쉐도잉 연습: How to Protect Ourselves - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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There are people who are, in most walks of life, extremely canny and highly able to look after themselves.
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They may be shrewd in business, undaunted in social encounters, vociferous in defending their causes in public.
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And yet, in other situations, these very same people can find themselves sharply and strangely unable to protect their interests.
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The situations where these people become powerless, innocent, unworldly and too pure for their own good are intimate ones.
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It's in close relationships that the years seem to fall away from them.
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They find themselves in a couple and lose any ability to imagine
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that their partner might be anything other than very nice and on their side.
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Other people may spot a problem at once.
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In their eyes, all is completely well, until it may be far, far too late.
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They give their partners a huge amount of themselves.
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They are tireless in their ministrations, even if the partner is running rings around them.
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They keep hoping for the best, even if the partner has repeatedly shown themselves to be untrustworthy.
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They give the other time and money, far more than would be sensible.
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What's going on?
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Why can't this person erect the requisite protective barriers?
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Generally, because their early survival depended on them not fully recognising the unpleasantness of a person close to them,
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because their childhood forced them into a state of unwarranted innocence.
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They couldn't, for example, afford to properly recognise that their mother didn't want the best for them.
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They couldn't bear to think that a close relative might be sexually abusive.
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It wasn't in their interest at the age of five to fully take on board the awfulness of their father.
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Psychological survival relied on maintaining a selectively timid, hopeful and naïve stance.
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As a result, the faculties that would normally engage with intimate danger were cauterised and numbed, and have remained so into adulthood,
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which accounts for the paradox of high competence and strength existing alongside severe passivity and powerlessness.
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When we see such people – and they may be us – we need to extend understanding and compassion.
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These people aren't stupid or weak.
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They've had to learn to switch off their bright minds in particular contexts.
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They've not been able to be vigilant because vigilance would have meant realising that someone they deeply depended on was a curse.
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And that was too much to bear, psychologically and practically, when they lacked any option to run away and find new caregivers.
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It can take a lifetime to learn a simple sounding lesson – that we deserve only kindness from those we love.
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유용한 구문과 어휘 조합
- in most walks of life: 대부분의 생활 영역에서. "There are people who are, in most walks of life, extremely canny"와 같이 넓은 범위를 설명할 때 사용됩니다.
- run rings around: ~를 속이고玩弄하다. "even if the partner is running rings around them"처럼 상대방을 쉽게 조종하는 상황을 표현합니다.
- erect protective barriers: 보호 장벽을 세우다. "Why can't this person erect the requisite protective barriers?"에서 자기 방어를 강조할 때 사용됩니다.
- selectively timid: 선택적으로 소심한. "maintaining a selectively timid, hopeful and naïve stance"처럼 특정 상황에서만 소심해지는 모습을 묘사합니다.
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