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What would you say for you as being one of your like proudest moments
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What would you say for you as being one of your like proudest moments
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or greatest achievements or something that you really feel like?
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And internally, I mean, for the basis of our conversation,
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like something that really brings you joy internally when you think about it or when you had it.
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Like I said, I look back and the things that I've accomplished,
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just even my job.
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Like I think I really at one point
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when I was younger decided I want to be a model and this is what I want to do.
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And the fact that I executed,
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because we talk about that determination,
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I was 14 years old when I kind of made that decision and was like,
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this is what I want to do.
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And I went to my mom and I was like,
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please help me do this.
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And I didn't stop until I was 24,
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that I was like, okay,
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I think I need to take it back a notch,
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which we can also get into,
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because that's a very dramatic story.
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But I just knew, and I think I'm proud of myself
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for being that kid and being determined to do that
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and then executing and doing it to the level that I had done it and that I guess I still do.
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But I also am proud of,
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I think, more so the self work that I've done within that process.
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Because there was a long period of time,
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I'd say the core five years of it,
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that I was extremely overworked,
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not my happiest, not because I wasn't doing what I loved,
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but just because I was overwhelmed and I was,
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I felt like I was saying yes to everything because I felt really,
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really grateful and really honored to be in the position that I was in.
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So I was always saying yes.
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And it just took a lot out of me to the point where I just wasn't happy anymore.
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And so I had to set those boundaries for myself when I was about 23,
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24, I'd say like what,
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a year before the pandemic.
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So yeah, I was probably 23.
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I really set boundaries for myself and I was like,
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I want to continue to do this because this is what I love.
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But I need to start saying no when I can and prioritizing me and prioritizing like,
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you know, my happiness and my well-being.
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And it has done wonders for me.
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Like, I feel like I can show up better for myself
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and I can show up a better person for the people that get to be around me that day.
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And, you know, that I work with on that day. So, yeah.
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That's what I'm proud of.
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Sorry to give you a long answer to your question.
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That's amazing.
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I won't say I was hoping for that because I'm always open to wherever anyone's life experience goes,
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but there's a part of me that loves hearing that.
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I really appreciate hearing that because when you've achieved so many incredible things in your career,
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which you have, to then say,
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well, this is the part,
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knowing how to navigate it or making the right choices at the right time.
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Healthy balance.
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The healthy balance.
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It's so important.
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It's important for all of us.
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yeah like we have to this is what we're prioritizing you know yeah
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so how did you find the courage to do
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that at the 23 mark as you're saying you're in a
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competitive industry as you said it was overworking it's fast paced i'm guessing there's comparison in
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that industry there's competition in
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that industry it's not an easy space to be you're of
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course you know you're in the top 0.01 percent in your industry
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so it's hard and the reason i ask this is because I work with so many people in this space,
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and to have the courage to say,
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no, I know that if I sort this out,
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then all of this is going to be just fine.
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That actually takes more courage than we recognize.
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We realize that when you have nothing,
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then there's nothing to lose.
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You can actually have a lot of courage.
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But when you have everything and there's everything to lose,
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and a lot of the time,
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at least what I've heard in town is,
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you know, older managers and agents,
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and I'm not saying you have any of this,
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but people that I know will be told,
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well, hey, if you don't do this,
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like you'll be forgotten next year,
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or, you know, your career is only going to last another six months.
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how did you have
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that courage to say no no no I need to do this like where did
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that come from and I think that it's interesting like I've never thought about it
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that way to be completely honest with you I just knew
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that if I had gone any further
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that I was going to lose myself I was at
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that very I was on the teeter-totter edge of
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that point where had I gone any further I was probably not going to be great.
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It was so important to me to feel good that I just knew that it was something that I had to do.
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And I can't say like, you're absolutely right.
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Like there were so many people around me that had told me not to say no and told or told me,
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yeah, told me not to say no,
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told me not to stop.
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I fought my way out of it a little bit because there were people that had worked for me that,
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you know, didn't want me to stop because it might have benefited them.
