Shadowing Practice: Once You Want Nothing, You'll Attract Everything - Learn English Speaking with Video
Creating lesson...
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It's actually quite funny.
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Once you learn to basically want nothing, pretty much everything starts to gravitate toward you.
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And when you are always holding on to wanting, wanting, wanting, and always trying to draw more in,
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it seems that all of it is pretty much repelled away.
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Now, this is more nuanced than just simply explaining it in this way, Because there's an important reason why the person who wants nothing,
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or we could say more accurately, is detached from outcomes, draws in seemingly in this magical way,
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versus the person who really wants things but is outcome dependent or pedestalizing things repels whatever it is they want.
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So whether it's money, whether it's love and relationships, whether it's health, it seems to have the reverse effect to what they would like it to be
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when it comes to what they want.
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So what is the big difference
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if we're to pull back the veil between this person
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that has all of the things that we would typically desire and more come in just seemingly easily?
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That's a very goofy person, but that's a smile, that's happiness, that's joy.
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What is the difference between this person if, again, we peel back the curtain and look at what's going on within them, versus this person who's desperately trying to make these things happen,
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But it seems the more they try, the further they push away what it is they actually want.
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So the first thing we're going to cover on why this happens is very importantly, and this is so huge, in the body of work Reality Transurfing,
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which is an amazing body of work that essentially gives you many of the rules to the game of reality.
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It's a huge volume of work.
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But one of the things they talk about in Reality Transurfing, and I have found so true in my own practice and my own work with clients and everyone else,
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is the difference between this person drawing all of this stuff in
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and this person repelling all the stuff that they want
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comes down to a simple concept that we're going to dive into
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and then a few things are going to help with this as well.
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And it comes down to this idea of lowering the importance.
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the person who is drawing in
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and seems almost like they magnetize opportunity even though it doesn't seem they're like you know really putting
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that much energy towards it
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or not saying like i really really want this i really really want this
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and yet all of these good things seem to find them is
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because they are lowering the importance and i'll explain exactly what this means in a bit This person, however, is doing the opposite,
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which is raising the importance.
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And because they're raising the importance, all of those things they want either stay at a pretty mediocre level,
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or come with baggage, and therefore doesn't really make it worth it, or in most cases, it seems to be repelled away from them.
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And you'll notice this at any time, even if you have some luck with reality creation, and you get really good at it,
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The moment you start doing this and raising the importance and getting out of this place of lowering it, it seems that things stop working.
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And it becomes this life or death thing where I need the money, I need the relationship, I need the whatever else it is.
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And yet, even though you say you need that, it just runs away from you.
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While this person, even though they have preferences, even though they technically still have wants, maybe in a certain definition of the word, they don't make it this huge deal.
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They don't make it like it's on this pedestal and their life will forever be better for having gotten this thing.
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But this person absolutely is doing that.
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And kind of a mantra, you know, that we'll give clients to kind of help with this, and it's kind of the mantra of the person who's lowering the importance, is something like this.
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And it's simply, it will be this or something better.
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immediately releasing the pressure of needing a very particular outcome to come about.
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You see, when you're hyper-fixated on a particular outcome, which is what this person would be fixated on,
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you may actually be taking yourself further from what it is you actually need to unfold.
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You may be using your mind to project what you think you ultimately need
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or want or would be the best for you, when in reality, our mind doesn't usually know what that is.
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Well, this person will acknowledge, yes, the mind has certain preferences, I have certain preferences, but there is something beyond that that's even better.
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There is something coming from the unknown that I can connect to, the field, the infinite, your higher self, whatever you want to call it,
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that would be far superior than the outcome my mind thinks is the one I absolutely need.
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And because of that, all of this starts to come in because there's no pressure now.
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There's space that's now being created for this to come in.
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And the great thing about it is because you're already feeling good before the thing comes in, it feels normal when it does.
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Again, let's say this person did actually have some money come in, did have the relationship come in.
