some are bad actors
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but I always tell people if you look at children three
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or four years old
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or you remember your own childhood you were constantly pretending you
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were constantly acting to your parents you would act like an angel to get something that you wanted.
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You'd act all sweet and innocent because you wanted some candor.
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You wanted some game.
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Being an actor is part of human nature.
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It's deeply, deeply ingrained in all of us because we're a social animal.
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If you went around just speaking everything that you thought, you would offend everyone around you, right?
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If you told somebody that their clothes are ugly, that they look fat, that their ideas are stupid, they're going to hate you.
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You're not going to get very far in life.
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So you learn at an early age to control what you say, to control who you are, to control what you do.
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That's how we all are.
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We're different in front of our father than we are with our friends, right?
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So get over this notion that we can all just hang out and just be who we are.
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You're never being who you are.
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You're always acting to some degree.
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People rise to power they become a CEO, they become a leader, they become a president or whatever, based on certain qualities that they have, a strength.
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It could be aggression.
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It could be being a people pleaser, being just very empathetic.
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It could be having a populist touch.
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It could be good with words and order.
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That's their strength.
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They use that and they get a lot of power because they're good at it.
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They don't have to think about it.
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It's almost natural to them.
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They get to a position of power.
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And now the world is changing.
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Your rivals are changing.
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The business world is changing.
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And you're still holding onto that one quality that brought you to the top.
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You're still thinking that my aggression or that my being popular and pleasing everybody or my speaking well,
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and you keep holding onto that and the world has passed you by and you're weak.
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And Machiavelli said, if I could create the monster, the perfect, the Frankenstein of a leader in business or politics,
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whatever, it would be somebody who could change with the times, who they rose to power based on a strength.
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They see that it's not quite the right quality and they adapt and they move with the times.
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He compared it to a river, right?
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And you're kind of moving like the water you're flowing with this river, and that's power.
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But being rigid
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and having a form and having a strategy that you always rely on
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and having a personality that you always exude to the world and perform as is weak because you can't adapt.
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I mean, think of your own business, your own business, your business in the last three years.
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Can you begin to imagine all the incredible shifts that have occurred in just that time.
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And so in order to gain people's attention, people get very bored, right?
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They get very bored very quickly if you're always the same, if you always have one note.
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They're like children who've been continually stimulated with all kinds of new and exciting new toys, right?
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And you're vying for their attention, okay?
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If you're always the same, if you're always doing the same, if you're always appearing the same, they're going to look they're going to get bored with you
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and they're going to look for something else so you have to be mysterious you have to withdraw if you withdraw
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And you're not always vying for their attention.
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You disappear for a month.
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You don't post anything.
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Or you post something that's maybe a little bit enigmatic where they're not quite sure what you mean.
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Suddenly, they're going to pay attention to you.
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Michael Jackson was very good about that.
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Part of it was his personality, but he would withdraw.
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People don't understand.
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Michael Jackson was a real kind of power person.
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He really is interested in the game of power.
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In fact, I've said this before in other podcasts.
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He had the 48 Laws of Power.
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And when he died, they auctioned his copy of the book.
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And it had all of these notes in it.
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He'd annotated it completely with his own notes.
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So he was very interested.
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But before the book came out, he understood the game of power.
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And he understood sometimes you have to withdraw.
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Sometimes you have to be one of those movie stars, like Greta Garbo, who disappears for six months, a year or two years.
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People start thinking, what's he up to next?
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When's his next album going to be out?
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What's it going to be about?
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Even Beyonce plays the game like that.
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So the people, these are artists, so it's a little easier.
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But the game is to sometimes withdraw from that attention cycle.
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We're always having to be something for other people.
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Let's take a step back and let them start wondering what happened to you.
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Disappear for a while.
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You have to know the game of absence and presence.
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Sometimes you have to be absent, and sometimes you have to be present.
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Napoleon Bonaparte said, if I show up at the theater every evening as a spectator, the audience sees me, they start taking me for granted.
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But if I show up a month later, oh, there's Napoleon, wow.
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Then I show up the next week, oh, he's coming off.
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And then I show up six months, they don't know when I'm going to show up next, so they're always having to think about him.
