Shadowing Practice: This Is Why Giving Your Boss Feedback Backfires - Learn English Speaking with Video

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Giving your boss impersonal feedback is tough enough, but giving personal feedback can be what we call a CLM.
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a career -limiting move.
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If you want to earn the right to give your boss feedback, there are three important criteria that you have to meet.
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Welcome to Moments with Marty, your short,
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sharp shot of leadership insight to help you to stay on track between our weekly episodes of the No Bullshit Leadership podcast.
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- Thank you.
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One of the most common reasons that people give for resigning from their job is that they can't work for their boss.
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Now we know from our personal experience that there isn't an oversupply of great leaders out there.
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So, rather than job hopping every six months, we settle for the boss we've got, and we try to find ways to work around their most annoying behaviours.
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Thank you.
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But it's only a matter of time before that wears thin, And we decide to take the nuclear option.
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We resign.
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Before you push that big red button though, it might be helpful to think about other ways of improving your situation.
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Perhaps you could find a way to improve your relationship with your boss by giving them feedback.
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Now over the course of my 30 plus year career in senior corporate roles,
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I saw lots of situations where a misunderstanding of intent led to catastrophic outcomes in both directions.
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You'd be amazed at how much unspoken animosity is created simply because of a communication breakdown.
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You'd also be amazed to hear that most leaders above you in the structure are willing to change.
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if only they're made aware of the negative impact they're having.
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But in the absence of any feedback, they'll rationalise.
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and they'll tell themselves that everything is fine, and if it's not fine, it must be someone else's fault.
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We all do this to some extent.
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and your boss is only human.
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Thank you.
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I find it useful to separate feedback into two categories.
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impersonal, and personal.
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All feedback that goes in a downwards direction In other words, to someone below you in the organisational hierarchy,
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Well, that can be considered personal simply because of the power imbalance.
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But if you do choose to give your boss feedback, It's helpful to work out whether the feedback you want to give them is personal or impersonal.
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Now, impersonal feedback would be things like, influencing their decisions.
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having input to problems.
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identifying opportunities for improved performance, managing resource constraints, stuff like that.
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personal feedback, is about the individual.
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So for your boss, That would be things like pointing out problems with their behavior.
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things that they're doing to impair team performance.
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identifying their leadership blind spots, analyzing their mistakes.
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It's very different, isn't it?
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Giving your boss impersonal feedback is tough enough, but giving personal feedback can be what we call a CLM.
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a career -limiting move.
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If you want to earn the right to give your boss feedback, there are three important criteria that you have to meet.
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The first is that your own performance has to be really strong.
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The second is: you should have already established a foundation of trust by giving valuable impersonal feedback.
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And thirdly, You have to know what you're talking about.
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and you have to have thought it through pretty carefully.
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Before you just blurt out what you think your boss needs to hear, make sure you've earned the right to tell them.
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It took me decades to achieve what I consider to be an elite ability to deliver feedback.
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And as part of my life's purpose to improve the quality of leaders globally, I've made all of my insight and wisdom on feedback available to you in our Leadership Beyond the Theory program.
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I absolutely view feedback as a gift.
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I welcome any information that I can get that helps me to improve.
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But on several occasions, someone who reported to me gave me feedback that was entirely off the mark.
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and because their own performance was questionable, they didn't have the credibility they needed to tell me where they thought I was falling short.
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um Look, I'm trying to be a better person, but I'm still not going to have someone whose performance is awful telling me what I'm doing wrong.
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You'll find though, that if you earn the right to give your boss feedback, it's going to improve every aspect of your work situation.
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For more depth on this insight, have listened to episode 284 of the No Bullshit Leadership podcast.
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giving your boss feedback.
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We'll leave a link in the show notes.
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I really hope you enjoyed this moment and that it gives you that extra little spark to be a no bullshit leader.
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you
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları

Bu B2 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “This Is Why Giving Your Boss Feedback Backfires” videosuna dayanıyor. En çok tekrarlanan kelimeler: feedback, boss, giving, personal, impersonal. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 58 cümle ve 794 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 5:12 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 153 kelimeyle, günlük konuşmaya yakın doğal bir hızda konuşuyor. Kelimelerin %83’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.

Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler

Videodaki en ileri düzey 11 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:

KelimeTelaffuzAnlam
amaze fiil/əˈmeɪz/şaşırtmak
criterion isim/kɹaɪˈtɪɹ.i.ən/ölçüt, kriter
resign fiil/ɹɪˈzaɪn/istifa etmek
podcast isim/ˈpɑdˌkæst/podcast
animosity isim/æn.ɪˈmɒs.ɪ.ti/husumet, muhasamat
constraint isim/kənˈstɹeɪnt/kısıtlama, sınırlama
impair fiil/ɪmˈpɛɹ/azaltmak, kötüleştirmek
misunderstand fiil/mɪs.ʌn.də(ɹ)ˈstænd/yanlış anlamak
hierarchy isim/ˈhaɪ.ə.ɹɑː(ɹ).ki/hiyerarşi
organizational sıfat/ˌɔː(ɹ)ɡənɪˈzeɪʃənəl/örgütsel
spark isim/ˈspɑɹk/kıvılcım, şerare

Bu videodaki dil bilgisi

Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:

YapıVideoda
Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylemyou've earned · I've made · have listened
Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemlibe amazed · can be considered

Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar

Konuşmacı I'm, they're, isn't gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 20 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.

  • “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: rationalize /ˈɹæʃənəlaɪz/, organizational /ˌɔː(ɹ)ɡənɪˈzeɪʃənəl/
  • Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: impersonal /ɪmˈpɝsənəl/, criterion /kɹaɪˈtɪɹ.i.ən/, animosity /æn.ɪˈmɒs.ɪ.ti/, misunderstand /mɪs.ʌn.də(ɹ)ˈstænd/, oversupply /əʊvəsəˈplʌɪ/

Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:

  • /w/ — dudaklar yuvarlak, /v/ değil: downwards /ˈdaʊnwɚdz/, questionable /ˈkwɛst͡ʃənəbl̩/
  • Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: criterion /kɹaɪˈtɪɹ.i.ən/, questionable /ˈkwɛst͡ʃənəbl̩/, globally /ˈɡloʊbəli/, credibility /kɹɛd.əˈbɪ.ɫɪ.ti/, spark /ˈspɑɹk/
  • /æ/ — “e”den daha açık: podcast /ˈpɑdˌkæst/, animosity /æn.ɪˈmɒs.ɪ.ti/, misunderstand /mɪs.ʌn.də(ɹ)ˈstænd/, rationalize /ˈɹæʃənəlaɪz/, catastrophic /ˌkætəˈstɹɑfɪk/

Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır

  1. Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
  2. 0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
  3. Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; amaze, criterion, resign gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.

Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?

Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.

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