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But I got to that point and I just knew I had to do it.
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And I just I don't know.
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I don't know how to explain it, I guess.
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It was just such an unbelievable sensation that I had where I knew that if I do this,
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I'm going to be better for everyone and I'm going to be better for myself,
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which means I'm going to be better for the people around me and I have to do this.
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And so it wasn't really,
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I want to be able to live with happiness.
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God forbid any of this ever went away.
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And I think that that was a big moment for me of being like,
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I'm going to be okay if I don't get this job tomorrow.
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And I'm going to be okay if I don't get that job in a month.
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If I have to take this time to do whatever,
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things will come, everything's going to work out the way it's supposed to.
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And I had to trust that.
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Yeah.
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Well, to me, from the outside,
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and it's beautiful that you didn't see it in yourself because
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that makes it even more wonderful but the idea
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that to me from the outset that's a lot of courage
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yeah it takes a lot of courage it takes a lot of vulnerability
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and openness and
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and it takes courage at every level whether someone's thinking about quitting their job to do something they love
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or whether someone's trying to relocate their family and doesn't know how
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or whether someone like you is feeling success
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but then going well wait a minute
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and i think in the past few years we've seen athletes
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and musicians and actors and people in all creative industries step back
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and say well i need to put me first yeah
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and i think that that's empowering
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because i think we hear about burnout in work culture
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and corporate so often for sure so what what was it
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that you started to do with that newfound time at
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that time like where was is that where the curio was the curiosity always there
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and now you could actually follow it it was it was it was always there
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and i had had a lot of people coming to me telling me about meditation
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and how it changed their life and therapy and so many different things.
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And I was a bit overwhelmed because I was like,
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oh my God, what if this is going to suit me?
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I think it's a very personal experience.
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I think everybody has a very different version of all of that stuff.
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And so it was a little overwhelming.
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So I think I really just took the time to be off for a second.
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It was even the little things it was like being able to go to my friend's birthday party
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which i wouldn't have been able to go to before
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because i was working a lot i i love hearing that
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because i think it is those simple things like you know giving yourself
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that space whatever it is that you needed to do yeah
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when you needed it and and like you said sometimes it's like that's
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when all the subscribe buttons come up in front of you
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and it's like try this and try this and it's like well no no no let me just take my time.
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It was also now that I think about it.
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Yeah.
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23. I'm 26.
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I've had my horse for,
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so around that time is when I bought the horse that I have now,
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who is my, like I,
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I jump her and I like how I,
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I have two other horses, but they're like retired.
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So I don't really ride them the same way I ride her.
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So yeah, I guess it was around that time too,
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that I was like, I'm going to do this because I love this.
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And like, I want to get back into it.
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And this is what I've loved my whole life so
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so it was around that time that i feel like all of
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that started happening and i bought my horse
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and i like started taking more time for things
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that made me really happy yeah what i what i'm noticing in you and observing
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or at least from just oh god no in a good
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way i was just saying it's like it feels like no
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matter what's happening in your orbit there's this pillar of belief
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that it's important to be happy yeah like you know that's
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like this core center belief in your life where it's important to be happy it's important to be happy it's
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that has to be the goal for sure
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and you know it's not always easy we live in such an interesting industry
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and in such an interesting time with social media
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that it can be very hard sometimes you can fall victim to
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so many things that don't serve you and that don't make you happy
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if your happiness depends on the actions of others you know you're at mercy of things
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that you can't control and that's never where I want to be
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so I always want to live in like me
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and my therapist talk about like my higher goddess my higher self like I always want to live there knowing
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that you know when I'm there you can't take
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that away from me that that's mine
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and no matter what you can disagree with me you can
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agree with me that's not going my i'm not changing i'm not shifting i'm here i'm in my higher goddess
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so i kind of i always live by like
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keep holding my happiness and not letting anyone else affect it
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and though i fall victim to it at times of course
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we as we all probably do absolutely i um i strive every day to live in that place so
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What are some of the qualities of your higher goddess?
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So that kind of avatar?
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She's awesome.
