쉐도잉 연습: The Childish Behavior That Ruins Adult Relationships - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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Behind so many of the troubles of our love lives lies a mystery.
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Why do they behave as they do?
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Why won't they signal their intentions clearly?
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Why they so theatrical, so focused on their friends, so unable to relax?
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It isn't that we lack explanations for these sort of problems, especially after 11 at night.
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It's very clear what they're up to.
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They're not trying, they're mean, they're stupid, they're out to ruin our lives.
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But the next morning, there might be another angle.
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They're behaving as they are, because they're still behaving like the very clever children they once were.
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All children are exquisitely sensitive to what their families need from them.
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From the earliest days, a part of the mind scans the environment, the pink nursery or the scuffed bare room and asks,
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what will I need to do to survive here?
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In some lucky cases, the answer is nothing at all.
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Mum and dad contain their crises.
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The grown -ups are grown -up.
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But often, something has gone wrong.
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A sadness keeps mother in bed with the curtains drawn.
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Last week, father destroyed the living room.
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There's a sibling next door with tubes coming out of his tummy.
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There's an older sister who died before we were born and the sadness has never stopped.
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We couldn't have explained any of this at five, any more than we could explain how we digested lunch.
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Most of what goes on in the mind happens on another floor.
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And yet, part of us grasped,
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with awe -inspiring precision, what our caregivers needed and worked out exactly what we had to be to make it through.
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Small people can't pack their bags and find a flat across town.
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We're only here because we once adapted.
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The strategies varied.
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We had to be cheerful.
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The little man who made mummy laugh till she cried.
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We had to take dad's mind off his unhappy marriage.
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We had to retire early from success.
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We had to be innocent.
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We had to be seductive.
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We had to cope alone.
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We had to impress.
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We had to disappear.
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There was near genius in all these strategies.
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It isn't easy when you're the size of a chair to work out
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that what your father needs is that you never threaten to exceed him.
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The problem isn't that our strategies aren't clever.
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It's that they go on far too long.
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They outlive their uses by decades, deployed long after the home that required them has been disbanded,
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its rulers laid to rest and its borders redrawn.
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Why, at 35, can someone not relax around the person they married and built a life with?
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Why do they flinch when touched?
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Perhaps because keeping yourself at bay was a good strategy
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when your father made his first attempt on his life
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when you were seven and succeeded on the eve of your 16th birthday.
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What's the logic of never eating enough?
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Perhaps because closing your mouth was a sensible strategy
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when two engulfing parents in the next room couldn't stop needing you to boy up their mood.
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The behaviour we crossly call mad in our partners is seldom that.
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It's usually a clever defence that's run far too long.
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Brilliant in the second year of primary school and poisoning every chance of us reaching a 10th wedding anniversary.
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When we're next furious with our partner, there's no greater generosity than to wonder what did they need to do to survive?
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They're not being mean.
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They've got a strategy and they've forgotten what the time is and who we are.
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The error is unfortunately unlikely only to be on their side.
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We probably irritate them just as much with our own old strategies.
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Both people in a couple may be trying to stay safe in the present with the weapons of yesteryear.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 60개와 단어 640개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 3:45입니다. 화자는 분당 약 171단어로, 일상 대화에 가까운 자연스러운 속도로 말합니다. 단어의 83%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속합니다. 나머지는 연습 전에 미리 확인해 두세요.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| behave 동사 | /bɪˈheɪv/ | 처신하다, 행동하다 |
| relax 동사 | /ɹɪˈlæks/ | 늦추다, 편안히 하다 |
| sadness 명사 | /ˈsædnəs/ | 슬픔 |
| sensitive 형용사 | /ˈsɛn.sɪt.ɪv/ | 민감하다 |
| innocent 형용사 | /ˈɪnəsənt/ | 순진하다 |
| mystery 명사 | /ˈmɪs.t(ə.)ɹi/ | 신비, 미스터리 |
| explanation 명사 | /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/ | 설명 |
| mood 명사 | /muːd/ | 기분 |
| angle 명사 | /ˈæŋ.ɡəl/ | 각, 각도 |
| tube 명사 | /tuːb/ | 튜브 |
| genius 명사 | /ˈd͡ʒin.jəs/ | 천재 |
| ruin 명사 | /ˈɹuː.ɪn/ | 폐허, 유적 |
| disappear 동사 | /dɪsəˈpɪɹ/ | 사라지다 |
| poison 명사 | /ˈpɔɪ.zən/ | 독 |
| retire 동사 | /ɹəˈtaɪɹ/ | 퇴직하다 |
주의할 발음
화자는 they're, isn't, couldn't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 21번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “th” 소리: threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, theatrical /θiˈætɹɪkəl/
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/, precision /pɹɪˈsɪʒ.ən/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, theatrical /θiˈætɹɪkəl/, generosity /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/, yesteryear /ˈjɛstəɹˌjɪ(ə)ɹ/
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- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 0.75배속으로 한 문장씩 섀도잉을 시작하고, 익숙해지면 보통 속도로 돌아갑니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, behave, relax, sadness 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
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화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때 | has gone · has never stopped · has been disbanded |
| 수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점 | are grown · were born · has been disbanded |
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