跟读练习: How to Find Someone You Can Be With Forever - 通过视频学习英语口语
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When you select a partner, whether you realize it or not, you're choosing a whole lifestyle and not just the person.
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You're choosing their sleep schedule.
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You're choosing their money habits.
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You're choosing their stress levels, their family drama, their levels of cleanliness, their work ethic, their coping mechanisms.
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All of these things will be a baseline of your daily life.
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If their normal is doom scrolling till 2am, avoiding all conflict, impulse spending and never exercising, Guess what?
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You're signing up to live in that ecosystem.
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Love does not cancel out people's flaws.
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In fact, love just makes you tolerate them for longer.
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Most people obsess over Do we have romantic chemistry?
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and they completely skip Can I live with this person's version of a Tuesday for the next 10 years?
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The hard truth is you don't fix somebody's lifestyle from the inside.
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You either accept the package as they are, Or your walk.
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I've been having, I've been having this conversation with a lot of single friends recently. of.
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I'm not sure.
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What I'm noticing...
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is that people tend seem to have kind of this laundry list of requirements and
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as soon as they and there's this also this false perception of infinite options.
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And so as soon as the person that they're seeing or that they're on a date with
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like fails one of the qualifications.
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They're like, Oh, next I'm going to move on.
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And then of course they're, you know, 45 and still single and wondering why they never found anybody.
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And have you ever heard that story that I think it, I think it was Warren Buffett where he said that he was like,
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you know, you, you, Write out a list of 20 things that you want in your life.
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put them in order from the thing that's most important, least important, and then cross out everything, but the top three, I've essentially started giving that exercise to my single friends.
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Cause I'm like, you're not going to find all of these.
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And, and, and it's, you've been brainwashed.
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You have this like false perception that there's a lot of these people out there
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that that tick every single box and there's not.
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And you're probably even if there is, you're probably not going to meet them.
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And if you do meet them, they're going to have so many options that it's going to be like very unlikely that you end up with them.
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It's find your three non -negotiables and then...
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negotiate on the rest and that's like fucking sacrilege these days to tell people
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because they're like i don't want to sound like settling yeah i don't want to settle it's like you Dude, everybody settles on something.
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I mean, you're settling in that you can't fly.
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at the moment.
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Yeah.
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You know, you're settling in that you need to go to bed every night.
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Yeah.
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I mean, dude, there's things that I've been with my wife for 14 years.
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There's things about her that still drive me fucking crazy.
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And, but I...
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I think she's like Latina, right?
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Well, yeah.
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Yeah.
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So that kind of comes, that's part of the course.
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It's yes, it's part for every course, but it's the Latina, the Latino versions are just much more dramatic.
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Very loud.
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Lots of tears.
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It's the spicy version.
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It's the fuego version.
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Exactly.
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It's fuego dating.
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Exactly.
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Um, But there's things about me that like she can't stand, but it's like, you just, accept at a certain point.
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You're like, okay, the good vastly outweighs the bad and you go with it.
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And I think...
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I think the reason... That.
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posted so well is you know, when you are meeting people when you are dating people.
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there's this whole kind of like, iceberg under the water of traits and characteristics and personality
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and connections and relationships that you're not really aware of that they're there.
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Um, but that's actually going to be the majority of the relationship.
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Right. And.
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really most people are kind of just going on vibes.
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you know when they're when they're dating somebody um
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And so I just think it's helpful to be like explicitly conscious about it and understand like, okay, if, if her mother's crazy like and you want to marry her,
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like you're going to have a crazy mother -in -law for 40 years.
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Looking for some crazy.
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Exactly.
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Like it's just put it on the plate because it's part of the course.
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You can't, you can't only, it's not a buffet.
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You don't just take the items you want.
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You got to take, it's the whole prefix menu.
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You know what the original name for this podcast was going to be?
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What's that?
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Crushing a Tuesday.
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The reason for that, glad that I didn't do it.
