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Let me ask you something.
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Have you ever walked out of a work meeting that you've spoken at and immediately feel that sense of cringe?
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For example, the meeting is over, you're walking halfway back to your desk, and the thoughts are running in your mind.
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You're asking yourself, why did I say it like that?
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Why did my voice sound like that?
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Did I even make any sense?
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Were people even paying attention to me?
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It feels as though my words didn't even land.
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Or maybe it's the opposite.
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Maybe you didn't say anything at all.
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And that's the part that you're cringing at because you know that you had a good point, but you let that moment pass you by.
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And now you're stuck with this annoying thought that says, I should have spoken up.
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I could have added value.
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I could have made a good impression in front of the senior leaders and I didn't.
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And if this has been happening to you consistently in the workplace, you're likely at a point now where it's not going unnoticed.
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Maybe you've actually already gotten some feedback from your manager about this.
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Perhaps in your latest performance review, you might have gotten feedback that said, you need to speak up more.
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You need to be more visible.
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You need to show more leadership presence.
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And what makes it so frustrating is that you know you're not slacking.
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You know that you're the one that's staying up late and working hard on these projects.
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You're the one that's doing the deep, detailed work.
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You're the one that's fixing things when things get broken.
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And yet somehow, you're not getting noticed for it.
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And at the same time, you're watching your colleagues who, let's be honest, they're not working as hard as you are.
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They're getting the opportunities.
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They're getting tapped on the shoulders for more higher visibility projects.
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They're getting the promotions.
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And they're the ones getting recognized and credibility in meetings.
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And now you're realizing something that is scary to admit out loud.
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And that is your time is coming up.
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Because in 2026, with the way the world is going, with AI, with changes in how we do our work, if you cannot communicate clearly in meetings,
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in front of your co-workers, in front of senior leaders, in front of clients, especially under pressure, your career can become at risk.
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And no matter how hard you're working, you're being perceived as less senior, less strategic, less leadership ready.
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And if this is you, you are who I call a quiet achiever.
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And I know because I've written an entire book about it.
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It's become an Amazon bestseller in several countries.
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And if you're a quiet achiever who doesn't feel as though you're thriving in your career, it's because you are one who is working hard in your career,
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but your voice is not carrying the weight of your work.
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And that needs to change.
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So not to worry.
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In this video, I'm going to share with you the mindsets that you need to start embodying in 2026,
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as well as the communication framework that I love to use
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that will help you to go from invisible to influential in meetings.
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It will help you go from feeling self-doubt, hesitant, uncertain in the way that you sound and communicate to feeling calm,
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confident, clear, and being able to deliver your ideas with conviction.
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Even if you tend to get nervous, even if there are senior leaders in the room,
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I know these strategies work because I've witnessed my clients go through this shift in our program Quiet to Confident.
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My client Laurent is a perfect example of this.
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Before starting our program, she had been given feedback by her manager
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that she needed to speak up more and her performance was at risk.
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However, after implementing this exact framework that I'm going to teach you today, she started sounding more confident in meetings.
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She no longer sounded like she was just reporting information and instead sounded like a leader.
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People turned to her for her insights and guidance.
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And that has now since been reflected in her latest performance review, which has indicated that she is ready to move up to the next level.
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She is ready to be promoted.
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This can happen for you too.
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If you're at the point where you've realized that you can no longer afford to keep being overlooked at work, then this video is for you.
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And that's also why I put together my free PDF called Speak Confidently in Meetings Guide.
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It includes the exact framework that I'm going to be teaching you today, as well as scripts, prompts, and phrases that you can use in your next meeting,
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especially when you don't have enough time to be able to prepare a perfect answer.
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In order to get it, just comment the word confident down in the comments below, and I'll be sure to send you the link.
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Okay.
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So let's talk about the real mindset shift that you need to make.
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This isn't about just being louder or talking more or being more fake or more dominant, more aggressive.
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This is about flipping an internal switch.
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That switch is taking you from doer to leader.
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You want to become the expert, the leader, the trusted advisor, the person that people turn to for guidance, for insights, for opinions.
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And you have to be able to do it in a way where people can actually see it, where your coworkers, your manager,
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your senior leaders can actually see that there is a shift within you.
