Shadowing Practice: Controlling Girlfriend GETS DUMPED | Dhar Mann - Learn English Speaking with Video
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So when you meet my dad on Saturday, I want you to wear the red shirt I got you with the khakis.
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Like this.
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So you want me to look like I work at Target?
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He's not gonna think that.
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Trust me.
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In Indian culture, red means royal.
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He's gonna love it.
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Um, okay, but why can't I just wear what I usually wear?
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My dad's a senior partner at a law firm.
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You need to make a good impression on him.
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You can't just show up looking like.. this.
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Also, why are you wearing this beanie?
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I told you I didn't like it.
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Okay, why do I have to try so hard to impress your dad?
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Because Indian dads are super strict.
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And if he doesn't like you, he's not going to let me be with you.
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Which is also why we need to talk about you getting a job.
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A job?
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But I told you I'm trying to start it right now.
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Yo, what's up bro?
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Yo, what's up?
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Dude, what's up?
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Yo, what's good?
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Did you get your ticket to the Lakers-Bowls game tomorrow?
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Arthur and I got ours.
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What?
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You're going to the basketball game tomorrow?
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You didn't tell me this.
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Yeah, look, I know.
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I'm sorry, babe.
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I was just about to let you know.
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But Friday nights are our nights together.
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So is every other night.
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Look, I hardly even get to see my friends anymore.
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Well, that's what happens when you're in a relationship, John.
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Um, do y'all mind giving us a second?
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Look, babe, I'm really sorry, okay?
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It's just, sometimes I feel like I can't talk to you about these things
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because you get really mad or you guilt trip me.
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That's not true.
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Okay, well, would you mind if I hung out with Arthur and Jerry tomorrow?
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So you don't want to hang out with me?
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See?
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Guilt tripping.
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That's not a guilt trip.
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You know what?
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Fine, just go.
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I'll just be by myself on a Friday night.
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Don't worry about me.
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Raji, stop.
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Stop.
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Raji, where are you going?
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I should probably check on her.
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Yeah, I'll let you know about the game though.
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You don't always need to do what she says, you know?
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Yeah, you shouldn't have to change yourself to make someone else happy.
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I know.
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Thanks guys.
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I'm just gonna figure this out and I'll hit you guys up later.
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Yeah.
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Later.
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Can you please just stop being upset?
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I just don't know why you'd want to hang out with your friends over me.
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Look babe, it's not like I'm choosing them over you, alright?
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I just like to see them once in a while too, you know?
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Hi!
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What can I get for you guys?
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I'll take a sweet green juice, please.
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Great. And you?
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Can I get the Impossible Burger and fries?
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What?
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I thought we were on a 14-day juice cleanse together.
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I know, but I'm so hungry that I've been feeling lightheaded.
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I want an actual meal.
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Well, that's how it goes.
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I can just come back when you figure it out.
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No, he'll take a green juice as well.
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All right, two sweet greens.
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Bring him right out.
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I said I wanted the burger.
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All right, look, I'm way bigger than you, and I can't just get by on juice alone.
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Well, that's how it goes.
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We had an agreement.
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You said you'd stick to it.
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You forced me into that agreement.
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All right?
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I didn't want to do this whole juicing thing anyway.
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And it's not like I'm even overweight.
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Yeah, not now.
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But I don't want an obese husband a year from now when we get married.
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Well, did you just say you want to get married in a year?
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Yeah.
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After you meet my dad, he's not just going to be okay with me dating a guy.
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We are so young.
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I don't even...
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Yo, what's up?
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Hello, what's up, dude?
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Yo, man, so what's up with Tamar?
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Are you going?
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Uh, give me one second.
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Babe, can I please go?
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Seriously, John?
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Even after I told you how it made me feel, you still want to go?
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Okay, I'm really sorry, okay?
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But I'm gonna be spending time with you tonight, and Saturday night, and Sunday night.
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That's what people who want to be with each other do.
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Hello, you there?
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Uh...
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Yeah, yeah, um...
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Can we talk about the game later?
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Seriously?