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Another one was mind and matter and another one was brain and brawn and it was, they were horrible.
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Modern wisdom was divine inspiration that came to me at three in the morning.
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Yeah, much better.
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Thank you.
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Uh, crushing Tuesday is not bad.
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Crushing a Tuesday was taken from a Tim Ferriss podcast.
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Okay.
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And what he said was most people try to optimize their lives around peak experiences.
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Mm -hmm.
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but your life is made up of average Tuesdays.
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Yeah.
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And your goal should be to make your average Tuesday as enjoyable as possible.
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Yeah.
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And that's what you're talking about here, that...
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what people look at is the amazing sex or the fascinating conversation.
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They don't realize What?
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Is this person like?
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normally?
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What is the middle of their bell curve of just how they operate?
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What do they do with Thank you with the most frequent interaction between them and reality?
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What do they do with their diet?
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That's pretty important.
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What do they do with their sleep pattern?
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That's pretty important.
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These are structural things.
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How do they deal with discomfort?
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How do they deal with things when they're hot?
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How do they deal when they're dysregulated?
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What's their family like?
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What are their timelines like?
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No, your timelines in the same.
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moving in the same direction.
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And that.. is what's the relationship with money like?
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That is what you are signing up for.
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Right.
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And that line, love does not cancel out people's flaws.
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In fact, it just makes you tolerate it for longer.
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Which is what's deranging to a lot of people
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that they get into a relationship with somebody who isn't right for them or isn't good for them. And the...
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capacity of their love, the intensity of their love just allows them to stay in something which isn't right for even longer.
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Yeah.
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And I think that people often feel guilty about having optimized for romantic chemistry,
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when what they should have been optimizing for is Is Tuesday evening with this person enjoyable?
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Right.
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And it's it's easy to optimize for that romantic chemistry
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because that's what you're flooded with when you meet somebody you really like.
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So that's what you're going to be biased towards.
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And I should I should add.
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So it's funny because I think I've posted a couple variations of this post over the years and.
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Every time there's always a couple angry people in the comments who are like,
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you this is unrealistic you shouldn't expect somebody to satisfy all these things for you
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and the point of this isn't
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that you have to go find somebody who has a mother
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that you like and who's like good with the opposite of
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that yeah no it's like it's you have to find somebody
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that you're willing to tolerate all of all of those things right
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so it's it's not um they're not trying to hit a a
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a ceiling like you're just trying to make find somebody who's like nothing falls below your floor
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and it's also i think a lot of it there are a couple other facets of this I think one is...
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understanding that what you, What are you particularly well -equipped to handle.
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So for example, my wife's Brazilian.
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She has a lot of feelings.
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And I'm just like very even keeled pretty much all the time.
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It really takes a lot for me to get worked up about anything.
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Like I'm, I'm the guy who doesn't give a fuck.
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So, It actually works extremely well.
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Like I can handle a lot of emotions.
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It doesn't really freak me out.
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I don't like get sucked into drama easily.
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So there's like a certain amount of self -knowledge of understanding
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this is the type of partner that I'm probably well suited for because my strength kind of, resonates well with their weakness or vice versa.
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Whereas like, My, you know, I have a very, very like,
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strong need for intellectual stimulation.
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I get bored extremely easily.
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and back when i was single like i i dated a lot of really cool girls
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but who just like weren't super smart or curious and i I was bored within minutes.
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And some of them were smoking hot.
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Some of them were awesome in bed.
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And I remember sitting there being like, I can't believe I'm going to break up with this girl.
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Like, she's, what am I doing?
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But, I was bored.
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Got nothing to talk to you about.
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Yeah, I was bored out of my mind.
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And your first date with your now wife, was you met in a nightclub and within 30 minutes we're talking about Russian literature.
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- Russian grammar.
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- Russian grammar.
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That's it.
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You know?
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- Yes, yes.
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Go on.