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Their happiness would be dictated based on that coming in
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versus just being happy and joyful at higher levels of consciousness from the get-go.
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And one thing you have to understand about the principles of life
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and kind of how what we're doing here is life is always trying to encourage us up the consciousness scale.
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Now it can't do it for us, it can't make the choices, but it will do certain things to kind of encourage us in that way.
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And if the only way you're going to go up the consciousness scale is if you receive things,
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it's going to try and in a way teach you that by making this your God or making this the ultimate, I need this thing, I need that thing, or my life is over,
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it's gonna try and teach you that that's not the case, that you can access the higher levels of consciousness first, and through doing so, these things can then come in because they align with you,
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and you won't even care that much that they come in.
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Now, don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean you won't enjoy when the money comes in, or the relationship forms, or whatever else it is.
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However, it won't be this over the top, I've been saved, my life is now, now can work, It'll just be,
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oh, this is a natural byproduct and consequence of the way I have been moving, being, vibrating the frequency I've been on.
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So that's the first thing we wanna do here, is we wanna lower the importance towards whatever it is that you're looking to bring about.
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Now, there's an important thing I need to mention with lowering the importance, because what people think that means a lot of the time
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when they haven't gone too deep with this training or done it before, is that lowering the importance means, oh, I should just not think about it.
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I should just never put attention on it.
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So it's lower the importance, not the priority.
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And I think the reason a lot of people think this way is because they're used to negative thinking.
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So when they think about something, they put negative energy towards it.
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So they think, well, I just won't think about it.
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And so then I won't put negative energy towards it.
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But priority means you look at it.
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Importance is a different thing altogether.
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Again, importance is believing that this is greater than you.
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Importance is believing that this, you know, I can't go on without this, like a life or death thing.
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Lowering the importance doesn't mean you don't want to bring this
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thing about in the sense of you wouldn't enjoy it in your life or something like that, or you don't have the desire for it.
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What it actually means is you're good either way.
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You know that things are gonna be fine either way.
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You know that at the end of the day, you're a spiritual being first in a human body.
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And yes, you have certain preferences
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and there are things you are going to focus on But you're not gonna make it this life-or-death thing
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Because you know more of the game and
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when you start understanding more about how reality operates This becomes a lot easier
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because you know okay
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if this is not coming in there's something even better on
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the horizon There's something even more for me to discover for something even more for me to unfold for myself
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Right and
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because you know this you don't get into this idea of this must happen I have to have this outcome
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or things are ruined because you know there is a perspective
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or something greater beyond that and
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so Ultimately lowering the importance does not mean the priority You'll still have the thing you're focusing on the DCA
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or whatever else A lot of times people will raise importance
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because the thing they want isn't coming in in the way they want it to come in Right
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and so when it comes to letting go of wanting things
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or not wanting anything let go of wanting something to come in in a particular way.
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This kind of goes to Neville Goddard's idea of assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled and not worrying about the how.
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When we get caught up in the how, and most people do, this is when we are raising importance.
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Because we raise importance, we want to be more involved in a sense in things
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that we're not meant to be involved in.
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And so we go, how am I gonna do this?
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Okay, A plus B plus C plus D, I gotta control everything, I've gotta micromanage everything.
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But by doing this, we cut off anything that can come in.
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And so like that second character I drew, everything is being repelled, right?
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You're putting all of this importance, you're trying to control the how, and yet when we go to create our reality, the how is none of our business.
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The selection or the priority or where we put, again, what does this mean?
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Where we put our energy, slash attention, is absolutely our job.
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Right, again, you create through your energy and keyword attention.
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So if your attention is always on outcome dependency, think, feel into what that feels like.
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What are you actually putting your attention on if you're putting it on, I need this outcome?
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Is it, what's underneath that is a good way of putting that.
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For a lot of people, what's underneath putting importance on something or controlling the how is fear.
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It might be pride.
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It's gotta be done this way.
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No one can do it like me.
