跟读练习: The Red Flags You Keep Ignoring - 通过视频学习英语口语
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There's a familiar expression that captures a deep psychological truth.
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When people tell you who they are, believe them.
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What does this mean?
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That certain people constantly reveal to us some of their deep-seated inclinations towards unkindness, treachery, vanity and selfishness.
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They make no bones about their cowardice or greed.
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They may simply and in broad daylight,
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declare their harmful natures and take no precautions in offering up stories from which a negative moral is blatantly clear.
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But for our part, we miss every one of these clues.
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We remain too hopeful, too naive, too much on the other side
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and not enough on our own to trust in the omens we are witnessing
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and in the process we may destroy our lives.
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someone who never returns any of our generosity, or someone who tells us they didn't mean to hurt us by flirting with other people but continues to do so regardless,
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or someone who intermittently disappears without warning, or someone who again and again responds with defensiveness to ideas that matter to us,
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or someone who greets every warm comment from us with curt, dismissive replies, or someone who never invites us to meet any of their friends,
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or someone who is half-hearted in saying thank you, or always says maybe when we need a yes, or someone who never asks us anything about ourselves.
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All these are, in their way, extremely clear communications.
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They are ways for our interlocutors to tell us in ironclad terms, in effect, I am not to be trusted,
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I don't respect you, I have other things that matter more to me than you, your feelings aren't a concern to me, I don't love you, I don't have a moral code,
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I'm not accountable and I will put my comfort far above your needs.
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One would think that such alarming truths would immediately enter our consciousness and lead us to walk away and defend our interests.
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The problem is that some of us are not remotely built to notice the attacks on us by others.
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We listen and we look, but the deeper import of what we're witnessing evades us.
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Yes, of course, the other person does seem a bit distracted, we can concede that.
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But perhaps they're busy or exhausted or taken up temporarily with other thoughts.
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And yes, it's true that their behaviour isn't entirely gentle or considerate, but isn't it the case that they were pretty kind to us a year ago
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and once promised to take us out for a treat, even if they did later forget to do so?
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The thing we can't do is lay appropriate and proportionate emphasis on the darkness.
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The truth that we have a dangerous con artist or worse on our hands constantly escapes us.
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And the reason is simple.
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We were never educated to despair correctly of people who frustrated, neglected, ignored, tantalized or blindfolded us.
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We weren't able to squarely acknowledge the harmful nature of those around us
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when we were children because these people happened to carry the title of parent or caregiver.
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And no child can afford to give up cleanly on those on whom its existence depends.
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No child can believe in the full bad news of their families of birth.
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Which is why the truth gets twisted unbearably.
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My father is lovely.
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He's just a bit tough.
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My father did care for me.
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He just got married to someone else.
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My mother is sweet.
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She's just busy.
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My stepfather is nice.
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He just looks at me a little bit strangely at times.
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From this enforced generosity towards the harmfulness of others,
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we develop a lifelong bias towards not believing bad news from people in our circle.
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When we end up in a relationship with someone who, beneath a sweet manner, constantly disrespects us, it may take us five years to wake up to the humiliation.
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The last thing on our mind is that someone close to us could be a disreputable turncoat.
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even though the signs may have been piling up and all our true friends knew it from the start.
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Once we wake up and learn to properly believe the negative verdicts we're being served up, there will, it is true,
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be far fewer individuals we'd ever consider dating, working with, marrying, or continuing to spend time around.
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That sounds like a pity, but it's an even greater pity, indeed a tragedy, to keep insisting that certain people are decent,
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about to take us seriously or are faithful, when they're not.
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We need to finally
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and fairly give up on those who betray us in order to recover a lost loyalty towards someone we've neglected
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and disrespected for far too long.
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Our vulnerable, worthy, true, intelligent selves.
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这段视频共有 56 个句子、793 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 4:53。 说话人语速自然，每分钟约 162 个词，接近日常对话。 82% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，其余的词建议在练习前先学一下。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| moral 形容词 | /ˈmoɹəl/ | 道德的 |
| pity 名词 | /ˈpɪt.i/ | 憐憫 /怜悯 |
| harmful 形容词 | /ˈhɑɹmfl̩/ | 有害, 不良 |
| neglect 动词 | /nɪˈɡlɛkt/ | 忽略, 忽视 |
| disrespect 名词 | /dɪsɹɪˈspɛkt/ | 不敬, 謾 /谩 |
| generosity 名词 | /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/ | 慷慨, 寬厚 /宽厚 |
| ignore 动词 | /ɪɡˈnɔː/ | 無視 /无视, 忽略 |
| bone 名词 | /boʊn/ | гўдў, гўдўзы |
| defend 动词 | /dɪˈfɪnd/ | 保衛 /保卫, 守衛 /守卫 |
| reveal 动词 | /ɹɪˈviːl/ | 透露, 顯示 /显示 |
| capture 动词 | /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/ | 捕獲 /捕获, 佔領 /占领 |
| comfort 名词 | /ˈkʌm.fət/ | 舒適 /舒适 |
| decent 形容词 | /ˈdiː.sənt/ | 體面 /体面, 正派 |
| marry 动词 | /ˈmæɹi/ | 結婚 /结婚, 嫁 |
| fewer | /ˈfjuː.ɚ/ | 較少 /较少, 更少 |
视频中出现的短语动词
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| give up 动词 | 投案, 自首 | |
| wake up 动词 | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | 醒, 醒來 /醒来 |
视频中的语法
说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：
| 结构 | 视频中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物 | someone who never · someone who intermittently · someone who greets |
| 被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的 | be trusted · were never educated · being served |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 16 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 don't, isn't, they're。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “th” 音: worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, beneath /bɪˈniːθ/, faithful /ˈfeɪθ.fl̩/
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: capture /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/, consciousness /ˈkɑnʃəsnəs/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, inclination /ˌɪn.klɪˈneɪ.ʃən/, precaution /pɹiːˈkɔ.ʃən/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: generosity /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/, intelligent /ɪnˈtɛlɪd͡ʒənt/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, temporarily /ˌtɛmpəˈɹɛɹəli/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 moral, pity, harmful 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。