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Obsessed with your crush?
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You could have limerence.
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Ever had a crush that felt all-consuming?
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You feel obsessed with this person to the point where they take over your every waking thought.
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You analyze their every text, replay their words in your mind like a broken record, and feel an emotional high every time they give you even the slightest bit of attention.
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If this sounds familiar, then you might not just have a crush, you could be experiencing something called limerence.
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Limerence is an intense, involuntary emotional state where you become fixated on someone,
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obsessing over their every action while desperately craving their validation.
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This often happens suddenly when you don't know the person well and can be triggered by the smallest interaction.
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It feels like love, but it's not quite the same.
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In today's video, we're going to be breaking down exactly what limerence is, how it affects people, the signs that you might have it, and whether or not it can turn into real love.
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By the end of the video, you'll understand how limerence works, why it can feel so overwhelming, and how to navigate having it.
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What is limerence?
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Firstly, let's dive into what limerence actually is.
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The term limerence was coined by psychologist and author Dorothy Tenoff in the 1970s.
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After conducting extensive interviews, she found that many people experience an intense, obsessive form of infatuation that goes above and beyond the normal crush.
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Limerence is a mix of romantic obsession, anxiety, and euphoria that completely hijacks your mind and can rule over your life.
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You may think about the person constantly, idealize them, and misinterpret even the smallest social cues as signs that they might feel the same way.
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It can last anywhere from a few months to several years, and for some people, it can leave them feeling completely out of control.
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It's important to remember that limerence is not love.
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It's not even necessarily a genuine connection.
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It's more about the way the brain reacts to the idea of a person.
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The Origins of Limerence So where did the idea of limerence come from?
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Well, psychologist Dorothy Tenoff was one of the first to seriously study romantic obsession in the 1970s.
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Through her research, she found that many people had similar patterns of behavior, obsessive thoughts, emotional dependence, and an overwhelming need for reciprocation.
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She named this collection of behaviors limerence.
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She described limerence as something that hijacks your brain in a similar way that addiction does.
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In fact, modern neuroscience suggests that limerence activates the dopamine reward system in the brain, the same system that plays a role in addiction.
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Essentially, limerence is the result of a collection of behaviors that many of us can develop, meaning anyone can develop limerence.
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So how do you recognize if you or someone you know has limerence?
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How does a limerent person act?
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If you're a limerent, your behavior might look something like this.
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You constantly replay interactions with your crush in your mind, analyzing every detail.
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It brings you joy or excitement to think about this person, often over and over to the point of obsession.
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You feel a rush of euphoria when they acknowledge you, but crushing disappointment when they ignore you.
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Your mood is dependent on your interaction with them.
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You interpret vague or neutral actions as hidden signs of romantic interest, reading into to what they say and do.
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You feel like you need their attention, and without it, you experience anxiety or depression.
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When you get the attention you crave, you feel relief and euphoria.
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It's as if your emotions are tied directly to this one person, and they have the power to make or break your entire day.
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You might be thinking, at this stage in the video, that still just sounds like an intense crush to me.
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Well, let me explain.
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How is limerence different from a normal crush?
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A normal crush is fun, it's exciting, it might last for a few weeks or months, but it doesn't consume you.
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Limerence, on the other hand, comes on quickly, and often for people you don't necessarily know very well.
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Limerence isn't based on reality, but built on fantasy, an idealized version of the person, rather than who they actually are.
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So how do you know if you have limerence?
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Let's look at four major signs that you can look out for.
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Four signs you have limerence.
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Number one, intrusive thoughts.
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You think about this person constantly, even when you don't want to.
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Interactions you've had with them, or even messages you've shared pop up in your head randomly throughout the day.
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2. Emotional highs and lows.
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Your mood is completely dependent on how they treat you.
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A text from them makes you euphoric, while their silence feels like rejection.
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3. Misinterpreting signs.
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You read into everything, and I mean everything.
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They smile at you?
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Must mean they like you.
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If they look at you twice, they probably are thinking about you too.
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They like your Instagram story?
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Well, you may as well get married.
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4. Lastly, you obsess over reciprocation.
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You don't just like them.
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You desperately need them to feel the same way.
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If they don't, it feels unbearable.
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There's one main thing about limerence that underpins it all and will help to better understand how a limerent mind works, and that is mental gymnastics.
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Social cues and limerence.
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Mental gymnastics.
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People experiencing limerence often become hypersensitive to social cues.
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A simple text like, hey, how's it going, can be analyzed over and over again, searching for hidden meaning.
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They've messaged me.
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It must mean they've been thinking about me.
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If they want to know what I'm doing, then they have to care about me.
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You start doing mental gymnastics to convince yourself that they like you back, even if the evidence isn't fully there.
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This is because limerence thrives on uncertainty.
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The more ambiguous their actions are, the more your brain obsesses over them.
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For many, limerence is a brand new concept and potentially something they can see within themselves.
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So naturally, this brings up a lot of questions.
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So let's answer a few of those now.
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Frequently asked questions.
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Can limerence turn into love?
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Limerence and love are not the same thing.
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But in some cases, limerence can transition into love.
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The key difference is that love is based on reality.
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Love sees the other person for who they truly are, flaws and all.
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There's acceptance and healthy levels of admiration.
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Meanwhile, limerence is based on fantasy.
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It's an obsession with an idea of a person rather than who they actually are.
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Is it healthy to only feel attraction through limerence?
