Shadowing Practice: How to Stop Criticizing Yourself (3 Steps That Actually Work) - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Namo Vidhaya.
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For a long period of my life, I have been the biggest critic of myself.
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I think most of us has done that at some point in our life.
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When we make mistakes, when we fail, instead of looking at the problem, we turn on to ourself, we blame ourself, we criticize ourself.
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And this is called the destructive self -criticism and this leads to anxiety, depression and emotional suffering.
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So from today's video I would like to share with you three practical steps to follow
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and to apply into your life and completely let go of the anger towards yourself, the self -hatred and self -criticism.
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Number one, I want you to to talk to yourself like you talk to your best friend?
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Let me ask a question from you.
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Would you criticize your best friend in the same way you criticize yourself in your head?
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You wouldn't.
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If your friend came to you in a problem, how would you talk to your friend?
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You would support that person, right?
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Would you say like, you will always be like that, you will always be stupid, why are you always stupid?
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You wouldn't.
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How would you say?
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You would say okay that's fine let's get through this together.
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I'm here for you.
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I'm here to support you so let's get through this together.
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I want you to support yourself.
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Talk to yourself in the most supportive way.
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Whenever you make mistakes do not turn on to yourself and blame yourself.
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Support and say yes you made a mistake well
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but we can correct it let's take action to correct it
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so talking to your best friend talking to yourself like you
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talk to your best friend is a practice of loving kindness in Buddhism there's a word called metta
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and the common translation for the word metta is loving kindness
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but the word metha is more closer to the meaning of
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loving friendliness you become the friend of yourself you become a
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good friend now understand a good friend will criticize you okay he will point out he
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or she will point out what is wrong
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and what where the weakness is and what went wrong
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and say this is where you made the mistake
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so let's get through this together and let's correct it so
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that that supportiveness but still there is criticism understand
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that criticism itself is not entirely a bad thing it's not
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a wrong thing right you can criticize we can criticize ourselves to improve right
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and that is called the constructive criticism but
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that is not what most of the time we are doing
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in our head right there's a huge difference between the constructive criticism and the destructive criticism.
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What is the difference?
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The constructive criticism is always problem -oriented.
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That means in constructive criticism we focus on the problem.
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But in destructive criticism we look at the person and identity and we blame ourself for that.
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There's no good that we can gain from blaming ourself.
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But if we can look at what we did, our behavior,
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our actions and understand that we have made a mistake and tries to correct it and that is where our improvement is.
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So in constructive criticism we look at the problem but in destructive criticism we look at the person, personality, right?
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This is what most of the time athletes do to themselves, right?
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They criticize themselves but constructively.
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when they lose a match or when they win a match they go back
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and they re -watch their clips
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and to find to find out where did they make the mistakes
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so they find the mistake and they take action to correct it
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so that is called the constructive criticism you can still criticize yourself in a good way
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and that leads me to the second step the second step is i want you to detach your behavior from your identity.
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How to do that?
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Whenever you catch yourself criticizing or blaming because of a mistake that you have done,
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I want you to say this is not who I am, this is only what I did.
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So you look at the behavior, you look at the action instead of blaming yourself.
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Every time when you make when you when you
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when you make a mistake
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and criticize yourself you can say this is not who I am this doesn't define who I am
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this is just an action that I have done, this is a mistake that I have done, so I need to correct it.
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So in that way you don't label yourself from your mistake, right?
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Most of the time what we do is we label ourselves from our mistake.
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We say I'm a stupid person, I'm a careless person, I'm always forgetful.
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The more you repeat this, the more you become.
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Understand that we are what we repeat.
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So every time when you find yourself criticizing I want you to look at it and say this is my behavior,
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this is an action so that I can change it but this is not who I am.
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An interesting fact about Buddhism is the Buddha says
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that there is no single fixed permanent self called I that is sitting there and doing the mistake.
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Every action of our life is conditioned.
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Our identity is also conditioned.
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That means it is under constant change which means that we can change it.
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So that is why in Buddhism the Buddha sees
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that it is an improvement in the noble practice
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or Buddhist practice to see a mistake as a mistake and accept it as the mistake and taking action to correct it.
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Buddha saw it as one of the greatest ways to improve in life.
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So the second thing is that I need you to detach your identity from your behavior.
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And the final step, I need you to take action.
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Taking action is the most important thing in these three steps right although we think about it
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and we think about it correctly and we we look at the problem
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but we need to prove ourselves that we take action to correct
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that mistake taking action is the most important thing right your body your mind needs evidence
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that I'm going to change this can be changed
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so you look at the problem
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and you you find out what can I do about it
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and you take action sometimes
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that action can be difficult to take sometimes this action is something
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that we have been avoiding for ages
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but even though it is difficult you have to take
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that action at least a simple step towards it so
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that it your body needs that proof so
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that the body your body gets that proof
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that you are you're going to change your mind gets that proof that you're going to change.
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And that's where the real improvement happens.
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So these are the three steps that I need you to follow whenever you catch yourself criticizing.
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Right?
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First of all, talk to yourself like a friend, like a coach, like a supportive, a good friend.
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And then I need you to detach your identity from your behavior.
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And finally, I need you to take action towards correction.
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So practice these three steps and have a beautiful life.
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I wish you, may you have a healthy, a peaceful and a happy life.
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Namo Buddhahaya.
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu B2 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “How to Stop Criticizing Yourself” videosuna dayanıyor. En çok tekrarlanan kelimeler: mistake, action, criticism, criticize, correct. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 106 cümle ve 1240 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 8:26 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 147 kelimelik dengeli bir hızla konuşuyor; gölgeleme için rahat bir tempo. Kelimelerin %88’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında, bu yüzden kelime dağarcığını takip etmek kolay.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodaki en ileri düzey 10 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| criticize fiil | /ˈkɹɪtɪsaɪz/ | eleştirmek, tenkit etmek |
| destructive sıfat | /dɪˈstɹʌktɪv/ | yıkıcı, tahripkâr |
| kindness isim | /ˈkaɪnd.nəs/ | incelik, kibarlık |
| forgetful sıfat | /fərˈɡɛtfəl/ | unutkan |
| careless sıfat | /kɛɹ.ləs/ | ihmalci, ihmalkâr |
| critic isim | /ˈkɹɪt.ɪk/ | eleştirmen |
| correction isim | /kəˈɹɛkʃən/ | düzeltme |
| hatred isim | /ˈheɪtɹɪd/ | nefret, iğrenti |
| athlete isim | /ˈæθ.liːt/ | sporcu |
| weakness isim | /ˈwik.nɪs/ | sıskalık, zayıflık |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Anlam |
|---|---|
| find out fiil | anlamak, ortaya çıkarmak |
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | is called · is conditioned · is also conditioned |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | have been · has done · have made |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı I'm, wouldn't, you're gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 12 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:
- Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: criticize /ˈkɹɪtɪsaɪz/, friendliness /ˈfɹɛndlinəs/, critic /ˈkɹɪt.ɪk/
- /æ/ — “e”den daha açık: detach /dɪˈtæt͡ʃ/, athlete /ˈæθ.liːt/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- Normal hızda cümle cümle tekrar edin; ritminiz konuşmacıyla aynı olana kadar her cümleyi yineleyin.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; criticize, destructive, kindness gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
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