Практика Shadowing: Warning! Never go to These Four places with a Narcissist - Изучайте разговорный английский по видео
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A narcissist uses your absolute favorite places on earth as a weapon to permanently destroy your memories.
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We naturally want to share our dreams, destinations, and our biggest milestones with that one person we love the most.
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We think to ourselves if we just go to this beautiful beach
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or if I just take them to my favorite cabin in the mountains, we'll finally have peace.
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We desperately believe that a change of scenery will magically change who they are.
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But the brutal, completely backward truth is
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that taking a narcissist to your favorite place is the fastest
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way to make sure you never ever want to go back there again.
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They'll deliberately poison the water in your favorite oasis.
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They don't pack a swimsuit, a camera, or a sense of adventure.
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They pack a calculated heavy plan to ruin your peace.
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When a narcissist goes on vacation with you, they are not looking to bond.
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They're not looking to relax.
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They're looking to trap you inside of your comfort zone, completely away from your daily routines and extremely cut off from your normal safety net.
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They treat a beautiful vacation like a heavy decorated cage.
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If you want to protect your sanity and keep your happiest memories completely safe from their destruction,
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there are four specific types of trips you must absolutely never invite them on.
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Hi, I'm Danish, a narcissistic abuse recovery professional.
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Welcome to my channel.
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Today, I'm here to warn you and tell you not to go to these four specific places with a narcissist.
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Now, before we dive right into the topic, I'd like to invite you to my upcoming event happening on 2nd October next week.
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It's completely free and in this event I'll help you understand why you still crave that narcissist, the person who destroyed you.
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Book your spot right now by clicking the link in the comments or the description.
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Number one, your ultimate dream destination.
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Let's start with the place you have been dreaming about for years.
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This is especially true for somewhere you have been planning for your birthday,
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your big anniversary, a honeymoon or another massive once in a lifetime milestone.
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A narcissist can completely ruin a place you once loved before you even got off the airplane.
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Why do they do this?
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Because a trip is about you and a narcissist simply can't stand it when the spotlight shines on your happiness.
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They will create a huge explosive fight in the hotel lobby.
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They will humiliate you loudly in front of strangers at a night restaurant.
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They will heavily sulk through the entire trip, walk 10 steps ahead of you with a completely dark evil look on their face.
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Or they'll create one horrible dramatic story so incredibly intense that years later that beautiful destination no longer feels beautiful to you.
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It completely loses its magic.
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Every single time you see a picture of that place, your stomach drops.
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It becomes permanently connected to what they did to you there.
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Do not hand a narcissist the keys to your dream destination
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if you haven't already because they will absolutely drive it right off a cliff.
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Now if a narcissist has completely ruined a special holiday or a dream vacation for you,
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just drop the word memory in the comments right now because you're not alone.
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It wasn't your fault and I would like you to release that pain today.
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Place number two, a trip built on financial dependency.
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The second place you should never ever go is anywhere you are financially dependent on the narcissist.
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If they are the one paying for the hotel, the fancy food, the plane tickets, the transport or the majority of the trip,
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they will absolutely make you feel the heavy cost of every single breath you take.
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They use their wallet like a weapon.
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Every single meal becomes a guilt trip.
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They will look at the menu and say, do you know how much this costs?
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Every small normal vacation expense gets an angry face, a heavy sigh, a snide comment or a loud reminder later in the day.
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And heaven forbid you actually try to argue with them or stand up for yourself on the trip.
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Money suddenly becomes their ultimate punishment.
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They will refuse to pay for your dinner.
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They will threaten to cancel the fun excursions you already booked.
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They will already make you beg them for basic daily expenses just to watch you humiliate yourself.
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And when you finally get home, they will loudly remind you for months about how much money they spent on you.
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A vacation like this starts feeling less like a generous gift and way more like a heavy emotional bill, you keep paying long after you unpack your bags.
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Place number three, a place with no easy exit.
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This one is incredibly dangerous for your nervous system.
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You should never ever travel with the narcissist to somewhere you can easily escape or leave.
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I'm talking about a remote island, an isolated mountain resort, a deep forest cabin,
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or even a brand new foreign country where you don't know the language or the layout of the city.
