Shadowing Practice: Flirting Techniques: How To Use Push Pull - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Let's talk about push -pull.
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What is push -pull?
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How can we use this?
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I'll give you a couple examples of it as well.
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Great technique to be using when you're flirting with a girl.
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It's a great way, kind of building off of the last video
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that you just saw in terms of not putting pressure on the girl, but still being able to display a little bit of intent.
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Okay, so let's go over this what is a push pull exactly well
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it could be described as a compliment plus a little bit of a diss
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or a positive plus a negative
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or it's also known as like a backhanded compliment okay
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so essentially what it is is like telling some kind of verbal intent to the girl
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that's half of it that's like the pull
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and then there's also a push which is like literally uh metaphorically speaking it's like pushing the girl away with your verbal.
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So that's why the positive is a pull.
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And then the negative is like a push away.
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So if you think about like trying to bring the girl in versus pushing the girl away, it's a push pull.
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So the sentence would be a positive plus a negative.
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And the idea behind this is we're showing some intent, but we're not putting too much pressure on the girl.
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Actually, if anything, we're, we're really taking the pressure off of the girl on this one
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because there's a positive and a little bit of a negative, right?
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So in the last video, I described giving the girl a compliment and then continuously talking
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or maybe asking a question or making a statement about something that was going on in the conversation.
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Push pull is a step further, okay?
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So it's like a positive plus the negative.
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So an example of this would be instead of just telling the girl she's cute, it would be something like,
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you're cute, but I feel like you're trouble or you're cute
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but i feel like you're like low -key a brat
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or you're cute but i don't think we would get along okay
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so you could see that's like a positive you're cute
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and then the negative the negative it's not even a huge negative
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but it's it's just taking the pressure off of the positive right it's like you're cute
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but this other thing okay and by doing that
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and by saying these push -pull lines
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it takes the pressure off of the girl it takes her mind off of the compliment, right?
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Because people have a tendency to just instinctually, if I told you a bunch of positives about yourself,
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and then I still had one negative thing to say about you,
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I guarantee you would be thinking about that negative thing way more than the positives.
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It's just how we are as human beings.
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We have a tendency to focus on negatives from people or focus on criticism from people.
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I was the same way in my dating content, right?
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I post up a video, i get a hundred comments that are all positive but there's that one negative comment that i'm so
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focused on right so it's like because of that reason excuse me
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because of that reason that's that's the same concept of why the push pull is effective
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because it's the girl's not going to be fixated
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so much on the fact that you complimented or
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if anything she's going to be like trouble wait why am i trouble
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or brat i'm not a brat what do you mean are you you're cute honestly but like you're so feisty.
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And then another thing you could do is you say the push pull and you also still continue talking.
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So it kind of builds off of the previous video that I was just saying about complimenting and then keep talking.
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Another thing you could do is compliment plus the negative and then keep talking as well.
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Okay.
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And that's like a even more powerful technique.
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I would say I'm not saying one of these is better than the other in this week's videos.
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I'm, I'm just giving you guys a bunch of different tools.
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Okay.
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Each tool is more effective in a, in, in a different scenario, right?
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Like a push pull is like a hammer.
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The other technique I told you was like a screwdriver.
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I'm not saying the hammer is better than the screwdriver.
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It's just, they're both tools that you could use.
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And at the right time with the right situation, each tool can be more effective than the other tool.
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Okay.
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So if I'm in a playful banter back and forth already with the girl, and then I use the push -pull,
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and then I keep talking as well, that could be very powerful, okay?
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If we're not in that much of a banter, and the girl's not being super playful with me, that may not be the route to go.
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In that case, you have another tool you can use.
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I'm going to give you guys more tools throughout this week as well, but this is a good one, the push -pull.
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So one other thing I wanted to point out about the push -pull is
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that it doesn't always need to be the positive first
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and then the negative it can be negative and then positive
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or positive negative positive there's a bunch of different ways to do this okay
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it should just be kind of flowing naturally based on how the conversation is going
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if you're brand new to this
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and this seems like a little bit of a struggle for you okay cool in
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that case i would say just focus on doing a very basic line.
