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Brainy Dose Presents: 11 Reasons Why You Don’t Like Being Around People Do you prefer being alone most of the time and find yourself happier when you’re not around people?

If so, you’re definitely not alone.

But have you ever thought about why you feel this way?

There can actually be a number of reasons for avoiding social situations, some of which might surprise you.

Let’s start with the most obvious.

Number 1 - Introversion Have you been told, perhaps more times than you can count, that you should come out of your shell and be more social?

Then, you’re likely an introvert.

Introversion is not a disease or disorder; it is a personality trait that describes those who are less outgoing.

Introverts are often thought of as shy due to their quiet and reserved nature, but that’s not always the case.

Introversion is more about how you prefer to interact with others and how you recharge your energy levels.

Unlike extroverts, who need to be around other people in order to recharge, introverts become drained by being around others.

They do enjoy having meaningful conversations with close friends and family members, but they find it difficult to engage with large social groups.

This is why it’s so important for introverts to take breaks from socializing; they need space to recharge their batteries.

Number 2 - Sensory Processing Sensitivity People with sensory processing sensitivity experience strong reactions to external stimuli, which can make it difficult to function in social settings.

It’s often associated with autism or ADHD.

If you’re a highly sensitive person, you might have trouble being around other people because it’s hard for you to focus on conversations when there’s so much going on around you.

You’re bothered by loud noises and bright lights and easily get distracted by things like the sight of too many colors, strong smells, or the sound of a person chewing.

You may feel like you need more time to process information, and you might find yourself getting upset about things that others don't seem to notice.

Sensory processing sensitivity is a real thing, and it's not something that you can just turn off.

Number 3 - Above-Average Intelligence If you have above-average intelligence, there’s a pretty good chance that you’re not a people person.

You’re a thinker and a doer.

While everyone else is distracted by their phones or the latest episode of that new hit series, you’re busy thinking, analyzing, and getting things done.

You don’t like small talk because it feels, well… like small talk.

You want to talk about big ideas, solve problems together, and achieve mutual understanding.

You want meaningful conversations with those who share your intellectual curiosity and passion for learning and discovery.

To put it bluntly, you don’t like being around people because you find most of them boring.

The things they talk about, the things they do; it’s all so dull.

Number 4 - Mental Health Challenges Certain mental health conditions can make it hard to even imagine being around people.

Depression can cause you to feel tired, sad, or irritable.

It can also make it hard to get motivated and enjoy life.

Social anxiety disorder makes it very challenging to interact with people.

You might feel shy, scared of being judged, or embarrassed when around others.

Similarly, avoidant personality disorder makes it hard to connect with others and form intimate relationships - because you feel inadequate or inferior.

All of these can lead to avoidance of social situations altogether.

Number 5 - Asperger’s Syndrome Asperger’s syndrome is a developmental disorder.

It’s a form of autism that affects the way one relates to others.

If you have Asperger’s syndrome, you probably don’t want to be around people.

And that’s because it can be hard for you to interact with others or understand what they are feeling.

You might not be good at making eye contact or understanding social cues, and that can make you feel awkward.

Also, people may do things that annoy you or make you uncomfortable, like talking too loudly.

As a result, you come across as aloof or detached, making it difficult to make friends and maintain relationships.

Number 6 - Low Self-Esteem One of the main reasons people dislike being around others is that they don’t feel like they measure up.

They don’t feel good enough, smart enough, or attractive enough.

They’re worried about what others will think of them and that they’ll be judged for their shortcomings.

But if you’re not comfortable in your own skin, then it’s hard to feel confident around other people.

It’s also possible that you feel this way because of how others treat you.

If someone treats you poorly, it can make you feel bad about yourself and your own worth.

This can even hold back your career and make it hard for you to go after your goals in life.

If this sounds like you, it might be time for some therapy or counseling.

It can help you feel better about yourself so that you can start making friends and building relationships.

Number 7 - Lack of Social Skills This is another possible reason why you might not like to be around people.

If you have zero social skills, you probably aren’t able to make friends or keep them.

You also have a hard time relating to others and may not be able to communicate effectively.

When you do try to make conversation, your attempts are awkward and forced or worse, they come across as rude or insensitive.

