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Hello my loves, welcome back to my channel.

If you're new, I'm Leroy Alexandra.

Welcome to the bee community.

On this channel, we talk about the law of attraction,

spirituality, personal development, and so much more.

And today my loves, I want to talk about something

that I have talked about in the past for sure under different names.

Originally, this is a Neville Goddard principle.

I've talked about this concept before

but I want to make a dedicated video to it

because self-concept is a lifelong journey and the reason why it's

so important is

because it truly determines how everything else in our lives is going to look the way

that we hold ourselves in what regard

and what esteem we see ourselves in is going to affect every other level

and stage of our lives and this is something

that I have to always go back to because I've noticed that when there's a particular challenge that comes up for me,

what really helps me in overcoming it is to return to my self-concept and to my understanding of myself,

how I see myself and how capable I find myself of overcoming whatever challenge it is.

And in the days where I feel like I can't overcome things,

it really comes down to my self-concept being off

and my belief about myself as a person who can't handle a lot of stress or a person who can't overcome things.

And I have to return to that and I have to come back to my true belief of myself,

which is I know that whatever I'm presented with is something

that is specifically prescribed for me to be able to go through.

In the same way that for you,

whatever you are dealt with,

whatever hands, whatever cards you are dealt,

is specifically prescribed for you because you are able to uniquely overcome it.

So that's what I want to talk about today in regards to self-concept

and also social media and what creating our self-concept through too much stimulation is doing to us

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So what is self-concept?

In essence, self-concept is how we see ourselves.

It's also our understanding of the world and how the world sees and accepts us.

It's our mental image of ourselves,

and that creates our identity,

or at least what we believe our identity to be.

And the reason why this is so important is because whatever beliefs you hold about yourself

are going to be projected onto the blank screen of reality and creating what you see in your external reality.

So whatever you believe about yourself internally will be reflected and will show up in your life externally.

So if you see yourself as somebody who is lovable,

you will experience a lot of lovable experiences in your life, right?

People will treat you as if you are worthy of love.

If you see yourself as unworthy or undeserving of being loved,

you will experience that as well.

Now, as adults, as autonomous beings,

this is truly under our control,

especially once we get this specific information.

Well, when we were children,

this was not under our control.

And the reason for that is because from the ages of 1 through 7,

sometimes even up to 12,

children primarily oscillate between the brainwave stages of alpha and theta,

sometimes coming into reality which is beta and in the alpha

and theta stages we are like sponges right

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so how I like to explain it is the triangle of deception we are programmed we are indoctrinated

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and we are domesticated by church,

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state, friends, family, neighbors, classmates,

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teachers, society, social media and all these different things

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and we are taught to perceive the world in one way to perceive ourselves in a specific way.

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So our self-concept is essentially created for us when we are children.

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So if you've not done any work with your self-concept or with your beliefs about yourself,

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then you are likely living out a personality and a paradigm that you never chose yourself.

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So as an adult or as a young adult or a fully autonomous being at whatever age,

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you can take your power into your own hands by recreating your own self-concept.

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So this is a process of analyzing what it is that you believe yourself to be in all areas of your life.

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Are you deserving of love?

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Are you attractive?

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Are you intelligent?

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Are you creative?

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Do you like certain types of people?

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Do you not like certain types?

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What are your likes and what are your dislikes?

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For most of us until we start to really start to review ourselves We are not aware

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that what we have become is an amalgamation of the voices

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and the noise around us and having a really strong self-concept is knowing yourself

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and Uncovering and exploring who you really are

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Figuring out what it is that you like and what you don't like

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and what you truly believe With everything unraveled right with all of societal expectations

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culture everything that you've learned being unraveled right now in our modern times in 2023

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when i'm recording this there is so much stimulation and

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so much content that we are constantly consuming

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and it's all about be this girl be this kind of

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guy look like this think like this eat like this dress

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like this be this person take these photos go to these places and then where

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does your individuality and your unique expression where does that fall

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because what happens is that we are constantly submerged

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and basically attacked all day long by all this stimulation all these things

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that are creating layers of on top of our already created personality

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and self-concept so suddenly we're scrolling through instagram

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and we're we're looking at somebody's stories or looking at somebody's feed or real or tick tock,

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even if we're not conscious of it, we're constantly comparing ourselves.

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Let's say that there's somebody who is conventionally attractive,

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something that you would see in a magazine.

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Not all of us can find ourselves represented in it still.

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Right.

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So you're looking at a conventionally beautiful person.

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And even if you're not consciously aware of it,

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you are comparing yourself moment by moment by moment.

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And once you're done with this person,

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you keep scrolling and you go to the next thing.

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And this person is in Hawaii.

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And that person is getting their million subscriber plaque on YouTube, right?

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Or a million subscribers or followers on TikTok.

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And even if you're not aware of it,

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you're still comparing yourself to all these things.

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This is gnawing away at your self-concept and it's wearing down your identity and your self-esteem.

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So how do we reclaim our natural nature?

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And the reason why I think we need to reclaim it is because we were perfectly created.

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There was nothing wrong with us.

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The way that the creator put us here on earth is exactly the blueprint

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and the frame that we are supposed to carry through this life.

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Whether it is keeping our cultural noses,

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our strong bodies, our curly hair,

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our red hair, our silky hair,

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whatever skin color we have,

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whatever it is, we have to reclaim the things that truly make us us.