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Because here is what quiet achievers don't realize until it's often too late.
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And that is that you can be exceptional at your work, exceptional at execution, and yet you still get flagged as not leadership material.
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Or in other words, you're seen as not ready for the next level.
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You can be that person who does all the amazing things, works behind the scenes, saves the projects, and yet you still get passed over.
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I have seen it time and again.
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And here's the thing.
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If your manager has already shared with you that you need to speak up more at work, that's not casual feedback.
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That is a sign.
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It's a sign that your work, your presence, your energy is not being felt at the level that it needs to be felt.
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And if you ignore that sign long enough, one of two things will happen.
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One, you become what I call a steady eddy
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and you end up stagnating in the same role for years on end with no promotion, no raise in pay, no real challenges, no real growth.
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Or two, the worst case scenario is that you become vulnerable.
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Your job becomes at risk where if budgets tighten, if priorities shift, if there's restructuring that happens,
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you'll find that those individuals who tend to be more visible, more influential, they tend to get protected more so than those who are not.
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I know it's not fair, but it's true.
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And I think you know it too.
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So let's fix that right now.
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The first mindset shift is to go from task doer to thought partner.
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If you've been watching my videos for a while, you've heard me say this time and again, and that is hard work alone does not get you promoted.
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Visibility, trust, and influence, however, they do.
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And I want to be careful here because I understand that as quiet achievers, you hear the word visibility and automatically you're thinking,
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I need to self-promote constantly.
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And that's not what I mean.
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I mean, you need to know how to be seen in the moments that matter.
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So think about what happens in a performance review.
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Your manager isn't just evaluating the work that you do on your own as an individual contributor.
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If they're a good manager, most likely they're also evaluating the impact that you're making in public,
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meaning the impact that you have in front of your co-workers, in front of senior leaders, in front of clients and other stakeholders.
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They're asking, what did you contribute in leadership meetings?
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Did you drive alignment?
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Did you elevate thinking?
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Did you influence decisions?
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And this is why there will be cases where you see your coworker who you deem as less competent,
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less detailed, and sometimes even less reliable, get promoted over you.
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Because in important meetings, in interactions with the right people, they show up as a thought partner.
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They know how to shape the conversation.
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They know how to influence and gain buy-in for their ideas.
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They know how to bring recommendations rather than just listing out all the tasks that they've completed.
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You need to make the shift from someone who just does the work, who just reports on information and details to someone who is a strategic business partner.
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That is the shift.
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So next time that you're in a meeting, I want you to stop thinking, I'm just here to give an update.
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And instead to start thinking, I'm here to help them think.
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I'm here to help them make decisions.
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I'm here to help guide the conversation forward.
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So to help you with this, before your next meeting, ask yourself these few questions.
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If I were already the trusted advisor in this room, what would I clarify?
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What risk would I flag?
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What recommendation would I make?
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What trade-off would I name?
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Remember, leaders don't just share information.
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They're there to reduce confusion.
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They're there to guide direction.
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They're there to influence others to move in the direction that they want to go in.
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Now let's move on to mindset shift number two, and that is good communication is consistent, not perfect.
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As quiet achievers, we tend to have the habit of waiting for the perfect moment to speak up, where we have the perfect phrases,
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the perfect certainty in what we're saying, the perfect confidence.
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And then we I wonder why we're stuck.
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Because the truth is, strong communicators, they are not perfect.
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And they don't necessarily wait to be perfect in what they have to share.
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But strong communicators are consistent.
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As quiet achievers, because we're introspective in nature, we're also highly self-aware.
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And that is actually a trap because you're so aware of yourself.
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You're monitoring yourself constantly, criticizing, judging, listening to how you sound and worried about what others think
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that it ends up blocking you from being able to even use your voice in a natural, authentic way.
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So what happens is when you do speak up in a meeting, you're not fully present and you find yourself watching yourself while you speak.
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So here's what I want you to take on as your new rule.
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Think of it like going to the gym.
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Every meeting is like building a rep at the gym.
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And yes, some reps are going to feel awkward, but you cannot think your way into executive presence.