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And don't try to go so complex with it at first, right?
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We want to start off very basic, right?
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So I'm going to give you a couple of lines in this video
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and later on in this week that you could just use verbatim, word for word.
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And as you get more comfortable with these things, you'll just start to embody these behaviors
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and these mannerisms naturally to the point where eventually you won't even need to think about the line.
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They just kind of come out naturally just based on having conversation with them.
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You know, like I'm never at I'm at a point where I'm never actively thinking about the push pulls.
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I just kind of embodied that playful back and forth banter with a girl.
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Right.
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And the way I got there, though, was by practicing these lines, writing down some lines, going out,
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doing approaches and trying to make an active attempt to inject one of these lines.
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OK, so that's the art of the push pull.
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It's the compliment.
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And then this other exception to the compliment.
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OK, and then you keep talking as well.
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I'm not like you're cute, but you're trouble.
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Right.
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And then I put the microphone up to her because that's just seeking a response.
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And that's try hard.
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And it could also be too much pressure on the girl.
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It should be playful when when we're incorporating these lines.
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OK, and that's how you're going to get that playful, fun banter that everybody wants to have with women.
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Okay, so super powerful tool right here.
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Be sure to start applying this into your interactions.
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I'll see you in the next video.
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I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
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And quick announcement, by the way, I just released my brand new 12 -week mentorship program.
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All right, I'll talk to you soon.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles is gebaseerd op de video “Flirting Techniques: How To Use Push Pull”. Deze woorden komen het vaakst terug: negative, push, pull, positive, tool. Deze video bevat 107 zinnen en 1313 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 6:35. De spreker praat snel, ongeveer 199 woorden per minuut, dus reken op verbonden en ingeslikte klanken. 87% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| compliment zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈkɑmpləmənt/ | compliment |
| naturally bijwoord | /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/ | natuurlijk |
| technique zelfstandig naamwoord | /tɛkˈniːk/ | techniek |
| intent zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɪnˈtɛnt/ | bedoeling |
| hammer zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈhæmɚ/ | hamer |
| tendency zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈtɛn.dən.si/ | neiging |
| verbal bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈvɜː.bəl/ | verbaal, woordelijk |
| guarantee zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/ | garantie |
| essentially bijwoord | /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/ | essentieel |
| exception zelfstandig naamwoord | /əkˈsɛpʃən/ | uitzondering |
| versus | /ˈvɝsəs/ | tegen |
| announcement zelfstandig naamwoord | /əˈnaʊns.mənt/ | bekendmaking, aankondiging |
| interaction zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/ | wisselwerking, interactie |
| scenario zelfstandig naamwoord | /sɪˈnɛəɹioʊ/ | scenario |
| continuously bijwoord | /kənˈtɪnjuəsli/ | continu |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| come out werkwoord | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | uitkomen |
| fill out werkwoord | /fɪl ˈaʊt/ | invullen |
| get along werkwoord | opschieten, overeenkomen | |
| go out werkwoord | naar buiten gaan | |
| write down werkwoord | opschrijven, neerschrijven |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- Let's talk about push -pull.
- How can we use this?
- It's just how we are as human beings.
- It's just, they're both tools that you could use.
- I'm not like you're cute, but you're trouble.
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | could be described · be fixated |
| Werkwoord + -ing enjoy, keep, stop… + -ing — werkwoorden die door de -ing-vorm worden gevolgd | keep talking · start applying |
| Vergrotende trap -er than / more … than — twee dingen vergelijken | better than · more effective than |
| Past continuous was/were + -ing — iets dat op een moment in het verleden bezig was | was going · was just saying |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 43 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, I'm, we're. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, exception /əkˈsɛpʃən/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, continuously /kənˈtɪnjuəsli/, incorporate /ɪŋˈkɔɹ.pɚ.eɪt/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, hammer /ˈhæmɚ/, guarantee /ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, actively /ˈæktɪvli/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als compliment, naturally, technique.
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