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So that's sort of the game a little bit, knowing how to, this dynamic between absence and presence.
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So there are times when you need to apologize
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and the apology has to be sincere and it has to be not the usual thing where, I don't know what came over me,
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that's not who I am, that just happened once.
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No, you acknowledge that you made a mistake, right?
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That you did something wrong and you show genuine contrition
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and then you know a lot of people who were cancelled six years ago that's
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when they were contacting me or eight years ago
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and I said you know show
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that your contrition understand why people reacted against you give it a little bit of time
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and then come back with more or less the same image but you know understanding there are there kind of guardrails here.
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You know, you have to understand that the person above you has an ego
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and has probably a bigger ego than you do, obviously, because they're powerful.
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But with an ego comes insecurities, okay?
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So you must be aware that the person above you has insecurities
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and probably has more than you do because they're constantly worried.
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Do people still like me?
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Am I still doing as well?
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Am I as popular as I was a year ago?
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Am I getting as much attention as I deserve?
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Am I doing a good job?
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He or she is very insecure.
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They're thinking about these things all the time.
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So what happens is if you try to eagerly to impress them
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and you do such a good job on some project or something, and then all the attention accrues to you for doing that,
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then you're going to trigger their insecurities.
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Wow, this person's getting the attention.
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and not me.
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Maybe they're after my job.
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Maybe they're more popular than I am.
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They're not going to consciously think this because they don't want to admit that they're insecure.
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But unconsciously, they're worried about you.
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They're thinking things that maybe you're a threat, right?
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And slowly, they're going to build up kind of resentment towards you.
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And what will happen is you'll probably be fired or you'll be demoted.
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So if you work hard on a project for somebody else from somebody higher up in your group
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and you do a great job, you need to tone it down a little bit.
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Don't take so much credit.
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Let them bask a little bit in the glory.
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Let them have the attention.
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Yes, they're the genius behind the project.
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I was just executing their desires.
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That makes them suddenly go, wow, this person, you understand that they did a great job
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but they're being a little bit humble they're giving you the attention
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which you deserve anyway because you think you do okay but
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if you were if you're too weak about it
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if you're too humble
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if you're going oh you know you don't take credit at all you weren't involved at all
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that makes you look we right
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so you have to be kind of nuanced you have to
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do a good job you have to try really hard you have to do the best
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that you can
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but you got to let the person above you take some
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of the credit take some of the glory otherwise they're going
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to be wondering about you they're going to be thinking
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that you think that you're better than them and you're going to trigger their insecurities
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this is the most important law and power
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that i want you to engrave in your brain right now as you listen to me
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and it's the following everybody has insecurities and has an ego
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and the worst thing you can do for your boss for
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your colleagues for the people underneath you is to violate their
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ego to make them feel insecure you will pay a price
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for it they will resent you it will work against you they will betray you in the end
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so never lose sight that everybody around you has an ego and has insecurities.
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So law number one is understand that probably they are insecure, probably you're going to trigger their egos and be a little bit careful.
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Nothing, nothing ever comes free in this world.
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Nobody ever, ever gives you something free.
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Nobody gives you anything for free.
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They're wanting something in return.
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And it's a trick where they're thinking that if they offer their services for free, you're going to go, okay, that's great.
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And you're not going to pay attention to the fact that they're after something else from you, right?
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And so it's always better to pay people and pay them well for their services.
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So if you're generous with your money, if you show that you're not niggly, you're not a powerful person, feels confident in their wealth,
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feels confident in their resources, feel confident in the time that they have and so they give
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that generously to other people being tight with your money not
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wanting to pay your employees well is a terrible terrible quality
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and it will bite you in the end
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so i always tell you maybe you don't give them credit
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for everything maybe you keep them a little bit on on their toes
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but you pay them well right you treat them well they
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feel comfortable they have food they have an apartment they have living expenses okay
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and you don't want to make them feel insecure about that
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so being cheap with your money is very very dangerous a signal of weakness okay
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but on the other hand
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when people are offering their services they come to you saying i want it for free i say forget about
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that there's a ploy there they're after something but
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if somebody comes to you
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and says robert i really want to work for you i think i could be a really great researcher
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and this is what i'm worth and then you see
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that they have some experience and you try them out
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and you pay them that's going to be a good relationship moving forward
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the single most important skill to master is to be more focused outwardly
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so a problem
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that you have is you're always inside yourself you're always thinking about your needs your emotions your problems things
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that have happened to you to people like me am I
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getting enough attention that's a deadly deadly attitude to have in business
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or in any venture in life on the world on the
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trends of what other people are thinking you have to become
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a master observer of the social game being able to read other people's psychology, being able to read and understand the trends that are going on in the world,
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where the world is going in five years.
