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One of the things about our world that would most surprise a magically returned,
倘若有人能从过去神奇地穿越回现代，我们这个世界最让他感到惊讶的事情之一
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pre-modern ancestor of ours is how long we take to assess and settle on a spouse.
我们判断并选定配偶所花费的时间，其根源可以追溯到前现代时期的祖先。
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In almost all societies that have ever existed,
在几乎所有存在过的社会中，
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the period between first laying eyes on a prospective partner and the moment of committing to them was extremely short.
从初次见到潜在伴侣到确定与对方建立承诺关系的这段时间非常短暂。
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In Sumeria, there was a single audience.
在苏美尔，只有单一的受众群体。
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In classical Athens, young men and women might meet three times before arrangements were settled.
在古典时期的雅典，年轻男女在婚事敲定之前可能只会见面三次。
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In the Inca Empire, one might never even have been in the spouse's presence until the wedding.
在印加帝国时期，人们可能直到婚礼当天才第一次见到自己的配偶。
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Contrast this with our own setup.
将这与我们自己的设置进行对比。
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We move extremely slowly.
我们行动极其缓慢。
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It's typical to date someone non-exclusively for six months, then to commit to seeing them singly for a year and a half,
通常的交往模式是先和对方非排他性地约会六个月，之后再确定一对一的专一交往关系，持续一年半。
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then perhaps to move in and further test the waters for four or five years, before either finally getting engaged or else discovering that,
之后或许会先相处四五年，进一步试探彼此是否合适，再决定是最终订婚，还是发现双方并不合适，
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after all, one wasn't quite suited, perhaps because of slightly different attitudes around politics or some clashes over interior design or entertainment preferences.
毕竟，总有一方不太合适，可能是因为政治观点略有差异，或是在室内设计、娱乐偏好上存在一些分歧。
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At the heart of the dispute between the pre-modern attitude
在前现代观念与……的争议核心
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and ours is a contrasting notion of what is required to make a relationship succeed.
而我们对于维系一段成功关系所需的要素，则持有截然不同的观点。
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We implicitly believe it's about compatibility.
我们下意识地认为这和兼容性有关。
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They firmly believed it was about commitment.
他们坚信这关乎承诺。
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Underpinning our modern romantic approach to love is a tightly held notion
支撑我们现代浪漫爱情观的是一个根深蒂固的观念。
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that the most important ingredient in any functioning relationship is innate congruence,
任何一段良性关系中最重要的要素都是内在的一致性，
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a pre-existing sympathy of souls that will lend us a feeling that we've met someone before, perhaps in a past life.
一种早已存在的灵魂共鸣，会让我们产生似曾相识的感觉，仿佛我们曾在某段前世与对方相遇过。
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We believe we will need to encounter a lot of people and try them out over extended periods because this,
我们认为需要接触大量人选，并对他们进行长期的试用，因为这
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and only this, will help us to see whether we've correctly alighted on a soul mate.
唯有如此，我们才能判断自己是否真正找到了灵魂伴侣。
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It can take 180 breakfasts with someone to assess if we really have a sympathetic communication style.
要判断我们是否真的与对方有投契的沟通方式，可能需要和对方共进180次早餐。
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We might need 23 mini-breaks to properly judge a person's approach to packing and timekeeping.
我们可能需要23次短暂休息，才能准确判断一个人收拾东西和守时的方式。
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Only after sleeping with 76 different individuals might one determine whether we're fully satisfied with sex with a particular example.
只有在与76个不同的人发生性关系之后，一个人才有可能确定自己是否对与某个特定对象的性生活完全感到满意。
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Our ancestors begged to differ.
我们的祖先可不这么认为。
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They believed that alignments were to be formed, not found.
他们认为，联盟是需要组建的，而非发现的。
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What was, for them, principally important for the success of any relationship was the desire to make it succeed.
对他们而言，任何一段关系若想成功，最关键的要素是双方都有让这段关系走向成功的意愿。
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Commitment came first, any in-built compatibility a distant second.
承诺是首要的，而内在的契合度则是次要得多的考量。
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It almost didn't matter who one married.
和谁结婚几乎都不重要。
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The choice was somewhat secondary to the desire to be married.
与结婚的渴望相比，和谁结婚这个选择倒显得不那么重要了。
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So long as the rough details were correct – right gender, age and so on – the rest could and would be sorted out in time, through willpower and dedication.
只要大致的细节是正确的——比如性别、年龄等基本信息无误——其余的问题都可以也必将通过意志力与投入精神及时得到解决。
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Intention, far more than any innate and possibly fictitious twinship of the soul, would mean that after an argument,
与任何与生俱来、或许还只是虚构的灵魂契合相比，心意相通要重要得多，这意味着在发生争执之后，
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partners would come back together to resume their dialogue, or that they would put aside certain of their spontaneous wishes for the sake of the couple,
伴侣们会重新走到一起继续对话，或者为了两人的关系而暂时放下某些自己一时的想法。
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or would make effort after effort to grasp how the world might look through the other's eyes.
