Pratique du Shadowing: Flirting Techniques: How To Use Push Pull - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo
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Let's talk about push -pull.
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What is push -pull?
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How can we use this?
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I'll give you a couple examples of it as well.
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Great technique to be using when you're flirting with a girl.
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It's a great way, kind of building off of the last video
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that you just saw in terms of not putting pressure on the girl, but still being able to display a little bit of intent.
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Okay, so let's go over this what is a push pull exactly well
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it could be described as a compliment plus a little bit of a diss
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or a positive plus a negative
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or it's also known as like a backhanded compliment okay
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so essentially what it is is like telling some kind of verbal intent to the girl
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that's half of it that's like the pull
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and then there's also a push which is like literally uh metaphorically speaking it's like pushing the girl away with your verbal.
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So that's why the positive is a pull.
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And then the negative is like a push away.
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So if you think about like trying to bring the girl in versus pushing the girl away, it's a push pull.
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So the sentence would be a positive plus a negative.
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And the idea behind this is we're showing some intent, but we're not putting too much pressure on the girl.
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Actually, if anything, we're, we're really taking the pressure off of the girl on this one
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because there's a positive and a little bit of a negative, right?
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So in the last video, I described giving the girl a compliment and then continuously talking
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or maybe asking a question or making a statement about something that was going on in the conversation.
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Push pull is a step further, okay?
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So it's like a positive plus the negative.
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So an example of this would be instead of just telling the girl she's cute, it would be something like,
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you're cute, but I feel like you're trouble or you're cute
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but i feel like you're like low -key a brat
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or you're cute but i don't think we would get along okay
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so you could see that's like a positive you're cute
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and then the negative the negative it's not even a huge negative
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but it's it's just taking the pressure off of the positive right it's like you're cute
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but this other thing okay and by doing that
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and by saying these push -pull lines
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it takes the pressure off of the girl it takes her mind off of the compliment, right?
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Because people have a tendency to just instinctually, if I told you a bunch of positives about yourself,
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and then I still had one negative thing to say about you,
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I guarantee you would be thinking about that negative thing way more than the positives.
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It's just how we are as human beings.
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We have a tendency to focus on negatives from people or focus on criticism from people.
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I was the same way in my dating content, right?
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I post up a video, i get a hundred comments that are all positive but there's that one negative comment that i'm so
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focused on right so it's like because of that reason excuse me
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because of that reason that's that's the same concept of why the push pull is effective
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because it's the girl's not going to be fixated
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so much on the fact that you complimented or
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if anything she's going to be like trouble wait why am i trouble
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or brat i'm not a brat what do you mean are you you're cute honestly but like you're so feisty.
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And then another thing you could do is you say the push pull and you also still continue talking.
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So it kind of builds off of the previous video that I was just saying about complimenting and then keep talking.
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Another thing you could do is compliment plus the negative and then keep talking as well.
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Okay.
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And that's like a even more powerful technique.
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I would say I'm not saying one of these is better than the other in this week's videos.
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I'm, I'm just giving you guys a bunch of different tools.
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Okay.
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Each tool is more effective in a, in, in a different scenario, right?
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Like a push pull is like a hammer.
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The other technique I told you was like a screwdriver.
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I'm not saying the hammer is better than the screwdriver.
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It's just, they're both tools that you could use.
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And at the right time with the right situation, each tool can be more effective than the other tool.
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Okay.
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So if I'm in a playful banter back and forth already with the girl, and then I use the push -pull,
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and then I keep talking as well, that could be very powerful, okay?
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If we're not in that much of a banter, and the girl's not being super playful with me, that may not be the route to go.
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In that case, you have another tool you can use.
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I'm going to give you guys more tools throughout this week as well, but this is a good one, the push -pull.
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So one other thing I wanted to point out about the push -pull is
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that it doesn't always need to be the positive first
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and then the negative it can be negative and then positive
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or positive negative positive there's a bunch of different ways to do this okay
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it should just be kind of flowing naturally based on how the conversation is going
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if you're brand new to this
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and this seems like a little bit of a struggle for you okay cool in
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that case i would say just focus on doing a very basic line.
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And don't try to go so complex with it at first, right?
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We want to start off very basic, right?
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So I'm going to give you a couple of lines in this video
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and later on in this week that you could just use verbatim, word for word.
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And as you get more comfortable with these things, you'll just start to embody these behaviors
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and these mannerisms naturally to the point where eventually you won't even need to think about the line.