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and it's not necessarily these external characteristics because that's not what makes us us

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but like who is underneath all the programming and all the the content

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that we've consumed who are we really and remembering

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that we are made these unique beautiful expressions of the divine in whatever bodies we were given

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and the soul is what really matters our soul is what wants to be seen the comparison

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or the constantly trying to emulate the things

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that we see online is only hurting us

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because truly the code to success to happiness to fulfillment to joy to transcendence

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that exists in our unique self and so that exists

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when you turn everything off

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and you turn to yourself you start asking yourself well what

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do i like what am i interested in what are my thoughts in my opinions,

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not ones affected by everything else.

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So we start to consume less content,

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start to unravel everything that we are not so we can finally explore what we actually might be.

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And don't get me wrong,

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it's beautiful to be inspired by people.

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I find a lot of inspiration from people online and in my external reality.

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But I have to do what makes me feel right internally.

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And this is not exclusive to social media.

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I share this story a lot.

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I had a best friend my whole I trusted her opinion

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so much over my own opinion that I would not date certain people

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if I found them attractive but she didn't because I didn't trust myself and because I didn't trust myself

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My dating life looks way different than it should have

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because maybe I would have made better decisions Maybe I would have made better choices

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if I had listened to myself and not allowed somebody else's validation to take over my own

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So I had a weak self-concept and that can play out in many different areas of our life.

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You might be dating and things aren't working out and you're dating different people but the same thing keeps happening.

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Almost as if you haven't learned your lesson so you keep experiencing this cycle again and again.

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Well that might mean that you need to take a look at your self-concept.

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How do you see yourself?

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What do you find yourself worthy of?

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What we'll often find is without putting any blame or shame on ourselves,

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it's that we are emitting some sort of frequency that is beginning these cyclical situations, right?

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And we have to change what we believe about ourselves.

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So we consume less, we get to know ourselves more,

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we consider what beliefs we hold about ourselves,

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and this is the most important thing.

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Whatever you say, I am to,

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whatever comes after I am for you,

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is how you reveal your self-concept and what you believe about yourself.

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And you're going to say this out loud through your conversations with others,

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you're texting your friends and you're like, oh, I'm so stupid.

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That is your self-concept.

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And it's so much easier and so much more comfortable for the world

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if you do believe yourself be stupid and ugly and poor.

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It makes people uncomfortable if you believe yourself to be beautiful and worthwhile and wealthy and healthy and capable.

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It makes people uncomfortable at first

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and then you become a permission slip for everybody else just like how you've been inspired by others.

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You begin to inspire everybody else to also allow themselves to be,

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to have a stronger self-concept.

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And once you return to your I am's and realize what it is you're declaring to the quantum realm?

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What are you saying to the to the universe that you are?

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What are you telling the creator?

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This is what I am.

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This is what I expect.

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And if those things are negative,

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you're going to see a negative external reality.

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And if those things are positive,

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you're going to see your life change.

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And that lucky girl syndrome that everybody talks about,

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that's going to come to you if you have a strong self-concept.

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A really good example of this in my own life that I've shared before,

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I think, is that I had a self-concept for many,

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many years that I was an outcast.

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I was weird.

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I was different.

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And because of that, I'm not going to find somebody who is going to fit me.

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I'm not going to find somebody who gets me.

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It's too hard.

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Or maybe people don't, you know,

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people in my community in real life,

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maybe they don't want to be around me because I'm weird.

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I'm the weird girl.

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And then I realized that that self-concept is something that I inherited,

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that I grew up with because it's something that I heard when I was a little kid.

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Because I was a little bit of a weird little kid.

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I would talk to the wind and the fairies and all that.

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But I know that I'm not alone in that.

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And, you know, sometimes the kids who do that end up being the coolest kids.

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And so I carried for years a self-concept of being weird

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and being afraid that I was making people uncomfortable by my weirdness until one day I looked around and I was like,

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wait, I created this incredible life for myself.

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I have a community of

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600,000 people around the world and my thoughts are helping people and who I am Authentically is helping people.

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This isn't weird.

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I'm unique I'm different and thank God for that because

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if I was normal if I kept trying to stay normal like I did

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when I was a teenager I tried to stay in line with what was the status quo

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And perhaps I wouldn't be as effective at what I'm doing

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and that goes back to that secret code Once you accept yourself and once you trust yourself,

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you're going to be a force to be reckoned with.

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So that's my little spiel about self-concept.

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I hope it was enlightening for you.

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I hope that it touched a place that needed to be touched

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and I hope that you change your self-concept of being one of the weird kids like me

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and to being one of the taste makers.

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The weirdest people are the ones who start the most interesting trends and who shift the paradigm.

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Tell me what your old self concept was,

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where it came from, and what the new one is.

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I want to know.

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Let's talk in the comments below.

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Thank you for watching.

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I hope you enjoyed this video.

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That's great.

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I love you.

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Thank you for being here.

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Subscribe if you haven't yet.

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Give this video a thumbs up if you liked it,

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leave a comment, it really helps the channel

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and share this with somebody who needs to work on their self concept

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so that they can break some cycles and be a really strong vortex of manifestation.

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Until next time, as always,

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keep your vibrations way way way up!

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Bye!

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