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Let's talk about push -pull.
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What is push -pull?
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How can we use this?
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I'll give you a couple examples of it as well.
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Great technique to be using when you're flirting with a girl.
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It's a great way, kind of building off of the last video
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that you just saw in terms of not putting pressure on the girl, but still being able to display a little bit of intent.
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Okay, so let's go over this what is a push pull exactly well
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it could be described as a compliment plus a little bit of a diss
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or a positive plus a negative
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or it's also known as like a backhanded compliment okay
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so essentially what it is is like telling some kind of verbal intent to the girl
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that's half of it that's like the pull
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and then there's also a push which is like literally uh metaphorically speaking it's like pushing the girl away with your verbal.
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So that's why the positive is a pull.
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And then the negative is like a push away.
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So if you think about like trying to bring the girl in versus pushing the girl away, it's a push pull.
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So the sentence would be a positive plus a negative.
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And the idea behind this is we're showing some intent, but we're not putting too much pressure on the girl.
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Actually, if anything, we're, we're really taking the pressure off of the girl on this one
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because there's a positive and a little bit of a negative, right?
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So in the last video, I described giving the girl a compliment and then continuously talking
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or maybe asking a question or making a statement about something that was going on in the conversation.
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Push pull is a step further, okay?
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So it's like a positive plus the negative.
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So an example of this would be instead of just telling the girl she's cute, it would be something like,
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you're cute, but I feel like you're trouble or you're cute
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but i feel like you're like low -key a brat
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or you're cute but i don't think we would get along okay
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so you could see that's like a positive you're cute
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and then the negative the negative it's not even a huge negative
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but it's it's just taking the pressure off of the positive right it's like you're cute
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but this other thing okay and by doing that
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and by saying these push -pull lines
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it takes the pressure off of the girl it takes her mind off of the compliment, right?
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Because people have a tendency to just instinctually, if I told you a bunch of positives about yourself,
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and then I still had one negative thing to say about you,
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I guarantee you would be thinking about that negative thing way more than the positives.
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It's just how we are as human beings.
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We have a tendency to focus on negatives from people or focus on criticism from people.
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I was the same way in my dating content, right?
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I post up a video, i get a hundred comments that are all positive but there's that one negative comment that i'm so
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focused on right so it's like because of that reason excuse me
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because of that reason that's that's the same concept of why the push pull is effective
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because it's the girl's not going to be fixated
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so much on the fact that you complimented or
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if anything she's going to be like trouble wait why am i trouble
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or brat i'm not a brat what do you mean are you you're cute honestly but like you're so feisty.
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And then another thing you could do is you say the push pull and you also still continue talking.
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So it kind of builds off of the previous video that I was just saying about complimenting and then keep talking.
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Another thing you could do is compliment plus the negative and then keep talking as well.
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Okay.
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And that's like a even more powerful technique.
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I would say I'm not saying one of these is better than the other in this week's videos.
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I'm, I'm just giving you guys a bunch of different tools.
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Okay.
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Each tool is more effective in a, in, in a different scenario, right?
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Like a push pull is like a hammer.
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The other technique I told you was like a screwdriver.
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I'm not saying the hammer is better than the screwdriver.
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It's just, they're both tools that you could use.
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And at the right time with the right situation, each tool can be more effective than the other tool.
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Okay.
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So if I'm in a playful banter back and forth already with the girl, and then I use the push -pull,
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and then I keep talking as well, that could be very powerful, okay?
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If we're not in that much of a banter, and the girl's not being super playful with me, that may not be the route to go.
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In that case, you have another tool you can use.
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I'm going to give you guys more tools throughout this week as well, but this is a good one, the push -pull.
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So one other thing I wanted to point out about the push -pull is
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that it doesn't always need to be the positive first
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and then the negative it can be negative and then positive
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or positive negative positive there's a bunch of different ways to do this okay
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it should just be kind of flowing naturally based on how the conversation is going
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if you're brand new to this
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and this seems like a little bit of a struggle for you okay cool in
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that case i would say just focus on doing a very basic line.
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And don't try to go so complex with it at first, right?
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We want to start off very basic, right?
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So I'm going to give you a couple of lines in this video
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and later on in this week that you could just use verbatim, word for word.
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And as you get more comfortable with these things, you'll just start to embody these behaviors
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and these mannerisms naturally to the point where eventually you won't even need to think about the line.
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They just kind of come out naturally just based on having conversation with them.
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You know, like I'm never at I'm at a point where I'm never actively thinking about the push pulls.
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I just kind of embodied that playful back and forth banter with a girl.
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Right.
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And the way I got there, though, was by practicing these lines, writing down some lines, going out,
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doing approaches and trying to make an active attempt to inject one of these lines.
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OK, so that's the art of the push pull.
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It's the compliment.
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And then this other exception to the compliment.
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OK, and then you keep talking as well.
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I'm not like you're cute, but you're trouble.
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Right.
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And then I put the microphone up to her because that's just seeking a response.
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And that's try hard.
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And it could also be too much pressure on the girl.
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It should be playful when when we're incorporating these lines.
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OK, and that's how you're going to get that playful, fun banter that everybody wants to have with women.
