跟讀練習: Gabor Maté – Authenticity vs. Attachment - 通過影片學習英語口語
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When a child is born, a child has two needs.
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The first need is for attachment.
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And attachment is contact, connection, love.
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Without that, the human child does not survive.
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Any mammalian child or even an avian child doesn't survive.
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So that as soon as you get past the level of reptiles, the reptile is hatched, the mother is long gone by then,
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and the reptile infant either lives or dies dies but there's no attachment to a parenting figure.
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As soon as you get to the level of birds now, the baby bird has to have an attachment with the parents, the parents have to be attached to the baby.
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Otherwise the infant simply does not survive.
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Mammalians even more so and most so the human because we're the least developed, the least mature, with the least developed brains
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and the most dependent for the longest period of time of any creature in the universe.
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So our attachment needs are enormous, and they remain important throughout lifetime because we have to have attachments to foreign societies, social groups without which we don't survive.
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So attachment is a huge need.
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We have to connect, belong, be loved by and love.
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That's just a basic human need.
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But we have another need as well, which is for authenticity.
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Authenticity is the capacity, as I said earlier, to know what we feel, to be in touch with our bodies,
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and to be able to express who we are and manifest who we are in our activities and in our relationships.
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Now why is that?
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Well, think of a human being in evolutionary period who's not in touch with their body and their gut feelings.
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How long do they survive out there in the wild?
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So authenticity is another huge survival need.
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Great.
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So far so good.
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but what happens to a child where the attachment need is not compatible with the need for authenticity?
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In other words, if I'm authentic, my parents will reject me.
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If I feel what I feel and express what I feel and insist on my own truth,
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my parents can't handle it and parents convey those messages unconsciously all the time not
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because they mean to not because they don't leave love the child not
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because they're not trying to do their best but
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because they themselves are suppressed or traumatized or hurt or stressed
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so I convey that message many times to my children believe me without without any conscious desire to do so.
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In fact, it was the very opposite of what I wished to convey.
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But that they're not acceptable the way they are, with their emotions the way they are, that's the message my kids got when they were small.
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And most children get that in our society.
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Now what does a child do with that?
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Well, if I give up my attachment for the sake of authenticity, I lose my relationships on which my life depends.
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Therefore, there's no question.
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What becomes suppressed is our authenticity, our emotions.
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And then we become 25 and 30 or 35, 40, and we don't know who we are.
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And somebody asks us, what do you feel?
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You say, I have no idea.
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And how many times we've all had the experience of having an inkling of a strong gut feeling, but we're ignoring it, we're ignoring it and we get into trouble.
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Well, that tells us what happened.
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What happened was
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that at some point we found out it was too costly
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for our attachment relationships to be in touch with our gut feelings.
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So then it becomes not our first nature, but our second nature to suppress our feelings, to lose touch with ourselves and to suppress our gut feelings.
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And then we pay the cost later on in the form of addictions, mental illness, or any range of physical illnesses.
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But it all began with this tragic conflict that children should never be confronted with, but are all the time,
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between authenticity on the one hand and attachment on the other.
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And even as adults, so many people are suffering because They want to be themselves, but they're afraid to be because they know or at least they fear
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that if they're themselves they're going to lose important attachment relationships in their life.
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真實自我與依戀需求的衝突場景
影片中講述了孩子成長過程中的普遍困境：一方面需要依戀父母獲得愛與連線以生存，另一方面又渴望展現真實自我。當兩者產生矛盾時，孩子往往會壓抑真實感受，久而久之失去自我認知，甚至引發後續的身心健康問題。這樣的場景不僅貼近生活，也為我們提供了豐富的英語表達素材。
實用表達與搭配
- attachment need：依戀需求。如影片中提到“our attachment needs are enormous”（我們的依戀需求極其強烈）。
- gut feeling：直覺、本能感受。可用於表達“ignore one's gut feeling”（忽視直覺）。
- suppress emotions：壓抑情緒。例如“suppress our authenticity, our emotions”（壓抑我們的真實自我和情緒）。
- convey messages unconsciously：無意識地傳遞資訊。如父母“convey those messages unconsciously”（無意識地傳遞這些資訊）。
- range of physical illnesses：一系列身體疾病。可擴充套件為“a range of mental health issues”（一系列心理健康問題）。
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