Pratique du Shadowing: Gabor Maté – Authenticity vs. Attachment - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo

When a child is born, a child has two needs.

The first need is for attachment.

And attachment is contact, connection, love.

Without that, the human child does not survive.

Any mammalian child or even an avian child doesn't survive.

So that as soon as you get past the level of reptiles, the reptile is hatched, the mother is long gone by then,

and the reptile infant either lives or dies dies but there's no attachment to a parenting figure.

As soon as you get to the level of birds now, the baby bird has to have an attachment with the parents, the parents have to be attached to the baby.

Otherwise the infant simply does not survive.

Mammalians even more so and most so the human because we're the least developed, the least mature, with the least developed brains

and the most dependent for the longest period of time of any creature in the universe.

So our attachment needs are enormous, and they remain important throughout lifetime because we have to have attachments to foreign societies, social groups without which we don't survive.

So attachment is a huge need.

We have to connect, belong, be loved by and love.

That's just a basic human need.

But we have another need as well, which is for authenticity.

Authenticity is the capacity, as I said earlier, to know what we feel, to be in touch with our bodies,

and to be able to express who we are and manifest who we are in our activities and in our relationships.

Now why is that?

Well, think of a human being in evolutionary period who's not in touch with their body and their gut feelings.

How long do they survive out there in the wild?

So authenticity is another huge survival need.

Great.

So far so good.

but what happens to a child where the attachment need is not compatible with the need for authenticity?

In other words, if I'm authentic, my parents will reject me.

If I feel what I feel and express what I feel and insist on my own truth,

my parents can't handle it and parents convey those messages unconsciously all the time not

because they mean to not because they don't leave love the child not

because they're not trying to do their best but

because they themselves are suppressed or traumatized or hurt or stressed

so I convey that message many times to my children believe me without without any conscious desire to do so.

In fact, it was the very opposite of what I wished to convey.

But that they're not acceptable the way they are, with their emotions the way they are, that's the message my kids got when they were small.

And most children get that in our society.

Now what does a child do with that?

Well, if I give up my attachment for the sake of authenticity, I lose my relationships on which my life depends.

Therefore, there's no question.

What becomes suppressed is our authenticity, our emotions.

And then we become 25 and 30 or 35, 40, and we don't know who we are.

And somebody asks us, what do you feel?

You say, I have no idea.

And how many times we've all had the experience of having an inkling of a strong gut feeling, but we're ignoring it, we're ignoring it and we get into trouble.

Well, that tells us what happened.

What happened was

that at some point we found out it was too costly

for our attachment relationships to be in touch with our gut feelings.

So then it becomes not our first nature, but our second nature to suppress our feelings, to lose touch with ourselves and to suppress our gut feelings.

And then we pay the cost later on in the form of addictions, mental illness, or any range of physical illnesses.

But it all began with this tragic conflict that children should never be confronted with, but are all the time,

between authenticity on the one hand and attachment on the other.

And even as adults, so many people are suffering because They want to be themselves, but they're afraid to be because they know or at least they fear

that if they're themselves they're going to lose important attachment relationships in their life.

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Cette leçon d’expression orale de niveau C1 s’appuie sur la vidéo « Gabor Maté – Authenticity vs. Attachment ». Les mots qui reviennent le plus souvent : attachment, authenticity, survive, feeling, parents. Cette vidéo contient 53 phrases et 716 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 4:12. Le locuteur parle à un rythme naturel d’environ 170 mots par minute, proche d’une conversation courante. 86 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais ; le reste mérite d’être vu avant de commencer.

Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo

Les 15 mots les plus avancés de la vidéo, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :

Mot	Prononciation	Sens
attachment nom	/əˈtæt͡ʃmənt/	attachement
authenticity nom	/ɑθɛnˈtɪsɪti/	authenticité
reptile nom	/ˈɹɛp.taɪl/	reptile
convey verbe	/kənˈveɪ/	transporter
mammalian adjectif	/məˈmeɪl.jən/	mammalien
infant nom	/ˈɪn.fənt/	nourrisson, enfant en bas âge
inkling nom	/ˈɪŋklɪŋ/	soupçon
traumatize verbe	/ˈtɹɔ.mə.taɪz/	traumatiser
unconsciously adverbe	/ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəsli/	inconsciemment
manifest nom	/ˈmæn.ɪ.fɛst/	manifeste, bordereau
attach verbe	/əˈtæt͡ʃ/	attacher
confront verbe	/kənˈfɹʌnt/	confronter
hatch verbe	/hæt͡ʃ/	éclore, naître
evolutionary adjectif	/ˌiː.vəˈluː.ʃən.ɛɹ.i/	évolutif, évolutionnaire
costly adjectif	/ˈkɒst.li/	coûteux, lourd

Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez

Mot	Sens
find out verbe	découvrir, savoir
give up verbe	se rendre

Prononciation à surveiller

Le locuteur utilise 15 contractions et formes réduites, comme they're, don't, we're. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.

Les sons « th »: authenticity /ɑθɛnˈtɪsɪti/, authentic /ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/
Les sons « sh » et « zh »: unconsciously /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəsli/, evolutionary /ˌiː.vəˈluː.ʃən.ɛɹ.i/
Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: authenticity /ɑθɛnˈtɪsɪti/, unconsciously /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəsli/, evolutionary /ˌiː.vəˈluː.ʃən.ɛɹ.i/, compatible /kəmˈpæt.ə.bəl/

Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :

/tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: attachment /əˈtæt͡ʃmənt/, attach /əˈtæt͡ʃ/, hatch /hæt͡ʃ/, tragic /ˈtɹæd͡ʒɪk/
/r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: suppress /səˈpɹɛs/, reptile /ˈɹɛp.taɪl/, traumatize /ˈtɹɔ.mə.taɪz/, confront /kənˈfɹʌnt/, evolutionary /ˌiː.vəˈluː.ʃən.ɛɹ.i/

Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo

Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme attachment, authenticity, reptile.

Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?

Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.

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