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Short answer, not really.
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If you only experience attraction through limerence, it might mean that you're chasing emotional highs rather than forming meaningful and genuine connections.
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Real, lasting relationships are built on mutual respect and understanding, not obsession.
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Is limerence the same as codependency, but only in the mind?
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In some ways, yes.
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Codependency is when your sense of self-worth is tied to another person.
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Limerence is similar, but it happens inside your own head.
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Even if the other person isn't actively involved in your life, you still feel emotionally dependent on them.
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How do I cure my limerence?
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Limerence can be treated like an addiction, And in order to cure an addiction, you have to want to heal from it.
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There are a whole host of things you can do to help with the signs
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and difficulties that having limerence can cause a person.
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If you'd like us to make a video dedicated to overcoming limerence, like this video and comment below so we know what you want to see.
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Conclusion Limerence is powerful, overwhelming, and sometimes painful.
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But the key takeaway is this.
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Limerence is not real love.
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If you recognize these signs in yourself, take a step back.
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Focus on real connections rather than idealized fantasies.
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And remember, love should feel fulfilling, not obsessive.
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本課的詞彙與口語要點
這節 B2 級別的口語課以影片“Stop Obsessing Over Your Crush”為素材。 影片中反覆出現的詞有：limerence, crush, signs, obsession, emotional。 這段影片共有 109 個句子、1333 個單詞可供跟讀。 講話部分時長為 7:19。 說話人語速較快，每分鐘約 182 個詞，會出現較多連讀和弱讀。 只有 81% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，詞彙難度較高。
影片中的重點詞彙
影片中最難的 15 個單詞，附發音和釋義：
| 單詞 | 發音 | 釋義 |
|---|---|---|
| limerence 名詞 | /ˈlɪməɹəns/ | 一往情深, 情深意切 |
| crush 動詞 | /kɹʌʃ/ | 擠壓, 擠 |
| obsess 動詞 | /əbˈsɛs/ | 迷住, 著魔 |
| obsession 名詞 | /əbˈsɛʃən/ | 著迷, 著迷 |
| addiction 名詞 | /əˈdɪkˌʃən/ | 成癮 /成癮 |
| euphoria 名詞 | /juˈfo.ɹi.ə/ | 欣快症, 狂喜 |
| overwhelm 動詞 | /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/ | 吞沒 /吞沒 |
| gymnastics 名詞 | /d͡ʒɪmˈnæs.tɪks/ | 體操 /體操, 體育 /體育 |
| analyze 動詞 | /ˈæn.əˌlaɪz/ | 分析 |
| hijack 動詞 | /ˈhaɪ.d͡ʒæk/ | 劫持, 攔路搶劫 /攔路搶劫 |
| psychologist 名詞 | /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/ | 心理學家 /心理學家 |
| consume 動詞 | /kənˈsum/ | 耗費 /耗費, 消耗 |
| desperately 副詞 | /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/ | 拼命地, 死命地 |
| attraction 名詞 | /əˈtɹækʃn̩/ | 吸引力 |
| dopamine 名詞 | /ˈdoʊ.pəˌmin/ | 多巴胺 |
影片中出現的短語動詞
| 單詞 | 釋義 |
|---|---|
| break down 動詞 | 壞了 /壞了, 出故障 |
| bring up 動詞 | 撫養 /撫養, 養大 /養大 |
| take over 動詞 | 接管, 接手 |
值得反覆跟讀的句子
影片中簡短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常對話裡：
- Obsessed with your crush?
- Firstly, let's dive into what limerence actually is.
- They smile at you?
- You don't just like them.
- How do I cure my limerence?
影片中的語法
說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：
| 結構 | 影片中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的 | can be triggered · was coined · isn't based |
| 現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事 | you've had · They've messaged |
需要注意的發音
說話人用了 19 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 don't, isn't, they've。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: crush /kɹʌʃ/, obsession /əbˈsɛʃən/, addiction /əˈdɪkˌʃən/, attraction /əˈtɹækʃn̩/, admiration /ˌæd.məˈɹeɪ.ʃən/
- 長單詞——注意重音位置: euphoria /juˈfo.ɹi.ə/, misinterpret /ˌmɪs.ɪnˈtɜː.pɹɪt/, psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/, desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/, involuntary /ɪnˈvɑ.lənˌtɛɹ.i/
中文母語者容易讀錯的音：
- /v/ — 不要讀成 /w/，上齒輕觸下唇: obsessive /əbˈsɛs.ɪv/, overwhelm /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/, intrusive /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/, involuntary /ɪnˈvɑ.lənˌtɛɹ.i/, craving /ˈkɹeɪ.vɪŋ/
- 詞尾子音 — 要讀清楚，後面不要加母音: limerence /ˈlɪməɹəns/, crush /kɹʌʃ/, obsess /əbˈsɛs/, idealize /aɪˈdɪəlaɪz/, limerent /ˈlɪməɹənt/
- /r/ 和 /l/ 的區別: limerence /ˈlɪməɹəns/, limerent /ˈlɪməɹənt/, replay /ˈɹiːpleɪ/, desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/, involuntary /ɪnˈvɑ.lənˌtɛɹ.i/
如何用這段影片練習
- 先完整聽一遍影片，不要開口，記下不認識的單詞。
- 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟讀，熟練之後再回到正常速度。
- 錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 limerence, crush, obsess 這類單詞。
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