Shadowing Practice: The Red Flags You Keep Ignoring - Learn English Speaking with Video
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There's a familiar expression that captures a deep psychological truth.
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When people tell you who they are, believe them.
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What does this mean?
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That certain people constantly reveal to us some of their deep-seated inclinations towards unkindness, treachery, vanity and selfishness.
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They make no bones about their cowardice or greed.
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They may simply and in broad daylight,
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declare their harmful natures and take no precautions in offering up stories from which a negative moral is blatantly clear.
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But for our part, we miss every one of these clues.
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We remain too hopeful, too naive, too much on the other side
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and not enough on our own to trust in the omens we are witnessing
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and in the process we may destroy our lives.
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someone who never returns any of our generosity, or someone who tells us they didn't mean to hurt us by flirting with other people but continues to do so regardless,
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or someone who intermittently disappears without warning, or someone who again and again responds with defensiveness to ideas that matter to us,
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or someone who greets every warm comment from us with curt, dismissive replies, or someone who never invites us to meet any of their friends,
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or someone who is half-hearted in saying thank you, or always says maybe when we need a yes, or someone who never asks us anything about ourselves.
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All these are, in their way, extremely clear communications.
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They are ways for our interlocutors to tell us in ironclad terms, in effect, I am not to be trusted,
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I don't respect you, I have other things that matter more to me than you, your feelings aren't a concern to me, I don't love you, I don't have a moral code,
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I'm not accountable and I will put my comfort far above your needs.
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One would think that such alarming truths would immediately enter our consciousness and lead us to walk away and defend our interests.
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The problem is that some of us are not remotely built to notice the attacks on us by others.
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We listen and we look, but the deeper import of what we're witnessing evades us.
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Yes, of course, the other person does seem a bit distracted, we can concede that.
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But perhaps they're busy or exhausted or taken up temporarily with other thoughts.
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And yes, it's true that their behaviour isn't entirely gentle or considerate, but isn't it the case that they were pretty kind to us a year ago
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and once promised to take us out for a treat, even if they did later forget to do so?
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The thing we can't do is lay appropriate and proportionate emphasis on the darkness.
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The truth that we have a dangerous con artist or worse on our hands constantly escapes us.
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And the reason is simple.
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We were never educated to despair correctly of people who frustrated, neglected, ignored, tantalized or blindfolded us.
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We weren't able to squarely acknowledge the harmful nature of those around us
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when we were children because these people happened to carry the title of parent or caregiver.
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And no child can afford to give up cleanly on those on whom its existence depends.
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No child can believe in the full bad news of their families of birth.
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Which is why the truth gets twisted unbearably.
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My father is lovely.
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He's just a bit tough.
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My father did care for me.
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He just got married to someone else.
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My mother is sweet.
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She's just busy.
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My stepfather is nice.
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He just looks at me a little bit strangely at times.
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From this enforced generosity towards the harmfulness of others,
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we develop a lifelong bias towards not believing bad news from people in our circle.
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When we end up in a relationship with someone who, beneath a sweet manner, constantly disrespects us, it may take us five years to wake up to the humiliation.
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The last thing on our mind is that someone close to us could be a disreputable turncoat.
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even though the signs may have been piling up and all our true friends knew it from the start.
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Once we wake up and learn to properly believe the negative verdicts we're being served up, there will, it is true,
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be far fewer individuals we'd ever consider dating, working with, marrying, or continuing to spend time around.
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That sounds like a pity, but it's an even greater pity, indeed a tragedy, to keep insisting that certain people are decent,
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about to take us seriously or are faithful, when they're not.
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We need to finally
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and fairly give up on those who betray us in order to recover a lost loyalty towards someone we've neglected
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and disrespected for far too long.
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Our vulnerable, worthy, true, intelligent selves.
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 56 cümle ve 793 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 4:53 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 162 kelimeyle, günlük konuşmaya yakın doğal bir hızda konuşuyor. Kelimelerin %82’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodan öğrenmeye değer 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| moral sıfat | /ˈmoɹəl/ | ahlakî, ahlaki |
| pity isim | /ˈpɪt.i/ | şefkat, merhamet |
| harmful sıfat | /ˈhɑɹmfl̩/ | zararlı |
| generosity isim | /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/ | âlicenaplık, cömertlik |
| ignore fiil | /ɪɡˈnɔː/ | görmezden gelmek |
| bone isim | /boʊn/ | kemik |
| defend fiil | /dɪˈfɪnd/ | savunmak, korumak |
| reveal fiil | /ɹɪˈviːl/ | açığa vurmak |
| capture fiil | /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/ | ele geçirmek |
| comfort isim | /ˈkʌm.fət/ | konfor |
| decent sıfat | /ˈdiː.sənt/ | uygun, onat |
| marry fiil | /ˈmæɹi/ | evlenmek, varmak |
| darkness isim | /ˈdɑɹk.nɪs/ | karanlık |
| invite fiil | /ɪnˈvaɪt/ | davet etmek, çağırmak |
| intelligent sıfat | /ɪnˈtɛlɪd͡ʒənt/ | akıllı |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| wake up fiil | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | uyanmak |
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi | someone who never · someone who intermittently · someone who greets |
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | be trusted · were never educated · being served |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı don't, isn't, they're gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 16 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “th” sesleri: worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, beneath /bɪˈniːθ/, faithful /ˈfeɪθ.fl̩/
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: capture /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/, consciousness /ˈkɑnʃəsnəs/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, inclination /ˌɪn.klɪˈneɪ.ʃən/, precaution /pɹiːˈkɔ.ʃən/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: generosity /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/, intelligent /ɪnˈtɛlɪd͡ʒənt/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, temporarily /ˌtɛmpəˈɹɛɹəli/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- 0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; moral, pity, harmful gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?
Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.