Shadowing Practice: The Red Flags You Keep Ignoring - Learn English Speaking with Video
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There's a familiar expression that captures a deep psychological truth.
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When people tell you who they are, believe them.
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What does this mean?
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That certain people constantly reveal to us some of their deep-seated inclinations towards unkindness, treachery, vanity and selfishness.
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They make no bones about their cowardice or greed.
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They may simply and in broad daylight,
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declare their harmful natures and take no precautions in offering up stories from which a negative moral is blatantly clear.
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But for our part, we miss every one of these clues.
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We remain too hopeful, too naive, too much on the other side
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and not enough on our own to trust in the omens we are witnessing
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and in the process we may destroy our lives.
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someone who never returns any of our generosity, or someone who tells us they didn't mean to hurt us by flirting with other people but continues to do so regardless,
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or someone who intermittently disappears without warning, or someone who again and again responds with defensiveness to ideas that matter to us,
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or someone who greets every warm comment from us with curt, dismissive replies, or someone who never invites us to meet any of their friends,
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or someone who is half-hearted in saying thank you, or always says maybe when we need a yes, or someone who never asks us anything about ourselves.
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All these are, in their way, extremely clear communications.
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They are ways for our interlocutors to tell us in ironclad terms, in effect, I am not to be trusted,
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I don't respect you, I have other things that matter more to me than you, your feelings aren't a concern to me, I don't love you, I don't have a moral code,
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I'm not accountable and I will put my comfort far above your needs.
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One would think that such alarming truths would immediately enter our consciousness and lead us to walk away and defend our interests.
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The problem is that some of us are not remotely built to notice the attacks on us by others.
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We listen and we look, but the deeper import of what we're witnessing evades us.
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Yes, of course, the other person does seem a bit distracted, we can concede that.
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But perhaps they're busy or exhausted or taken up temporarily with other thoughts.
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And yes, it's true that their behaviour isn't entirely gentle or considerate, but isn't it the case that they were pretty kind to us a year ago
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and once promised to take us out for a treat, even if they did later forget to do so?
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The thing we can't do is lay appropriate and proportionate emphasis on the darkness.
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The truth that we have a dangerous con artist or worse on our hands constantly escapes us.
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And the reason is simple.
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We were never educated to despair correctly of people who frustrated, neglected, ignored, tantalized or blindfolded us.
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We weren't able to squarely acknowledge the harmful nature of those around us
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when we were children because these people happened to carry the title of parent or caregiver.
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And no child can afford to give up cleanly on those on whom its existence depends.
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No child can believe in the full bad news of their families of birth.
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Which is why the truth gets twisted unbearably.
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My father is lovely.
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He's just a bit tough.
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My father did care for me.
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He just got married to someone else.
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My mother is sweet.
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She's just busy.
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My stepfather is nice.
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He just looks at me a little bit strangely at times.
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From this enforced generosity towards the harmfulness of others,
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we develop a lifelong bias towards not believing bad news from people in our circle.
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When we end up in a relationship with someone who, beneath a sweet manner, constantly disrespects us, it may take us five years to wake up to the humiliation.
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The last thing on our mind is that someone close to us could be a disreputable turncoat.
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even though the signs may have been piling up and all our true friends knew it from the start.
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Once we wake up and learn to properly believe the negative verdicts we're being served up, there will, it is true,
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be far fewer individuals we'd ever consider dating, working with, marrying, or continuing to spend time around.
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That sounds like a pity, but it's an even greater pity, indeed a tragedy, to keep insisting that certain people are decent,
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about to take us seriously or are faithful, when they're not.
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We need to finally
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and fairly give up on those who betray us in order to recover a lost loyalty towards someone we've neglected
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and disrespected for far too long.
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Our vulnerable, worthy, true, intelligent selves.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze video bevat 56 zinnen en 793 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 4:53. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 162 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 82% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden; de rest kun je beter vooraf bekijken.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| moral bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈmoɹəl/ | moreel |
| pity zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈpɪt.i/ | medelijden, deernis |
| harmful bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈhɑɹmfl̩/ | schadelijk |
| neglect werkwoord | /nɪˈɡlɛkt/ | verwaarlozen |
| generosity zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/ | gulheid, vrijgevigheid |
| ignore werkwoord | /ɪɡˈnɔː/ | negeren |
| regardless bijwoord | /ɹɪˈɡɑɹd.lɪs/ | desondanks, niettemin |
| bone zelfstandig naamwoord | /boʊn/ | been |
| defend werkwoord | /dɪˈfɪnd/ | verdedigen |
| reveal werkwoord | /ɹɪˈviːl/ | onthullen, zich ontpoppen |
| comfort zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈkʌm.fət/ | comfort, gemak |
| decent bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈdiː.sənt/ | integer, fatsoenlijk |
| marry werkwoord | /ˈmæɹi/ | trouwen, huwen |
| fewer | /ˈfjuː.ɚ/ | minder |
| darkness zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈdɑɹk.nɪs/ | duisternis, donkerheid |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| give up werkwoord | zich overgeven | |
| pile up werkwoord | stapelen | |
| wake up werkwoord | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | wakker worden, ontwaken |
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | someone who never · someone who intermittently · someone who greets |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | be trusted · were never educated · being served |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 16 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals don't, isn't, they're. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, beneath /bɪˈniːθ/, faithful /ˈfeɪθ.fl̩/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: capture /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/, consciousness /ˈkɑnʃəsnəs/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, inclination /ˌɪn.klɪˈneɪ.ʃən/, precaution /pɹiːˈkɔ.ʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: generosity /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/, intelligent /ɪnˈtɛlɪd͡ʒənt/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, temporarily /ˌtɛmpəˈɹɛɹəli/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als moral, pity, harmful.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.