Pratica di Shadowing: How to Find Someone You Can Be With Forever - Impara a parlare inglese con i video
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When you select a partner, whether you realize it or not, you're choosing a whole lifestyle and not just the person.
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You're choosing their sleep schedule.
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You're choosing their money habits.
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You're choosing their stress levels, their family drama, their levels of cleanliness, their work ethic, their coping mechanisms.
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All of these things will be a baseline of your daily life.
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If their normal is doom scrolling till 2am, avoiding all conflict, impulse spending and never exercising, Guess what?
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You're signing up to live in that ecosystem.
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Love does not cancel out people's flaws.
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In fact, love just makes you tolerate them for longer.
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Most people obsess over Do we have romantic chemistry?
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and they completely skip Can I live with this person's version of a Tuesday for the next 10 years?
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The hard truth is you don't fix somebody's lifestyle from the inside.
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You either accept the package as they are, Or your walk.
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I've been having, I've been having this conversation with a lot of single friends recently. of.
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I'm not sure.
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What I'm noticing...
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is that people tend seem to have kind of this laundry list of requirements and
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as soon as they and there's this also this false perception of infinite options.
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And so as soon as the person that they're seeing or that they're on a date with
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like fails one of the qualifications.
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They're like, Oh, next I'm going to move on.
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And then of course they're, you know, 45 and still single and wondering why they never found anybody.
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And have you ever heard that story that I think it, I think it was Warren Buffett where he said that he was like,
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you know, you, you, Write out a list of 20 things that you want in your life.
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put them in order from the thing that's most important, least important, and then cross out everything, but the top three, I've essentially started giving that exercise to my single friends.
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Cause I'm like, you're not going to find all of these.
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And, and, and it's, you've been brainwashed.
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You have this like false perception that there's a lot of these people out there
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that that tick every single box and there's not.
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And you're probably even if there is, you're probably not going to meet them.
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And if you do meet them, they're going to have so many options that it's going to be like very unlikely that you end up with them.
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It's find your three non -negotiables and then...
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negotiate on the rest and that's like fucking sacrilege these days to tell people
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because they're like i don't want to sound like settling yeah i don't want to settle it's like you Dude, everybody settles on something.
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I mean, you're settling in that you can't fly.
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at the moment.
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Yeah.
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You know, you're settling in that you need to go to bed every night.
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Yeah.
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I mean, dude, there's things that I've been with my wife for 14 years.
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There's things about her that still drive me fucking crazy.
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And, but I...
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I think she's like Latina, right?
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Well, yeah.
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Yeah.
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So that kind of comes, that's part of the course.
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It's yes, it's part for every course, but it's the Latina, the Latino versions are just much more dramatic.
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Very loud.
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Lots of tears.
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It's the spicy version.
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It's the fuego version.
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Exactly.
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It's fuego dating.
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Exactly.
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Um, But there's things about me that like she can't stand, but it's like, you just, accept at a certain point.
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You're like, okay, the good vastly outweighs the bad and you go with it.
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And I think...
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I think the reason... That.
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posted so well is you know, when you are meeting people when you are dating people.
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there's this whole kind of like, iceberg under the water of traits and characteristics and personality
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and connections and relationships that you're not really aware of that they're there.
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Um, but that's actually going to be the majority of the relationship.
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Right. And.
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really most people are kind of just going on vibes.
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you know when they're when they're dating somebody um
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And so I just think it's helpful to be like explicitly conscious about it and understand like, okay, if, if her mother's crazy like and you want to marry her,
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like you're going to have a crazy mother -in -law for 40 years.
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Looking for some crazy.
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Exactly.
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Like it's just put it on the plate because it's part of the course.
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You can't, you can't only, it's not a buffet.
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You don't just take the items you want.
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You got to take, it's the whole prefix menu.
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You know what the original name for this podcast was going to be?
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What's that?
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Crushing a Tuesday.
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The reason for that, glad that I didn't do it.
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Another one was mind and matter and another one was brain and brawn and it was, they were horrible.
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Modern wisdom was divine inspiration that came to me at three in the morning.
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Yeah, much better.
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Thank you.
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Uh, crushing Tuesday is not bad.
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Crushing a Tuesday was taken from a Tim Ferriss podcast.
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Okay.
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And what he said was most people try to optimize their lives around peak experiences.
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Mm -hmm.
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but your life is made up of average Tuesdays.
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Yeah.
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And your goal should be to make your average Tuesday as enjoyable as possible.
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Yeah.
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And that's what you're talking about here, that...
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what people look at is the amazing sex or the fascinating conversation.