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So get outside of all your emotions and your feelings.
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Oh, I'm not getting this.
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Oh, I'm such a victim.
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Oh, people don't like me.
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And be laser focused on other people, what they need, what they're thinking, what they're feeling.
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That's like a killer skill that you need to develop.
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You need to think of your 20s, which which is by far the best years of your life.
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Let's get that straight first.
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It was the best years of my life, right?
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It's the most exciting.
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You know, you're young, you look good, you've got energy, you know, you dress well probably, I hope.
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The thing that you want from your 20s is you want an apprenticeship, right?
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You want to learn.
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You want learning skills.
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You want to learn skills, solid skills, so that by the time you turn 30, which is the critical turning point in your life,
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I said the 20s are your most fun.
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The 30s are the key part of your life, which is my key part of the late 30s.
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When you're 30, you want to go, I had fun.
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I had adventures.
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I traveled.
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You know, I dated.
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I did everything I wanted.
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But I also learned things.
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I learned A, B, and C skills.
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You don't have to learn just one skill.
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You can learn three skills, three things that you master, that you spent seven years going into deeply.
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But if you wasted your 20s, if you just had fun, you just did whatever you wanted to, by the time you hit 30,
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nothing will stick together, nothing will cohere, you've been stretched too thin.
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But if you're linear, laser focused, I'm just gonna go to Goldman Sachs, I'm gonna get a job, I'm gonna get paid 150 ,000 a year.
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You're not spreading yourself out, you're not learning enough skills, you're not developing yourself inwardly.
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Learning a skill is a skill, but learning is a skill.
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And in order to learn, you have to be able to put up with boredom, frustration, and tedium.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze video bevat 236 zinnen en 2700 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 15:31. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 174 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 89% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| skill zelfstandig naamwoord | /skɪl/ | bekwaamheid, vaardigheid |
| insecurity zelfstandig naamwoord | onzekerheid | |
| insecure bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɪnsəˈkjʊɹ/ | onbeveiligd |
| withdraw werkwoord | /wɪðˈdɹɔ/ | terugtrekken |
| trigger zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈtɹɪɡɚ/ | trekker |
| emotion zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | emotie |
| mysterious bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /mɪˈstɪɹi.əs/ | geheimzinnig, mysterieus |
| disappear werkwoord | /dɪsəˈpɪɹ/ | verdwijnen, verzwinden |
| bore werkwoord | /boɹ/ | vervelen |
| glory zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈɡlɔːɹi/ | glorie, luister |
| absence zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈæb.s(ə)n̩s/ | afwezigheid, verstek |
| laser zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈleɪzɚ/ | laser |
| weakness zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈwik.nɪs/ | zwakte |
| deadly bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈdɛdli/ | dodelijk |
| humble bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈhʌmbəl/ | bescheiden, deemoedig |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| show up werkwoord | tentoonstellen | |
| build up werkwoord | opstapelen | |
| come out werkwoord | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | uitkomen |
| come over werkwoord | langskomen | |
| put up with werkwoord | ondergaan, verdragen |
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | you've planned · you've noticed · has passed |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | people who talk · somebody who could · people who were |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | were cancelled · be fired · weren't involved |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 114 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, they're, don't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: withdraw /wɪðˈdɹɔ/, thin /ˈθɪn/, theater /ˈθi(ə)tɚ/, underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/, empathetic /ˌɛmpəˈθɛtɪk/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/, aggression /əˈɡɹɛʃən/, auction /ˈɔkʃən/, notion /ˈnoʊʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: mysterious /mɪˈstɪɹi.əs/, psychology /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, continually /kənˈtɪnjuəli/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als skill, insecurity, insecure.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.