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You cannot think your way into being a leader.
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You have to train it.
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You have to build that muscle.
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And you can start off small.
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You can say, okay, in my next meeting, I'm going to make one comment.
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And that's good, but that's not great.
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Don't just aim for one little comment.
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Aim for one leadership move.
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So it could be a recommendation, an important insight, a risk that no one has considered, something that goes above and beyond what everyone else is saying.
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Because a weak comment can still keep you invisible, but making a leadership move like that is what makes you memorable.
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So ask yourself, what would it feel like if you stopped trying to sound perfect and instead started sounding clear, convincing, and confident?
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So as I'm saying this, if you're thinking to yourself, okay, Linda, I get it.
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I have to speak up more, but I have no idea what to say.
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That's why I created the Speak Confidently in Meetings PDF guide.
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All you have to do is write the word confident in the comments down below, and I'll send you the link so you can download it right away.
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So now that you can put these mindset shifts with the actual structure in place, but don't worry, we're going to get into that as well.
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Now, very quickly, if you are a quiet achiever who is trying to elevate your communication, but at the same time, you happen to also be looking for a new job,
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I'll also include the link in the description box down below.
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Now, after you've used AI apply successfully, and you're able to get that foot in the door, you still need to be able to own the room from a communication perspective.
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And that leads us directly into mindset shift number three, which is to anchor your value.
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You want to stop shrinking and start saying.
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The biggest mistake that I often see high achieving professionals make, specifically those of us who are introverted, more quiet, more thoughtful in nature,
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is that we tend to shrink in front of senior people.
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When you're in front of senior executives, you feel as though you have to earn permission in order to speak.
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You can't speak out of line.
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You can't raise your voice in a way where you have
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that level of conviction because they know more than you do you can't say something stupid or wrong
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and the irony is the senior leaders they don't want you
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to shrink they want you to make their lives easier they're
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executives they're moving fast they have a lot of things going
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on they don't have the full context of everything they don't have all the details the way that you do.
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They need you to bring clarity to complexity.
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They rely on you to translate complexity into clarity.
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If you're about to take on a new position or you've just joined your position recently, they don't care that you're new, but they do care about several other things.
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They care that you can frame the situation, you can name what matters, you can recommend next steps, and that you can follow through.
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So before your next meeting, I want you to anchor in this one truth.
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And that one truth says, I know this work better than anyone in this room.
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Because you do, closer than anyone else in the room.
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And your perspective matters.
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And if you don't offer your perspective, your insights, your opinions, they will make decisions without you included.
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And you end up being stuck, executing on decisions that you did not get to influence in the first place.
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So now that we've covered the three mindset shifts that you need to embody, let's move on over to the key communication framework
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that you need to understand if you want to be able to deliver clear updates in your next meeting.
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And this is called the SAY framework, S-A-Y.
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SAY is simple, repeatable, and it works in 99% of professional work meetings.
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This works for when you're giving progress updates, recommendations, you're trying to align different stakeholders during difficult conversations,
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and even during performance reviews, especially when you have to defend your impact.
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This is a structure that helps people to see your thinking, not just your output.
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So this is what SAY stands for.
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S stands for situation, and this is all about context.
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Name what's going on, what's happening, what's the project, the change, the situation at hand.
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For example, your S for your situation could be, over the last quarter, client response times have dropped by 20%.
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Or in another meeting scenario, you might be saying, right now we're seeing multiple teams escalating requests as urgent.
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When you give context this way, everyone is on the same page.
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They know what's going on.
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From there, you move on to A, which stands for analysis or assessment.
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This is where you interpret what does this mean?
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What's the impact?
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What's driving it?
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And this is also where you stop being the update person
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and you start being the thought partner because now you're giving people insight into your way of thinking, into your assessment of the situation.
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So for example, you might end up saying, After looking at the support ticket flow, the biggest driver is inconsistent usage of the new software.
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So requests are bouncing between teams.
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Or you might say, what's happening is we don't have shared prioritization criteria.
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So everything is being treated like a fire drill.
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And finally, from there, you would give why your recommendation.
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After you've shared what the situation is, what your analysis of the situation is, you want to share what your recommendation is.