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It might be frustration.
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Perhaps it's even guilt.
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But almost always, if you boil down what we could call the sponsoring feeling
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or thought underneath the reason you're even raising the importance or trying to control the how, it's almost always a negative vibrational state.
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And we create through our vibration.
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We create through our energy and through our attention.
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And so even though you think, no, I'm putting my focus on what I want.
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What you're really doing is thinking of what you don't want
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because it's putting you on these emotions you don't want to be on.
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This is another thing that we talk about is this is a feel great when strategy.
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This is what importance does.
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Importance essentially gets you to say, I will feel good, which also means raise consciousness,
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raise your consciousness, when I have something.
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So once I have the money, Once I have the notoriety, once I have the status, once I have the relationship, once I have the blah,
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blah, blah, blah, blah, whatever it is, then I can be in a higher level of consciousness, right?
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When that happens, I can be happy, I can be fulfilled, whatever.
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But for the whole game we're actually playing here, at least in my eyes and from what my research and experience has shown me, is raising consciousness.
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Like that's the main, one of the main things.
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And if you are trying to do things so that you can feel great when, life a lot of times is gonna take that away from you to kind of learn the lesson,
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to kind of learn, you don't need any of this to feel a certain way or tune into what you want, but when you do, when you do actually prioritize your energy and attention and what you're connecting to,
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and you feel good now instead of when, so we wanna change this to now,
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when you do that, you will have no wanting in the sense of needing anything.
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But the catch is, when you're in that state, you're still putting your focus on things because you'll be excited about things, you won't be able to help it, you'll want to create certain things,
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those things are suddenly safe to come in.
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You're no longer trying to control the how, which allows Source, God, the universe, to take care of that part of it.
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Now, does that mean you won't be taking any action or anything like that?
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No, don't look black and white with this.
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You will still have inspired action.
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When you're doing this, it will lead to actions that you will take.
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But these will be a very different quality of action than what you may have been doing before to force through outcomes.
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Again, one other way we can look at lowering the importance is you are detaching from the outcome.
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And you always want to be detached from the outcome.
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Understand, detaching yourself from the outcome isn't ignoring the outcome.
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Detaching yourself from the outcome doesn't mean you don't prefer a certain outcome or you're not putting your attention on it.
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You're just detached in the sense of you're not going to let it dominate how you feel.
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And the key again is to flip that.
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We want to feel great now.
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The pursuit of whatever it is you're going for should feel good.
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A lot of times people raise importance also because they're not really focused on the thing they really want.
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They're focused on something they think they should want, or what someone else has said they should want.
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So they put all this importance on it because it's the only way they think they can generate any energy towards it, because they have to force all these things through.
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However, when you get lined up and you detach from the outcome, all of that's going to take care of itself.
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Your job is to essentially send in the blueprint.
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What do you want to focus on?
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Where do you want to put your energy, your attention?
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That will start bringing through actions and all of these other things.
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But if we're always trying to control the how or raise importance, what we're really focusing on are lower levels of consciousness.
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And the universe, God's source, the system, the field, whatever you want to call it, responds to your level of consciousness not what you say you want.
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It responds to your energy and where you're putting your attention.
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And so you could have all the best intentions in the sense of, I want this thing, and this will be great, and whatever else it is.
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But if you're in fear, if you're in pride, if you're in frustration, if you're in guilt most of the time,
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you are going to get the results of those feelings, emotions, and energy.
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And here's a concept I want to give you that will help with this, and it's to recognize that anything that you want, anything that you truly want to bring about,
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is already here and available to you energetically.
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Pretty much anything you want to manifest physically is
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because you believe whatever that thing is will help you feel a certain way or connect you to a level of consciousness.
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And there's a fundamental flaw in coming from this approach because again it's a feel-great-when.
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But when you recognize that everything you want is already here and you express based on your energy or attention, all you need to do,
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and it's more nuanced than this, but the main thing you need to do is connect to the energy now.
