Shadowing Practice: Why Unloved People Hate Themselves #shorts #selfcare - Learn English Speaking with Video
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What happens to a child who isn't loved properly?
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The child becomes filled with shame.
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It doesn't ask, what's wrong with my parents for not loving me adequately?
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It simply wonders in a forlorn way, what have I done wrong in order to have ended up on the receiving end of my parents' disapproval?
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At school, this kind of child might try seven times as hard as any other to show that it's clever and good.
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Or else a child may go down an antisocial root as
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a desperate way of giving outward form to a feeling of badness it's tortured by inside.
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There is, so sadly, no way out from the burden of shame, available either by trying to be extremely good or extremely bad.
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The only solution is to work against the grain of forgetting, in order to perceive, for the first time,
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an awful possibility that one has done nothing wrong at all, that wrong was done to one.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This speaking lesson is built on the video “Why Unloved People Hate Themselves”. This video has 10 sentences and 162 words to shadow. The speech runs for 0:57. The speaker talks at a natural 170 words per minute, close to everyday conversation. 84% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start. 3 of its 10 sentences are questions, so it is good practice for question intonation and short answers.
Key vocabulary in this video
14 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| awful adjective | /ˈɔːfʊl/ | Very bad. |
| desperate adjective | /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹɪt/ | In dire need (of something); having a dire need or desire. |
| burden noun | /ˈbɝdn̩/ | A heavy load. |
| clever adjective | /ˈklɛv.ɚ/ | Nimble with hands or body; dexterous; skillful; adept. |
| grain noun | /ɡɹeɪn/ | The harvested seeds of various grass food crops, especially wheat, maize, rye, barley, and rice. |
| sadly adverb | /ˈsædli/ | In a sad manner; sorrowfully. |
| torture noun | /ˈtoɹt͡ʃɚ/ | The infliction of severe pain or anguish, especially as an interrogation technique or punishment; (usually in the plural) a technique, method, or device which… |
| perceive verb | /pɚˈsiv/ | To become aware of, through the physical senses, to see; to understand. |
| adequately adverb | In an adequate manner. | |
| outward adjective | /ˈaʊt.wɚd/ | Outer; located towards the outside. |
| antisocial adjective | /ˌæntiˈsəʊʃəl/ | Unwilling or unable to cooperate and associate normally with other people. |
| badness noun | /ˈbæd.nəs/ | The quality or degree of being bad. |
| disapproval noun | /dɪsəˈpɹuvəl/ | The act of disapproving; condemnation. |
| forlorn adjective | /fɚˈlɔɹn/ | Abandoned, deserted, left behind. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| go down verb | To descend; to move from a higher place to a lower one. |
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | isn't loved · was done |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | has done |
Pronunciation to watch
- Long words — get the stress right: antisocial /ˌæntiˈsəʊʃəl/, disapproval /dɪsəˈpɹuvəl/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like awful, desperate, burden.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.