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Behind so many of the troubles of our love lives lies a mystery.
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Why do they behave as they do?
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Why won't they signal their intentions clearly?
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Why they so theatrical, so focused on their friends, so unable to relax?
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It isn't that we lack explanations for these sort of problems, especially after 11 at night.
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It's very clear what they're up to.
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They're not trying, they're mean, they're stupid, they're out to ruin our lives.
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But the next morning, there might be another angle.
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They're behaving as they are, because they're still behaving like the very clever children they once were.
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All children are exquisitely sensitive to what their families need from them.
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From the earliest days, a part of the mind scans the environment, the pink nursery or the scuffed bare room and asks,
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what will I need to do to survive here?
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In some lucky cases, the answer is nothing at all.
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Mum and dad contain their crises.
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The grown -ups are grown -up.
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But often, something has gone wrong.
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A sadness keeps mother in bed with the curtains drawn.
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Last week, father destroyed the living room.
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There's a sibling next door with tubes coming out of his tummy.
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There's an older sister who died before we were born and the sadness has never stopped.
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We couldn't have explained any of this at five, any more than we could explain how we digested lunch.
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Most of what goes on in the mind happens on another floor.
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And yet, part of us grasped,
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with awe -inspiring precision, what our caregivers needed and worked out exactly what we had to be to make it through.
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Small people can't pack their bags and find a flat across town.
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We're only here because we once adapted.
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The strategies varied.
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We had to be cheerful.
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The little man who made mummy laugh till she cried.
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We had to take dad's mind off his unhappy marriage.
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We had to retire early from success.
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We had to be innocent.
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We had to be seductive.
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We had to cope alone.
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We had to impress.
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We had to disappear.
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There was near genius in all these strategies.
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It isn't easy when you're the size of a chair to work out
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that what your father needs is that you never threaten to exceed him.
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The problem isn't that our strategies aren't clever.
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It's that they go on far too long.
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They outlive their uses by decades, deployed long after the home that required them has been disbanded,
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its rulers laid to rest and its borders redrawn.
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Why, at 35, can someone not relax around the person they married and built a life with?
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Why do they flinch when touched?
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Perhaps because keeping yourself at bay was a good strategy
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when your father made his first attempt on his life
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when you were seven and succeeded on the eve of your 16th birthday.
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What's the logic of never eating enough?
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Perhaps because closing your mouth was a sensible strategy
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when two engulfing parents in the next room couldn't stop needing you to boy up their mood.
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The behaviour we crossly call mad in our partners is seldom that.
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It's usually a clever defence that's run far too long.
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Brilliant in the second year of primary school and poisoning every chance of us reaching a 10th wedding anniversary.
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When we're next furious with our partner, there's no greater generosity than to wonder what did they need to do to survive?
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They're not being mean.
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They've got a strategy and they've forgotten what the time is and who we are.
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The error is unfortunately unlikely only to be on their side.
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We probably irritate them just as much with our own old strategies.
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Both people in a couple may be trying to stay safe in the present with the weapons of yesteryear.
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Vocabolario e note di pronuncia per questa lezione
Questo video contiene 60 frasi e 640 parole da ripetere con lo shadowing. Il parlato dura 3:45. Chi parla ha un ritmo naturale di circa 171 parole al minuto, vicino a una conversazione quotidiana. Il 83% delle parole rientra nelle 3.000 più comuni dell’inglese; conviene studiare le altre prima di iniziare.
Vocaboli chiave di questo video
15 parole del video che vale la pena imparare, con pronuncia e significato:
| Parola | Pronuncia | Significato |
|---|---|---|
| behave verbo | /bɪˈheɪv/ | comportarsi, agire |
| sadness sostantivo | /ˈsædnəs/ | tristezza |
| sensitive aggettivo | /ˈsɛn.sɪt.ɪv/ | ricettivo, sensibile |
| innocent aggettivo | /ˈɪnəsənt/ | innocente |
| mystery sostantivo | /ˈmɪs.t(ə.)ɹi/ | mistero, arcano |
| explanation sostantivo | /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/ | spiegazione, esplicazione |
| mood sostantivo | /muːd/ | umore, cattivo umore |
| angle sostantivo | /ˈæŋ.ɡəl/ | angolo |
| tube sostantivo | /tuːb/ | tubo, tubetto |
| ruin sostantivo | /ˈɹuː.ɪn/ | rovina |
| unlikely aggettivo | /ʌnˈlaɪkli/ | improbabile |
| vary verbo | /ˈvɛəɹi/ | variare |
| disappear verbo | /dɪsəˈpɪɹ/ | sparire, scomparire |
| poison sostantivo | /ˈpɔɪ.zən/ | veleno |
| scan verbo | /skæn/ | scrutare |
I phrasal verb che sentirai
| Parola | Significato |
|---|---|
| grow up verbo | crescere |
Pronuncia a cui fare attenzione
Chi parla usa 21 contrazioni e forme ridotte, come they're, isn't, couldn't. Pronunciale nella forma breve, così come le senti.
- I suoni “th”: threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, theatrical /θiˈætɹɪkəl/
- I suoni “sh” e “zh”: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/, precision /pɹɪˈsɪʒ.ən/
- Parole lunghe — attenzione all’accento: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, theatrical /θiˈætɹɪkəl/, generosity /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/, yesteryear /ˈjɛstəɹˌjɪ(ə)ɹ/
Come esercitarsi con questo video
- Ascolta tutto il video una volta senza parlare e annota le parole che non conosci.
- Inizia a velocità 0,75×, fai shadowing frase per frase e torna alla velocità normale quando diventa facile.
- Registrati e confronta con l’originale, facendo attenzione a parole come behave, sadness, sensitive.
La grammatica di questo video
Le strutture che chi parla usa di più, con le parole esatte del video:
| Struttura | Nel video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + participio passato — un’azione passata che conta ancora adesso | has gone · has never stopped · has been disbanded |
| Forma passiva be + participio passato — conta ciò che accade, non chi lo fa | are grown · were born · has been disbanded |
Cos'è la tecnica dello Shadowing?
Shadowing è una tecnica di apprendimento delle lingue supportata da studi scientifici, originariamente sviluppata per la formazione dei traduttori professionisti e resa popolare dal poliglotta Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Il metodo è semplice ma potente: ascolti un audio in inglese di madrelingua e lo ripeti immediatamente ad alta voce — come un'ombra che segue il parlante con un ritardo di solo 1–2 secondi. A differenza dell'ascolto passivo o degli esercizi di grammatica, lo shadowing costringe il tuo cervello e i muscoli della bocca a elaborare e riprodurre simultaneamente i modelli di discorso reale. La ricerca dimostra che migliora significativamente la precisione della pronuncia, l'intonazione, il ritmo, il discorso connesso, la comprensione dell'ascolto e la fluidità del parlato — rendendolo uno dei metodi più efficaci per la preparazione alla prova di speaking dell'IELTS e per la comunicazione reale in inglese.