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Let's talk about push -pull.

What is push -pull?

How can we use this?

I'll give you a couple examples of it as well.

Great technique to be using when you're flirting with a girl.

It's a great way, kind of building off of the last video

that you just saw in terms of not putting pressure on the girl, but still being able to display a little bit of intent.

Okay, so let's go over this what is a push pull exactly well

it could be described as a compliment plus a little bit of a diss

or a positive plus a negative

or it's also known as like a backhanded compliment okay

so essentially what it is is like telling some kind of verbal intent to the girl

that's half of it that's like the pull

and then there's also a push which is like literally uh metaphorically speaking it's like pushing the girl away with your verbal.

So that's why the positive is a pull.

And then the negative is like a push away.

So if you think about like trying to bring the girl in versus pushing the girl away, it's a push pull.

So the sentence would be a positive plus a negative.

And the idea behind this is we're showing some intent, but we're not putting too much pressure on the girl.

Actually, if anything, we're, we're really taking the pressure off of the girl on this one

because there's a positive and a little bit of a negative, right?

So in the last video, I described giving the girl a compliment and then continuously talking

or maybe asking a question or making a statement about something that was going on in the conversation.

Push pull is a step further, okay?

So it's like a positive plus the negative.

So an example of this would be instead of just telling the girl she's cute, it would be something like,

you're cute, but I feel like you're trouble or you're cute

but i feel like you're like low -key a brat

or you're cute but i don't think we would get along okay

so you could see that's like a positive you're cute

and then the negative the negative it's not even a huge negative

but it's it's just taking the pressure off of the positive right it's like you're cute

but this other thing okay and by doing that

and by saying these push -pull lines

it takes the pressure off of the girl it takes her mind off of the compliment, right?

Because people have a tendency to just instinctually, if I told you a bunch of positives about yourself,

and then I still had one negative thing to say about you,

I guarantee you would be thinking about that negative thing way more than the positives.

It's just how we are as human beings.

We have a tendency to focus on negatives from people or focus on criticism from people.

I was the same way in my dating content, right?

I post up a video, i get a hundred comments that are all positive but there's that one negative comment that i'm so

focused on right so it's like because of that reason excuse me

because of that reason that's that's the same concept of why the push pull is effective

because it's the girl's not going to be fixated

so much on the fact that you complimented or

if anything she's going to be like trouble wait why am i trouble

or brat i'm not a brat what do you mean are you you're cute honestly but like you're so feisty.

And then another thing you could do is you say the push pull and you also still continue talking.

So it kind of builds off of the previous video that I was just saying about complimenting and then keep talking.

Another thing you could do is compliment plus the negative and then keep talking as well.

Okay.

And that's like a even more powerful technique.

I would say I'm not saying one of these is better than the other in this week's videos.

I'm, I'm just giving you guys a bunch of different tools.

Okay.

Each tool is more effective in a, in, in a different scenario, right?

Like a push pull is like a hammer.

The other technique I told you was like a screwdriver.

I'm not saying the hammer is better than the screwdriver.

It's just, they're both tools that you could use.

And at the right time with the right situation, each tool can be more effective than the other tool.

Okay.

So if I'm in a playful banter back and forth already with the girl, and then I use the push -pull,

and then I keep talking as well, that could be very powerful, okay?

If we're not in that much of a banter, and the girl's not being super playful with me, that may not be the route to go.

In that case, you have another tool you can use.

I'm going to give you guys more tools throughout this week as well, but this is a good one, the push -pull.

So one other thing I wanted to point out about the push -pull is

that it doesn't always need to be the positive first

and then the negative it can be negative and then positive

or positive negative positive there's a bunch of different ways to do this okay

it should just be kind of flowing naturally based on how the conversation is going

if you're brand new to this

and this seems like a little bit of a struggle for you okay cool in

that case i would say just focus on doing a very basic line.

And don't try to go so complex with it at first, right?

We want to start off very basic, right?

So I'm going to give you a couple of lines in this video

and later on in this week that you could just use verbatim, word for word.

And as you get more comfortable with these things, you'll just start to embody these behaviors

and these mannerisms naturally to the point where eventually you won't even need to think about the line.

They just kind of come out naturally just based on having conversation with them.

You know, like I'm never at I'm at a point where I'm never actively thinking about the push pulls.

I just kind of embodied that playful back and forth banter with a girl.

Right.

And the way I got there, though, was by practicing these lines, writing down some lines, going out,

doing approaches and trying to make an active attempt to inject one of these lines.

OK, so that's the art of the push pull.

It's the compliment.

And then this other exception to the compliment.

OK, and then you keep talking as well.

I'm not like you're cute, but you're trouble.

Right.

And then I put the microphone up to her because that's just seeking a response.

And that's try hard.

And it could also be too much pressure on the girl.

It should be playful when when we're incorporating these lines.

OK, and that's how you're going to get that playful, fun banter that everybody wants to have with women.

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Okay, so super powerful tool right here.

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Be sure to start applying this into your interactions.

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I'll see you in the next video.

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영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 14개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어	발음	뜻
compliment 명사	/ˈkɑmpləmənt/	칭찬, 찬사
technique 명사	/tɛkˈniːk/	기술
hammer 명사	/ˈhæmɚ/	망치, 마치
tendency 명사	/ˈtɛn.dən.si/	경향, 추세
guarantee 명사	/ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/	보증
exception 명사	/əkˈsɛpʃən/	제외, 례외
versus	/ˈvɝsəs/	대
announcement 명사	/əˈnaʊns.mənt/	발표, 공고
interaction 명사	/ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/	상호작용
scenario 명사	/sɪˈnɛəɹioʊ/	각본, 대본
continuously 부사	/kənˈtɪnjuəsli/	계속, 연달아
microphone 명사	/ˈmaɪ.kɹəˌfəʊn/	마이크로폰, 마이크
screwdriver 명사	/ˈskɹuˌdɹaɪvɚ/	나사돌리개, 스크루드라이버
verbatim 부사	/vəɹˈbeɪ.tɪm/	말 그대로의, 글자 그대로의

영상에 나오는 구동사

단어	발음	뜻
come out 동사	/ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/	나오다
fill out 동사	/fɪl ˈaʊt/	기입하다
get along 동사		과/와/ 잘 지내다, 과/와 사이가 좋다
go out 동사		나가다
write down 동사		적다, 적어 두다

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영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:

Let's talk about push -pull.
How can we use this?
It's just how we are as human beings.
It's just, they're both tools that you could use.
I'm not like you're cute, but you're trouble.

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화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형	영상 속 표현
수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	could be described · be fixated
동사 + -ing enjoy, keep, stop… + -ing — 뒤에 -ing형이 오는 동사	keep talking · start applying
비교급 -er than / more … than — 두 대상을 비교	better than · more effective than
과거진행 was/were + -ing — 과거의 어느 시점에 진행 중이던 동작	was going · was just saying

주의할 발음

화자는 you're, I'm, we're 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 43번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, exception /əkˈsɛpʃən/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, continuously /kənˈtɪnjuəsli/, incorporate /ɪŋˈkɔɹ.pɚ.eɪt/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: playful /ˈpleɪfl̩/, microphone /ˈmaɪ.kɹəˌfəʊn/, flirt /flɚt/, feisty /ˈfaɪsti/, fixate /ˈfɪkseɪt/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: verbal /ˈvɜː.bəl/, versus /ˈvɝsəs/, actively /ˈæktɪvli/, screwdriver /ˈskɹuˌdɹaɪvɚ/, verbatim /vəɹˈbeɪ.tɪm/

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