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They don't realize What?
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Is this person like?
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normally?
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What is the middle of their bell curve of just how they operate?
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What do they do with Thank you with the most frequent interaction between them and reality?
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What do they do with their diet?
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That's pretty important.
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What do they do with their sleep pattern?
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That's pretty important.
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These are structural things.
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How do they deal with discomfort?
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How do they deal with things when they're hot?
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How do they deal when they're dysregulated?
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What's their family like?
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What are their timelines like?
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No, your timelines in the same.
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moving in the same direction.
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And that.. is what's the relationship with money like?
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That is what you are signing up for.
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Right.
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And that line, love does not cancel out people's flaws.
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In fact, it just makes you tolerate it for longer.
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Which is what's deranging to a lot of people
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that they get into a relationship with somebody who isn't right for them or isn't good for them. And the...
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capacity of their love, the intensity of their love just allows them to stay in something which isn't right for even longer.
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Yeah.
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And I think that people often feel guilty about having optimized for romantic chemistry,
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when what they should have been optimizing for is Is Tuesday evening with this person enjoyable?
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Right.
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And it's it's easy to optimize for that romantic chemistry
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because that's what you're flooded with when you meet somebody you really like.
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So that's what you're going to be biased towards.
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And I should I should add.
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So it's funny because I think I've posted a couple variations of this post over the years and.
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Every time there's always a couple angry people in the comments who are like,
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you this is unrealistic you shouldn't expect somebody to satisfy all these things for you
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and the point of this isn't
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that you have to go find somebody who has a mother
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that you like and who's like good with the opposite of
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that yeah no it's like it's you have to find somebody
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that you're willing to tolerate all of all of those things right
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so it's it's not um they're not trying to hit a a
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a ceiling like you're just trying to make find somebody who's like nothing falls below your floor
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and it's also i think a lot of it there are a couple other facets of this I think one is...
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understanding that what you, What are you particularly well -equipped to handle.
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So for example, my wife's Brazilian.
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She has a lot of feelings.
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And I'm just like very even keeled pretty much all the time.
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It really takes a lot for me to get worked up about anything.
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Like I'm, I'm the guy who doesn't give a fuck.
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So, It actually works extremely well.
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Like I can handle a lot of emotions.
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It doesn't really freak me out.
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I don't like get sucked into drama easily.
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So there's like a certain amount of self -knowledge of understanding
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this is the type of partner that I'm probably well suited for because my strength kind of, resonates well with their weakness or vice versa.
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Whereas like, My, you know, I have a very, very like,
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strong need for intellectual stimulation.
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I get bored extremely easily.
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and back when i was single like i i dated a lot of really cool girls
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but who just like weren't super smart or curious and i I was bored within minutes.
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And some of them were smoking hot.
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Some of them were awesome in bed.
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And I remember sitting there being like, I can't believe I'm going to break up with this girl.
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Like, she's, what am I doing?
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But, I was bored.
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Got nothing to talk to you about.
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Yeah, I was bored out of my mind.
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And your first date with your now wife, was you met in a nightclub and within 30 minutes we're talking about Russian literature.
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- Russian grammar.
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- Russian grammar.
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That's it.
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You know?
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- Yes, yes.
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Their protein is dialed in.
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They sleep better than they did in their 20s.
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Vocabolario e note di pronuncia per questa lezione
Questa lezione di conversazione di livello B2 si basa sul video “How to Find Someone You Can Be With Forever”. Questo video contiene 185 frasi e 1842 parole da ripetere con lo shadowing. Il parlato dura 10:08. Chi parla va veloce, circa 182 parole al minuto: aspettati suoni legati e ridotti. Il 84% delle parole rientra nelle 3.000 più comuni dell’inglese; conviene studiare le altre prima di iniziare.