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They just kind of come out naturally just based on having conversation with them.
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You know, like I'm never at I'm at a point where I'm never actively thinking about the push pulls.
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I just kind of embodied that playful back and forth banter with a girl.
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Right.
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And the way I got there, though, was by practicing these lines, writing down some lines, going out,
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doing approaches and trying to make an active attempt to inject one of these lines.
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OK, so that's the art of the push pull.
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It's the compliment.
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And then this other exception to the compliment.
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OK, and then you keep talking as well.
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I'm not like you're cute, but you're trouble.
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Right.
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And then I put the microphone up to her because that's just seeking a response.
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And that's try hard.
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And it could also be too much pressure on the girl.
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It should be playful when when we're incorporating these lines.
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OK, and that's how you're going to get that playful, fun banter that everybody wants to have with women.
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Okay, so super powerful tool right here.
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Be sure to start applying this into your interactions.
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I'll see you in the next video.
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I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
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And quick announcement, by the way, I just released my brand new 12 -week mentorship program.
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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon
Cette leçon d’expression orale s’appuie sur la vidéo « Flirting Techniques: How To Use Push Pull ». Les mots qui reviennent le plus souvent : negative, push, pull, positive, tool. Cette vidéo contient 107 phrases et 1313 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 6:35. Le locuteur parle vite, environ 199 mots par minute : attendez-vous à des liaisons et à des sons réduits. 87 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais, le vocabulaire est donc facile à suivre.
Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo
15 mots de la vidéo à retenir, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| compliment nom | /ˈkɑmpləmənt/ | compliment |
| playful adjectif | /ˈpleɪfl̩/ | folâtre, enjoué |
| naturally adverbe | /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/ | naturellement |
| technique nom | /tɛkˈniːk/ | technique |
| intent nom | /ɪnˈtɛnt/ | intention |
| hammer nom | /ˈhæmɚ/ | marteau |
| tendency nom | /ˈtɛn.dən.si/ | tendance |
| verbal adjectif | /ˈvɜː.bəl/ | verbal |
| guarantee nom | /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/ | garantie |
| essentially adverbe | /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/ | essentiellement, en essence |
| exception nom | /əkˈsɛpʃən/ | exception |
| versus | /ˈvɝsəs/ | contre, face à |
| announcement nom | /əˈnaʊns.mənt/ | annoncement |
| interaction nom | /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/ | interaction |
| actively adverbe | /ˈæktɪvli/ | activement |
Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| come out verbe | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | sortir |
| fill out verbe | /fɪl ˈaʊt/ | remplir, compléter |
| get along verbe | s'entendre | |
| go out verbe | sortir | |
| write down verbe | noter, écrire |
Des phrases à répéter
Des phrases courtes et complètes de la vidéo, à réutiliser dans la conversation de tous les jours :
- Let's talk about push -pull.
- How can we use this?
- It's just how we are as human beings.
- It's just, they're both tools that you could use.
- I'm not like you're cute, but you're trouble.
La grammaire de cette vidéo
Les structures que le locuteur utilise le plus, avec les mots exacts de la vidéo :
| Structure | Dans la vidéo |
|---|---|
| Voix passive be + participe passé — l’accent est mis sur ce qui arrive, pas sur qui le fait | could be described · be fixated |
| Verbe + -ing enjoy, keep, stop… + -ing — les verbes suivis de la forme en -ing | keep talking · start applying |
| Comparatifs -er than / more … than — comparer deux éléments | better than · more effective than |
| Passé continu was/were + -ing — une action en cours à un moment du passé | was going · was just saying |
Prononciation à surveiller
Le locuteur utilise 43 contractions et formes réduites, comme you're, I'm, we're. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.
- Les sons « sh » et « zh »: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, exception /əkˈsɛpʃən/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/
- Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, continuously /kənˈtɪnjuəsli/, incorporate /ɪŋˈkɔɹ.pɚ.eɪt/
Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :
- /h/ — il se souffle, il n’est pas muet: hammer /ˈhæmɚ/, backhand /ˈbækhænd/
- /tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, inject /ɪnˈd͡ʒɛkt/
- /r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, guarantee /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, scenario /sɪˈnɛəɹioʊ/, incorporate /ɪŋˈkɔɹ.pɚ.eɪt/
Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo
- Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
- Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
- Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme compliment, playful, naturally.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.