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What about that mate budget study that
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Norm Lee did?
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Because that was about trade -offs, right?
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And typically, some people generally have good things that come along with good things.
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But for the most part, there are some sorts of trade -offs.
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Someone's spent an awful lot of time dedicated on one thing.
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They've maybe neglected another part of another area.
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It's an interesting study there, right?
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Can you explain for the Normies?
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Sure.
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The Norm Lee's.
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so yeah norm lee normally
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he uh did a did a study where he gave people a budget of mate dollars
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and then asked them create create the ideal mate
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that you can with this budget some people got a big budget
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and where that was the case men
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and women they both um wanted everything they um
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they wanted good looks they wanted uh they wanted like a good job high status blah blah blah
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that the works um but if they had a smaller mate budget
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which i think is probably more like most people's situation in life no offense um
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if they had that they um sex differences became more pronounced and
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so people men would spend more to get an attractive partner
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uh whereas women would spend more to get a um a partner with resources
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and status yeah he also did a study where he had people
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allocate for themselves if i'm not mistaken and it mirrored the uh it mirrored
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that that same pattern where it's like
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when men were kind of rpg style building their own character
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i think it was i don't mean to give him credit
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if it wasn't but um basically men tried to make themselves richer relative to women
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and women tried to make themselves prettier relative to men
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so yeah the reason why we don't see women turning up in supercars with expensive rolexes at a nightclub
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or guys spending tons of time doing the beautification thing.
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We know, we have an intuition about what is effective.
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It's the failures just continue to stack up in really interesting ways.
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Well, this is something that we proposed actually in our PNAS paper.
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In the discussion section, we talked about this, where it's like it is interesting and quite conspicuous, but also quite circumstantial that over the 1900s,
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there's pretty good data from David Buss.
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It's hard to do.
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It's hard to gather this survey data, But it does seem that over time,
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throughout the 1900s, especially in the period after women's kind of financial emancipation,
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let's call it, mate preferences converged quite a bit between men and women.
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Oh, that's interesting.
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And then also we're now seeing this tremendous behavioral convergence where it's like women aren't doing sports cars and flashy watches,
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but they do have pretty nice handbags, pretty nice shoes, and they are pretty ritzy in terms of their finances.
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So yes, but that's only signaling to women.
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Well, maybe.
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But men are definitely, even if you say for the women's side, that's not true.
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On the men's side, we see that men have tripled their parenting effort since the 1970s.
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And male beautification, I know that it's really trendy right now with the whole looks maxing thing.
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But this is actually just the newest instantiation of a documented trend going back to the 1990s.
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You can read the historian Lynn Luciano's work on this, where male beautification has increased decade on decade to a point where basically everyone,
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even like a normal man who doesn't consider himself like a
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beautifying person uh his behavior his daily routine would be unrecognizable
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to his grandfather like the average shave your head dude shave your head
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you don't need to think about we did a we did
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a little data analysis um on using health data essentially seeing like how much has weightlifting actually increased
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and generation on generation
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it's like you go from basically like not a behavior to
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every young man is now like every every man like every
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other member of gen z essentially is like a recreational bodybuilder that's right i totally do find
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that attractive though right um they do find uh some some
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muscularity uh attractive and uh good grooming attractive they find parenting attractive
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but i'm not persuaded at all in fact i don't think it's the case
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that men think that um she's really hot i love
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that handbag yeah i don't think i don't think so either remember
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that was a bit cheeky but i do think
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that it is i do think it's conspicuous um and so it's worth pointing out where it's like,
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I don't think that women are necessarily signaling their resources to attract men, but it's interesting that they're signaling resources more over the same time period.
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And in the male beautification, I would really put my foot down and say, no, that is to attract women.
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And I think it is because they have their own money.
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Right.
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Okay.
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So this is your pet theory, right?
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That because the socioeconomic imbalance between men and women has been reduced or even reversed.
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Men need to find a different way.
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They need to compete on another domain of attractiveness.
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And that has been self -beautification.
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I'm going to make myself look nicer.
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Beauty is the flashy one.
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Parenting is the quiet one that's actually better evidenced.
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Dad not shared.
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Yeah, exactly.
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And we see this even in Lee's 2015 study, where it does seem that when women and have their own money, they recognize where it's like,
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well, I have the financial thing kind of sorted.
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I really need like a helper at the nest a little bit more.
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And that's been the preference shift.
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And men have definitely responded to that.