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So what is the decision that you want to make?
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What's the next step?
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As an example, one could say, my recommendation is that we run a 15-minute refresher training Friday, assign one owner per request type,
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and we'll see response times recover by next month.
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Or you could say, my recommendation is we align on the top three priorities today by impact and effort, and I'll come back with a timeline by the end of the week.
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Do you feel the difference?
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You, in that scenario, didn't just give an update, but you guided direction.
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You made it easier for leaders to decide what to do next.
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You sounded like someone who can be trusted with more responsibility.
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That is what gets you promotions.
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That's what gets you higher visibility projects.
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That is what protects your job and ultimately your career.
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Because remember, in the Western workplace, people do not just promote the hardest worker.
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They promote the person who can think, communicate, and influence under pressure.
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At the end of the day, this is all about you going from invisible to influential.
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And so I want you to reflect on this.
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If you do nothing to change the way that you are showing up in your career, in the way that you communicate, in the way that you articulate your words,
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if you're doing nothing to change that, where do you think your career trajectory will be in the next 6 to 12 months?
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especially with AI coming in, taking over the technical aspects of your job, especially with layoffs happening, the world of work is changing, the chaos that's happening in the world,
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where will you be if you cannot communicate your value and what you do well?
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Reflect on that and make sure
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that you comment down below the word confident to get my speak confidently in meetings guide
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so that you can start shifting from invisible to influential today.
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If you enjoyed this, make sure that you click on this video next or this video next, wherever that is, for more tips on how to communicate more confidently at work.
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Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 246 cümle ve 3394 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 19:19 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 176 kelimeyle, günlük konuşmaya yakın doğal bir hızda konuşuyor. Kelimelerin %88’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında, bu yüzden kelime dağarcığını takip etmek kolay.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodan öğrenmeye değer 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| recommendation isim | /ˌɹɛkəmɛnˈdeɪʃən/ | tavsiye |
| mindset isim | /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/ | düşünce tarzı, zihniyet |
| framework isim | /ˈfɹeɪm.wɜːk/ | çatkı, çatık |
| feedback isim | /ˈfiːdˌbæk/ | geri bildirim |
| influential sıfat | /ɪnflʊˈɛnʃəl/ | nüfuzlu |
| invisible sıfat | /ɪnˈvɪzəb(ə)l/ | görünmez |
| visibility isim | /ˌvɪz.əˈbɪl.ɪ.ti/ | görülebilirlik |
| promotion isim | /pɹəˈmoʊʃn̩/ | terfi |
| reflect fiil | /ɹɪˈflɛkt/ | yansıtmak |
| scenario isim | /sɪˈnɛəɹioʊ/ | senaryo |
| strategic sıfat | /stɹəˈti.dʒɪk/ | stratejik, sevkülceyşî |
| priority isim | /pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/ | öncelik |
| visible sıfat | /ˈvɪzɪb(ə)l/ | görülebilir |
| guidance isim | /ˈɡaɪdəns/ | rehberlik, kılavuzluk |
| phrase isim | /ˈfɹeɪ̯z/ | deyim, tabir |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Anlam |
|---|---|
| check out fiil | gözden geçirmek |
| put together fiil | birleştirmek, bir araya getirmek |
| show up fiil | ortaya çıkmak |
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — önceden başlayıp hâlâ süren bir eylem | has been happening · you've been watching |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | you've spoken · you've actually already gotten · I've written |
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | being perceived · had been given · been reflected |
| İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi | one who is · review, which has · person who does |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı you're, they're, don't gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 103 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “th” sesleri: authentic /ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/, thrive /θɹajv/
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: recommendation /ˌɹɛkəmɛnˈdeɪʃən/, influential /ɪnflʊˈɛnʃəl/, promotion /pɹəˈmoʊʃn̩/, conviction /kənˈvɪkʃən/, exceptional /ɪkˈsɛpʃənəl/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: recommendation /ˌɹɛkəmɛnˈdeɪʃən/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, influential /ɪnflʊˈɛnʃəl/, invisible /ɪnˈvɪzəb(ə)l/, visibility /ˌvɪz.əˈbɪl.ɪ.ti/
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