跟读练习: TOP 3 Tips To Improve Your Communication Skills! - 通过视频学习英语口语

I got a question recently on Facebook and this particular person when they asked me the question I clicked on their profile to see where they're from and I noticed they're from Scotland so the question they asked me was hello then I'm just wondering if somebody's just starting

up their Journey on improving their communication skills what top three things would you get them to focus on thank you for this question my Scottish friend and in this video I'm gonna get into the

top three things you can do to help you improve your communication skills let's get into it now

the first thing you can do and the first thing you must do is remove auditory clutter

what I mean by auditory clutter is remove your non-words and your filler words non-words being the sounds that you make to feel the silence um uh uh those things

four words being the words that you use to fill the silence and so like do you know what I mean when you use lots of non-words and filler words meaning there's more verbal clutter in the way

that you communicate the following occurs the first thing is that it decreases the clarity of your message the second thing it's going to rob you of credibility the third thing it's going to

rob you of authority and the fourth thing is that it makes you seem as if you're unsure about what you're talking about even if you are sure about what you're talking about it seems like you're not

I'd love to throw you to an example of one of my students I want to show you them before when there's lots of filler words and non-words and then I want to show you what happens when we remove the filler words and non-words from their communication watch

how powerful this example is let me let me grab the video from the top and pull it down

uh just because I wanted to challenge myself I signed up for a 300 level history course American Revolution and uh as we were kind of uh winding through our class we'd kind of gotten through

most of the inciting incidents to the American Revolution and uh and the the professor he would always uh sit at the edge of a table uh with his notes right beside him and uh so you know me the

youngest student in the class by about a year and a half and uh he he looked out at the class and said now why do you guys think it was important uh that the uh that the signers of the Declaration

uh addressed it to uh to the king uh so um yeah reason I'm telling you all this uh is uh that uh wound up being four years later um uh became jack of all trades uh master of two okay you got this

you got this uh sit at the edge of the table notes next to him and he posed the question of the class

why was it important that the framers of the Declaration of Independence why was it important for them to address the Declaration to the king and not to Parliament and timidly raised my hand

and said because it was a revocation of everything it was to be British he paused for a moment looked at me and said exactly boom big round of applause yeah you see that video right there just goes

to prove that if you just removed the verbal clutter it can completely transform how other people perceive you now the second thing that I will tell you to do is remove the visual clutter

remove the visual clutter visual clutter is the same as verbal clutter you can move your hands too much and then it distracts people from the message and then causes people to

have less respect for you because you can't dance and you've discovered My Kryptonite I can't dance and I gotta tell you this I was once on set for a short film

and they made us dance in a nightclub with no music because they had to record the dialogue from the actors and actresses so I had to stand in front of people that I just met for the first time being an extra and when I was dancing I literally I literally danced like this

and I did this for 30 minutes in front of strangers as my face was going beetroot red

back to what I was saying when it comes to visual clutter that's the visual tips that you may have body language tips let me share with you a couple of mine the first one was

the classic tilting of the glasses when I first started my speaking career I would know word of a lie do this at least 50 to 100 times when I'm on stage because this was my nervous tick when I

get nervous I keep adjusting my glasses and the pace at which I adjust my glasses will increase as I become more nervous it was the most mental thing and it drove people insane and the second thing that I would do which was again it's a form of visual cutter was I'd use the same

hand gestures and I wouldn't have any Variety in my hand gestures and when I speak I just I just keep doing different pieces of this so I'd go really fast if I'm excited and then I'd slow down

as I become less excited it was it was ridiculous for clarity's sake visual clutter is when you're using your body language in a non-functional way where it doesn't support the things you or saying

let's go to a student example in this video the visual clutter takes the form of movement and I want to show you how when my students move around with no real purpose how it can be a

form of visual clutter and distract people from the message and watch the before and after I think you'll find this one also very inspiring and inspiring because the smallest

changes can have the most drastic impact on the way people perceive you and your message so as we throw to this video I'm gonna I'm gonna spin into the video so you ready for this it's

pretty cool it's a pretty cool party trick one two so I looked up swimming lessons I went to the classes diligently there were little kids in the pool with me and I was swimming next to them

and I was feeling so embarrassed but then that voice in me kept saying courage courage courage

and and over time I started enjoying the water again and I started doing all the water activities which I would have missed had I not shown the courage so the point of my story is

at often times in your life you will come at a fork where you have to make a decision

so the point of my story is you will always have a fork in your life where you have the easy path or the difficult path which may seem difficult at first but not really so which one are you going

to choose stay in fear the rest of your life not enjoy the world what the world has to offer or do something about it you know take that step show some action and then enjoy life to the fullest big

round of applause not it hold on and unfortunately I've got to spin back into the video again and

okay I think I'm getting old yeah definitely getting old that that was only three spins and I actually feel quite dizzy and the final thing you can do to help you improve the communication game

is very simple it's smile smile more now there's a few ways you can smile and and I'll tell you the optimal way but what I've learned from my mentors and teachers is that the first form of smiling is

called a polite smile and the polite smile is when you're walking past a stranger and they look at you you look at them it gets a little bit awkward and then you you only smile with your mouth no other area of your face you look at them and you do the whole hang on hang on a

second when I when I do this face I kind of look like Kermit the Frog hi guys oh my God this is

give give this video a like or a thumbs up you know this is pretty good wow you're an idiot of him but you see that is a polite smile that's when we're only smiling with our mouth

the second kind of smile that we do it's one of those Smiles we use when we're taking a photo and it's not not really a real smile it's where you show your teeth but again you're you're not

moving any other area of your face and when you do this one it kind of looks like this

and it just doesn't look real we're trying to smile in a way where we don't want the wrinkles to appear around our eyes now that's actually the best smile we can do it's the most

sincere and authentic smile because when you're truly laughing with your friends you don't care how your face looks you're not posing you're not being polite you're just truly expressing laughter and happiness and when you do that you're doing a dishin smile and if the shin

smile is when you're smiling your teeth are showing your cheeks are moved up and you've got the crow's feet appearing around your eyes I am guilty of not doing this smile enough I'm

going to show you a few photos where I do the classic photo pose smile have a look at that cheesy smile not even real look at them being fake and phony and not sincere or authentic that's me

that's what I used to do but the moment I learned this let me show you an example of me doing a real smile look that just looks way more authentic and way real it looks like I'm genuinely happy as opposed to posing for a body photo these are the three things that I would encourage

all of my students do especially those who are early on and just starting their communication skills Journey make sure you remove the auditory clutter make sure you remove the visual cutter and smile more it may seem super simple but these three things can completely change the

way other people perceive you thanks for joining me for this week's video everyone if you've got any questions on communication skills or anything you'd like to ask me please do leave them in the comment section below I love getting questions because you can see

things I can't there are times you're going to come up with a topic that I wouldn't even thought of so I'd love to hear from you drop me a comment down below see you next week foreign