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Come on, why can't you just tell us right now?
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Are you really gonna be on the phone the entire time we're at lunch?
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I'll call you guys back.
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No, no, no, hey, wait, wait, wait!
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I don't like your friends.
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What are you talking about?
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They've been my best friends since...
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elementary school.
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Well, you know, you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with just so you know.
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I don't even get to spend time with five different people.
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The only person I ever spend time with is you!
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You say that like it's a bad thing.
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Okay, I did not mean it that way.
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I...
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Maybe we're just both hungry.
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Drink your juice.
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Hey babe, guess where I went today?
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Can you give me one second please?
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You care more about your game than me?
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No, it's not that.
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I'm just about to beat this level.
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Just give me one minute.
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Hey!
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Why would you do that?
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I haven't seen you since school got out and then you're gonna ignore me when I walk in.
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Besides, you shouldn't be playing video games anyway.
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Why not?
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It's a Friday and you wouldn't even let me hang out with my friends
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and now I can't even play video games too?
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Video games won't help you get ahead, John.
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But you know what will?
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What?
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This job application I picked up for you today.
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Job application?
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I stopped by at a local law firm.
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They said they're hiring interns.
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The pay isn't that great, but it'll help you get your foot in the door.
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I even went ahead and filled it out for you already.
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Why would you do that?
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I told you I wanted to start my own business.
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Do you know what percentage of businesses fail?
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Over 50% in the first two years alone, and then over 90% within 10 years.
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It's not a reliable source of income.
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That doesn't mean I'm gonna fail.
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Look, John, I don't want my dad to think that you're not gonna be able to support us when we have kids.
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Kids?
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Yeah, he's very traditional.
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I really think you should apply for this job.
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It's gonna impress him and...
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Hey honey, Arthur and Jerry are here.
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Uh, yeah, okay.
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You invited them over?
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No, they were supposed to be at the game.
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I have no idea why they're here.
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Wait.
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Yo, weren't you guys supposed to be at the game?
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Yeah man, but we couldn't go without you man.
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We go to every game with each other.
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That's why we bought you a ticket.
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Oh yeah.
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And we are not taking no for an answer, my friend.
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No way.
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Seriously?
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Mm-hmm.
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Oh, man.
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Go get some gear on so we can roll out.
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Oh, dude, I wish it was that easy.
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Raji's here.
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Come on, man.
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I'm sorry.
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I'm going to stop letting her tell you what to do.
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Yeah, man, you've got to live your life.
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You should just tell her that.
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Tell me what?
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Go on.
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you were saying?
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That's what I thought.
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Babe, guess what?
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They got me tickets to go to the game.
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So, do you think maybe- Absolutely not.
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We already talked about this.
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See, this is why your friends are a bad influence.
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They don't respect your decisions.
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Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
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Bad influence?
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We're just trying to hang out with our best friend.
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No, you're peer pressuring him into doing something he doesn't want to do.
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Right, John?
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I, uh...
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So you don't wanna hang with us?
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No, it's not like that.
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Guys, come on, you know...
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Okay then.
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So what's it gonna be?
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Your friends or your girlfriend?
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I don't want to have to choose.
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Well, you have to, so make a decision.
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I can't go, sorry guys.
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Wow, man.
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You've changed.
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You're not the John we used to know.
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Have fun hanging out with your girlfriend. Are you happy now?
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You just ruined my friendships with my best friends.
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Wow.
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When we're married with kids, you won't have time for them anyway.
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Come on.
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Let's go over your outfit for tomorrow.
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I love the kids.
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Don't even think about eating those Doritos!
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How did she know?
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Do I really have to wear this tie?
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Yeah, so stop asking.
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Let's go over what you're gonna say one more time.
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I don't wanna do it again.
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I'll be fine.
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It's really important that you don't...
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Dad!
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I missed you so much.
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I missed you too, how are you?
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I'm good.
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This is John, the guy I've been telling you about.
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Hello, Samir.
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It's...
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You mean Mr. Gupta.
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Yes, I do.
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I'm so sorry, Mr. Gupta.