Vocaboli chiave di questo video
Le 15 parole più avanzate del video, con pronuncia e significato:
| Parola | Pronuncia | Significato |
|---|---|---|
| timeline sostantivo | /ˈtaɪmˌlaɪn/ | linea temporale, linea del tempo |
| optimize verbo | /ˈɑptɪmaɪz/ | ottimizzare |
| bore verbo | /boɹ/ | annoiare, tediare |
| tolerate verbo | /ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/ | tollerare, sopportare |
| crush verbo | /kɹʌʃ/ | schiacciare, pigiare |
| mitochondrion sostantivo | /ˌmaɪtəˈkɑndɹiən/ | mitocondrio |
| flaw sostantivo | /flɔ/ | fessura, cricca |
| enjoyable aggettivo | /ɛnˈd͡ʒɔɪ.ə.bl̩/ | piacevole, gradevole |
| podcast sostantivo | /ˈpɑdˌkæst/ | podcast, audioprogramma |
| grammar sostantivo | /ˈɡɹæm.ə(ɹ)/ | grammatica |
| perception sostantivo | /pɚˈsɛpʃ(ə)n/ | percezione |
| cancel verbo | /ˈkæn.sl̩/ | depennare, cancellare |
| brainwash sostantivo | /ˈbɹeɪnwɒʃ/ | lavaggio del cervello |
| cleanliness sostantivo | /ˈklɛn.li.nᵻs/ | pulizia |
| clinically avverbio | clinicamente |
I phrasal verb che sentirai
| Parola | Significato |
|---|---|
| cross out verbo | sbarrare, depennare |
| get up to verbo | commettere |
| write out verbo | appuntare, emettere |
Frasi da ripetere
Frasi brevi e complete del video che puoi riutilizzare nella conversazione di tutti i giorni:
- You're choosing their sleep schedule.
- You're choosing their money habits.
- You're signing up to live in that ecosystem.
- It's find your three non -negotiables and then...
- I mean, you're settling in that you can't fly.
La grammatica di questo video
Le strutture che chi parla usa di più, con le parole esatte del video:
| Struttura | Nel video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — un’azione iniziata prima e ancora in corso | I've been having · have been optimizing |
| Forma passiva be + participio passato — conta ciò che accade, non chi lo fa | you've been brainwashed · was taken · is made |
| Frasi relative who / which + frase — un’informazione in più su una persona o una cosa | somebody who isn · somebody who has · guy who doesn |
| Present perfect have/has + participio passato — un’azione passata che conta ancora adesso | you've been brainwashed · I've been · I've posted |
Pronuncia a cui fare attenzione
Chi parla usa 67 contrazioni e forme ridotte, come you're, they're, I'm. Pronunciale nella forma breve, così come le senti.
- I suoni “th”: ethic /ˈɛθ.ɪk/, underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/
- I suoni “sh” e “zh”: crush /kɹʌʃ/, perception /pɚˈsɛpʃ(ə)n/, brainwash /ˈbɹeɪnwɒʃ/, foundational /faʊnˈdeɪ.ʃə.nəl/, negotiable /nɪˈɡoʊʃəbəl/
- Parole lunghe — attenzione all’accento: mitochondrion /ˌmaɪtəˈkɑndɹiən/, foundational /faʊnˈdeɪ.ʃə.nəl/, mitochondrial /ˌmaɪ.təˈkɑːn.dɹi.əl/, negotiable /nɪˈɡoʊʃəbəl/, stimulation /stɪm.jʊˈleɪ.ʃən/
I suoni difficili per chi parla italiano:
- Consonante finale — senza aggiungere una vocale dopo: optimize /ˈɑptɪmaɪz/, tolerate /ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/, crush /kɹʌʃ/, podcast /ˈpɑdˌkæst/, brainwash /ˈbɹeɪnwɒʃ/
- /æ/ — più aperta della “e”: podcast /ˈpɑdˌkæst/, grammar /ˈɡɹæm.ə(ɹ)/, cancel /ˈkæn.sl̩/, fascinate /ˈfæsɪneɪt/, sacrilege /ˈsækɹəlɪd͡ʒ/
Come esercitarsi con questo video
- Ascolta tutto il video una volta senza parlare e annota le parole che non conosci.
- Inizia a velocità 0,75×, fai shadowing frase per frase e torna alla velocità normale quando diventa facile.
- Registrati e confronta con l’originale, facendo attenzione a parole come timeline, optimize, bore.
Cos'è la tecnica dello Shadowing?
Shadowing è una tecnica di apprendimento delle lingue supportata da studi scientifici, originariamente sviluppata per la formazione dei traduttori professionisti e resa popolare dal poliglotta Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Il metodo è semplice ma potente: ascolti un audio in inglese di madrelingua e lo ripeti immediatamente ad alta voce — come un'ombra che segue il parlante con un ritardo di solo 1–2 secondi. A differenza dell'ascolto passivo o degli esercizi di grammatica, lo shadowing costringe il tuo cervello e i muscoli della bocca a elaborare e riprodurre simultaneamente i modelli di discorso reale. La ricerca dimostra che migliora significativamente la precisione della pronuncia, l'intonazione, il ritmo, il discorso connesso, la comprensione dell'ascolto e la fluidità del parlato — rendendolo uno dei metodi più efficaci per la preparazione alla prova di speaking dell'IELTS e per la comunicazione reale in inglese.