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This is quite literally one of the absolute worst situations to be in with a narcissist.
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Why?
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Because they know you are trapped.
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They know you can't just call an Uber and go to your best friend's house.
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So they will suddenly pick a massive fight out of thin air, walk away and completely disappear for hours.
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They will stop answering your calls.
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They will leave you completely stranded in a foreign place just to watch you panic.
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They know you are unfamiliar with the place and you have absolutely no idea where to go.
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Watching you panic, cry and desperately search for them gives a narcissist a very sick twisted sense of power.
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They love knowing that your basic safety depends entirely on them.
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Don't ever walk into a maze with a narcissist because they will steal the map and leave you in the dark.
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The fourth one, a shared space with people you genuinely enjoy.
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Finally, never travel with a narcissist to a place where you
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will be around people who actually bring out the best in you.
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Why?
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Because they are definitely going to destroy it.
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I'm talking about a trip with your close friends, your siblings, your favorite cousins or people you genuinely love.
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It all can become incredibly uncomfortable and tense when a narcissist is in the room because of their games, because they hate seeing you shine.
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The exact moment they see you laughing freely, getting positive attention from your friends,
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reconnecting with your family or simply enjoying your own life without desperately needing them, they start getting veered.
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Suddenly, they are completely bored to death.
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They are deeply irritated.
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They act highly offended over a completely harmless joke.
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They start creating heavy tension with someone you love or they constantly pull you away from the group to complain in private.
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By the end of the trip, you're absolutely exhausted.
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Instead of making beautiful memories, lasting memories with people you genuinely love,
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you are spending your entire vacation acting like a babysitter.
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You are frantically running around,
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walking on eggshells and trying to keep one single person from completely ruining everybody's mood.
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A narcissist is like a heavy, dark cloud that follows you everywhere.
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It follows you directly into the sunshine, strictly to make sure you never get to feel the warmth.
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Now I know you simply cannot pack your bags and run away from a personality type like this.
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When you travel with a narcissist, the abuse doesn't stay home it just gets a window seat right next to you.
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They use travel to isolate you, control you financially, punish you for being happy and ruin your most precious memories.
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You deserve to see the world.
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You deserve to travel, laugh loudly
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and eat beautiful food without constantly looking over your shoulder to see if someone is mad at you.
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Now, if you are ready to finally unpack that heavy emotional baggage and take the ultimate trip toward your own freedom.
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I needed to be at my free event happening on October 2nd.
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We are going to dig incredibly deep into exactly why your mind is still attached to that narcissist.
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And I'm going to give you the real daily tools to build your peaceful life.
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Click the link in the description and secure your spot right now.
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With that, let's bring this episode to an end.
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Thank you so much for watching.
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I'll talk to you in the next one until then as always let the healing begin and continue
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Лексика и советы по произношению к этому уроку
Этот урок разговорной практики уровня B2 построен на видео «Warning! Never go to These Four places with a Narcissist». Чаще всего повторяются слова: narcissist, completely, trip, heavy, vacation. В этом видео 107 предложений и 1451 слов для шедоуинга. Речь длится 9:00. Говорящий говорит в естественном темпе, около 161 слов в минуту, близком к повседневной речи. 82% слов входят в 3000 самых частых слов английского языка; остальные стоит разобрать перед занятием.
