Shadowing Practice: How to Protect Ourselves - Learn English Speaking with Video
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There are people who are, in most walks of life, extremely canny and highly able to look after themselves.
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They may be shrewd in business, undaunted in social encounters, vociferous in defending their causes in public.
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And yet, in other situations, these very same people can find themselves sharply and strangely unable to protect their interests.
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The situations where these people become powerless, innocent, unworldly and too pure for their own good are intimate ones.
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It's in close relationships that the years seem to fall away from them.
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They find themselves in a couple and lose any ability to imagine
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that their partner might be anything other than very nice and on their side.
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Other people may spot a problem at once.
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In their eyes, all is completely well, until it may be far, far too late.
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They give their partners a huge amount of themselves.
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They are tireless in their ministrations, even if the partner is running rings around them.
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They keep hoping for the best, even if the partner has repeatedly shown themselves to be untrustworthy.
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They give the other time and money, far more than would be sensible.
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What's going on?
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Why can't this person erect the requisite protective barriers?
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Generally, because their early survival depended on them not fully recognising the unpleasantness of a person close to them,
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because their childhood forced them into a state of unwarranted innocence.
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They couldn't, for example, afford to properly recognise that their mother didn't want the best for them.
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They couldn't bear to think that a close relative might be sexually abusive.
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It wasn't in their interest at the age of five to fully take on board the awfulness of their father.
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Psychological survival relied on maintaining a selectively timid, hopeful and naïve stance.
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As a result, the faculties that would normally engage with intimate danger were cauterised and numbed, and have remained so into adulthood,
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which accounts for the paradox of high competence and strength existing alongside severe passivity and powerlessness.
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When we see such people – and they may be us – we need to extend understanding and compassion.
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These people aren't stupid or weak.
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They've had to learn to switch off their bright minds in particular contexts.
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They've not been able to be vigilant because vigilance would have meant realising that someone they deeply depended on was a curse.
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And that was too much to bear, psychologically and practically, when they lacked any option to run away and find new caregivers.
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It can take a lifetime to learn a simple sounding lesson – that we deserve only kindness from those we love.
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu C1 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “How to Protect Ourselves” videosuna dayanıyor. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 29 cümle ve 434 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 2:56 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 148 kelimelik dengeli bir hızla konuşuyor; gölgeleme için rahat bir tempo. Kelimelerin yalnızca %79’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında, bu yüzden kelime dağarcığı zorlayıcı.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodaki en ileri düzey 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| ministration isim | hizmet | |
| psychologically zarf | psikolojik olarak, psikolojikman | |
| requisite sıfat | /ˈɹɛkwɪzɪt/ | gerekli, lüzumlu |
| tireless sıfat | yorulmak bilmeyen | |
| vigilant sıfat | /ˈvɪd͡ʒɪlənt/ | uyanık |
| numb sıfat | /nʌm/ | uyuşuk |
| competence isim | /ˈkɑm.pə.təns/ | yetki, yetkinlik |
| adulthood isim | yetişkinlik | |
| paradox isim | /ˈpæ.ɹəˌdɒks/ | paradoks, çelişki |
| hopeful sıfat | /ˈhoʊpfl̩/ | umutlu |
| innocence isim | /ˈɪnəsn̩s/ | suçsuzluk, masumiyet |
| compassion isim | /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/ | şefkat |
| sensible sıfat | /ˈsɛn.sɪ.bəl/ | makul, akla yatkın |
| kindness isim | /ˈkaɪnd.nəs/ | incelik, kibarlık |
| stance isim | /stæns/ | duruş |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Anlam |
|---|---|
| switch off fiil | kapatmak |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı couldn't, they've, aren't gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 8 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: shrewd /ʃɹuːd/, sharply /ˈʃɑɹpli/, compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: passivity /pæˈsɪvɪti/, unpleasantness /ʌnˈplɛz.ənt.nəs/, untrustworthy /ˌʌnˈtɹʌstˌwɜː(ɹ)ði/, vociferous /voʊˈsɪfəɹəs/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- Normal hızda cümle cümle tekrar edin; ritminiz konuşmacıyla aynı olana kadar her cümleyi yineleyin.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; ministration, psychologically, requisite gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
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