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Let's imagine you had a bad childhood.
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You may hardly remember it.
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It almost doesn't matter.
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The easiest way to assess what once went on is to reflect on how you feel about yourself now.
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The clearest sign of having had a miserable start is a deep self-hatred.
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You think you're ugly.
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You can't bear to look in mirrors.
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You never want to upset anyone and suspect everyone hates you.
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You feel unacceptable and weird and just in multiple non-specific ways.
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Diseased and not right.
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Behind such feelings there will have been the normal villains.
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A critical and unloving mother or father.
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Some violence and unpredictability.
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Huge preference for a sibling.
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There are only so many ways these sorts of wounds form.
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But the real legacy comes in love.
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Here, after the normal awful adolescence, eating disorders, cutting, alienation, drink, etc. you have two options.
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Firstly, to fall in love with cruel, distant, possibly violent, intermittent, unavailable people.
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You can fall in love with people who are married to someone else or who don't call you, who make you feel inadequate and unseen and constantly alarmed and unsure.
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You can love people who think you're unlovable.
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Or else, you can love people who really like you, who think you're attractive and sweet and clever and you can feel powerfully ill around them.
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You can become an expert in identifying what's wrong with them.
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They're not clever enough, they're weird, they've got no options.
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You criticise their taste in shoes, the shape of their mouth, a comment they made at a party.
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You become as critical of them as your parents were once critical of you.
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How could someone who liked you be anything other than a loser?
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You end up pushing them away, maybe not directly, but by going slightly cold or flirting with strangers.
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You know well enough how to detonate trust conclusively.
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This rigmarole can go on for most of your life.
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Unavailable, cruel people and sickeningly available ones.
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And in the in-between times, devastating loneliness.
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It's been going on forever.
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You can be sure this sort of thing went on in Renaissance Florence and Ming Dynasty Beijing.
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Is there any way out?
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There is, perhaps, just a third option.
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To understand what's going on and to share it with someone who is kind
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and perceptive and who might have problems of their own and a good therapist.
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To meet someone who threatens to make us feel sick with their sweetness, then to explain to them what we understand of our problem.
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Rather than pretending that we are healthy and can bear their kindness without difficulty, we may be able to tell them, I want so much to be normal,
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I want so much to tolerate kindness, but I have an illness.
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My past means I can't accept love, I can't digest it, I turn against it and the person giving it to me.
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But I don't want to be like this anymore.
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I'm tired of sabotaging relationships and turning away good people.
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Please help me to bear the anxiety of being cared for.
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Please help me to absorb the love I crave.
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Please forgive me for being unwell.
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If the person doesn't immediately run away, if they can see the decency behind the shame and the tenderness behind the neurosis,
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if they can partly understand our problem from the inside, we will be making momentous progress.
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We won't be healed yet, but at least we'll know how ill we are
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and will have found a way to hint at the scale of our terrors of kindness.
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Vocabolario e note di pronuncia per questa lezione
Questa lezione di conversazione di livello C1 si basa sul video “Your Two Options in Love After a Bad Childhood”. Le parole che ritornano più spesso: kindness, bear, option, critical, normal. Questo video contiene 50 frasi e 602 parole da ripetere con lo shadowing. Il parlato dura 3:25. Chi parla ha un ritmo naturale di circa 176 parole al minuto, vicino a una conversazione quotidiana. Il 83% delle parole rientra nelle 3.000 più comuni dell’inglese; conviene studiare le altre prima di iniziare.