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这节 B2 级别的口语课以视频“How to Find Someone You Can Be With Forever”为素材。 这段视频共有 185 个句子、1842 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 10:08。 说话人语速较快，每分钟约 182 个词，会出现较多连读和弱读。 84% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，其余的词建议在练习前先学一下。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中最难的 15 个单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| timeline 名词 | /ˈtaɪmˌlaɪn/ | 年表, 時間軸 /时间轴 |
| optimize 动词 | /ˈɑptɪmaɪz/ | 优化 |
| bore 动词 | /boɹ/ | 煩擾 /烦扰 |
| tolerate 动词 | /ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/ | 忍受, 熬 |
| crush 动词 | /kɹʌʃ/ | 挤压, 挤 |
| mitochondrion 名词 | /ˌmaɪtəˈkɑndɹiən/ | 線粒體 /线粒体, 粒線體 /粒线体 |
| flaw 名词 | /flɔ/ | 疵 |
| enjoyable 形容词 | /ɛnˈd͡ʒɔɪ.ə.bl̩/ | 愉快 |
| podcast 名词 | /ˈpɑdˌkæst/ | 播客 |
| grammar 名词 | /ˈɡɹæm.ə(ɹ)/ | 語法 /语法, 文法 |
| perception 名词 | /pɚˈsɛpʃ(ə)n/ | 知覺 /知觉, 感知 |
| cancel 动词 | /ˈkæn.sl̩/ | 划, 勾 |
| brainwash 名词 | /ˈbɹeɪnwɒʃ/ | 洗腦 /洗脑 |
| cleanliness 名词 | /ˈklɛn.li.nᵻs/ | 清潔 /清洁 |
| fascinate 动词 | /ˈfæsɪneɪt/ | 誘惑 /诱惑, 迷住 |
视频中出现的短语动词
| 单词 | 释义 |
|---|---|
| cross out 动词 | 劃掉 /划掉 |
| get up to 动词 | 幹 /干, 做 |
值得反复跟读的句子
视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：
- You're choosing their sleep schedule.
- You're choosing their money habits.
- You're signing up to live in that ecosystem.
- It's find your three non -negotiables and then...
- I mean, you're settling in that you can't fly.
视频中的语法
说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：
| 结构 | 视频中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 现在完成进行时 have/has been + -ing — 以前开始、现在仍在继续的动作 | I've been having · have been optimizing |
| 被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的 | you've been brainwashed · was taken · is made |
| 定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物 | somebody who isn · somebody who has · guy who doesn |
| 现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事 | you've been brainwashed · I've been · I've posted |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 67 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 you're, they're, I'm。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “th” 音: ethic /ˈɛθ.ɪk/, underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: crush /kɹʌʃ/, perception /pɚˈsɛpʃ(ə)n/, brainwash /ˈbɹeɪnwɒʃ/, foundational /faʊnˈdeɪ.ʃə.nəl/, negotiable /nɪˈɡoʊʃəbəl/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: mitochondrion /ˌmaɪtəˈkɑndɹiən/, foundational /faʊnˈdeɪ.ʃə.nəl/, mitochondrial /ˌmaɪ.təˈkɑːn.dɹi.əl/, negotiable /nɪˈɡoʊʃəbəl/, stimulation /stɪm.jʊˈleɪ.ʃən/
中文母语者容易读错的音：
- /v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: validate /ˈvæl.ɪ.deɪt/, vastly /ˈvæstli/, vibe /vaɪb/, variation /ˌvɛəɹiˈeɪʃn̩/, curve /kɚv/
- 词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: optimize /ˈɑptɪmaɪz/, tolerate /ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/, crush /kɹʌʃ/, podcast /ˈpɑdˌkæst/, brainwash /ˈbɹeɪnwɒʃ/
- /r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: tolerate /ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/, mitochondrial /ˌmaɪ.təˈkɑːn.dɹi.əl/, sacrilege /ˈsækɹəlɪd͡ʒ/, scroll /skɹoʊl/, laundry /ˈlɔːn.dɹi/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 timeline, optimize, bore 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。