或者会一次又一次地努力去理解，从对方的视角看这个世界会是什么样子。
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In the ancestral view, compatibility was an achievement of love.
在传统观念中，彼此契合是爱情的成果。
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It was not, and could never be its precondition.
它并非，也永远不可能成为其前提条件。
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We don't have to follow historical precedents in every detail to be at least partially inspired by them.
我们无需在所有细节上都遵循历史先例，也能从中获得至少部分启发。
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We can recognise that a wish to actually be married
我们可以认识到，想要真正结婚的愿望
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might in the end be one of the determining factors in how successful any marriage can be.
最终可能成为决定一段婚姻能够有多成功的关键因素之一。
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So long as we and our partner are aligned on this point, the many differences that will naturally emerge between us may not have to be insuperable.
只要我们与合作伙伴在这一点上保持一致，我们之间自然会出现的诸多分歧或许就并非无法克服。
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In the pre-modern expectation that trouble is natural and legitimate, we discover a more bearable method of interpreting discord.
在前现代社会认为矛盾是自然且合理的观念中，我们找到了一种更易于接受的解读冲突的方式。
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Working at differences is what constitutes a relationship.
磨合差异正是维系一段关系的核心所在。
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It may not need to be seen as a stern obstacle that has to be overcome before one can ever take place.
或许不必将其视为必须先克服才能推进下一步的严峻障碍。
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Everyone we meet will be slightly wrong.
我们遇到的每一个人，都会有那么一点不完美。
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Our ancestors knew this better than we do.
我们的祖先比我们更清楚这一点。
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Everyone will fail to understand us intuitively.
没有人能凭直觉就真正理解我们。
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Everyone will have a range of very unfortunate tastes.
每个人都会有一系列相当糟糕的品味。
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None of this has to be remotely fatal.
这一切完全不至于酿成致命后果。
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We don't need to be the same person separated at birth.
我们没必要是那种出生时就被分开的同卵双胞胎。
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We don't need to be in spiritual synchronicity.
我们不需要在精神层面保持同步。
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All we really need is to want, very, very much, to be together with someone.
我们真正需要的，只是非常非常想要和某个人在一起。
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The rest are almost details.
剩下的几乎都是细节问题。
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It might not, with this in mind, after all be so crazy to go on three dates with someone and then, without too much fanfare, set in motion plans for marriage.
考虑到这一点，和一个人约会三次之后，就不动声色地开始筹备结婚计划，或许也没那么离谱。
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Once we understand that it's the idea of commitment that counts, the details can be managed.
一旦我们明白关键在于承诺的理念，具体细节就可以得到妥善处理。
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We may have exaggerated the importance of finding the right person,
我们或许夸大了找到对的人的重要性。
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and very much underestimated the power of wanting to make a relationship, any relationship, work.
而且严重低估了想要维系一段关系——任何一段关系——所蕴含的力量。
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背景与背景
在现代社会中，婚姻的观念与古代有很大的不同。根据一个视频的讨论，我们可以看出，古代社会往往对婚姻的选择持有不同的态度，强调的是承诺而非兼容性。这种差异导致了现代人在选择伴侣时所经历的漫长过程。我们常常需要经过多次约会，才能决定是否与某人建立长久的关系。这个视频揭示了一种新思维：婚姻应该基于对共度一生的强烈渴望，而不是仅仅依赖于初步的兼容性。
每日沟通的五个常用短语
- 我们需要谈谈 (We need to talk)
- 我觉得我们很合适 (I think we are compatible)
- 我们可以一起解决这个问题 (We can work through this issue together)
- 承诺是成功的关键 (Commitment is the key to success)
- 重要的是我们彼此的渴望 (What matters is our desire for each other)
逐步跟读指南
在提升英语口语能力的过程中，跟读是一种非常有效的技巧。在这个视频中，我们可以使用以下步骤进行shadowing练习，以提高我们的发音和语速：
- 选择一个片段，建议10-15秒的长度，逐句或逐段进行跟读。
- 先观看视频，了解整体语境和语调。这对保持正确的情感语气至关重要。
- 重复练习时，注意视频中说话者的发音、语速和停顿，以此帮助你提高英语发音。
- 可以使用笔记本记录难发音的单词或短语，随后再进行针对性的练习。
- 定期录制自己的声音，听取自己在 shadow speech 中的表现，逐渐纠正发音与流畅度。
通过这个“影子口语”的练习传递出的婚姻观点，让我们认识到，尽管每个人的个性不同，只要我们有着共同的目标和愿望，就能克服困难并建立持久的关系。在此过程中，无论是练习英语口语还是人际交往，都需要坚持不懈，努力与他人保持良好的沟通。
视频中的语法
说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：
| 结构 | 视频中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的 | were settled · is required · be formed |
| 现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事 | have ever existed · have been · we've met |
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。