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Okay, so super powerful tool right here.
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Be sure to start applying this into your interactions.
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I'll see you in the next video.
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I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
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And quick announcement, by the way, I just released my brand new 12 -week mentorship program.
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All right, I'll talk to you soon.
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Từ vựng và ghi chú luyện nói cho bài học này
Bài luyện nói này dựa trên video “Flirting Techniques: How To Use Push Pull”. Những từ được nhắc lại nhiều nhất trong bài: negative, push, pull, positive, tool. Video này có 107 câu và 1313 từ để luyện shadowing. Phần lời nói dài 6:35. Người nói nói nhanh, khoảng 199 từ mỗi phút, nên sẽ có nhiều chỗ nối âm và nuốt âm. 87% số từ nằm trong 3.000 từ tiếng Anh thông dụng nhất, nên từ vựng dễ theo.
Từ vựng quan trọng trong video
14 từ đáng học trong video, kèm phiên âm và nghĩa:
| Từ | Phiên âm | Nghĩa |
|---|---|---|
| compliment danh từ | /ˈkɑmpləmənt/ | lời khen |
| technique danh từ | /tɛkˈniːk/ | kỹ thuật, kĩ thuật |
| intent danh từ | /ɪnˈtɛnt/ | ý đồ, ý định |
| hammer danh từ | /ˈhæmɚ/ | búa |
| tendency danh từ | /ˈtɛn.dən.si/ | khuynh hướng, xu thế |
| guarantee danh từ | /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/ | sự bảo đảm |
| exception danh từ | /əkˈsɛpʃən/ | lệ ngoại, ngoại lệ |
| versus | /ˈvɝsəs/ | đối, đối đầu |
| announcement danh từ | /əˈnaʊns.mənt/ | thông báo |
| scenario danh từ | /sɪˈnɛəɹioʊ/ | trường hợp, kịch bản |
| microphone danh từ | /ˈmaɪ.kɹəˌfəʊn/ | máy vi âm, micrô |
| screwdriver danh từ | /ˈskɹuˌdɹaɪvɚ/ | chìa vít, tuộc vít |
| feisty tính từ | /ˈfaɪsti/ | đanh đá |
| verbatim trạng từ | /vəɹˈbeɪ.tɪm/ | đúng nguyên văn |
Cụm động từ bạn sẽ nghe
| Từ | Phiên âm | Nghĩa |
|---|---|---|
| fill out động từ | /fɪl ˈaʊt/ | điền vào, ghi vào |
| go out động từ | ra, chết | |
| write down động từ | viết ra, ghi xuống |
Những câu đáng luyện lại
Các câu ngắn, trọn ý trong video mà bạn có thể dùng lại khi giao tiếp hằng ngày:
- Let's talk about push -pull.
- How can we use this?
- It's just how we are as human beings.
- It's just, they're both tools that you could use.
- I'm not like you're cute, but you're trouble.
Ngữ pháp trong video
Những cấu trúc người nói dùng nhiều nhất, kèm đúng cụm từ trong video:
| Cấu trúc | Trong video |
|---|---|
| Câu bị động be + quá khứ phân từ — nhấn vào việc xảy ra, không phải người làm | could be described · be fixated |
| Động từ + -ing enjoy, keep, stop… + -ing — những động từ theo sau là dạng -ing | keep talking · start applying |
| So sánh hơn -er than / more … than — so sánh hai đối tượng | better than · more effective than |
| Thì quá khứ tiếp diễn was/were + -ing — việc đang diễn ra tại một thời điểm trong quá khứ | was going · was just saying |
Phát âm cần chú ý
Người nói dùng 43 dạng rút gọn, ví dụ you're, I'm, we're. Hãy nói theo dạng ngắn đúng như bạn nghe.
- Âm “sh” và “zh”: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, exception /əkˈsɛpʃən/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/
- Từ dài — đặt trọng âm cho đúng: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, continuously /kənˈtɪnjuəsli/, incorporate /ɪŋˈkɔɹ.pɚ.eɪt/
Những âm người Việt thường gặp khó:
- Cụm phụ âm cuối — đọc đủ từng âm, đừng nuốt âm cuối: compliment /ˈkɑmpləmənt/, intent /ɪnˈtɛnt/, announcement /əˈnaʊns.mənt/, backhand /ˈbækhænd/, inject /ɪnˈd͡ʒɛkt/
- Âm /tʃ/, /dʒ/ và /ʒ/ — tiếng Việt không có, đừng đọc thành “ch” hay “gi”: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, inject /ɪnˈd͡ʒɛkt/
- Âm /æ/ — mở miệng rộng hơn âm “e”: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, hammer /ˈhæmɚ/, guarantee /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, actively /ˈæktɪvli/
Cách luyện với video này
- Nghe hết video một lần, chưa cần nói, và ghi lại những từ bạn chưa biết.
- Bắt đầu ở tốc độ 0,75×, nói đuổi từng câu, rồi quay lại tốc độ bình thường khi đã quen.
- Ghi âm giọng mình rồi so với bản gốc, chú ý các từ như compliment, technique, intent.
Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?
Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.