There can be several reasons for this.

Maybe you grew up in a home where the adults argued all the time or maybe it was the opposite, they hardly ever talked and because of this, you never learned how to initiate conversations or express your emotions.

The good news is that social skills can be learned just like any other skill, it just takes some patience and practice!

Number 8 - Stress-Induced Social Avoidance Stress can be defined as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances.

It can be physical or psychological, and the effects can be short-term or long-term.

When you feel like your life is too busy and hectic, it’s normal to want to retreat from other people even from those you love.

And while there are times when it’s okay to do that, like when you need some alone time after a long day, it can also become a habit.

As a matter of fact, social avoidance can lead to further problems down the road.

If you don’t practice interacting with others, your relationships will suffer and you’ll end up feeling lonely more often than not.

So while social avoidance may seem like an easy fix at the moment, make sure that you work on encouraging yourself to get out of these situations before they get worse.

Number 9 - Traumatic Experiences If you’ve been through a traumatic experience, then it’s likely that you are going to have some sort of post-traumatic stress disorder.

This can make you feel isolated and it can be challenging to be around others.

You’ve had a bad experience and don’t want to relive it.

Maybe you were ignored when you were younger, or you were made fun of because of your weight, a disability, or something else.

Perhaps someone hurt you or left you when they promised never to do so.

Whatever the case, know that there are ways to move on.

A therapist can help you process your feelings and work through them in a safe space.

Number 10 - Fear of Intimacy Intimacy requires being vulnerable, and that can be scary for some.

It can be incredibly hard to open up and let people in.

Maybe you’re afraid of being vulnerable with someone because they might see who you really are and you’re worried that they will reject you for it.

Or maybe it’s because deep down inside, you feel like you don’t deserve love and affection.

It’s okay to be scared of things that are unfamiliar, and it’s normal to want to protect yourself from getting hurt.

But when your fear of intimacy is so intense that you avoid all social situations, it can start to hold you back from things like making friends and going on dates.

Being around other people does not mean you have to tell them everything about yourself.

You can still enjoy their company without revealing anything too personal.

Number 11 - Trust Issues It’s hard to be around people when you don’t trust them.

You might think they will hurt you, use your vulnerability against you, or take advantage of you somehow.

If you have trust issues, it’s likely because of a past experience where someone let you down or betrayed your trust.

Maybe they lied to you or didn’t treat your feelings with respect.

Whatever happened, it left a mark on who you are today.

But, that doesn’t mean you should give up on trusting people entirely… If you’ve been burned before by someone who took advantage of your kindness, don’t let that stop you from trying again!

Just because they hurt you, doesn’t mean that others will, too.

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В этом видео 90 предложений и 1576 слов для шедоуинга. Речь длится 9:06. Говорящий говорит в естественном темпе, около 173 слов в минуту, близком к повседневной речи. 87% слов входят в 3000 самых частых слов английского языка, поэтому лексика простая.

Ключевая лексика этого видео

15 менее частых слов из видео с произношением и значением:

disorder /dɪsˈɔɹdɚ/ (существительное) — беспоря́док, каварда́к. Absence of order; state of not being arranged in an orderly manner.
skill /skɪl/ (существительное) — уме́ние, на́вык. A capacity to do something well; a technique, an ability, usually acquired or learned, as opposed to abilities that are regarded as innate.
interact /ɪn.təˈɹækt/ (глагол) — взаимоде́йствовать. To engage in communication and other shared activities (with someone).
syndrome /ˈsɪndɹoʊm/ (существительное) — синдро́м. A recognizable pattern of signs, symptoms and/or behaviours, especially of a disease or medical or psychological condition.
distress /dɪˈstɹɛs/ (существительное) — го́ре, беда́. Physical or emotional discomfort, suffering, or alarm, particularly of a more acute nature.
sensitivity /ˌsɛn.səˈtɪv.ə.ti/ (существительное) — чувстви́тельность. The quality or state of being sensitive; sensitiveness.
traumatic /tɹɔˈmætɪk/ (прилагательное) — травмати́ческий. Of, caused by, or causing trauma.
intimacy /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/ (существительное) — бли́зость, инти́мность. Feeling or atmosphere of closeness and openness towards someone else, often but not necessarily involving sexuality.
awkward /ˈɔk.wɚd/ (прилагательное) — нело́вкий, неуклю́жий. Lacking dexterity in the use of the hands, or of instruments.
vulnerable /ˈvʌln(ə)ɹəbl̩/ (прилагательное) — уязви́мый, рани́мый. More or most likely to be exposed to the chance of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.
meaningful /ˈmiː.nɪŋ.fl̩/ (прилагательное) — зна́чимый. Having meaning, significant.
scare /skɛɚ/ (глагол) — пуга́ть, испуга́ть. To frighten, terrify, startle, especially in a minor way.
autism /ˈɔːtɪzəm/ (существительное) — аути́зм. Autism spectrum disorder, a condition characterized by impairment in social communication and interaction, as well as a need or strong preference for…
distract /dɪˈstɹækt/ (глагол) — отвлека́ть, отвле́чь. To divert the attention of.
ignore /ɪɡˈnɔː/ (глагол) — игнори́ровать, проигнори́ровать. To deliberately not listen or pay attention to.