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I mean, men have tripled their...
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A man today spends more time with children, I believe, I think I heard this from you, that it was than women did in the 1950s.
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There's a dramatic difference, though.
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At least in the U .S context, I've read that this differs by socioeconomic status and education,
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where educated, upper -middle -class men are spending far more time with their children than fathers in the past,
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whereas non -college men are spending the same amount as decades past, or even slightly less.
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And the average is getting brought up by… Primarily by college educated men.
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Yeah, hilarious.
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Although those women don't necessarily have as much money.
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Yeah.
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It's part of it though… But then the men are also spending less.
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Yeah.
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It's part of it though, just that guys are thinking it's only fair.
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They're responding to arguments that have been made by feminists and others.
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Just that guys haven't been pulling their weight in the past and they think that they should.
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To a degree, on this handbag point, I think I heard this from Tonya Reynolds,
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that she suggested that it's not that men obviously aren't attracted to these luxurious handbags.
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And in some cases, women, they're buying these handbags or wearing them to impress women.
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I know what you're going to say.
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But it's about deterring.
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Deterring rivals.
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Look at how much my husband is in the hole for this stupid bag that he doesn't understand what it is.
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None of his friends understand what it is.
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I'm not even doing it for other guys.
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It's not my boobs, right? which would be the sort of thing that wouldn't be a deterrent.
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It would actually probably be the cause of ire from other women.
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Whereas women would compliment handbags more than they would compliment boobs.
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Yes, yeah, yeah.
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100%.
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So if you imagine that we're in an environment of increasing mate competition, if you were an attractive man.
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Big engagement ring.
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Why the massive engagement ring?
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Look at how much he's in the hole.
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For me, stay clear.
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But what's the benefit though of intimidating other women and saying, look at this great handbag.
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To keep them away from the partner.
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If guys don't care about it, why would other women think, well, I better stay away because I don't have as nice a handbag.
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Well, if he's so invested in her that he spent 20 grand on a handbag,
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then it's probably not worth my time to poach him or to attempt to poach him.
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I see.
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So it could be mate poaching deterrence.
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It could also be just kind of classic high status to low status threat behavior.
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I remember literally the first day of my PhD arrived in Melbourne and went for a walk with Candice.
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And I asked her this exact question.
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And I was just like, why do you think women love the handbags?
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Because I knew that she was really into the beautification stuff and that she really had her head around those things.
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And just immediately said to scare young women.
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Just immediately.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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And so I was like, okay, interesting.
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And I do think that it is, I feel like I've since then maybe tried to observe it as like a second order thing.
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And I think it's kind of maybe the male equivalent of
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like a guy who's really jacked walking into the room when a woman walks in and she's very glamorous.
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She's got the expensive shoes, the expensive bag, just throws it on the table.
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It's like, I run this shit.
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Like it's kind of like that atmosphere.
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But there's also a sense, at least with guys, guys that have got a ton of muscle on them, you have to have spare time.
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You have to have spare time.
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You have to have spare money to be able to afford the food and the PEDs.
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You need to be at least somewhat disciplined.
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You need to have the time to be able to plan your training sessions
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and not be at work every single hour of the day in the same way as the long nails
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that a woman might have and the well -done hair and the good beauty regime is costly in terms of time.
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And that indicates an awful lot more about lifestyle than just resources do.
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But I totally didn't think about the fact that guys going to the gym is a form of male beautification.
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If you class that in, which I just like totally did not consider,
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if you add in guys going to the gym as a form of male beautification, it's got to be 4X,
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5X, 6X, 10X, what it would have been 100 years ago for male beautification.
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Yeah, I mean, that's what the best, that's what the best study on beautification did.
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It's Mardukowal's study um it's and she found
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that in all except for seven countries women beautified more uh there were there were seven
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that men beautified more um slightly um
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and this was the weightlifting side of it essentially was what was
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that was the behavior where men were a big pac -man chunk
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that's been taken out of the side yeah it is
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and uh and some might say oh well a lot of men beautify a lot of men hit the gym, sorry, for health, not beautification.
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And some of them do it for status competitions.
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They actually, but they thought of that.
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They had a question in there that it's like, okay, doing it for beauty though, basically how much time are you like bodybuilding?
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And so they, they, they really were able to drill down on that.
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And there was one other behavior.
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This is so counterintuitive where among the people who did it, men actually did this behavior more.
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So think about different beautification behaviors.