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It's nice meeting you, sir.
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It's okay.
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Samir's fine.
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No need for formalities with me.
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Okay.
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Sit down.
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Relax.
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Hey, great.
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Hello, my name's Alex.
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I'll be your server today.
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How you doing?
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Here's your menus.
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Can I get you something to start a drink today?
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So actually only my dad's eating, we're juicing.
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We are?
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Mm-hmm.
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Okay.
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We'll get two green juices.
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Sure.
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We're on a strict diet, but you should eat whatever you want.
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You've got a lot of discipline.
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Thanks.
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More so than I can say.
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You know what, I'll do the impossible burger, please, with fries and a Sprite.
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That's what I usually order.
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You haven't had it a few times, it's really good.
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I'll be right back with your drinks.
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Thank you.
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Are you sure you don't want to order some real food?
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Yeah, you sure.
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Okay.
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So, John, tell me about yourself.
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Working or?
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No, I actually, my goal is to start my own business.
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What he means to say is he just applied for a job at a law firm.
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Really?
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So you want to be a lawyer one day?
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Uh, yeah.
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You know, I've been a lawyer my entire life.
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And I'll be honest with you, it's a lot of stress.
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You're young.
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Now's the time to take risks.
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I mean, why not look into starting your own business?
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That's exactly what I want to do.
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I want to be an entrepreneur.
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Yeah, but John and I already talked about it, and he knows how important it is for him to have a stable job.
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That way when we get married...
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Married?
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You guys are already talking about marriage?
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I mean, it's a little fast, don't you think?
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Yes!
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Wait, I thought you wouldn't let me date Raji unless...
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Well, we're not gonna get married like tomorrow.
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We're gonna take our time.
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But this year, for sure.
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I mean, how else will we have kids?
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Kids?
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You're already talking about kids too?
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What's the rush?
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There is no rush, Mr. Gupta, I assure you.
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Uh, Rashi said that that's what you wanted us to do.
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Me?
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Absolutely not.
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Enjoy your life.
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Travel, experience new things.
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Now's the time to do that.
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Yeah.
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Wait, so I'm confused.
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You told me that you're...
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My dad is a lot more traditional than he's coming off.
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Traditional.
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Me.
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That's a good one, Raji.
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Wow, so this entire time when you said
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that your dad wanted me to have a job and that he wanted us to get married and have kids, that was you?
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So, was this time really that big of a deal?
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You know, I was wondering why you wore that.
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I mean, honestly, the only reason I'm dressed this way is because I had court today.
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Otherwise, I'd probably be in a T-shirt and beanie.
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Here's your drinks.
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Thank you.
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Sprite and your juice.
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Actually, can you cancel my green juice?
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But we agreed to do this diet together.
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Yeah, but that was for you.
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And now I want to start doing things that make me happy.
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I want to focus on myself and...
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I shouldn't have to change who I am just to make you happy.
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I'm sorry, but you're a really cool guy, but I can't do this anymore.
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I gotta go.
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Are you sure?
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Yes, I am.
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Just need to process things.
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Do you mind?
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No, please don't go.
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Raji, I'm serious.
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I need to go.
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Why are you doing this?
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Raji, let him go.
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You have to respect his wishes.
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Thank you.
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It was really nice meeting you.
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Hey, hey, hey.
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Come on.
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It's all right.
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It's all right.
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It's okay.
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Come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, you got this, you got this, you got this, yes!
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Let's go!
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You can play.
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Oh.
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John?
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Hey.
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What are you doing here, man?
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What are you wearing?
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Oh, uh...
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Is it cool if I come in?
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Yeah, of course, man.
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Thanks.
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Surprised Raji let you come here.
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Well, uh, let's just say that Raji isn't gonna be telling me what to do anymore.
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Uh, do you guys mind if I...
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Yeah, sure.
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Mmm.
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I forgot what real food tasted like.
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So you wanna tell us what's going on?
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Um, yeah, yeah.
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I'm sorry, guys.
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I was honestly a really bad friend.
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I let Rashi control me way too much.