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Like I said, I don't love a pity party.
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I also like, you know,
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sometimes it feels weird to like say good things about yourself.
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But I've also learned a lot about talking to myself
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and a lot about looking in the mirror and being like, you're great.
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You're gorgeous.
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You're amazing.
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You're loyal.
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You're positive.
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You're so many, like I love words of affirmation.
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I love just sitting there and reassuring myself of who I am,
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because that's another thing for me.
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You know, there's so many false narratives about me,
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about all of us, I'm sure.
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Like so many people think they have you figured out when they don't even know the half of it.
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So sitting there and being like,
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you know, you get frustrated sometimes.
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It could feel really unfair.
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You could be reading something that someone is saying about you or hearing something that someone's saying about you and being like,
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that is so unfair because that's not who I am.
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And that really gets to me sometimes and that really sucks.
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But then looking at myself in the mirror and being like,
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but I know who I am.
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And that's all.
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Why does anything else matter?
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And my friends know who I am and my family knows who I am.
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My dog knows who I am.
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My horse knows who I am who I am like why
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does any of everything else is just noise I do this exercise I don't think I've shared this before
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but I do this exercise with some of my clients where we'll go on a walk
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and we'll be on a hike wherever we are
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and I'll ask them what they think a piece of you know maybe there's a little leaf
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or maybe there's some a flower or something
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that looks a little unique on the path
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and I'll say what do you think that feels like
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and what do you think it would feel like
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if you picked it up in your hand
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and they'll be like oh it looks really rough
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and like it might scratch me
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and like it looks like a bit you know like uneven
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or whatever and it looks kind of hard and strong
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and then i'll ask them to pick it up
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and nine times out of ten it's completely different like they'll pick it up
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and it'll just dissolve in their hands or they'll turn it over
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and the color's really soft and sorry the shape the shape's really soft and the color's totally different on the other side.
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And I do that exercise to help us realize just how multifaceted humans are.
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Today I've got to meet you and obviously we're spending a lot of deep,
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intimate, vulnerable time together.
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So you learn faster about someone,
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but if someone only follows someone on social media or only sees someone at an event or only sees one interview,
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it's so easy to create such a singular view of someone.
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And I think, and I want to say this
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because I really think we all feel it i don't think anyone wants to be seen in a singular way
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if you had to choose one word
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that had to be you for the rest of your life i don't think anyone wants
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that i think we all know that we're messy and complex
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and different of course but we like to put someone else in a box whoever
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that may be because it's easier than to live life and say okay well that's persons a b
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right yeah so there's this beautiful piece of wisdom that i always share from
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charles horton cooley and he wrote this in 1890 i think it was
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which just shows how true this has been for such a long time
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and obviously long before that as well
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and he said the challenge today is i'm not what i
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think i am i'm not what you think i am i am what i think you think i am
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and we'll let that blow everyone's mind it gives me chills every time i say it
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yeah charles holton cooley said the challenge today is i'm not
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what i think i am i'm not what you think i
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am i am what i think you think i am
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and what he's trying to say is
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that we live in a perception of a perception of ourselves
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so if i think you think i'm smart then i allow myself to feel smart right it's like we need
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that validation we need that validation or if i think you think I'm not smart,
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then I feel hurt.
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And the challenge is, I don't know what you're thinking at all,
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especially outside in the world.
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And so I find that what you're saying around like,
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well, what do I think about myself?
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Like, how do I feel about myself?
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How do the people that actually know me feel about me?
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I think that's really empowering.
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If you love this episode,
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you will also love my interview with Kendall Jenner on setting boundaries to increase happiness and healing your inner child.
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- 나는 모델이 되고 싶었어요. (I wanted to be a model.)
- 나는 항상 감사함을 느꼈어요. (I always felt grateful.)
- 나는 경계를 설정해야 했어요. (I had to set boundaries.)
- 내 행복과 웰빙이 중요해요. (My happiness and well-being are important.)
- 나는 나 자신에게 더 나은 모습을 보여줄 수 있어요. (I can show up better for myself.)
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