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I won't bore you by making you guess, but it was makeup.
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Among people who wear makeup, the men who wear makeup spend way more time on it than the women um just
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because they're less good at it they've been growing up on youtube tutorial yeah i think
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that it's um what she said to me was that she thinks
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that it's um essentially men who wear makeup have some kind of special qualitative difference maybe it's
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that they're like a sense i told her look
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you're picking up on like male beauty influencers essentially like like who is
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and so they just have different yeah yeah but i thought
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that was interesting is that the um is
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that in terms of numbers among the people charles on repeat yeah
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it's just james strolls clocking in 16 hours a day and causing the difference.
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But it was interesting.
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So it was basically, yeah, there was this, the second biggest difference technically was the weight lifting.
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The biggest was the makeup, but it was because of that effect.
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这节口语课以视频“What Women Choose When Given a “Dating Budget””为素材。 这段视频共有 203 个句子、2344 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 11:49。 说话人语速较快，每分钟约 198 个词，会出现较多连读和弱读。 84% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，其余的词建议在练习前先学一下。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| essentially 副词 | /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/ | 本質上 /本质上, 基本上 |
| resource 名词 | /ɹɪˈzɔːs/ | 資源 /资源 |
| whereas | /(h)wɛɹˈæz/ | 然而 |
| attract 动词 | /əˈtɹækt/ | 吸引 |
| norm 名词 | /nɔːm/ | 常態 /常态, 規範 /规范 |
| necessarily 副词 | /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/ | 必然地, 必定地 |
| relative 名词 | /ˈɹɛl.ə.tɪv/ | 親戚 /亲戚 |
| mirror 名词 | /ˈmiɹɚ/ | җинзы, 鏡 /镜 |
| awful 形容词 | /ˈɔːfʊl/ | 壞 /坏, 糟糕 |
| triple 形容词 | /ˈtɹɪp.əl/ | 三重 |
| wisdom 名词 | /ˈwɪzdəm/ | 智慧 |
| shoe 名词 | /ˈʃu/ | 鞋子, 鞋 |
| preference 名词 | /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/ | 優選 /优选, 選擇 /选择 |
| compliment 名词 | /ˈkɑmpləmənt/ | 稱讚 /称赞, 道賀 /道贺 |
| shave 动词 | /ˈʃeɪ̯v/ | 刮, 剃 |
视频中出现的短语动词
| 单词 | 释义 |
|---|---|
| bring up 动词 | 撫養 /抚养, 養大 /养大 |
| point out 动词 | 指, 指出 |
值得反复跟读的句子
视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：
- I'm going to make myself look nicer.
- I know what you're going to say.
- I'm not even doing it for other guys.
- It's not my boobs, right?
视频中的语法
说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：
| 结构 | 视频中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 现在完成进行时 have/has been + -ing — 以前开始、现在仍在继续的动作 | haven't been pulling · they've been growing |
| 条件句 if + 从句，will/would + 动词 — 条件及其结果 | If you enjoyed that clip, you will love |
| 现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事 | have tripled · has increased · has been reduced |
| 定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物 | man who doesn · guys that have · people who did |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 38 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 don't, they're, I'm。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “th” 音: gather /ˈɡæðɚ/, grandfather /ˈɡɹæn(d)ˌfɑðɚ/
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, shoe /ˈʃu/, shave /ˈʃeɪ̯v/, regime /ɹəˈʒiːm/, luxurious /lʌɡˈʒʊəɹi.əs/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, hilarious /hɪˈlɛə.ɹi.əs/, technically /ˈtɛk.nɪˌkəl.i/, reasonably /ˈɹiː.zən.ə.bli/
中文母语者容易读错的音：
- /v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: relative /ˈɹɛl.ə.tɪv/, shave /ˈʃeɪ̯v/, reverse /ɹɪˈvɝs/, invest /ɪnˈvɛst/, rival /ˈɹaɪvəl/
- 词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: resource /ɹɪˈzɔːs/, whereas /(h)wɛɹˈæz/, attract /əˈtɹækt/, relative /ˈɹɛl.ə.tɪv/, engagement /ɪnˈɡeɪd͡ʒ.mənt/
- /r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, relative /ˈɹɛl.ə.tɪv/, triple /ˈtɹɪp.əl/, glory /ˈɡlɔːɹi/, hilarious /hɪˈlɛə.ɹi.əs/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 essentially, resource, whereas 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。