Vocaboli chiave di questo video
Le 15 parole più avanzate del video, con pronuncia e significato:
| Parola | Pronuncia | Significato |
|---|---|---|
| kindness sostantivo | /ˈkaɪnd.nəs/ | bontà, gentilezza |
| unavailable aggettivo | /ˌʌnəˈveɪləbəl/ | indisponibile |
| adolescence sostantivo | /ˌædəˈlɛsəns/ | adolescenza |
| alienation sostantivo | /ˌeɪli.əˈneɪʃən/ | alienazione |
| detonate verbo | /ˈdɛtəneɪt/ | detonare, esplodere |
| devastate verbo | /ˈdɛv.ə.steɪt/ | devastare |
| intermittent aggettivo | /ˌɪntɚˈmɪtn̩t/ | intermittente |
| momentous aggettivo | /moʊˈmɛn.təs/ | cruciale, critico |
| perceptive aggettivo | /pɚˈsɛptɪv/ | perspicace, acuto |
| powerfully avverbio | /ˈpaʊɚf(ə)li/ | poderosamente, potentemente |
| rigmarole sostantivo | /ˈɹɪɡməɹoʊl/ | trafila, tiritera |
| sweetness sostantivo | /ˈswitnəs/ | dolcezza |
| tenderness sostantivo | /ˈtɛn.dɚ.nɪs/ | tenerezza |
| unlove sostantivo | disamore | |
| unpredictability sostantivo | imprevedibilità |
I phrasal verb che sentirai
| Parola | Significato |
|---|---|
| end up verbo | andare a finire, finire |
| run away verbo | scappare, fuggire |
Frasi da ripetere
Frasi brevi e complete del video che puoi riutilizzare nella conversazione di tutti i giorni:
- Let's imagine you had a bad childhood.
- You can't bear to look in mirrors.
- You can love people who think you're unlovable.
- How could someone who liked you be anything other than a loser?
La grammatica di questo video
Le strutture che chi parla usa di più, con le parole esatte del video:
| Struttura | Nel video |
|---|---|
| Frasi relative who / which + frase — un’informazione in più su una persona o una cosa | people who are · people who think · people who really |
| Present perfect have/has + participio passato — un’azione passata che conta ancora adesso | have been · have found |
| Forma passiva be + participio passato — conta ciò che accade, non chi lo fa | being cared · won't be healed |
Pronuncia a cui fare attenzione
Chi parla usa 16 contrazioni e forme ridotte, come can't, you're, doesn't. Pronunciale nella forma breve, così come le senti.
- I suoni “th”: threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/
- I suoni “sh” e “zh”: alienation /ˌeɪli.əˈneɪʃən/, sabotage /ˈsæb.əˌtɑʒ/
- Parole lunghe — attenzione all’accento: unavailable /ˌʌnəˈveɪləbəl/, adolescence /ˌædəˈlɛsəns/, alienation /ˌeɪli.əˈneɪʃən/, inadequate /ɪnˈædəkwɪt/, unacceptable /ˌʌn.ækˈsɛp.tə.bl̩/
I suoni difficili per chi parla italiano:
- /h/ — va soffiata, non è muta: hatred /ˈheɪtɹɪd/, hint /hɪnt/
- Consonante finale — senza aggiungere una vocale dopo: kindness /ˈkaɪnd.nəs/, adolescence /ˌædəˈlɛsəns/, detonate /ˈdɛtəneɪt/, devastate /ˈdɛv.ə.steɪt/, intermittent /ˌɪntɚˈmɪtn̩t/
- /æ/ — più aperta della “e”: adolescence /ˌædəˈlɛsəns/, sabotage /ˈsæb.əˌtɑʒ/, absorb /æbˈsɔɹb/, inadequate /ɪnˈædəkwɪt/, unacceptable /ˌʌn.ækˈsɛp.tə.bl̩/
Come esercitarsi con questo video
- Ascolta tutto il video una volta senza parlare e annota le parole che non conosci.
- Inizia a velocità 0,75×, fai shadowing frase per frase e torna alla velocità normale quando diventa facile.
- Registrati e confronta con l’originale, facendo attenzione a parole come kindness, unavailable, adolescence.
Cos'è la tecnica dello Shadowing?
Shadowing è una tecnica di apprendimento delle lingue supportata da studi scientifici, originariamente sviluppata per la formazione dei traduttori professionisti e resa popolare dal poliglotta Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Il metodo è semplice ma potente: ascolti un audio in inglese di madrelingua e lo ripeti immediatamente ad alta voce — come un'ombra che segue il parlante con un ritardo di solo 1–2 secondi. A differenza dell'ascolto passivo o degli esercizi di grammatica, lo shadowing costringe il tuo cervello e i muscoli della bocca a elaborare e riprodurre simultaneamente i modelli di discorso reale. La ricerca dimostra che migliora significativamente la precisione della pronuncia, l'intonazione, il ritmo, il discorso connesso, la comprensione dell'ascolto e la fluidità del parlato — rendendolo uno dei metodi più efficaci per la preparazione alla prova di speaking dell'IELTS e per la comunicazione reale in inglese.