Ключевая лексика этого видео
Самые сложные слова из видео (15), с произношением и значением:
| Слово | Произношение | Значение |
|---|---|---|
| narcissist существительное | самовлюблённый челове́к, нарци́сс | |
| loudly наречие | /ˈlaʊdli/ | гро́мко |
| desperately наречие | /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/ | отча́янно |
| humiliate глагол | /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/ | унижа́ть, уни́зить |
| unpack глагол | /ʌnˈpæk/ | распако́вывать, распакова́ть |
| isolate глагол | /ˈaɪ.sə.leɪt/ | изоли́ровать, обособля́ть |
| milestone существительное | /ˈmaɪlˌstoʊn/ | ми́льный ка́мень, километро́вый столб |
| financially наречие | фина́нсово | |
| cabin существительное | /ˈkæbɪn/ | хи́жина, до́мик |
| shine глагол | /ʃaɪn/ | свети́ть, сия́ть |
| decorate глагол | /ˈdɛkəɹeɪt/ | украша́ть, укра́сить |
| eggshell существительное | /ˈɛɡʃɛl/ | яи́чная скорлупа́, скорлупа́ |
| excursion существительное | /ɪkˈskɜː.ʃən/ | экску́рсия |
| frantically наречие | /ˈfɹæn.tɪk.li/ | неи́стово, безу́мно |
| irritate глагол | /ˈɪɹ.ɪˌteɪt/ | раздража́ть, злить |
Фразовые глаголы, которые вы услышите
| Слово | Значение |
|---|---|
| get off глагол | спуска́ться, спусти́ться |
| go back глагол | возвраща́ться, возврати́ться |
| look over глагол | просма́тривать, просмотре́ть |
Фразы, которые стоит повторять
Короткие законченные фразы из видео, которые пригодятся в повседневном разговоре:
- They'll deliberately poison the water in your favorite oasis.
- By the end of the trip, you're absolutely exhausted.
- With that, let's bring this episode to an end.
Грамматика в этом видео
Конструкции, которые говорящий использует чаще всего, с точными словами из видео:
| Конструкция | В видео |
|---|---|
| Present Perfect Continuous have/has been + -ing — действие началось раньше и продолжается | have been dreaming · have been planning |
| Пассивный залог be + причастие прошедшего времени — важно, что происходит, а не кто это делает | are trapped · is still attached |
| Придаточные определительные who / which + предложение — уточнение о человеке или предмете | person who destroyed · people who actually |
Произношение, на которое стоит обратить внимание
Говорящий использует 23 сокращённых и редуцированных форм, например I'm, don't, can't. Произносите их коротко, так, как слышите.
- Звуки «th»: warmth /wɔɹmθ/, threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/
- Звуки «sh» и «zh»: shine /ʃaɪn/, eggshell /ˈɛɡʃɛl/, excursion /ɪkˈskɜː.ʃən/, punish /ˈpʌnɪʃ/, sunshine /ˈsʌnʃaɪn/
- Длинные слова — следите за ударением: desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, humiliate /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/, permanently /ˈpɜː.mə.nənt.li/, narcissistic /ˌnɑɹ.sɪˈsɪs.tɪk/
Звуки, трудные для русскоязычных:
- /w/ — губы округлены, это не /v/: swimsuit /ˈswɪm.s(j)ut/, backward /ˈbækwɚd/, warmth /wɔɹmθ/, warn /woɹn/, wallet /ˈwɑl.ət/
- /h/ — лёгкий выдох, а не русское «х»: humiliate /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/, honeymoon /ˈhʌn.iˌmuːn/, harmless /ˈhɑɹmləs/, heal /ˈhiːl/
- Звонкие согласные в конце слова — не оглушайте их: offend /əˈfɛnd/, maze /ˈmeɪz/, forbid /fɚˈbɪd/, strand /ˈstɹænd/, backward /ˈbækwɚd/
Как заниматься с этим видео
- Прослушайте всё видео один раз молча и выпишите незнакомые слова.
- Начните со скорости 0,75×, повторяйте предложение за предложением и вернитесь к обычной скорости, когда станет легко.
- Запишите себя и сравните с оригиналом, обращая внимание на такие слова, как narcissist, loudly, desperately.
Что такое техника Shadowing?
Shadowing — это научно обоснованная техника изучения языка, изначально разработанная для подготовки профессиональных переводчиков и популяризированная полиглотом доктором Александром Аргуэльесом. Метод прост, но эффективен: вы слушаете аудио на английском от носителей языка и немедленно повторяете вслух — как тень, следующая за говорящим с задержкой в 1–2 секунды. В отличие от пассивного прослушивания или грамматических упражнений, Shadowing заставляет мозг и мышцы рта одновременно обрабатывать и воспроизводить реальные речевые паттерны. Исследования показывают, что это значительно улучшает точность произношения, интонацию, ритм, связную речь, понимание на слух и беглость речи — что делает его одним из самых эффективных методов для подготовки к IELTS Speaking и реального общения на английском.