Shadowing Practice: How to Stop Criticizing Yourself (3 Steps That Actually Work) - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Namo Vidhaya.
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For a long period of my life, I have been the biggest critic of myself.
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I think most of us has done that at some point in our life.
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When we make mistakes, when we fail, instead of looking at the problem, we turn on to ourself, we blame ourself, we criticize ourself.
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And this is called the destructive self -criticism and this leads to anxiety, depression and emotional suffering.
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So from today's video I would like to share with you three practical steps to follow
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and to apply into your life and completely let go of the anger towards yourself, the self -hatred and self -criticism.
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Number one, I want you to to talk to yourself like you talk to your best friend?
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Let me ask a question from you.
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Would you criticize your best friend in the same way you criticize yourself in your head?
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You wouldn't.
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If your friend came to you in a problem, how would you talk to your friend?
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You would support that person, right?
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Would you say like, you will always be like that, you will always be stupid, why are you always stupid?
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You wouldn't.
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How would you say?
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You would say okay that's fine let's get through this together.
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I'm here for you.
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I'm here to support you so let's get through this together.
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I want you to support yourself.
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Talk to yourself in the most supportive way.
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Whenever you make mistakes do not turn on to yourself and blame yourself.
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Support and say yes you made a mistake well
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but we can correct it let's take action to correct it
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so talking to your best friend talking to yourself like you
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talk to your best friend is a practice of loving kindness in Buddhism there's a word called metta
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and the common translation for the word metta is loving kindness
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but the word metha is more closer to the meaning of
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loving friendliness you become the friend of yourself you become a
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good friend now understand a good friend will criticize you okay he will point out he
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or she will point out what is wrong
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and what where the weakness is and what went wrong
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and say this is where you made the mistake
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so let's get through this together and let's correct it so
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that that supportiveness but still there is criticism understand
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that criticism itself is not entirely a bad thing it's not
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a wrong thing right you can criticize we can criticize ourselves to improve right
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and that is called the constructive criticism but
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that is not what most of the time we are doing
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in our head right there's a huge difference between the constructive criticism and the destructive criticism.
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What is the difference?
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The constructive criticism is always problem -oriented.
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That means in constructive criticism we focus on the problem.
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But in destructive criticism we look at the person and identity and we blame ourself for that.
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There's no good that we can gain from blaming ourself.
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But if we can look at what we did, our behavior,
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our actions and understand that we have made a mistake and tries to correct it and that is where our improvement is.
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So in constructive criticism we look at the problem but in destructive criticism we look at the person, personality, right?
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This is what most of the time athletes do to themselves, right?
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They criticize themselves but constructively.
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when they lose a match or when they win a match they go back
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and they re -watch their clips
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and to find to find out where did they make the mistakes
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so they find the mistake and they take action to correct it
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so that is called the constructive criticism you can still criticize yourself in a good way
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and that leads me to the second step the second step is i want you to detach your behavior from your identity.
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How to do that?
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Whenever you catch yourself criticizing or blaming because of a mistake that you have done,
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I want you to say this is not who I am, this is only what I did.
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So you look at the behavior, you look at the action instead of blaming yourself.
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Every time when you make when you when you
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when you make a mistake
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and criticize yourself you can say this is not who I am this doesn't define who I am
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this is just an action that I have done, this is a mistake that I have done, so I need to correct it.
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So in that way you don't label yourself from your mistake, right?
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Most of the time what we do is we label ourselves from our mistake.
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We say I'm a stupid person, I'm a careless person, I'm always forgetful.
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The more you repeat this, the more you become.
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Understand that we are what we repeat.
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So every time when you find yourself criticizing I want you to look at it and say this is my behavior,
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this is an action so that I can change it but this is not who I am.
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An interesting fact about Buddhism is the Buddha says
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that there is no single fixed permanent self called I that is sitting there and doing the mistake.
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Every action of our life is conditioned.
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Our identity is also conditioned.
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That means it is under constant change which means that we can change it.