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Remembering to assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled.
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That's just energy.
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Feeling or emotion, energy in motion.
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And by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled,
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you become like that first person I drew earlier in the video that has all of these things being magnetized to them.
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Why?
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Why does this person have all this magnetized to them because they are cultivating the feeling, the energy, the consciousness that draws these things in.
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They are getting on the same frequency as the physical equivalents that they want to bring in.
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So whether that's better finances, things just being easy and effortless, whether that's, you know, being able to make a lot of money
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but also enjoying what you do or having a certain relationship or whatever else it is, it is a frequency, it is an energy, it already exists.
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You see, you have your known world.
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So let's say this is your known, this is your life, everything that you're aware of.
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And most people try to change their lives by taking what's in the known and piecing it together.
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And you get some results here and there from that, but the real results that you want, the unknowns, the things you don't really know how to bring about because you're not really meant to,
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exist in everything else that we could call the unknown.
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Now the unknown is not a physical world.
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The unknown is a non-physical reality, we could say, and our known is a physical.
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And there's, you know, other parts to it too.
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So obviously there's known within the mental and spiritual and everything as well.
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But mainly when we're talking about physical in the known, it's very limited.
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The things you want are here in the unknown.
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You know, the relationship you want, the money you want, whatever it is, it's all out here in the unknown in this non-physical state of being.
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So how do we take something from the unknown, these things that you would like to bring in, your preferences, and bring them into your known?
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We connect to the energy.
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We generate the energy the level of consciousness we create a level of detachment
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because that raises our consciousness We feel good now
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and we feel the feelings we believe that we think that thing is going to give us
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But we feel it now instead
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because it is always starting first with the feeling it is always the energy again It's
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that underneath sponsoring emotion or thought that really is driving through your creation
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And so when you start connecting to the feeling
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and let's say whatever it is is this thing
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and You keep connecting to it and you keep building
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and you keep lighting it up in the non physical It
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starts to come in to the physical the how starts to present itself
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And so certain actions and other things will then seemingly out of nowhere
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Opportunity seemingly out of nowhere will start to make themselves apparent to bring this thing in and And because you are detached,
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because you've lowered the importance,
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any barrier you had created that was around you preventing these things from coming in will be lifted.
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I've worked with a ton of clients where this was actually one of their main problems.
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They were pretty good and they'd forced some stuff through.
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They built their energy.
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They were working more positively, but they weren't lowering the importance.
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And they basically had this barrier up around them energetically
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that prevented all these things that were kind of knocking at the door from coming in.
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And once we effectively did this and removed that, helped them detach, lower the importance and feel good now, there was nothing stopping these things from coming in.
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And opportunities coming seemingly from out of nowhere, but it's not out of nowhere.
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It's from the unknown or the non-physical, always there, but now you're actually activating them and allowing them to come in to your known.
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Again, the way they come in typically is through opportunity, maybe certain events, certain people, and certain things you will need to take action on, right?
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It's not you sit on the couch and everything just falls into your lap, right?
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You are a dualistic being.
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You also exist in the physical plane as well.
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There's action to be had.
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However, this is now calibrated action.
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This is now co-creative, source-led action, inspired action.
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And so understand whatever it is you want to create your manifest, it's already here energetically.
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And the way to bring it about physically is connect to it energetically.
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Assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled while having that lowering of the importance or detachment that it has to happen.
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And watch how quickly things begin to start moving for you.
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Again, it's already within you.
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So if you keep this focus and do that, it is only a matter of time until it matters.
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Like literally comes into matter.
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A matter of time, right?
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Until it starts coming in to your life
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if you focus on this now again the thing here isn't
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that it's complicated Yes It takes some training to get good
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at being able to do this lowering the importance Keep your focus
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so that you're lighting something up here pretty well staying detached
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So you have this mentality of it'll be this or something better
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or I don't know why this is for my greatest good
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But I know I live in a friendly universe and
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that ultimately it has my best interest at heart again That takes some training.
