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One of the things about our world that would most surprise a magically returned pre-modern ancestor of ours is how long we take to assess and settle on a spouse.
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One of the things about our world that would most surprise a magically returned pre-modern ancestor of ours is how long we take to assess and settle on a spouse.
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In almost all societies that have ever existed, the period between first laying eyes on a prospective partner and the moment of committing to them was extremely short.
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In Sumeria, there was a single audience.
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In classical Athens, young men and women might meet three times before arrangements were settled.
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In the Inca Empire, one might never even have been in the spouse's presence until the wedding.
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Contrast this with our own setup.
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We move extremely slowly.
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It's typical to date someone non-exclusively for six months, then to commit to seeing them singly for a year and a half,
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then perhaps to move in and further test the waters for four or five years, before either finally getting engaged or else discovering that, after all, one wasn't quite suited,
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perhaps because of slightly different attitudes around politics or some clashes over interior design or entertainment preferences.
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At the heart of the dispute between the pre-modern attitude and ours is a contrasting notion of what is required to make a relationship succeed.
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We implicitly believe it's about compatibility.
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They firmly believed it was about commitment.
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Underpinning our modern romantic approach to love is a tightly held notion that the most important ingredient in any functioning relationship is innate congruence,
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a pre-existing sympathy of souls that will lend us a feeling that we've met someone before, perhaps in a past life.
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We believe we will need to encounter a lot of people and try them out over extended periods because this, and only this, will help us to see whether we've correctly alighted on a soul mate.
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It can take 180 breakfasts with someone to assess if we really have a sympathetic communication style.
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We might need 23 mini-breaks to properly judge a person's approach to packing and timekeeping.
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Only after sleeping with 76 different individuals might one determine whether we're fully satisfied with sex with a particular example.
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Our ancestors begged to differ.
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They believed that alignments were to be formed, not found.
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What was, for them, principally important for the success of any relationship was the desire to make it succeed.
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Commitment came first, any inbuilt compatibility a distant second.
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It almost didn't matter who one married.
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The choice was somewhat secondary to the desire to be married.
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So long as the rough details were correct, like gender, age and so on, the rest could and would be sorted out in time through willpower and dedication.
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far more than any innate and possibly fictitious twinship of the soul,
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would mean that after an argument, partners would come back together to resume their dialogue,
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or that they would put aside certain of their spontaneous wishes for the sake of the couple, or would make effort after effort to grasp how the world might look through the other's eyes.
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In the ancestral view, compatibility was an achievement of love.
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It was not, and could never be, its precondition.
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We don't have to follow historical precedents in every detail to be at least partially inspired by them.
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We can recognise that a wish to actually be married might in the end be one of the determining factors in how successful any marriage can be.
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So long as we and our partner are aligned on this point, the many differences that will naturally emerge between us may not have to be insuperable.
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In the pre-modern expectation that trouble is natural and legitimate, we discover a more bearable method of interpreting discord.
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Working at differences is what constitutes a relationship.
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It may not need to be seen as a stern obstacle that has to be overcome before one can ever take place.
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Everyone we meet will be slightly wrong.
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Our ancestors knew this better than we do.
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Everyone will fail to understand us intuitively.
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Everyone will have a range of very unfortunate tastes.
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None of this has to be remotely fatal.
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We don't need to be the same person separated at birth.
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We don't need to be in spiritual synchronicity.
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All we really need is to want, very, very much, to be together with someone.
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The rest are almost details.
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It might not, with this in mind, after all be so crazy to go on three dates with someone and then, without too much fanfare, set in motion plans for marriage.
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Once we understand that it's the idea of commitment that counts, the details can be managed.
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We may have exaggerated the importance of finding the right person and very much underestimated the power of wanting to make a relationship, any relationship, work.
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Why practice speaking with this video?

This video titled "Why You Should Get Married Now" provides a rich context for practicing English, particularly in the realm of interpersonal relationships and cultural perspectives on commitment. By shadowing the speaker, learners can gain insight into the nuances of conversation surrounding dating and marriage, which are vital parts of social interaction. Practicing speaking along with the video allows learners to:

  • Enhance their fluency through mimicking natural speech patterns and intonation.
  • Develop a deeper understanding of cultural contexts that inform relationship dynamics.
  • Expand their vocabulary related to interpersonal relationships, commitment, and societal norms.
  • Build confidence in discussing complex themes, such as love and compatibility.

Grammar & Expressions in Context

Throughout the video, the speaker employs various grammatical structures and expressions that are beneficial for English learners to study:

  • Conditional Sentences: The speaker frequently uses conditionals to express hypothetical situations, such as “If we understand that commitment counts, the details can be managed.” This structure is crucial for discussing possibilities and outcomes.
  • Passive Voice: Phrases like “alignments were to be formed” showcase the passive voice, which is useful for focusing on the action rather than the subject performing it.
  • Comparative Structures: The contrast between past and present expectations of marriage is illustrated through phrases such as “we move extremely slowly” versus “they believed it was about commitment.” Understanding comparatives is essential for making distinctions in conversations.

Common Pronunciation Traps

While practicing with the video, learners may encounter specific pronunciation challenges, particularly with the following words:

  • Compatibility: This word often trips up speakers with its syllabic structure; practice breaking it into smaller parts: com-pat-i-bil-i-ty.
  • Commitment: The stress in this word can be difficult to master. Be mindful to emphasize the second syllable: com-MIT-ment.
  • Spouse: This word can sometimes be pronounced incorrectly by omitting the final 's' sound. Ensure that it is clearly articulated as sp-OUSE.

Utilizing shadowspeak techniques by shadowing the speaker in this video will aid learners in perfecting their pronunciation and fluency. Engaging actively in shadow speech practices will further enhance your speaking capabilities, making conversations about topics such as relationships much more approachable.

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

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