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And honestly, I finally...
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Hi.
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Is John here?
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Uh-huh.
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Do you mind coming out for a sec?
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No, I think I'm good right here.
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I'm gonna learn.
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I came here to apologize.
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I'm sorry for how controlling I've been.
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Just controlling? And the guilt trips.
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And lying to you about my dad.
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I'm so sorry for everything.
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I realize now You shouldn't have to change who you are to make me happy.
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Will you please forgive me?
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I don't think I could do that right now.
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I promise.
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No more telling you what to wear, what to eat, where to work.
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Or to not hang out with my friends.
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Yeah.
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None of that.
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I just want you to be happy.
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Is there any chance we can try this again?
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Also, I bought three box seats to the Laker game next week.
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You can take Arthur and Jerry with you.
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Really?
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Are you for real?
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You guys were eavesdropping?
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Duh.
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Come on, box seats?
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You can't turn those down, man.
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Hurry up and forgive her.
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Uh, yeah.
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Uh...
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I forgive you.
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Yes!
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Thank you.
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And I'll tell you what, keep hanging out with your boys for as long as you possibly want,
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and just call me when you're done.
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I'm sorry I like the new Raji.
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Wait, how did you know where I was?
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I may have enabled share my location from your phone a few months ago.
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Seriously?
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Raji.
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Okay, but look.
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I turned it off.
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See?
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Bye.
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We just got box seats to the LAK!
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Oh my god!
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Oh my god!
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Oh my god!
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Yeah, yeah, yeah!
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Come on, Shanks!
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Box seats, baby!
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Welcome to Behind the Scenes.
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You touch my daughter, it's over.
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Hello, Samir.
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Boys need to do what she says, you know.
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Be yourself, and they have to accept you for who you are.
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You're gonna go hang out with them again?
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You're really gonna go hang out with your friends again?
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You got myself on a Friday night.
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Don't worry about me.
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Thank you.
Why practice speaking with this video?
Engaging with the video "Controlling Girlfriend GETS DUMPED | Dhar Mann" provides an excellent opportunity for English learners to immerse themselves in real-life dialogues. The conversation reflects common relationship dynamics and cultural nuances, which are vital for understanding everyday English. By practicing speaking through this video, learners can:
- Enhance their listening and comprehension skills by following the dialogue's emotional undertones.
- Improve their English pronunciation by mimicking the actors' intonation and rhythm.
- Gain insight into societal norms, particularly those related to familial expectations in relationships.
- Use the shadowing technique to practice fluency, where learners can repeat the lines as soon as they hear them, reinforcing language acquisition.
Grammar & Expressions in Context
In the video, several key grammatical structures and expressions highlight the dynamics of communication. Here’s a closer look at some expressions you can practice:
- "I want you to wear..." - This structure is used to express desires and requests. It's a useful phrase for initiating suggestions.
- "You can't just show up..." - This negative form is critical for emphasizing prohibitions or the necessity of adhering to expectations.
- "I feel like I can't talk to you..." - Here, the speaker uses a feeling expression to convey an emotional response, which is important for discussing personal feelings in English.
- "That's not true." - This statement showcases a common way to reject claims in conversation, highlighting assertiveness in discussions.
Learning these structures can significantly enhance your English speaking practice and make you sound more natural in conversations.
Common Pronunciation Traps
As you practice speaking, be mindful of certain pronunciation traps that can arise from the dialogue:
- The colloquial use of "what's up?" can be difficult for learners to pronounce quickly. Focus on the slight reductions in sounds, becoming comfortable with informal greetings.
- Phrases like "You get really mad" may contain fast speech elements, where the 't' in 'get' is often less pronounced. Pay attention to how the words flow together, practicing the shadowing technique.
- The contrast between "this" and "that" can lead to mispronunciation depending on accents. Ensure you articulate the 'th' sound correctly to avoid confusion.
By focusing on these pronunciation traps, you can systematically improve English pronunciation and gain confidence in your speaking abilities. Engage regularly with dialogues from the video to make the most of your English learning journey!
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.