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That's where the training comes into play But you can absolutely get to that place where you have those focuses
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You are lowering the importance
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but not the priority you're connecting to the energy the frequency the vibration again Whatever it is
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and allow those opportunities to present themselves now
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if you do want help with this I do offer coaching which you can look at down below
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Group coaching
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and very few one-on-one slots for a very particular type of
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person I have actually only one open at the moment
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if you want to take a look at that too But
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if you want help with this
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and receive kind of really high level training to do this you can check
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that out Now what I want to do now is also offer you something that's going to help with this
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because one of the things that prevents people
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The most I found when I'm working with those with people who want to do this
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From actually doing this and from lowering the importance is they have a lot of energetic blocks
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or what I call energetic Anchors that are really causing them to keep putting importance on things automatically,
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subconsciously, etc. So I go watch this video next where I'm essentially showing you how to release the energetic anchors,
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how to do the shadow work that allows those to fall away, which makes everything we just went over so much easier to do.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This video has 268 sentences and 4014 words to shadow. The speech runs for 21:03. The speaker talks fast, about 191 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 90% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| outcome noun | /ˈaʊtkʌm/ | That which is produced or occurs as a result of an event or process. |
| consciousness noun | /ˈkɑnʃəsnəs/ | The state of being conscious or aware; awareness. |
| connect verb | /kəˈnɛkt/ | To join (to another object): to attach, or to be intended to attach or capable of attaching, to another object. |
| priority noun | /pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/ | An item's relative importance. |
| preference noun | /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/ | The selection of one thing or person over others (with the main adposition being "for" in relation to the thing or person, but possibly also "of") |
| seemingly adverb | /ˈsiːmɪŋli/ | As it appears; apparently. |
| fulfill verb | /fʊlˈfɪl/ | To satisfy, carry out, bring to completion (an obligation, a requirement, etc.). |
| essentially adverb | /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/ | In essence: by nature. |
| nowhere adverb | /ˈnoʊ.(h)wɛɹ/ | In no place. |
| frequency noun | /ˈfɹiːkwənsi/ | The rate of occurrence of anything; the relationship between incidence and time period. |
| emotion noun | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | A person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data. |
| underneath adverb | /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/ | Below; in a place beneath. |
| versus | /ˈvɝsəs/ | Against; in opposition to. |
| energetic adjective | /ˌɛn.əɹˈdʒɛt.ɪk/ | Possessing or pertaining to energy. |
| encourage verb | /ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/ | To mentally support; to motivate, give courage, hope or spirit. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| come down to verb | To reach by moving down or reducing. | |
| boil down verb | To reduce in volume by boiling. | |
| bring through verb | To assist (someone) in succeeding or surviving a period of difficulty, especially illness; to nurse or aid someone through an illness. | |
| cut off verb | /ˌkʌt ˈɔf/ [ˌkɐɾ ˈɔf] | To remove by cutting. |
| fall away verb | To cease to support a person or cause. | |
| get out of verb | To leave, exit or escape from; to become free of. | |
| go over verb | To look at carefully; to scrutinize; to analyze. | |
| go up verb | To move upwards. |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 109 contractions and reduced forms, such as you're, don't, we're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/, altogether /ɔl.tuˈɡɛð.ɚ/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: consciousness /ˈkɑnʃəsnəs/, essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, frustration /fɹʌsˈtɹeɪ.ʃən/, vibration /vaɪˈbɹeɪʃən/
- Long words — get the stress right: priority /pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/, essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, energetic /ˌɛn.əɹˈdʒɛt.ɪk/, complicated /ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/, superior /sʊˈpɪɹ.i.ɚ/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like outcome, consciousness, connect.
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — an action that started earlier and is still going on | have been moving · have been doing |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | is detached · be repelled · would be fixated |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | have found · I've been saved · I've been |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | person who wants · person who really · person who is |
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.