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So that is why in Buddhism the Buddha sees
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that it is an improvement in the noble practice
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or Buddhist practice to see a mistake as a mistake and accept it as the mistake and taking action to correct it.
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Buddha saw it as one of the greatest ways to improve in life.
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So the second thing is that I need you to detach your identity from your behavior.
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And the final step, I need you to take action.
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Taking action is the most important thing in these three steps right although we think about it
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and we think about it correctly and we we look at the problem
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but we need to prove ourselves that we take action to correct
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that mistake taking action is the most important thing right your body your mind needs evidence
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that I'm going to change this can be changed
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so you look at the problem
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and you you find out what can I do about it
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and you take action sometimes
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that action can be difficult to take sometimes this action is something
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that we have been avoiding for ages
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but even though it is difficult you have to take
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that action at least a simple step towards it so
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that it your body needs that proof so
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that the body your body gets that proof
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that you are you're going to change your mind gets that proof that you're going to change.
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And that's where the real improvement happens.
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So these are the three steps that I need you to follow whenever you catch yourself criticizing.
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Right?
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First of all, talk to yourself like a friend, like a coach, like a supportive, a good friend.
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And then I need you to detach your identity from your behavior.
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And finally, I need you to take action towards correction.
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So practice these three steps and have a beautiful life.
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I wish you, may you have a healthy, a peaceful and a happy life.
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Namo Buddhahaya.
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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה B1 מבוסס על הסרטון “How to Stop Criticizing Yourself”. המילים שחוזרות הכי הרבה: mistake, action, criticism, criticize, correct. בסרטון הזה יש 106 משפטים ו-1240 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 8:26. הדובר שומר על קצב יציב של כ-147 מילים בדקה, קצב נוח לתרגול Shadowing. 88% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית, כך שקל לעקוב אחרי אוצר המילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
11 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
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| criticize פועל | /ˈkɹɪtɪsaɪz/ | ביקר |
| destructive שם תואר | /dɪˈstɹʌktɪv/ | הרסני |
| supportive שם תואר | /səˈpɔɹtɪv/ | תומך, תומכת |
| careless שם תואר | /kɛɹ.ləs/ | רשלן |
| critic שם עצם | /ˈkɹɪt.ɪk/ | מְבַקֵּר, מְבַקֶּרֶת |
| correction שם עצם | /kəˈɹɛkʃən/ | תיקון, תִּקּוּן |
| hatred שם עצם | /ˈheɪtɹɪd/ | שִׂנְאָה |
| athlete שם עצם | /ˈæθ.liːt/ | אַתְלֶט |
| weakness שם עצם | /ˈwik.nɪs/ | חולשה |
| noble שם תואר | /ˈnoʊbəl/ | יקר רוח, נאצל |
| define פועל | /dɪˈfaɪn/ | הגדיר |
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
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| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | is called · is conditioned · is also conditioned |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | have been · has done · have made |
| שם תואר מובהק (Superlatives) the -est / the most … — לציין את הגבוה או הנמוך ביותר בקבוצה | the biggest · your best · the most supportive |
| הווה ממושך (Present continuous) am/is/are + -ing — משהו שמתרחש כרגע או בסביבה הקרובה לזמן הזה | is loving · are doing · is sitting |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-12 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו I'm, wouldn't, you're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: detach /dɪˈtæt͡ʃ/, athlete /ˈæθ.liːt/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: criticize /ˈkɹɪtɪsaɪz/, constructive /kənˈstɹʌktɪv/, ourself /(ˌ)aʊə(ɹ)ˈsɛlf/, destructive /dɪˈstɹʌktɪv/, supportive /səˈpɔɹtɪv/
- עיצור קולי בסוף מילה — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ בלי להפוך אותם לאטומים: criticize /ˈkɹɪtɪsaɪz/, constructive /kənˈstɹʌktɪv/, destructive /dɪˈstɹʌktɪv/, supportive /səˈpɔɹtɪv/, hatred /ˈheɪtɹɪd/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט במהירות רגילה, וחזרו על כל משפט עד שהקצב שלכם תואם את הדובר.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו criticize, destructive, supportive.
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