Фразовые глаголы, которые вы услышите

go on /ˈɡoʊˌɒn/ (глагол) — продолжа́ть, продо́лжить. To continue in extent.
talk about (глагол) — ну и, вот э́то. Used to draw attention to the speaker's characterization of someone or something.
check out (глагол) — проверя́ть, прове́рить. To record the departure or withdrawal of someone or something (such as guests, employees, books, etc.).
end up (глагол) — зака́нчиваться, зако́нчиться. To bring to a conclusion.
go after (глагол) — преследовать, ловить. To pursue in attempt to catch another.
hold back (глагол) — сде́рживать, сде́рживаться. To act with reserve; to contain one's full measure or power.
move on (глагол) — продвигаться. To continue; to proceed; to go on.
think about /ˈθɪŋk əˌbaʊt/ (глагол) — обду́мывать, обду́мать. To ponder.

Произношение, на которое стоит обратить внимание

Говорящий использует 33 сокращённых и редуцированных форм, например don't, you're, you've. Произносите их коротко, так, как слышите.

Звуки «th»: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, altogether /ɔl.tuˈɡɛð.ɚ/, thumb /ˈθʌm/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, thinker /ˈθɪŋ.kɚ/
Звуки «sh» и «zh»: passion /ˈpæʃən/, shell /ʃɛl/, tension /ˈtɛnʃən/, patience /ˈpeɪ̯.ʃəns/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
Длинные слова — следите за ударением: sensitivity /ˌsɛn.səˈtɪv.ə.ti/, intimacy /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, intellectual /ˌɪntəˈlɛkt͡ʃʊəl/

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Запишите себя и сравните с оригиналом, обращая внимание на такие слова, как disorder, skill, interact.

Грамматика в этом видео

Конструкции, которые говорящий использует чаще всего, с точными словами из видео:

Конструкция	В видео
Пассивный залог be + причастие прошедшего времени — важно, что происходит, а не кто это делает	been told · are often thought · is distracted
Present Perfect have/has + причастие прошедшего времени — прошлое действие, важное сейчас	have you ever thought · you've been · You've had
Придаточные определительные who / which + предложение — уточнение о человеке или предмете	those who are · stimuli, which can · those who share

Что такое техника Shadowing?

Shadowing — это научно обоснованная техника изучения языка, изначально разработанная для подготовки профессиональных переводчиков и популяризированная полиглотом доктором Александром Аргуэльесом. Метод прост, но эффективен: вы слушаете аудио на английском от носителей языка и немедленно повторяете вслух — как тень, следующая за говорящим с задержкой в 1–2 секунды. В отличие от пассивного прослушивания или грамматических упражнений, Shadowing заставляет мозг и мышцы рта одновременно обрабатывать и воспроизводить реальные речевые паттерны. Исследования показывают, что это значительно улучшает точность произношения, интонацию, ритм, связную речь, понимание на слух и беглость речи — что делает его одним из самых эффективных методов для подготовки к IELTS Speaking и реального общения на английском.

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can you relate to my knee-jerk reaction? 😅